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If you are sick and ****ing tired of being a slave to this rat-trap system of child support, then please visit http://childsupportreformnow.com and get involved.

The bottom line is this; the amount of money that people are being FORCED to pay is outrageous and unfair. The cost to raise a child is pretty standard, and no judge, or law should dictate what a person MUST pay. Children need healthy, stable and sane parents, not destitute and mentally broken slaves. What kind of example is that?

Visit the website now and get involved. This is an uprising. We're not going to take this******anymore.

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I'm a disabled veteran and my ex wife makes just about 34-3500 hundred bucks a month. I used to make in the 2000's but the VA cut my pay now I make less than 1600 a month but I still have to pay the amount a month as I did before they cut my pay, not only that I can't even get legal aid to help what they told me is since I don't have custody of the children they can't help me. Our system is really ****ed up and needs to be fixed.
I can't believe child support is counting over time pay. That overtime is not garrunteed every week. Back in 2013 I put my son's father on child support. We decided later to work things out. They won't let me take him off child support. It's OK except they keep $50 every month even if my child is not on benefits. Now I pushed him to put himself on child support for his other child because the mother was alienating him from her. I told him don't worry. Both cases are in the state of Texas the worst that can happen is income tax being taken away. I was completely wrong. They heard her side of the story (when they were teens, now in their mid twenties) and anything he had to say they told him you don't have proof and he said yes I do and they disregard his say. He only pays $300 for my child in child support and now he's about to pay $849 in child support and back pack. How could this even be OK if he's not making enough. We will loose our home and mode of transportation. We have 2 other kids involved. How could he owe back pay if she refused money for years (which we have proof in conversations) she refused to let him see his daughter. I don't regret our decision but I feel my kids are being robbed and the courts got away with it. How could he be required five supervised visitation and then the courts will ask the mother and grandmother how it's going? They hate him, despise him and the judge (a woman) is gonna take sides. The court system is very unfair. He evn paid $50 to take the required online class "first child today" in those videos and all that reading (4-6hours) it's like the courts and mother do exactly what the videos say NOT TO DO. They didn't want to hear anything he had to say. Yet she's allowed to do what she wants.
I am a mother An have one child she does not live with me because of my work hours i see her every day I belive and know first hand that child support services is corrupt .i understand my rights as a parent that i need to pay if the other parent is recving aid i have no arguments there ...but dcss is so unorganized and dont even know what going on with there own offices its unbelievable ok so in 8, 2013 i recived papes states i need to pay 240 a month to other parent for suport because welfair let dcss he was reciving aid for our child . Ok i understood but i wasnt working so i couldn't pay but started to pay in 5, 2014 to him so he let his welfair know so they stop his cash since i was paying and thought thats it and time pass now 9,2015. Out of no wherr my checks get cut so now i cant pay him and he only recives 50 $from dcss thats from the money they took from me and he dont want to get back on wellfair but 50 is not gonna cut it then a letter in 10,2015 states i owe nothing everything up to stanging 11,2015 same letter owe nothing I try to buy a house and i have a 5000 i owe on my credit report so i cant buy a house ,i cant get an apartment because i have bad credit now i need a place to live by march i never recived noticed on what i owed nothing in the past 3 years untill 2months go that stated i owe nothing that should be illegal how are u gonna bill someone and not let them know im very organized person and i know i didnr recive anything then to fight and fix it is redulious and impossible for a person who works 9-5. For like the next 4 months straight calli g i kept track on who i spok to also finaly they said i only owed 1700. So now tax time they took that but im gonna fight it because its wrong not to notifi u but could have been avoided if they werr organized so in short the dcss could mke u homeless and cut ur pay take ur taxes make u go to jail for driver license. Or not paying wich u had no clue it need to be closed and shut down tjere is no need for child support
