Unfair child support laws

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I've been paying child support for 7 years now. My son mother hasn't worked for the whole time I've been paying child support which is 7 years . She plays lots of games wit my finances meaning she will petition me to come to court and when we get there in front of the judge she will forget paper work on purpose so that she can collect more arrears. It's just not fare at all and I hope things will change for the better in the near future because this child support system is unfair. ..and she at an advantage knowing that she can get away wit it and no consequences is gonna come her way.
My ex is a college educated woman with multiple degrees, yet hasn't had a job in 3+ years due to drug habit. My support gets raised every time I try to advance my career. She has a much better earning potential than myself but chooses to do nothing. Why is it the fathers responsibility to pay for the woman's irresponsibly?
my husband and i are in our 50s his child is in her 30s and living on her own cs has for the last 15 some yrs taken his drivers license which he needs to work and constantly summons him to court over hundreds of miles away or go to jail so whether he can afford to make the trip or not he is required to or have a warrant for his arrest..they do not care that these expenses and ordering him too pay large amounts of money to them that we do not have i try hard and work to support us and barely stay afloat at this rate we will be living in a cardboard condo soon all because of some 30000.00 he owes in arrears and penalties not back child support., if they put him in jail were does that leave me alone without help from husband to pay what bills we have and ruin our lives.
I know of moms right now that are sitting at home getting Child Support and driving a new car, and the child is going with and the dad can go to prison for not paying, that's not right.
This is an issue that can't be ignored anymore.

At the time if the order I was making just over $1200, I was ordered to pay $600 pee month and I was already paying $200 per month in medical for my son. That left me with $400 to live on. This is completely out of control. I play an active role in my childs life, but because she wanted to end a marriage and run back home, she gets that handed to her.
This is an issue that can't be ignored anymore.

At the time if the order I was making just over $1200, I was ordered to pay $600 pee month and I was already paying $200 per month in medical for my son. That left me with $400 to live on. This is completely out of control. I play an active role in my childs life, but because she wanted to end a marriage and run back home, she gets that handed to her.
It is already unfair that 20% is taken out of each check . if you would have us pay child support the amount should go up and down during the year like I pay $500 a month my child doesn't need that every month especially if he is with me days out the month so why can't it be I pay $500 this month and a $100 the next month cause we as men have our own lives as well and own apartment's and cars. We would have our own problems as well financially school debt car payments anything could be happening and then that's just on top of when you get your child you still got to spend money on him/her when you get him/her. All in all if you can cut back on public aid because you know people aren't trying to work and just take other people money then you can do the same with child support. And I also got other methods to make child support better because what's going on now is ridiculous.
Child Support should only be considered a option, nothing to exciting in this day of age. Hate crimes over turn the interests of parenting without establishing relationship bond with your potential spouse for most cases that are disputed. I believe in women to choose the rite decision each time she decides to have a baby and I believe in Men to choose the rite decision each time he decides to have a baby. Child support isn't based on fact, it's just principle.
My ex lives off the state and stays at home doing nothing but taking care of the child. She lives off of others and takes money. How can people get away with this crap. I mean this is rediculous. They need to get off of there*****and do something to besides get puked on and pooped on and talked back to. Try physical labor and busting you*****instead of claiming u bust*****when you never do. Idc if your a male or female get up, grow up, and show some of your own income for once instead of living off of others taxes and stealing money from people who cannot afford it.
I work hard and watch my kids every other week, and she dont do anything. She dont work. I do so much more than her and she still wants more money so she dont have to wirk. Why r men alway having it harder?
Child support destroys the lives of thousands of willing fathers . It has became the most lopsided disadvantage. All men are not deadbeat dads and should not be punished while the women sit and live off of our hard work.
