Unfair child support laws

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I've just lost my home due to my husbands ex wife upping child support and defrauding the system. She is a liar and the courts blindly allow it. I find it unfair that my child will be returning to the UK without his father because the courts allow her to lie and cheat the system. It's time to even the balance and not punish the children of the marriage for the past mistakes of one or two people.
Make it fair fast for them to take out money but not fast enough to recalculate bs
No one should be forced to live on the streets when all they want to do is provide for their children. No man or woman should be abe to use another for income. Each person's income and living expenses should be taken in to consideration before awarding child support. We took care of the children until the mother decided she didn't want to work much and wanted a check. She had two children with two different men. Now she gets over $200.00 per week and only works part-time. Now the father's do not get to see their children and have to pay half of their income to saI'd chold support. In Illinois if a father has other children in his care, his child support is increased due to the fact his income tax refund will be greater then if he did not have additional children. Child support and laws should be to help the families and the children. Not just help one or two kids and make everyone else suffer. Current aid only helps mothers with free services and attorneys and does not help the father's in any legal way. Let the truth be told. Fix these laws and let good parents do the parenting. Not allow one parent to use the other for a paycheck. This is hurting the children.
A woman who I thought was my friend begged and nagged me into sex. The entire time I knew her she went on and on about never wanting kids and always stayed on the pill. We had sex twice. She came up pregnant and I told her I didn't want to have a kid. I all but begged for her to have a procedure. I found out she was never on the pill. She kept the baby and told me she wouldn't ever see me again. Months later she starts sending me pictures and wants to talk. Then she flips out on me that I want nothing to do with her or the kid as i meant what i said to begin with. We were friends and nothing more. She figured out by taking shots at my pride was the way to get me to have sex. I'm unable to support the family I have now because of this venomous pig. A man has zero say on if the baby is kept, aborted or given up for adoption. And don't give me that tired line about keeping it in your pants! This is 2015 and the days of having one sexual partner are gone. The man should be able to sign away rights if he wants nothing to do with the child and the parents werent married. It's the only way to level the field and make it fair. Women are allowed to use a baby as a finacial weapon to punish and enslave a man. I'm on the hook for the next 16 years. Don't let it happen to you too!! Vasectomy is fast, cheap and mine was painless. I'd be willing to bet what's left of my paycheck that there is a huge correlation between male suicide and child support. I pay the court ordered amounts which tallies up to over half of my pay. I have no desire to see the child or the one he fell out of. I am simply forced to pay them until the kid turns 18, I die or she finds a man that wants to adopt the kid and doesn't want my money.... yeah right. See you guys at the soup kitchen.
Too many men are used as a money pit. Mothers need to support their child too, make them get a job and work too. If they don't work drop child support.
Seems like all the rights go to the person that has custody of the child. There are no rights for the child or for the person paying child support. It's frustrating that I am paying $400.00 a week to an irresponsible mother that cannot work and plays the system. There is no accountability on the custodial parents part.
I think it's crazy a mother can have an abortion and a father can't do nothing to stop jt. However a mother can have a baby name the man as daddy and guess what he's paying child support!
I don't think it's fair a man shoulf have to pay another women's bills. Yes I agree the father should support his kids but the system makes it to where the mother can survive and the father fails. When if the state wanted to be fair on children and look out in the best intrest of a child they wouldn't let the mothers get away with this bs . Another thing that makes me so frustrated is a mom can get all free help and the father has to pay child support plus pay for a lawyer to get rights to his kid! The system is unfair to men.
Child support payments should consider what is a comfortable living, not the offset. The "equitable living arrangement" argument isn't valid because children are generally not raised to be materialistic and do not care about these differences.
Many of the current child support laws were based on the 1980's "deadbeat dad" stereotype and are extremely bias towards the mothers. Though for some cases this may still be true, most of the time child support is abused and misused. Congress needs to re-evaluate these laws immediately and update them to stop our fathers from being extorted for unnecessary child support payments.
We also need to implement an act where the women should be made to repay the male that has been falsely accused of fathering her child.
Yes the court need to fix things on child support for the men. The men get the bad end of the stick that's for sure. Most of the mother's always get what they want and it's wrong. I had three boys and my x-husband was rich he never pd a dime and people told me l was stuiped for not going after him. That isn't want it's all about. Some fathers don't make a lot of money but if they are working the courts should look at that and say he's trying and let him pay less. Some money is better than know money.
