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Child Support is just a punishment for not staying with a woman you got pregnant regardless of what shes has going on. My biggest question is if my child support for 1 kid is $800 per month how much does the custodial parent have to pay? Last time I checked shes going to need a place to stay so how much rent is an extra room $200 tops. Food. $200. You know what? When a kid lives with you you would never spend $800 per month on them. Unless you bought the New Jordans every Saturday. They are taking so much from the non-custodial parent that they dont have money to do anything if/and when the kid comes to visit. You can say that it doesnt matter but it does. It makes it seem like mom is the greatest cause she does everthing for the kid and the dad does nothing. I am so close to telling my daughter how much my child support is so she can stop asking me to buy her stuff and i wont keep having to respond let me see if I can swing that. Its amazing that no one responds to these things.
I myself have no problem supporting my children, however, every two weeks when i get paid, after the child support, i am left with only 374 dollars to live on which equates to around 720 dollars a month. My rent, electric, and gas for my vehicle to get to work all come out of what i have left. my rent alone due to the area i live in is 700. If it were not for family i would be screwed. I barely eat anything because i cannot afford food. I work on average 90 hours every two weeks. I applied for food stamps and was told i made to much. I constantly see facebook and twitter posts from my ex of her drinking in bars every single night. I know where my money is going. There needs to be a form of monitored usage for the child support funds, or in the very least a regulated amount take monthly based on actual expenses not just free money.
Missouri uses a form to calculate the amounts paid. Seems fair until put into action. I paid my child support and kept it up to date. My Ex quit her $70,000 per year job to go sell furniture. Said it was to spend more time with kids. She worked every holiday, lots of weekends, and late nights. Her income went down, mine stayed the same, My child support went up. She then quit that job to go back to school. her income went down and my child support doubled. Now she has had a job for a few years, my daughter spends week on-week off with me, and I have to pay thousands to a lawyer to get my child support payments brought back in line. Since I am the non-custodial parent if I quit my job and couldn't pay child support I would end up in jail. They need to go one step further in the laws and calculations. Make the child support TOTALLY administrative..... no court involvement, then people like me could afford to have our payments kept within the truly fair area. Hold the custodial parent responsible for their share of the calculation, only a medical waiver allowed (surgery, accident, etc...) for either side. If either parent wants to move out of state it should be their responsibility to pay for transport to maintain the visitation. My Ex kept wanting to move to Nebraska where her sister is, I told her I would fight her till I was broke and she never tried it.
Hundreds of veterans suffering from such injustice, PR is the unfair place regarding this law. Also multiple suicides consequence of it.
It's sad how some women see having kids as earning a pay check and we allow that. There needs to be the same rights for fathers as for women. I am a woman, a wife, a mother. I have seen and continue to see the injustice with the child support courts. The California court would not even allow a hearing, even though we had a lawyer. There reason was because they did not know that the mother of my husband's daughter had moved from California to Texas. If it was her responsibility to notify them why did he have to be penalized for her greed. She knows that she would not be able to collect the same amount of Child Support in Texas. California Courts refuse to acknowledge that my husband is a married man with three kids and head of household. The IRS have taken our Tax refunds even though he was in an accident and had to be on Workers Comp. I am a worker, I have worked pretty much since I was 16 years old and I am 39 now. Something needs to be done, do the wives of men being abused by the Child Support Courts have right too?
PLEASE! Include Puerto Rico in this! Don't forget us!!!! A child doesn't spend $500 monthly.
My case is PR and their CSP laws are unfair towards the paying parent who decides to make a family with another person. They believe that in this economy $615 a month is enough to live with. I have two children with my current spouse and she can't work and I am the only provider. This has to change! Every case needs to be audited by an external source and laws changed so it's fair for every child.
Current laws don't allow the fathers to spend quality time with their children. In most cases those irresponsible mothers that don't work or study, want more money for their children. If the dad is already supporting the child, why those women can't work or do something to support the child? At the end, the child is 50% responsibility for each parent. Also, once some women know the dad is starting a new family they get angry and go to ASUME to appeal for more money. New laws must protect the children from the dad's new marriage.