In amazement and Disgust at how the system does this to its own people. I am a father of 2 boys that I had with an ex. At 10 and 6 yrs old I am a firm believer that a father should always be in their child's life. Granted we were relatively young when we had them at the ages of 21. I was in college, worked 2 jobs ,a car note, rent, bills etc. long story short I was a great father to my boys. This system took them away. Let me explain. No relationship is without its issues but when a parent decides to leave a relationship abruptly to pursue one with a minor I had NO OPTIONS. Tried to keep lines of communication open to no avail as she was too wrapped up in her newfound relationship taking my boys in the process. Left with no alternative as her family equally could not communicate with her I decided to go to court to file for custody. And she knew this as well as I had gone a solid month before any paperwork was filed just for benefit of doubt. She had my sons staying with this other person starting the alienationing of my children from there father. The whole year of 2010 into 2011 in court for custody and let me tell you were there some chances given to my ex that would never have been given to me the father. She showed up all but once! 1 time to basically prevent me from attaining joint custody. Joint custody as I was being as realistic as possible with visit times being weds thru sat noon. She wanted me to kill my rights then had the nerve to have me just take my boys Sat to Mon! Wow! The next court dates she never came. When finally awarded my joint custody after about a full year of not seeing my sons, more drama ensued. When going to pick up my sons she sends them out with the new boyfriend and tries to fight me in front of my kids. This worked to her affect when she called police saying I started a fight when I'm trying to put kids in the car. Meanwhile the boyfriend mouths off. I drive off to only get pulled over 3 blocks away. Police then takes my boys back to the mother and I return home with out my boys. Her ploy worked as for the next year there had to be police escort every time it was my turn to pick them up. One day I come to the house to pick up the boys and now its emptied out nobody lives inside! With her claim of not having a phone (lie) and no type of knowledge of her whereabouts I go back to the court house and violate her. This happened about 5 times and all she ever got was a lil slap on the wrist by the judge as she would lie her way out more chances given and I still would not get to see my boys as she purposefully prevents them from seeing me. I still had no address nor phone number. The only thing she came to court for literally 6 months after we last stopped going for custody was you guessed it child support. After she was awarded child support she went off the grid again. I only know she still local because the only times I get to see my sons are when they are in school and nowhere else. I've tried and tried and t
Long heartless story short....I was robbed of being there to see my first and only son born and across the United states for that matter. I guess that's a good way to keep a father who doesn't have rights established yet and who you told no way in hell are you getting this child that they are going up for adoption. No lawyer or investigator could fix or change the feelings or the struggle I've been delt. I met my son when he was 3 months old ( after finding out through adoption plan forms from Florida I was having a boy) . After all that was given two options either be with her or pay support. Well here I am $424 a month. I get $1300 after union dues and insurance for my son and I. I split all bills with my girlfriend that I'm with now. After rent and all bills and utilities are payed I'm left with maybe $250 not including food and gas and at the very 1st of the month. To get my son 4 days a month that 180 mile round trip to get him. He's now 3 I've come to the point of buying my son things he needs here is hard I was just able to get him his own bed.I've got very little money to support my son and for a father that's a bad keep you awake at night kinda shit. I don't understand how a person can stay home never have a job but pop another kid out, have a brand new corolla (fully loaded). Have a full kitchen of food and a flat screen TV. While the workin man who fights the system and gets called every name in the book takes it up the @#$. I'm not behind in support and live life pinching pennies and all I want is to have my son and raise him but how will that happen with these laws we have?
Income is $2,200 a month take home pay, for child support I pay $550 a month that brings me down to $1650 a month..my rent is $850 a month..that brings me down to $800 a month my car loan is $284 a month..well that's $516 a month insurance is $80 a month and phone bill is $50 now we are at $386 a month let's add water and electric let's just say $100 each the final amount is $186 dollars a month..for food, gas, support my kids when I have them, necessities, soap, laundry, tooth paste ect you get the picture right? Isn't child support to "help" with supporting your children? Seems that it's being left mostly up to the father? I'm dieing here, I can barely survive. Where are the guidelines for using support money? Having it loaded on card that can't have the money be withdrawn from? Items bought with the card can't be beer, fast food. Limitations such as clothes, school expenses, get this******in order. You have guidelines for food cards. I think child support and the approach on child support needs to be revised..I could go on but what's the point right?
I am paying child support and have equal custody. On another case the person was allowed to bring up mistakes I made as a teenager. That was over 7 years ago. I wasn't allowed to bring up her 3 baby father's. I now have to have supervised visitation and now have to lay $849 per month (included backpay). I owe backpay bc she never wanted to accept money from me. She also alienated me from my child. So it looks like I will not be able to provide for my other kids and keep a roof over my head. All this while I was the one who put myself on child support. Moral of the story father's don't have equal rights in certain towns. While the mother gets her way. Both my cases are in the same state just different cities.
Ordered to pay $840 a month but make less than $1800 per check. So what should I do now about my own bills and other child support payments.