When a mother has a means, money in the bank, a job, a car that's paid for and alimony and the father has been unemployed and desperately seeing work, whey is he crucified and WHY does DOR and the court system see that he is in poverty and the mother living comfortably.... Judges won't even look at the financial statement, instead fall for the phony acts that mothers display in court. SHAME ON THE COURT SYSTEM AND THE STATE OF MASSACHUSETTS!!!! It's not what in the best interest of the child, IT'S WHAT'S IN THE BEST INTEREST OF THE COMMONWEALTH OF MASSACHUSETTS !!!!!!!!!! THIS IS EXTORTION AND HAS TO STOP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I've requested a reduction in child support multiple times and each time the courts claimed to never received my return fax I've hand delivered the paperwork and somehow it get lost... Now I face jail time and I'm a disabled no working veteran!! So now I have to sit in jail because I'm physically unable to pay child support while on the other hand my son's mother quit her job so she could remain on housing and get good stamps how does this make sense!!
Paying child support with joint custody and I pay all child care expenses and have our child 196 days vs 169 days
I am so relieved to find that I am not the only one disgusted with the archaic 1950's child support law! This law often only benefits the mother. In our case she is alienating the father. The money is only for revenge and causes women to stay where they are instead of moving on with careers that can support themselves. I myself am a woman who can support herself and not rely on child support (I don't receive support actually, I would rather have the father of my son spend quality time with him than owe me a check very month!)
Can't child support payments become taxable? That way fathers who pay on time get a break. If fathers receive a tax incentive that will motivate many to pay child support. The government needs revenue anyway. Most of these people who receive child support are probably misusing it. An independent audit on them would show that. Congress, please request US GAO to audit the child support agencies in each state. On the other hand, each family law division of the courts should appoint a unit/system to monitor how recipient parents are using the monies that are supposed to me for the children.

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Child support of Illinois is guilty of perjury, contempt of court & fraud, and that's just in my case! How can they legally lie about court documents not having a judges signature & refuse modification because I became disabled. Child support is a corrupt, lawless system, that is never held accountable for the lives & families they destroy. Obama mentioned the child support system need reform & change Father's day this year & that's as far as the subject got. Don't just mention it, FIX IT. Becoming disabled is enough of a tragedy without child support of Illinois using it as an opportunity to destroy a mans life even more & treating him like a deadbeat Dad. Far too many fathers have taken their own life due to the corruption in the child support system. Thank you for reading.
Child support of Illinois is guilty of perjury, contempt of court & fraud, and that's just in my case! How can they legally lie a out court documents not having a judges signature & refuse modification because I became disabled. Child support is a corrupt, lawless system, that is never held accountable for the lives & families they destroy. Obama mentioned the child support system need reform & change Father's day this year & that's as far as the subject got. Don't just mention it, FIX IT!
It's ******** I dont mind supporting my daughter but when I'm only making 9.50 at my new job right now compared to when I was making 12.70 I'm barley bringing home 200 a week while she dosent work as 2 other kids besides mine and just goes to school full-time plus I have to pay her medicade so when I actually get hired on I wont be able to have insurance for myself cuz I wont be able to afford it
The laws need to be changed,when the mother of the child is making more than the father and yet the father has to pay child support,medical insurance and the courts and mother get to dictate how much time the father spends with his child,there is something very wrong.The laws are outdated and need to be changed,a lady can have kids,work and afford the nicer things in life while the father works 1-2 jobs just to pay the bills and child support.A female can actually make money having children.The way they calculate child support needs to change,and the fact that I am being told if I win the lotto I have to give up half is bull---t,the law states earnings not winnings and she already is winning.I find it hard to keep a positive attitude when it seems all I do is work to pay the bills,no future in sight.I also think it should be on net pay not gross and if the father is current on child support he should be able to claim the child/ren on his tax return every other year.