The territory of P.R., subject to the congress, suffers from the same biased family court system. The child support agency benefits from the same Social Security funding as the states do.
Justicia en Puerto Rico. Los padres estamos mal ,asume está mal aministrado.todo el derecho le corresponde a la mujer custodia y el hombre ni puede reservar su vida porque todo el dinero es para ellas y no para las hijas,y además llenan las planillas los amantes de tu ex cuando tu eres quien las mantiene todo el año esa ley la deben cambiar, que si ellas no trabajan que el padre custodio sea quien llene las planillas, ...¿porque si ella cambia de pareja ellos tienen derecho de llenar planilla que ni tan siquiera vivió en con ellas 1 año.?no es justo. Deben de cambiar el sistema. Y las tablas de Asume.
I do agree that mom's should have to work to help support their children from a failed marriage. However to make it fair for fathers that do pay child support they should be the one that claims the child as a dependent or at least have a special dependent category for divorced dads that pay support. Our son pays his child support while the mom works 5.5 hours a day..ONLY on days school is in session as a food service worker which is the lowest school paid position available. Dad has to carry health insurance on the child and if he doesn't he will have to pay her money while she continues to keep the child on the Oregon Health Plan. She also receives assistance with food and child care. She keeps the child in child care for 7 3/4 hours a day even though she works 5.5 hours a day. Legislation needs to step up to the plate and start giving the caring dads some breaks in their child support they pay and stop with the give away programs for the mom. Dads here in Oregon get very limited visitation time with their kids...usually every other weekend (Fri p.m. to Mon a.m.) and a few weeks during the summer along with alternating holidays each year. About 10% of the child's time is spent with the dad...this is an injustice to any child. We all hear how both parents are so important in a child's life until it comes to a divorced dad. Then take the little time you can get and be grateful.
Step up to the plate and get some changes to this child support system which is broken.
ASUME in PR need Federal investigation Rush!!!
THE CHILD SUPPORT AGENTS AND AGENCY DOES NOT AND NEVER HAS BEEN ABOUT FAMILY UNITY. IT HAS PROVEN BY ACTION THAT IT IS WHOLLY FOCUSED ON GETTING ITS GRANTS FROM THE FEDS FOR EACH NUMBER OF PERSONS PULLED INTO THEIR SYSTEM OF SLAVERY
We need your prompt intervention to balance the unfair situations on Puerto Rico's child support agencies and courts. They use the excuse that local law can be more strict than federal but in no way it should deprime or violate another lawful citizens rights & more important, minors rights. Minors should not be use as a financial tool to benefit one parent from the other. We need prompt intervention and fiscalization on those matters. We believe in the constitution and need it to be respected at all times and territories.
contact info submitted, Thanks for caring, our childs will appreciate it greatly!
During the last decade Puerto Rico has become a territory where Child Support has become the main income of custodial parents due to the imparities and non-equal rights. It has been used not as a source to provide the necessities of the child but it has been used as a source of income. The P.R. laws endorse this type of conduct and a huge percentage is awarded to the custodial parent (97% Mothers). Groups have been trying to work with the local government to review these laws and make changes for the benefit of the child. The proposed changes are: Equal parenting, Child support age limit, child support calculation charts and equal rights for men to raise their children. The projects have been presented to the local Chamber and Senate but the local Child Services offices are against it and publically expressed that they will NOT review and they will oppose any change because they receive Federal Funds for every dollar they manage on child support.

It is both parents responsibility to raise a child and both should be providers for a brighter future. A child should not become a main source of income.
Pleace include puerto rico
Pleace include puerto rico
Please! Include Puerto Rico. Puerto Rico's child support laws are very unfair. It creates inequality and social and families problems. Is not fair that I have to pay the 50% of my salary to my daughter's mom when she doesn't work. People like me can't see success in our life because of that. If the mother can't support her child, then give the father the opportunity to do it.