I think its unfair to get locked up when u help out and when you get out you have three weeks to find a job or they will put a bench warrant on you.I stay in Greenville SC its hard down here because of the economy people say they are not hiring making it hard for us.especially when you have a job they still lock you up.Things need to change we as good parents are missing out of our kids lives because of the court system they need to be in our shoes and experience it
In my case it's me who pays child support to a no good lazy ex husband. My son was old enough to decide who he wanted to live with so my ex-husband brainwashed him onto turning his back on me. As a result I am paying child support to a man for a child that is a 20 years old. The father doesn't work and hasn't for. 6 years. He is not disabled he just calls himself a writer who writes books no one buys. Why doesn't someone start a petition to change the laws to lower the age that child support should stop? In Mississippi it is. 21 which is an age that the child should already be on there on. Also, what about a law that says that the court or DHS has to stop treating the paying parent like a deadbeat. The system treats all child support paying parents like we are deadbeats trying to get out of paying our part. Even when we pay regularly and on time. Why can't we claim the payments on our taxes? The custodial parent gets to claim the child on there's do we should get to claim the payments we make. The system is biased on favor of the custodial parent.
I was laid off for an entire year from two thousand and thirteen til two thousand and fourteen until October landing a part time , I have work majority of my life . Being laid off was out of my control after working for an employer for seventeen years, so not able to get employment right away, I decide to return to college to get a better career among that eventually got a part time job. Now child support guideline in Connecticut want to base my part time salary on fourty hour a week as the obligor biweekly. If the magistrate put this order in affect the custodial parent income will be much greater than mine who has not work in twenty years . Where I would only take home about two hundred and fifty dollars a month while her income soares too over twenty five hundred dollars a month my two children are fourteen , and attend school all day. It is hard for me to obtain an adequate house hold; also, to live . When attending court her income does not even matter; furthermore, she do not even have to be their. This burden of rule is an consciousness confirmation bias . I know congress need to revise the percentage too a lower amount in this rough economic time.
I believe the government should stay out of people's business. No one should have to make another pay for child support. I honestly believe this will put a halt to trifling gold digging women, who's sole purpose is to lay on her back and get paid
It is crazy that i work night shift and literally have all 3 of my kids more than my ex, but because she has them over night, she gets the credit for the support calculation. The calculation should be flexible enough to not punish a parent financially who gives equal care for their children.
I feel the same way since my kids mother left. I also feel like that whoever isn't working should give be the custodial parent. If the parents aren't taking care of a child protection services will be taking the kid. So what makes it different with child support. I also feel that if the parent who separates from the other parent should be the one that has to pay child support because if you leave than you have left your spouse knowing that you can take care of the kid or kids you have taken with you. I feel that its unfair to the other parent to pay when they didn't leave or didn't ask that person to leave.The way the law is at the moment and have been is pretty crazy. Man people will never have to work a day in there lives because they are having kids and hunting for child support while that other parent is working as hard as they can to survive.
As a wife of a man with 3 kids with his ex . It gets difficult in out house hold we pay 2300 a month pay our house bills and work expenses and anything extra for kids not including groceries we pay about 6000 a month now but we got left all her debt after divorce my hubby n I are willing to work and give 50/50 But the past year things have changed kids come to the house with stained holes in some clothes and few pairs of clothes and she went to Cabo , Mountian thread she buys I pads n 1100 $purses 260$ scarfs she hasn't worked in her life she got married he has 3 kids too we are not paying for him and his kids nor her etc my husband n I are tired of this there is no law to help ppl like us. That need it
As a future non-custodial father, I am willing to "fairly" financially support my 2 children. But there is a huge disparity of what is "fair" for support of a child between the amount of support stipulated by statutes, support the custodial mother wants, and what I can realistically afford. What I find disturbing is that I could be ordered to pay the statutory maximum amount, of which, after-tax is 40% of my annual "net" income because in NYS child support is essentially Gross Income less FICA. There are no tax deductions for child support. And because of the mother's living arrangements, she would be able to take several week-long vacations while I live in a shared apartment barely able to meet my expenses. This is not an exaggeration, but a real possibility.
Additionally for example, why is child support variable based upon the percentage of the parental income? Clearly, the cost to raise a child really doesn't change regardless of the income provided by the parents. Is a child any worse off if the custodial parent receives $1000 per month vs another child's custodial parent who receives $3000 per month; think about it, what are the real costs of a child, food, clothing, bedroom, transportation, and entertainment. The money may be for the "child", but it is really for the custodial parent.