Iv been paying cs for 10 yrs on 2 kids in which I have sucked up and delt with. I don't mind paying for my kids but I'm saying this has gone to far. After 10 yrs of straight suffering I finally got around to doing a modification and played the waiting game until I got a response. I was like r u serious mind u working 2 jobs everyday haven't had a summer including camping bbqing u know stuff the women get to do cause they don't have to work. They just sit round party do drugs not a worry in the world paradise in there eyes. Daddy here tho no I gotta work 80 hrs a week the only time I get to get out the house is to drive to work. Luckily my wife works so I have a tiny not much chance to survive if it wasn't for her helping me out I'd be living with mommy and daddy for the rest of my life walking 25 miles one way to work to make that 100 dollars a week. Then when u try to call cs they treat the dad's like u r pieces of******like seriously they ask u to send them prove of all ur bills check stubs stuff like that and when u get ur paperwork back it's way off like they didn't even look at the Damn things. I know for a fact one of my babies mamas don't or hasn't held a job in IN 9 yrs but they figure she makes 1300 a month. That's amazing how that works what did they count my cs as an income. Changes definitely need to be made here it's totally not fair how hard working dads like myself have to try to survive on a couple hundred bucks a month when I gross almost 2ooo a mnth. How is any guy supposed to wake up every morning and go to work knowing he working his tail off for more drugs and happiness for her. It's definitely sickening and I personally dont know how they expect us daddy's to do this but I keep trucking everyday hoping something gotta give.
Something needs to change!!
The way child support is calculated is insane. For one it should be the NET PAY not the gross pay because you have the parent paying the support having taxes, benefits, ect taken out then child support and that does not leave much room to live comfortably. Also, you should only be able to adjust support if income changes more than 25% for either parent either way not everytime the non custodial parent gets a raise. How can non custodial parents who pay support pay to live, sleep, eat, support their families, save for emergencies or retirement? Wake the hell up and do something for a change. Enforce new child support guidelines and quit allowing custodial parents to get away with taking every dime from the non custodial parent which usually causes them to not be able to see their children as much because how can you afford it?
This system is severely broken!!! It cripples a man to the point where he can barely function or live adquately!!! Woman abuse this system , driving brand new cars, living very comfortable while most men can Barely afford an apt , car , food and ect
I pay for my son, however till the age of 21yrs is just obscene. I also am a mother of two children who live with me but the state of Mississippi they refuse to answer to reduce even when they send me letters asking if Id like a review? I feel like just screaming at the years of overpayment then I get a letter saying Im behind so who is pocketing my money?
Reform needs to happen when thousands of women in California are purposely getting pregnant by men only to be able and cash in on their income. Also, countless men and families are in debt, on the streets, and unable to make a living due to the amount of child support they are required to pay to mothers who get to just sit at home and do nothing. I am married to a man with a master's degree, a great occupation, and we are unable to buy a house or have any money because all of it goes to his ex wife in CA who does not work and lives off his money. That's fair right?! It's absolutely enraging and just another reason California is an embarrassment to this country.
When parties get a divorce and each share 50% placement, there shouldn't be huge amounts of money paid from one to another. When one party has a greater work ethic than the other, the one with the work ethic shouldn't be penalized because the other party is lazy. This system needs real reform. The courts are being used by lazy parents to extort and hurt the hard working parent, often making it impossible to live. The paying parent should at least be able to support themselves before being forced to support someone else, especially with shared placement arrangements.
It's unfair to a father who has joint custody of his child and begs to spend as much time with her as possible, is being forced to work two jobs in order to afford the child support. i have read the comments of other and feel our story is the same .. The ex has three children by three different men and is trying to bankrupt the one father figure that is a constant in her youngest child's life. How can the legal system sleep at night knowing that they are handing money to some who are undeserving and just down right greedy!
I'm paying 420 a month can't find a job because of a pending felony if I can't pay I get a warrant its always something just got a job at 8.00 that ain't gonna help at all maybe be just enough to keep me outta jail but still not enough to live on my girl friend right now has to work 2 jobs these child support laws must have been made by a woman that got done shitty and was on the rag at the same time.