Why do women who get free day care,drop their kid off,then goes back home,either to go bed or sit around.
I pay half my salary which I only bring home $348 every two weeks. I can not afford a place not a roommate and pay for insurance and groceries and a piece of crap to drive. I am -100% liable for all medical and co pays. Right now I would owe my employer money I can't even afford insurance for my sick wife battling cancer. My child support is not considered a bill so we can not get help at all but my ex does not have to claim Childsupport not pay taxes on it. She gets free everything. Food stamps help on medical and what wver else she can get. Then she gripes that I can not afford to come 5 hours awY to see my children nor buy Christmas or meet her and get a room or do anything with my children. She calls me putting a gukt trip on me and has the kids say stuff to make me feel bad and she still refuses to agree on a lower price so I can see my children.
This has always been unfair
This has always been unfair
Hurry. The system need change asap. I cant see my kids but I'm forced to pay money to a lady so she can get fat. There is no accountability for women.
There can be an audit on the funds that are spent from my child support.
I am a good father I see my kids and have no problems with the mother. I was supporting her paying her rent and bills for 6 months before I got laid off. I now cannot afford the payments any small savings I put in the bank are taken. I literally can't afford a coffee with a job and she's collecting. I think something should be done to protect good men from falling victim to a flawed system.
It is so unfair fr the government to take all of your tax money or ssdi backpay for back child support but expects you to live, pay rent, and pay bills with 328.50 a month. How is a disabled person suppose to survive off of that. I dont have a car to get to my doctors appointments, or buy clothes that i desperately need. I need help asap! This is so unfair to the ones thats actually tryong to do for his child. Can someone please help?
What can we do on a state and federal law about arearrs owed and the crazy amount of interest I'm charged I will never see the end and no one will help something needs done how do I start a petition to address that issue
Please change the child support system! It has become so unfair for good fathers, who spend time with their children!
this has gone on long enough. Let make change to the child support law so that no father has to go through abuses of power from judges and mothers that want to use and abuse the system.
My fianc is new to the child support thing. He is paying $810/month on $14 am hour to the baby mama he made the mistake of being with. That leaves him with about $1200/month to pay his bills, which have now increased by $250 a month because he has been ordered by the court to buy a "secure vehicle" to transport his daughter in. He did not want a child, not because he just wanted to never have kids, but he knew he could not support one. The mother chose to go forward with the pregnancy, which, in hindsight, was her objective all along. She says she can "raise a child on [her] own," but that's only if she receives child support. We found out yesterday that she is taking the "extra" that she doesn't need from the $810 and putting it into a trust for the baby. She makes twice as much as he does. Meanwhile, she admittedly takes more than is needed and leaves him to have enough money to keep the roof over his head, buy a car that he didn't want to buy, and have no money left for food. Tell me how the father the after child support income of $1300/month, which puts him under the poverty line, is in the best interest of the child?
My fianc is new to the child support thing. He is paying $810/month on $14 am hour to the baby mama he made the mistake of being with. That leaves him with about $1200/month to pay his bills, which have now increased by $250 a month because he has been ordered by the court to buy a "secure vehicle" to transport his daughter in. He did not want a child, not because he just wanted to never have kids, but he knew he could not support one. The mother chose to go forward with the pregnancy, which, in hindsight, was her objective all along. She says she can "raise a child on [her] own," but that's only if she receives child support. We found out yesterday that she is taking the "extra" that she doesn't need from the $810 and putting it into a trust for the baby. She makes twice as much as he does. Meanwhile, she admittedly takes more than is needed and leaves him to have enough money to keep the roof over his head, buy a car that he didn't want to buy, and have no money left for food. Tell me how the father the after child support income of $1300/month, which puts him under the poverty line, is in the best interest of the child?