I live in the state of Connecticut. I pay child support for my 2 older kids (7 and 5 years old) from a previous relationship. I pay child support, health insurance, school needs etc. and everytime I've tried to fight in court to lowering my child support it always came out the mothers way with her fake crying and fake sympathy stories. I'm involved in my kids life I pick them up every weekend I'm involved with there school work and the system just doesn't care. I also have another child with my current spouse and he's 3 years old and is hard to support him as well because I'm the only source of income and my spouse is a full time college student and has been trying to find part time work but has been unsuccessful. We also reside with her mother because I can't afford an apartment on my own. All this while my Ex sits at home and does nothing!!... she gets state assistance for many things and is living the life and she just had a third child herself recently and is threatening me to take me back to court to increase my child support for my 2 kids just to get a little more extra money to help her for a child that isn't even mine. I work 50+ hours a week to TRY and make it by but just still isn't enough. The system is so corrupted and favors mothers who sit on there behind and collect while struggling father's like myself are trying there best to make a living and survive in this already messed up economy. The system wonders why father's become hostile and angry with these unfair laws. Also i don't get any help from any state programs, I work very hard and is very independent I don't ask anyone for help but Laws NEED to change and give the parents who pay child support more rights especially if there involved in the kids life. These payment guidelines need to be REALISTIC and truly take in consideration the expenses of the non custody parent instead of just looking over it.
I am a mother of two boys. I was married to their father for 7 years and in that 7 years I was abused. About a year and half after I had my second son I decided I had to leave because if not I wasn't going to be able to live and my kids were getting to the age that I didn't want them to live in that kind of environment. I left one night with the kids while he was at work and moved back to my home town. ( 25 mins away)I got an apartment and started working two jobs. He never helped me financially and I was struggling. I wasn't doing any better like I had thought I would because the abuse had effected me more than I had thought. I felt so worthless like I would never be a good enough mom and no man would want me. (Things he would tell me all the time) I truly believed that I was the reason he was the way he was and that I deserved everything he dealt to me. After months and months of struggling financially and emotionally him and I made arrangements to have the kids live with him and I did not seek a lawyer. I went to his attorneys office and signed the papers. We made an agreement that I get the kids anytime I wanted and no child support would be paid because we were going to co parent and split costs of all their needs. Well as time went by and the children got older I got hit my papers ordering child support and they made it to were I would owe back child support, starting the support from our divorce date. I had to go to court and pay at least 5% to keep me out of jail. I was able to come up with the money and I have been behind ever since. the craziest thing is that I am behind because of INTEREST.... Not the actual support just interest. Here we are 8 years later and I had to take him to court to fight for custody because my youngest son came to me one day after going to his teachers and counselor at school and told me things that made me sick to my stomach. My children were being abused. mostly my youngest. He was acting out in class and the teachers knew something was up because he had always been a good student. The court ordered a GAL and held me responsible for paying for it. DHR got involved along with child advocacy center. The kids told the same story over and over in a years time the story never changed however the GAL , DHR and the court decided the kids were over exaggerating although the teachers testified to what the kids said. It was the most unjustified thing I have ever seen not for me but for my children. The judge did give them more time with me, which we are so grateful for but my children are not being cared for properly. They are 14 and 12 and this time of their lives are very fragile. I have them 5 days one week and 2 the alternate week. I have gotten their hair cuts for the past two years and bought their school and play shoes for the past 8 years. I have bought one of the children school supplies every year since school age began and I pay child support. I spend all of my time with my children. Never get a babysitter,
I see at least 3 young mothers in my area with 2 to 3 mixed kids. The mother doesn't work, There are different men coming and going all the time. The food truck comes once a week, I guess milk, juice, cereal and other things for the kids. The house lights are on 24/7 x 365 days a year and nobody picks up the trash in the yard until someone that Tax Payers pay for to come mow the yard. We need to stop this kind of madness! It shouldn't be a JOB to have babies! Maybe Japan has the right idea? 2 kids and ya get fixed. Male and Female......
Not even my child she trick me into signing the birth record we had a da done and it not my child and she know it and won't even tell them
I have 3 kids and I get child support for them. If he doesn't work his child support is based on minimum wage, if he does work it's based accordingly. It should be the same for the women (people) that receive child support. It isn't right or fair that the people receiving child support site at home and do nothing so that their child support goes up. The person paying child support didn't make and have those children by themselves. I also believe that child support should be based on the education and jobs available in the area, not just town, around where the person lives that receives child support.