If I was the custodial parent, and I tried, I wouldn't expect anything from the mother.
I would clearly like to see these statutes rewritten. I think the "real problem" is the statutes, not the judgement of the Judges.

-Signed by a father who cares about the well-being of his two baby boys.
If the mother has a GREATER Income than the father, then the support should be modified or terminated at the child's age of 15 years old.
You need to change the wording on this petition- it is very SEXIST. I am a WOMAN who is forced to pay child support. MEN are not the only ones in this unfair situation. My ex makes twice the income I do- and since I have been forced into child support, I have had to get on food stamps just to feed my other children that are home with me, while my EX takes my money and goes on vacation, I must live on welfare. This is not just a MALE problem.
I'm a mother. I pay child support. My judge is horrible. He only favors the father. WHY? I don't know. All I am saying is, change the whole child support situation. It's all whack but whoever makes the rules doesn't notice. Unfair.
By the way, DADS,YOU are NOT the ONLY ONES who are TREATED UNFAIRLY. Imagine me, it only gets worse. Guess what, the father of my children 1) doesn't buy them anything 2) lies to the judge 3) acts like I'm irresponsible 4) harassing me in texts 5) yells at my kids and the list goes on... I work every day 12-18 hours. It hurts, but I doubt anything will change.
Please change these laws.
I pay my child support, but I'm just like any other man or woman paying child support? These laws are old and unfair to the paying party!
I pay child support weekly and insurance weekly for my two kids. I make $12.00hr. My total deductions weekly just for chills support and insurance is $250.00 then the taxes are taken out. Them my insurance premium is taken out? Thar leaves me no money to live on? I need a place to live, eat and money to go visit my kids who live 4hours away? Its time to do something about this? Instead of turning the other cheek?
Thank you,
JAMES JOSEPH MARSHALL II
I'm just disgusted at how the courts favor the women. Especially in areas where most of society posesses that small-town mentality, where the mother is thought to be the best provider for the child. This is definitely NOT always true. My husband, who pays support for his three children to a previous marriage, pays almost 2/3 of his paycheck to his ex wife. This does not include the fact that he continued to hold medical insurance for all three of them as well. Not to mention, this woman is a lazy welfare case, she lives strictly off of food stamps and government assisted programs. It is unfair to us and our children that she should be allowed to laze around freely and collect checks, while we bust our asses. His children do not want to live with her, they hate her many boyfriends and nonstop relocating, it has to stop. The children are not enduring their "best interest" under these living conditions. It is a sad, sickening situation. There should be equally harsh guidelines for custodial parents, as there seems to be for the opposing, non-custodial parent. Like, sustain a job for one!!! Makes me sick.
child support laws need to change as the way they are now only serves to make fathers criminals! they are vary counter productive.
My drivers license was taken for child support cause I'm being accused of being the father of a 24yr old male how can they do this if there was no test taken to prove I was the father now I can't work what can I do
The laws in Pennsylvania are a joke! The mother of my children choose the most expensive daycare in the region before she surprised me with child support hearing, I had already been paying the daycare for both my girls with no problem. So domestic relations decided I'm responsible for 15,000 a year for daycare and an extra 800 a month for other costs, so now basically I'm paying daycare, her house payment and car payment while she pays nothing. How is this remotely fair? Now I'm gonna have to scratch and to try to keep up on my house payment so I don't become homeless. This is not right, these laws need changes
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The laws in Pennsylvania are a joke! The mother of my children choose the most expensive daycare in the region before she surprised me with child support hearing, I had already been paying the daycare for both my girls with no problem. So domestic relations decided I'm responsible for 15,000 a year for daycare and an extra 800 a month for other costs, so now basically I'm paying daycare, her house payment and car payment while she pays nothing. How is this remotely fair? Now I'm gonna have to scratch and to try to keep up on my house payment so I don't become homeless. This is not right, these laws need changes
I really can't add anything that would make my story unique. All these people that sent letters via this site has said the same thing I wanted to say. Apparently you can file for bancrupsy with minimal punishment but you can be imprisoned for paying child support. I always pay each month and my ex only calls me for money. My money supports her, my son, and her parents. There is no accountability and the custodial parent gets a free ride while the other parent pays all the money. What cruddy system we have here. Makes no logical sense. Child support laws like taking your license away is like chopping someone's legs off and telling them to walk. So backwards!