My fianc is new to the child support thing. He is paying $810/month on $14 am hour to the baby mama he made the mistake of being with. That leaves him with about $1200/month to pay his bills, which have now increased by $250 a month because he has been ordered by the court to buy a "secure vehicle" to transport his daughter in. He did not want a child, not because he just wanted to never have kids, but he knew he could not support one. The mother chose to go forward with the pregnancy, which, in hindsight, was her objective all along. She says she can "raise a child on [her] own," but that's only if she receives child support. We found out yesterday that she is taking the "extra" that she doesn't need from the $810 and putting it into a trust for the baby. She makes twice as much as he does. Meanwhile, she admittedly takes more than is needed and leaves him to have enough money to keep the roof over his head, buy a car that he didn't want to buy, and have no money left for food. Tell me how the father the after child support income of $1300/month, which puts him under the poverty line, is in the best interest of the child?
Child support shouldn't be so ridiculously high to the fathers who do want and are trying to be there and spend time with their children.
My boyfriends crazy ex is claiming to be pregnant, she told him she is keeping it ONLY to take his money. He asked her why she wanted to keep it, her response was "child support, duh" she then went on to tell him she would take evey penny he earned and that he would never see the child or be a part of its life. How is this even legally allowed? He has no choice in the matter, he told her he did not want the child with her (when she told him she was pregnant she asked when they would get married) we don't believe the pregnancy to be legitimate, but if it is, that is her Intention. The sad thing is there are many women out there who do this. What are the fathers rights in these unfair circumstances? They are purged to the point of bankruptcy at the will of horrible women who are greedy and selfish.
If the law truly cares about both parents being involved in their children's lives, then they would not have such harsh child support payments being made by the non-custodial parent. If the non-custodial has to work longer and harder, then they are getting less time with their child. This is why so many children are fatherless. Males do not want to get married or work if most of their income is getting taken away. If Earnings Withholding Orders are put in place then the non-custodial parent sees how much their income has dropped each and every paycheck. Non-custodial parents can get lower paying jobs and still end up with the same amount of money because they will now pay less support. If the government truly wants both parents involved in the child's life, then they child support system needs to change before the amount of fatherless children increases even more.
After years of agreeable support, my child's mother decides to file for back child support because of teen pregnancy (in her custody).
The courts say the kids need to keep the same lifestyle as they did with both parents together. Well what about the father? First off after 18yrs of marriage she leaves to pursue women and after they passed gay marriage she now married a women as she said was always in her well tks for allowing gay marriage for parents who have kids as it deystoyed my kids as it has messed them up but courts are afraid or bring up the or discrimae when it comes to custudy and fairness. If gays want to marry fine but if they have kids should off been a clause stating havebto wait untill kids are 18. Tks congress for allowing and my two grls in councling and getting bullied in school and wanting to die tks for that. The child support as i pay plus half of medical and co pays and half of daycare. Ohh i forgot she claims both kids also and stll complains and wants money for school clothes. The courts say parents are responisable for the cost of kids depending on income well i did the math my child support and her able to claim both kids pays for all their stuff 100% and more. To be exact she gets $20,000 tax free money between me and taxes that covers more then enough far as food clothes etc. Far as housing she has to rent heat anyways whys that considered. All i do is work 50 plus hrs a week to try to make ends meet keep my home and keep the same life my kids have at my house their home they were raised in not easy. Most dads lose thier house their lifes and cant take it and alot walk away making it harder on kids cant really blame them if they have nothing to offer. We all have the same story. My ex has a nice $32,000 dollar vehicle just bought herself a ski jet oh and flew to nyc to see a concert then back. Her multiple shoes and jackets and her electronic gadgets she has. Yes she provides for the kids but alot of that moneybshe should save for them instead of spoiling herself. Yes my kids have tvs in their room and surrond sound systems also at their moms. I forgot each kid has a $400 ibpod and my oldest a $400 smart phone. I cant afford that im on a budget about to lose it all of course i wouldnt spend spend like she does. So i work work work to make ends meet while she lives in luxury yes she works 40hrs a week. She left for unexuseable reason as alot of women are doing cause of your gay marriage laws and deystoying famlies and kids. I have read numerous statements of kids wanting to die cause of their moms no gay as my oldest does sometimes. I work hard to keep my home and provide for my kids here as i have to buy food clothes bikes etc etc also. Now since she married has two incomes now well three cause what i give her each week. Her spouse income should be considered as shebpays half the rent food etc. Child support needs to bebre written based on th sixties when most women stayed home. Since ive been single their are so many women out their that have 2,3,4 even five kids from different farthers as they sit home and collect child support why work when they
The child support system is set up as a racket to benifit the custodial parent (mother) in most cases and make it almost impossible to maintain a lifestyle for the non custodial parent
The child support system if severely flawed. Non-custodial parents (which here in Ohio is almost always the father) have no rights. You are obligated to pay into something that does not do what it is intended to do. It's time for child support to be child support instead of being a blanket for alimony. Lots of dead-beat custodial parents use the system, like they do with everything else. Child support, along with welfare should not be a career choice. ...