I have 3 kids and I get child support for them. If he doesn't work his child support is based on minimum wage, if he does work it's based accordingly. It should be the same for the women (people) that receive child support. It isn't right or fair that the people receiving child support site at home and do nothing so that their child support goes up. The person paying child support didn't make and have those children by themselves. I also believe that child support should be based on the education and jobs available in the area, not just town, around where the person lives that receives child support.
The Law says in Texas once the child turns 12 he or she can choose whom he wants to live with. Why would you allow a child without doing an investigation have that much power.
My child since moving in with his father may not even graduate high school because his father play uncle the fun dad instead of raising his son as a result my son doesn't respect him or his house. I told the judge that wasn't the best decision for him for one he was a sophomore moving to a whole new world. I told his father you need to be apart of his world instead of moving him out of his environment where he has had some success. To make a long story short he is 19 years old threatening to drop out of high school and the law of Texas says that I have to continue to pay child support up until he is 18 or graduates from high school whichever comes later. Before my child left me his father he was doing very well in school star athlete in football once he moved with his father multiple concussions multiple injuries now he deals with depression because nothing has went right for him since he moved with his father I tried to tell the judge all these things before she granted custody to his father but she would not listen only going by the law. His father has multiple kids living with him all of his kids that he was paying child support he has moved them in with him and their life has turned for the worse. His father never has really been in his life the only reason why he convinced him to move in with him but so he could stop paying child support I feel that the Lord needs to change and an investigation needs to take place before the child moved in with the other parent no 12 year old that is a teenager that is going through some hard times just regular teenageers years should be allowed to choose what is best for him or her at the age of 12. That doesn't make sense that you would allow a 12 year old that is two years removed from being 10 to know what's best for him or he. They don't know the history of their father he was a very abusive man he has six different children I have a stable household why would you give the child the right to choose what's best for him or her. Now my child may not graduate because theLaw said he had the right to choose. Without taking into account was actually best for him weather School District household lifestyle the attitude of the kid his mood swings his child his father doesn't even know how he is at the age of 16 before he moved in with them because he really never spent time with his son this is the same man that left his child at home on a Monday instead of bringing him back to my house so he could go to school Monday morning but the state of Texas says it's okay for him to move in with his father when he doesn't even care to bring his child home to go to school on a Monday morning. The courts need to know the whole story do an investigation on the other parent that the child may move in with.
I feel that child support should be based on a set amount. How is it that one woman can recieve 200 a month for two children but another woman can recieve 2000 a month for two children. Doesn't it cost the same amount to raise children? Why punish the fathers of failed relationships. This means that because that relationship failed he isn't allowed to move on.
I feel if you are Receiving child support you should have to take a random drug test.There are a lot of People abusing child support for their own selfish needs.
The state of New Jersey raised the date of majority to age 19. I have anticipated the end of payments for 18 years just for Gov. Christie to extend payments by a year. This type of action is unconstitutional as it violates the rights of the non-custodial parent. In the United States is is declared we provide fair treatment for all. However, fair for all except the non-custodial parent. Child support is a state run scam full of corruption.
Child support laws protect only women. If the mother has money for designer clothes and cocaine the father should not be living in poverty!!!!!!!!
After 24 yrs I'm down to less then 1000 arrears,WA ST Child support has contacted my ex's to see if they want to sue for extended paymets. How is this fair treatment. My kids are all out making thier way on thier own, I have grand children. So why is the state petitioning the mothers to sue for more support. Am I to start paying thier car payments next? So as a father am I protected by the law or just subject to it.
I have my child 4-5 days out the week and pay child support...When the mother and I were living together as a couple I paid child support... I buy my own diapers, wipes, food, clothing, baby sitting expenses, keep our child under my health insurance, and still i pay child support....I pay my own rent and bills with no government aid and still I pay child support... My questions to congress...Why does it seem as if I'm not only supporting my child but my child's mother as well? When did having a child stop being 50/50? Why does it seem as though the system has been corrupted? I'm all for dead beat parents being forced to do what there supposed to but I feel as if I'm being lumped in the same boat with them why? Why have you turned my child into a paycheck?
What kind of woman has several different children with several different men then says she has the best interest of the child in mind and cries about raising the child by themselves. Just because you sleep with someone for a month does not make that a relationship. Then they try to ruin the father by going to court for more money. And they wonder why men are hostle. Quite trying to ruin these fathers. Goverment has no business in the family circle.