Mother of my child never had a job in her life. Doesn't have her own place or even a license and is 26. Courts say with 0 income on her side my check gets robbed $450 a month plus 4% health insurance. Court ordered this without contacting me for a hearing or anything. Not only am I not on a birth certificate but not even tested to be proven the father. They also based the payments on me making $12 an hour when I make far less. Wasn't until I seen my checks being garnished that I realized what was going on and that's after I had moved to another state for a better job opportunity and my own life goals I worked hard to achieve myself. She gets to sit at home and enjoy a free ride while I bust my*****to be broke. I could easily have my son and take care of him on my own with no help. Sick how easily a state will do whatever so they don't have to lose a dollar out of their own account and don't look at the matter the whole way before making up their minds. Sad to say but people on here are right and crime seems to be a better pay option than working legit. Laws need to change for sure or more people like myself may be hitting the streets to make sure they can eat.
Mother of my child never had a job in her life. Doesn't have her own place or even a license and is 26. Courts say with 0 income on her side my check gets robbed $450 a month plus 4% health insurance. Court ordered this without contacting me for a hearing or anything. Not only am I not on a birth certificate but not even tested to be proven the father. They also asked it on me making $12 an hour when that's not the case anymore. Wasn't until I seen my checks being garnished that I realized what was going on and that's afteri had moved toaster state and making less money and they won't even adjust it to be correct. She gets to sit at home and enjoy a free ride while I bust my*****to be broke. I could easily have my son and take care of him on my own with no help. Sick how easily a state will do whatever so they don't have to lose a dollar out of their account. Sad to say but people on here are right and crime seems to be a better pay option than working legit. Laws need to change for sure.
My son just had a daughter out of wedlock and trying to do the right thing, we proactively went to get all the paperwork done to be sure his custody rights were protected. Just found out today he is going to have to pay $550 a month for a newborn that has no daycare expenses. Only true expenses are diapers and formula, with a few dr. co-pays. Her mother is going to get $550 per month which my son is going to have to scrape the bottom of the barrel to pull together and there is no accountability for how the mother spends that money. I am sure most of that will go toward the mother and not the baby. I also found out that even after he is paying all the expenses, the mother gets to claim the child on her tax return. I have heard so many stories such as this where the man gets completely screwed and the mother has not accountability. Yes, the baby is with her the majority of the time, but my son also works 50 hours per week plus spends time with his daughter. He shouldn't be penalized. I feel both parents should have to put the same amount of money in a fund each month to pay for the child and what isn't used for the expenses of the child is saved for an education fund in the future.

These child support laws need to change and change quickly. A man should not be penalized for being a father. Expenses should be equal among both parents.
Why is it a Father can be threw into bankruptcy with the courts help and when he can not afford to pay his child support which is totally out of hand he can be jailed but millions of mothers and fathers reside with the children and get a free welfare ride and yet they are not punished for not paying for their children. If the mother cannot afford them financially then custody should be awarded automatically to the better situated parent until; the other can supply the demand for money to take care of them equally.
I never understood this law about Suspending Drivers Licenses. If you don't have a license most likely you can't get to work (especially in Nevada or California, the worst Public transit system, unless your going to the Casino). Not only the burden of not going to work, but how do you visit your child? Does that 2yr old wait with you at the bus stop or Metrolink? Will your ex be okay with that, or will they drag you to court again until you have sutible transportation? Totally ridiculous law, and the people who think about these laws have no common sense.
I pay 1700 a month and my children come to me every other weekend with no hair cuts and no clothing. ..shame on America that's why half these father's are selling drugs and not working because if the state knows your working they take the little money the IRS leaves you
I'm paying child support and now she wants spousal support and they are taking out also from my part-time job is there anything I can do
sad, theses judges don't know you for 10 minutes of your life just to sock it to you because some women just wants a check. if that male didn't have a job they wouldn't be thinking of child support from that parent. women are greedy these days.