Dhs overcharged me on my child support. I dont mind paying but make it fair. And make it with some consequences. My child never knew she was getting child support until I told her. Ive had a modification and a lawyer and my payments still have not changed ans DHS still has not corrected the payments. It needs to be fair
This is so ****ed up. I lost my home and now I am homeless here in Florida making eight bucks an hour working for a temp service that only sends me out two days a week sometimes 3 so how could I make it.. Child support ruined my life
For this federal government and it's respective States to discriminate goes against everything the country stands for.
To discriminate and enrich oneself, as our Judiciary and professionals do while claiming doing so is "in the best interest of the child" Is a fundamental LOW water mark to which there seems no shame. For our government to pay our States for the privilege is sociopathic.
Regarding custody, visitation, and support, it is being made very clear that our parental fundamental rights and that of our children, our children's health, and out children's futures are being sold. Sold with OUR tax dollars.
The Federal government, the States, and every attorney is VERY clear on the Constitution.
It is part of their cannons as attorneys and part of
Their oath of offices. To Knowingly violate these fundamental rights constitutes Treason, a basis for redress, and removal from office. If children's health were truly a motivation, the Family Court would not exist.
It just so happens that children's health and well being, parents rights, ALL citizens rights are precisely the purposes of the Constitution and the Bill of Rights to which Our Governments are systematically removing to the point of declaring war on the entire third world, incarcerating disproportionately, ignoring fundamental equalities, disproportionate shootings by law enforcement, militarization of police, burying our children in debt as a result of trying to advance themselves, fleecing entire family wealth because of illness, fleecing parents and depriving them of raising their own children. In each instance the powers that be justify what is being done as something else. Make no mistake, these are direct and fundamental threats by our government against its people and it certainly is not American.
I wonder if this society has the fortitude to rebel.
It certainly is overdue given the disregard, disrespect, and utter disdain our government shows its citizens and children on a daily basis. The subject of Family court is a stark example of the point that is being made here.
Looking to these greedy, bullying, self interested people who are our judiciary, government, and professionals to correct a problem they have created to extort, is an exercise in futility. Being American is becoming embarrassing with these clowns calling themselves leaders. "represent" us ? I do not know about you, but these clowns have not represented me or anyone I know in a very long time.
Unfortunately a mass revolt is the only thing that will remind this government, very clearly who is working for whom. If our children do not galvanize us all, nothing will.
CL Corrado
The child support system needs to be revised. It is unjust for fathers (mostly) since they are usually the non custodial parent. No one in the systems truly looks at what is in the best interest of the child. In most cases that is as much equal time as possible with each parent. Even a non custodial parent has expenses for the child while they are with them. Think about this.....no tax exemption yet you pay support, you loose 50% of your income to taxes and support, so you have 50% of your income to live off of. But your taxed on and pay support off of 100% of the income (gross). Why cant parents alternate tax years for claiming dependents. And why if a father wants more time would a woman deny him that right - child support payments. That is why. It took two people to create a child, and it should take two people to support the child. If child support did not exist I would venture to bet the mothers would allow equal time with the father if not more. Wake up Congress. Do something for the people.