I'm a single mother and have 2 children living with me. I also have to pay child support for 3rd child. I don't get to see my son and I make less than minimum wage. I work as much as I can since I can't afford daycare. my dad watches them sunday through Wednesday, his days off and he works Thursday through Saturday all day and all night. I work on Thursday and Friday while they are in school. I'm not trying to be a dead beat parent, but I cant afford what they are telling me too. since I cant afford a lawyer I cant get any help. it just so hard trying to do it all alone and no one will help
As a father you should be able to give the money to support your child, not support your children and their Mother. I am lucky to have an ex that is understanding but even with the money that I pay her it is hard to live a decent life. Please help all the fathers out there.
The child support laws are unfair and ridiculous. I pay thousands in child support while the mother sits at home and collects public assistance. She does everything possible to limit my time with the children since she GETS MORE MONEY THE LESS I SEE THE KIDS! These laws need to be changed!
The child support laws that is crushing the best of some people needs to be changed why can Congress do something about it, if we need to march to the white house and let them make that change I'm here to do so 100%,how about because my company was giving overtime they based my case on that now overtime is no more lost my car house and cannot see my way because i was judge on overtime money some of these judges needs to check with reality, they all look at the man as the wrong one and cast judgment before the case even starts and there's nothing you can do about it because of the law they have which was there so long ago ,with all these changes in this society we all living in we need it to change. Do something about it before you leave office Mr President Obama! !!!!!!!!!!
I have fought this battle for 23 years now.
Drivers license suspended, jobs lost, 73 thousand in arrears and the most I ever made in a year is 48 thousand, 15 of those 23 years I made below the self support reserve.

They don't care. Was told by a judge in Niagara County New York, and I quote: " son, I don't care if you live in a cardboard box".
The system is rigged folks, the game is slanted.

A global economy, I live in the Buffalo/Niagara Falls area, yet, these draconian passport and driver license suspensions laws narrow my ability for gainful employment to such an extent that I am now seriously contemplating suicide as the only way to peace of mind.
Half my check to child suppott
586.... live on 1100 a month.... but her house payment is made as well as the utilies... and now forced to provide health ins. Im so swrewed
I think as a woman it's unfair for a woman to back out of parenting by abortion. When a father cannot legally stop the mother if he wants the child, furthermore if we are fighting for equality in this country I think males should have the right to back out of parenting. If women can then so should men. If men can't then neither should women. There are good parents and not always does the custodial parent end up being the mother, but they seem to always get the worse end of the deal. Women are given excuses where men are "dead-beats". It's disgusting what the legal system has done to society and how it continues to prolong the stigma associated with fatherhood.
My life has been destroyed because of a huge child support order I couldn't pay. I was made out to be a terrible father because of it. Since the beginning I had to fight to see my son. I'm the one who took her to court so that everything was legit and the one who ended up screwd. I'm not going to say I am a great dad because when my mom died I turned to hard drugs and chose not to see my child for fear I would put him in harm's way. I have been sober now for almost two years but I still have that lable so in court I'm automatically looked down upon. We need to fight and keep fighting.
When I got married 10 years ago I quit my job in finance so we could start our family and my husband could persue his career in law enforcement , which he did. His income went from $40000 to $100,000 in that time.
During those 10 years we had 2 kids, one of which has level 1 autism spectrum disorder. I was diagnosed with degenerative joint disease...not the worst thing but Def not fun.
2 years ago my husbands mental health started to decline, one year ago he lost all control and assaulted me. BADLY. It had to end.
Instead of getting into all the ugly details I'll just say that he has done EVERYTHING he could to drag me thru the mud and get sole legal custody of the kids.
I have NO PROBLEM separating myself from him and starting over at age 42. But I don't think that's fair to my kids. I'm one of those mom's who have all day every day planned out to keep my kids growing developing learning and happy. I understand using more modern laws pertaining to family's who have taken on and lived the modern family lifestyle as a 2 income family....but why shouldn't the traditional laws apply to those have maintained a traditional family?! Particularly when a special needs chold is involved?
Both my kids are now in school, and there STILL arw not enough minutes in the day for me to get done everything I need to do. Someone posted a comment that us stay at homes sit around n watch TV once the kids go to school. ..guess what bro? I don't own a tv. I'm THAT old school. We have ALWAYS been old school that way. But now that the marriage is over I'm being told I love in a fantasy land if I think my ex husband will continue to pay for this lifestyle and that I need to supporting myself if I want to keep and support my kids.