I am a disabled combat war veteran. I have two sons that I love with my entire being. My exwife (together 10 years, married for 6) filed for divorce for our 6th anniversary after I discovered that she was sleeping with someone she worked with and I confronted her. For those ten years... I put her through college to receive two Master degrees, while I also attended college, worked full time and overtime, and ran a side business as well to make ends meet. When we went to mediation in Texas, I proved her an unfit mother and was awarded 50/50 custody. However, I was the custodial parent so I took my children and moved back to PA with family to get back on my feet. The only work I could find was a third shift position. I was not asking for any type of child support because I did not want this in the courts due to the unfairness of our current laws. Therefore, I was raiding my children on my own. When I could not find childcare during my work hours, I made the ultimate mistake of letting the children stay with their mother at night while I worked. I had bought a home so that my children would have a more comfortable living arrangement and was actively seeking a day shift position. My exwife took all of this to her advantage. First she and the "new" hubby. Yes the same guy, filed for bankruptcy. She included my truck which I was making all payments on time into this. Got a call from the bank saying they would take the truck if I did not pay the balance.. Who has $6000.00 just laying around? Anyway, I traded the truck in and got a cheaper car with another payment but, in my name only. Of course, her vehicle she was awarded in the divorce also went into her bankruptcy and my name was never taken off as it should be so i was slammed for that. Then I was taken to court for custody. The State of Pa would not consider any evidence I had of her being unfit which was used in Texas and she was awarded the Custodial parent position... Moving right along... not even a week later i received a letter from Domestic Relations for the support to start. She has two Master degrees and only took a position making very little wages while her new husband makes up the difference to gross over 6 figures a year. I work in management with a slightly higher salary then her income with no chance of getting any OT because of being salary and the hours I work, prevent me from picking up a second job. I have my children week on week off. I was ordered to pay nearly $1200 per month. I lost my home, my car, and I am now on the streets. My job requires me to have a phone and Internet because of the ability to telecommute a few days a week. However, I still need to commute to my office as well... I had to go to a buy here pay here to get a vehicle because my credit has been destroyed. I am crashing on floors, couches, and sometimes in my vehicle just to get through. I go for days without eating just so I have a little money to feed my kids when they are with me. My question is... How is
There needs to be a specific credit card/debit card that only allows funds to be spent on child or bills of the home for child. If a petition can be started for that then I am in!!
Child Support laws are destroying the moral fiber of the family. Most Fathers want to help support their own children. It is their rightful duty and not the government's. Child support and child custody should be agreed on by both parties before they receive a legal divorce. Then a Child Support Agency would not be needed.
Need a new system to help fathers getting everything took from them when trying to better themselves
Why should a father be forced to pay money to a mother who still lives at home? Any money should go directly to the child or in an account set up for the child. That's it. Period.
Hello, I am a stepmother to a teenager daughter, my husband has to pay child support to the mother who was unfaithful during the marriage, and became pregnant with another man's child. She refuses to work, and my husband ends up paying child support which is taken as spousal support, as the money she receives is not being directly used to support the teen. He has to give his daughter money through a prepaid card for her personal stuff: clothes, books, shoes, and other things that should be covered by the child support. Please, it is time to give justice to men who actually provide for their children. No man should live in poverty because the mother refuses to take responsibility for the child they made TOGETHER.
When I had my daughter, me and my ex was together for the first two years of her life. Thing didn't work out,do to her being unfaithful. I was working and paying child support. A year or so after I started getting weird feelings in my chest. I went to doctors and got prescribed meds that almost killed me. Finally I was recommend to a cardiologist. I found out I had aortic insufficiency. They told me there was nothing they could do at the time. One,I was to young to have these problems, two they could only operate when I'm near death.
I tried getting an attorney and get disability, but was told I was denied because I was to young to have these kind of problems. I was so frustrated by this ,I knew what I felt and I did not feel good.

During this time fighting with disability, my ex wouldn't let me see my daughter, because I was not giving her money and I was irresponsible. I tried getting a public attorney to get rights to see her ,he told me there was nothing they could do being I wasn't working. I was able to find a doctor that could help me and got my server depression and anxiety in control. I was finally able to get out to work. 2 years later I literally died on my sidewalk. Had heart surgery and got back to work. My place of employment closed and my unemployment ran out. I was able to get college paid for,for being a displaced worker. Now that I'm not having any income once they are threatening to take my drivers license. These rules are so messed up. The worst part I was never able to see my daughter, do to the mother. My daughter will not talk to me because she thinks I am to blame, because of her mother. To top it off I have $27,000 in back child support for being sick and not able to get help,because of stupid rules and profiling.
My friend is in a financial slump because he has to pay that ***** money she is the one that caused the divorce, besides the fact that he had always been gay.

Gay exist and has always been for population control, and besides women are self centered most of time. I'm about to lose someone I really love because of some ***** who wants to get back with him I know what she wants she don't love him but I do so much. I despise women because all they think about is popping a baby out of the hole. Grow up there are enough freaking humans on the planet that why there are more men on the streets because women take their money because child support. Eve picked that fruit and supposedly didn't tell Adam where she got it screwing him over. I think some women who receive child and have a job should be arrested because if she can keep the kids up and the divorce happen then is no more then forced stealing like some one sticking a gun to head and taking your money in the case the gun is law. I have seen a lot of women steal from the government because of children and the child could be an excuse to get an easy money. I Hate ****ing Women they destroy men by throw them out of their own house. Man owns a house marrys a woman who lives in an apartment they get married they divorced she takes house because of children man is out of options.why can't women learn to control their ****ing child birth makes me glad there are abortions to keep the planet from turning to an over populated hell sooner or later we might start eating each other. Summary women can't alway be trusted same could be said for men but men can't use child support or ssi to live on those women do I know women that steal there children's SSI this is my final thing to say. I would take a man over a woman any day because I don't trusted them at all.