Does a child cost $700, $1400, $2000 a month to raise? We pay this for my step-son. His mother is constantly asking for more money, yet he never has money in his lunch account or new shoes or clothes. When is enough - enough?
In the meantime, our family has to scrimp and pinch pennies. She doesn't have to work.
Nowadays lots of women are also so messy on sex. Some women like to break the trust by lying on birth control. Why the heavy financial punishment is only on men? It is not fair! Women should also be enforced to work and support the baby. That will create much less family issue.
Unfair law that should really be REVISED TO BE FAIR AND NOT JUST **** OVER ONE PERSON FINANCIALLY AND EMOTIONALLY AND FAST!!!
Father's need to have their rights as well. Mother's should be working to care for their children, not living off the government and ex husbands income.
As a working mother, I try my best to support my family. Marriage is supposed to give extra financial stability. My hustand pays more than 45% of his income on child support. It is more than what we spend on our two children at home combined. How is this far? I want to be able to support my step daughter, but the state of California has forgotten about the financial welfare of my children. My step daughter is 5 why are they saying she needs an all day daycare expense? And why is the state not making sure the mom has the child? We have recited multiple calls from people watching our daughter? I want to support the child not the mother.
I have a big problem with the way the law system is illinios, is common sense that the law is unfair for people here in illinios you have pay 20% of your imcome for one child and have no custudy what so ever unless you file for some custody with A Lawler, and money that you don't really have. if you get your child 2 or 3 days out the week you still have to pay 20% and more on top of the responsibility you take to spend the time you can with your children so in reality you pay more then 20% plus overtime money to support your family in this hard economy
I vote better family laws in America to rise our kids, because the laws they have are not fair for many people, they should be 3 changes: 1 if the parent takes his child 2 or 3 days he should not pay 20% because he is taking more responsibility 2: rotated taxes each year because there taking responsibility of his child and paying child support 3: set a limit per year because nobody no what really happens to the child's money, the person that recive the child support money can use it for her/his own want and needs!! If not fair for person to suffer because family law is not set properly equal. And there more changes that need to changed so our kid have both parents not fighting over erupted laws
I have a big problem with the way the law system is illinios, is common sense that the law is unfair for people here in illinios you have pay 20% of your imcome for one child and have no custudy what so ever unless you file for some custody with A Lawler, and money that you don't really have. if you get your child 2 or 3 days out the week you still have to pay 20% and more on top of the responsibility you take to spend the time you can with your children so in reality you pay more then 20% plus overtime money to support your family in this hard economy
I vote better family laws in America to rise our kids, because the laws they have are not fair for many people, they should be 3 changes: 1 if the parent takes his child 2 or 3 days he should not pay 20% because he is taking more responsibility 2: rotated taxes each year because there taking responsibility of his child and paying child support 3: set a limit per year because nobody no what really happens to the child's money, the person that recive the child support money can use it for her/his own want and needs!! If not fair for person to suffer because family law is not set properly equal. And there more changes that need to changed so our kid have both parents not fighting over erupted laws
I have a big problem with the way the law system is illinios, is common sense that the law is unfair for people here in illinios you have pay 20% of your imcome for one child and have no custudy what so ever unless you file for some custody with A Lawler, and money that you don't really have. if you get your child 2 or 3 days out the week you still have to pay 20% and more on top of the responsibility you take to spend the time you can with your children so in reality you pay more then 20% plus overtime money to support your family in this hard economy
I vote better family laws in America to rise our kids, because the laws they have are not fair for many people, they should be 3 changes: 1 if the parent takes his child 2 or 3 days he should not pay 20% because he is taking more responsibility 2: rotated taxes each year because there taking responsibility of his child and paying child support 3: set a limit per year because nobody no what really happens to the child's money, the person that recive the child support money can use it for her/his own want and needs!! If not fair for person to suffer because family law is not set properly equal.

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