On what PLANET, let alone what state, is that fair? Traditional laws should stay on the books for those who have worked so hard to raise thier kids that wy.
Child support is the worst matter to be involved in. The problem is that the mothers aren't expected to give proof that the father is not involved. They should be required to have 4 references including the father to confirm that the father is not involved with the child. The mother signs a document claiming that she has tried to contact the father for support before requesting it through the courts. These angry ex-wives and girlfriends will do anything to get even with their ex spouse or boyfriend. Child support is the number one way to do it. Mothers should have to submit a years worth of banking statements to confirm money wasn't deposited possibly from the father. The father must have the opportunity to submit documents including checks, receipts for child purchases, grocery receipts for formula or milk or bread items, insurance policies, medical services for the child (or mother during pregnancy), and or any support given. Fathers are thrown out like dirty rags and left broke! God will come to with this matter. I sure wouldn't want to work in a child support office. I am ANTI-CHILD SUPPORT. It isn't child support. It is 8 out of 10 angry mother support.
A MOTHERS SIDE OF THE STORY

My ex husband Michael Luke and his girlfriend Leslie Moore decided to bash me on here without my side of the story.
Mr. Luke is an alcoholic, who lost visitations of his children because he punched our 4 yr old in the face. My Luke was granted supervised phone calls and visitations. Mr. Luke was $18,000 before he started making payments because Kalkaska County wanted to go to Alabama and arrest him.
Yes, he did send extra money. He would get drunk and talk to the kids and promise them things, then sober up and forget. I did go to court and have $3,700 taken off his back child support and we were told then we could never do that again and any money sent would be considered a gift.
Mr. Luke received $437,000 as a workmen's comp. settlement and wanted to come visit our children after not seeing them in 5 1/2 years(he has a warrant in Kalkaska for domestic assault). When I cut the visit short after 3 1/2 days because he was drunk at 10:30 in the morning, he left without saying goodbye to the kids.
When he got back to Alabama he filed court papers wanting his trip up here to visit his kids taking off his child support (gas,hotel,food etc.) When that did not happen he quit paying and is currently over $12,000 behind in support. He called me after not talking to his kids in almost 3 1/2 years and demanded I let him speak to his children. Not happening.
2 weeks ago he took me to court again and did not show up for the hearing HE asked for, so of course the parenting time stayed the same...There is NONE! Not because I don't want him to but because he won't sober up and be a parent!
A MOTHERS SIDE OF THE STORY

My ex husband Michael Luke and his girlfriend Leslie Moore decided to bash me on here without my side of the story.
Mr. Luke is an alcoholic, who lost visitations of his children because he punched our 4 yr old in the face. My Luke was granted supervised phone calls and visitations. Mr. Luke was $18,000 before he started making payments because Kalkaska County wanted to go to Alabama and arrest him.
Yes, he did send extra money. He would get drunk and talk to the kids and promise them things, then sober up and forget. I did go to court and have $3,700 taken off his back child support and we were told then we could never do that again and any money sent would be considered a gift.
Mr. Luke received $437,000 as a workmen's comp. settlement and wanted to come visit our children after not seeing them in 5 1/2 years(he has a warrant in Kalkaska for domestic assault). When I cut the visit short after 3 1/2 days because he was drunk at 10:30 in the morning, he left without saying goodbye to the kids.
When he got back to Alabama he filed court papers wanting his trip up here to visit his kids taking off his child support (gas,hotel,food etc.) When that did not happen he quit paying and is currently over $12,000 behind in support. He called me after not talking to his kids in almost 3 1/2 years and demanded I let him speak to his children. Not happening.
2 weeks ago he took me to court again and did not show up for the hearing HE asked for, so of course the parenting time stayed the same...There is NONE! Not because I don't want him to but because he won't sober up and be a parent!
I"ve been divorced from my daughter"s mother for over 23 yrs and I'm still paying child support for one child. My daughter is 25 yrs old and lives on her own . She and her mother always lived in California and I got a job promotion and moved to Texas while going through the divorce. I"ve always been on time with my support but just found out in 2012 that I have arrears for the amount of $80000. Child support division tells me that my ex cancelled the child support in 2002 then she decided to refile 6 months later and now I'm stuck with paying the arrears. Child support division doesn't care for good fathers. I"ve always worked and work hard to make a living. I've hired 3 different attorneys and child support did not want to help them. Attorneys even tried to contact my ex for a settlement but she never responded. She is greedy and she had other kids with other men and she still holds my last name. I'm newly married and its going to be our 2nd year anniversary this month of May and we planned on going on our honeymoon when we got married and went to apply for a passport and I got denied because of the arrears. We had already paid for the trip. It really upset my wife and she still is upset about this. I cant even travel with my family out of the country, I don't get any of my tax refunds, had to sell my vehicle because I couldn't afford it, I cant even afford to help my wife pay bills or be a supportive husband but thank god that she is an angel and understand my situation. If someone knows how or who I can talk to solve this ,please let me know. This is not fair and how do they expect us to live.