I don't think it is constitutional for any gender of parent to sit at home collect welfare and child support. for my particular situation, my children and I are overcoming domestic abuse by their father home is not able to deal with the consciousness of our relationship continuing. Family Court continues to slip my case under the cracks with vague, inconsistent, unconstitutional custody orders; a status quo order which failed to uphold the law of the best interest of the child, the safety of me and my children, and my rights as a parent per several family codes violated based on evidence including DV, corporal punishment, false allegations with no evidence or lack of to substantiate lies UNDER OATH,parental alienation, child abduction/withholding children prior to order establishment, still to this day violates order, etc..I can go on; in order to utilize courts ignorance, putting our children"in the system"and continue abuse now mentally, emotionally, spiritually and ride out this created character until the CRIMINAL PROTECTIVE ORDER expires..all for the slavers system of social services at which I, a parent/mother entrapped in CHILD SUPPORT/EXTORTION/GENOCIDE OF THE AMERICAN FAMILY...CAPITALIST SYSTEM!
Unless you can prove one of the parties to be abusive, or an unfit parent, custody should always be 50/50 shared by default, with the highest earner paying child support. Alienating children from the non-custodial parent, and forcing them into poverty is not in the best interest of the child, and you are well aware. Of course though, its hard for a politician to do the right thing when they are receiving federal incentives based off of how much child support is being collected. I guess all we can hope for is that your wives, or husbands divorce you, and half your net income is taken from you, and you can only see your kids 4 days a month. Maybe if you "lawmakers" received a big dose of your own medicine things would be much different.
It is absolutely ridiculous that LAZY mothers are allowed to sit back and claim child support, especially when I have 50% custody of my daughter. I am a hard working father who has never missed a child support payment because I have never been out of work! My ex-wife is now close to 30 years old and still mooches off the system and out of my pockets. She is able to stay home and play VIDEO GAMES while I continue to support her lazy habits, she is no role model to our child and it breaks my heart. She is ALLOWED to do this by law, it is selfish and only benefits her. Something needs to change.
Child support is completely unjust for fathers who are actively involved in their kid's lives. Something should be done. As a non-custodial parent you have no right to claim your children during tax season but the income is counted as money that comes in to your household therefore as a non-custodial parent paying the support you should be allowed to claim those children since they are part of your home as stated. The whole thing makes no sense and all it does is create a division on both parents. Fathers should not be penalized because a relationship did not workout. This entire system is bogus and has nothing to do with the kids, this is simply a way for the government to be involved in in your business, nothing else because I'm sure 70% to 80% of kids are not benefiting from the money anyways. Now the court says the mother has expenses such as light bill, food etc. Aren't these things she would need regardless of whether she had a kid or not? so it makes no sense at all. B.S
I really feel that child support can be mismanaged and is not always fairly decided. I work two jobs just to make ends meet, and my ex claims total disability (which he technically is doing fraudulently. Claims he can't work at all because of his back, yet has been seen kayaking and riding roller coasters, etc). In the last year, he has purchased a second vehicle and other "fun, yet expensive" items and the judge basically said, "Oh well, she can afford it." Now my ex is expecting me to pay over $5000 for braces. When will the guidelines for child support, and disability, be tightened up so people like my ex can't take advantage of it?
Child support laws MUST be revised! It is extremely UNJUST for the father. The custodial party should also contribute to the expenses of the child, also at the time of taxes the custodial party gets the refund, why? If she hasn't contributed towards the child's expenses! 80% of my husband's income goes towards child support. He brings home30% that's beyond low income! There's no justice here. He can't live off 30% in California. I pay 3/4 of all our expenses.

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