If this is legit go for it
Custodial mothers should be prevented from trying to make child support a legacy. My child's mother has purposely taken my child out of school (senior in high school) to assist in babysitting her mother's friend's children throughout the school year. My child has also been forced to lived with an ailing relative to assist in recovery, moved to other relatives homes and not attending school. Now, with the absence from school, she will fail. She will repeat her senior year and support will continue as long as my child is in school. These tactics are not investigated and are not the concern of the Child Support agency. Child support is child support. If the custodial parent is failing in their duties in supporting the child (emotionally, physically, educationally) the Child Support agency should enforce those matters as well, not just financial.
I was ordered to child support in one state. My kids are over 18 but they garnish my wages. I was ordered to support in another state my child is few years old they garnish my wages. When they garnish my wages they split up the required amount only allowed to be given because I don't make enough every week. When they split it neither obligation gets paid therefore the state hits you with interest and fee's kinda like a loan shark or high priced payday loan place. You end up not paying the support and always stuck in a black hole paying there interest and fees all while your child support continues to go up. Is this embezzlement? I would think so since they won't modify it and don't consider your bills, roof over your head, and food as an expense. Do you think this country has a problem with it? I think so.. If not you wouldn't have so many father's arguing it. Think about your legal system is it really legal? Do you feel you had a fair trial or was you one of the victims who went to court your ex or other partner came in with a bunch of lies they couldn't be proven they made you sound like a horrible person then the legal system robbed you of your God given rights to custody of your own flesh and blood your child.. Chances are you probably made less money than your co parent because it's easier to get you to rack up a lot in interest and fees in support. Your ex probably makes more, they get child tax benefits and more time while you didn't. You get visitations, less time with your child, make less still have to split everything and pay more. Sounds fair right? I think all father's should stand together and fight it. What are they going to do throw everyone in jail. Do you know how many billions they are in the hole for it? There only hurting themselves and this country. I'm for child support if one parent cannot afford it but if both cant there are state benefits. If I pay my kids health/medical and pay for any child supporting costs occurred on my time what's the extra support for? what if I quit paying support to the state. My ex makes 60k a year I make 40. I pay more she takes vacations with our kid, I can't afford it. If they put me in jail she would have to cover everything. I'm sure that wouldn't go over well. Not that she couldn't afford doing it herself but then what. It's almost like the courts know you want your child but they make it nearly impossible for you to live and support your child. What do you do? Let's say go get a second job or start a business that way you make more money. That's the plan right. But guess what your ex can come back say you've had an increase and attempt to take more money. Therefore putting you right back to square one. Jail is not the answer it solves nothing. Suspend their license that's not the answer, how they going to get to work? See the state appears to want to create issues and then ***** about supporting ppl after they can't support themselves. That's why the homeless population is rapidly
We have the kids 14 hours per MONTH less than her...We pay $1022 for the 14 hours difference...this is ridiculous!!!! She is self employed and judge doesnt care that she doesnt work full time just that she is getting food stamps ( lying about her income to them also) OUR SYSTEM is making our lives unbelievable..I cant believe this can happen to anyone fairly!
I guess I am on the other side. I work an bust my but for my child while the father sits in Jersey collecting food stamps and getting doctor notes that he cant work. How fair is that. Though five months ago he worked. So let see I have to work and support our son and still figure out how to provide while he gets away with being a deadbeat. So see not every Mom is getting the treatment described by these fathers. Both mother and father made the child both mother and father should be obligated to support them end of subject. Oh and it cost more than 100 a month to support a child where did that guy learn math. Why should I pay taxes and struggle when my child father getting a free ride.
I pay $700 a month on 2 kids for pretty much having them 50/50. The mother also gets child support for 2 other kids!! She is re-married and they always are on vacations and remodeling the house so obviously money isnt tight. While I'm living with parents paying rent cause I cant afford anything myself. Something has gotta change cause I'm a good father to my kids and always wanna be there for them but these Child Support laws are making it so we cant be in the lives cause were working 60+ hour weeks cause we can no longer live anymore!!
Why should a person be obligated to pay more money that the amount it actually costs to raise a child in a traditional setting. I spend about $25 per week or $100 per month on my child and it more than covers food, clothing, etc. Now if the mother were to leave and abuse child support I would now have to pay over $600 per month. I understand that housing is calculated in the equation, and that is wrong since that would meant that I would be paying housing for the child 2X. For one empty room and for a room where the mother and kid would probably sleep. Things need to change.
How can a person pay $700 a month for 2 kids on minimum wage and also pay their own bills
I have been very active in my 4 year old son's life. Even through my difficult financial times. I was incarcerated for a year, returned and it took 2 years to land a job. In the mean time I was there helping as much as I could, taking him to dr visits, keeping him everyday for 3 months to offset daycare cost etc. Once I became employed I began to give his mother money as much as possible while supporting my other two kids. The mother and I lived together for a year until I left the relationship and home because of an domestic dispute inwhich she started.This ws 3 months ago. Since then she has filed and had me convicted on 2nd degree assault, two restraining orders saying I planted a knife in her bed (totally false) and now she is taking me to court for child support all because I left the relationship. I only make 40k a year with 3 kids and fear that the flawed legal system will make it hard for me to pay bill and live.
Please I need help I can't afford paying child support of $800 a month for my 5 year old. I love him to death but I don't know where the money is being spent I have to buy him a new book bag, clothe and shoes. He looks like he going to school wearing pajamas I just don't understand why the money is not being controlled for my son? I can support my 17 year old son who lives with me and can't even give him money to spend on cloth and provide us with food and shelter for the both of us.....
Please I need help I can't afford paying child support of $800 a month for my 5 year old. I love him to death but I don't know where the money is being spent I have to buy him a new book bag, clothe and shoes. He looks like he going to school wearing pajamas I just don't understand why the money is not being controlled for my son? I can support my 17 year old son who lives with me and can't even give him money to spend on cloth and provide us with food and shelter for the both of us.....
I've raised my two boys for years with only me working and when their mother and I split she now works but still takes over half my pay and now I'm unable to even pay my bills. How is PA making child support equal for both parents when she gets enough money from me she doesn't even have to work full time and will not bother trying to improve that for my boys.
'When a female determines she is pregnant, she has the freedom to decide if she has the maturity level to undertake the responsibilities of motherhood, if she is financially able to support a child, if she is at a place in her career to take the time to have a child, or if she has other concerns precluding her from carrying the child to term. After weighing her options, the female may choose abortion. Once she aborts the fetus, the female's interests in and obligations to the child are terminated. In stark contrast, the unwed father has no options. His responsibilities to the child begin at conception and can only be terminated with the female's decision to abort the fetus or with the mother's decision to give the child up for adoption. Thus, he must rely on the decisions of the female to determine his future. The putative father does not have the luxury, after the fact of conception, to decide that he is not ready for fatherhood. Unlike the female, he has no escape route."
-Attorney Melanie McCulley

"if a woman makes a unilateral decision to bring pregnancy to term, and the biological father does not, and cannot, share in this decision, he should not be liable for 21 years of support...autonomous women making independent decisions about their lives should not expect men to finance their choice."
- Attorney Karen DeCrow
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I just got out of mediation and the mediator didn't care that my pay fluctuates. He only looked at the last few pay stubs and I told him that these pay stubs are not typical. I rarely make $1000 pay checs (every two weeks), but with my work it just so happens I'm busy. That all ends quickly and i'm back to making $10/h. He didn't care, saying he's going off of the last few. Now I'm stuck with rent, a phone plan my ex refuses to remove herself from, my living expenses and child support with insurance. I was scraping by before, now I'll essentially get 1 1/2 paychecks while she lives rent free with her mom. My four year old daughter certainly doesn't eat $300 worth of food every month or use that much electricity, or go through that much clothing or toothpaste and such.
This arbitrary system of 1/3 of the non custodial parents pay is bs!
And as soon as I try to do better, they take more all of a sudden? wtf is that. what all of a sudden, my childs needs shoot up? I make more and my kid needs a pony all of a sudden or something?
I'm sure if the men were automatically given custody (lets face it, women pretty much get custody no matter what), things would be different in a heartbeat

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