My ex-wife took me to court for child support 7 years after our divorce. I believe she was waiting for my painting business to pick up which I don't have anymore cause of what her and the state of utah did to me. When we separated back in 2000 and she took off to California leaving all 3 kids with me for the summer. In court she claimed I was the one who left her with the kids and they went to food banks weekly. All untrue. She became a stripper and it was a big reason I left her. That and all her cheating and not treating the kids well. She claimed she quit stripping in 2002 but really she didn't. She went to wendover for it. Why should I have to pay for her to take care of the kids and then for myself to?! Then I have to pay half medical etc on top of that! When we started this battle she wrote and notarized a letter forgiving all back child support. We all had a copy. Right before the court hearing all the letters, ORS copy included mysteriously disappeared. One of the ladies who worked at ORS finally retrieved their copy. So, my ex lied in court saying she never wrote the letter. Once it showed up she claimed she forgot she wrote it and notarized it and wrote it to keep him out of jail. The judge allowed it and asked if she wanted me in jail for 30 days and she said yes. So I spent 30 days in jail over Christmas. The oldest is her son but I raised him as mine. When this all started he stopped calling me dad and stopped coming over. He was 14. This was the hardest part for me I still love him and think of him as my son though she poisoned his mind against me. While all the court stuff was going on she kept the kids and I had them every other weekend. Once it was all over and to this day she uses the kids to make me feel guilty if I say I can't afford to have them cause I can't anymore but I still will have them 2 weeks at a time then she will take them for 3 days and then starts calling obsessively for me to take them again. She quit her job a month ago supposedly to stay and help our 17 yr old son who is doing things he shouldn't but then sends him over here for 2 weeks. She isn't concerned if they have anything to eat here all she cares about I her and her husband having their freedom from kids she constant is using as weapons.
It's sad that a women can sit at home at 43 years old with an 8 year old and have section 8 pay there rent, welfare give her food stamps for food, obtains the Obama phone, car through the welfare system. There was a time with her fake SSI claim income and welfare and child support that she had more income a month sitting at home doing nothing then myself n my husband working full time jobs with overtime.
As a women I was taught to take care of any children I have. Because women have control over a child being born. My husband pays child support and because his ex do not work full time they hit him with a $1200 a month child support rate. Thr children are not being taking care of and hes unable to see the children. Its time for a change starting with women. Have onky want you can afford and never rely on others income.
Where does child support draw the line? Say a husband and wife divorce and they have a kid. The dad goes to work and makes decent money but the woman can choose to work as much as she wants. Go to DHS file for more child support as she chooses to only work part time. There needs to be a change at least expect women to work 40 hours at the minimum wage if she's not meeting that then that's her mess up.
I have two sons, one and two years old. The youngest, Logan, lives with me. The oldest, Dexter, lives with his mother. About three months ago Dexters mother and I had an arguement during which she repeatedly told me I had to obey her by breaking up with my fiance, Logans mother or she would file for child support. I did not truly believe that our court system would allow itself to be used as a weapon of greed and misguided anger. I was mistaken. My paycheck was garnished for the first time yesterday. I was never notified that it was coming had no means to prepare for it. The state took 50% of my pay. After my bills were paid I had three dollars left over. That left no money to purchase diapers for Logan. I currently have three left. What am I supposed to do? How can the state justify taking from one child to give to a mother, who has no bills to pay, free rent, free food, is basically waited on hand and foot? Its just sickening, because for the last three months I was homeless, couch surfing and finding a new place for Logan to sleep every night. Finally I am so close to getting back on my feet and without knowing any of that, without knowing I have another son, without knowing anything about me, the state has decided to gut my ability to be a parent. That is not justice, it is catering to one persons selfish desires and apparently hundreds of thousands of others as I have learned from reading the comments here. Something needs to change, this system is flawed.
I have two sons, one and two years old. The youngest, Logan, lives with me. The oldest, Dexter, lives with his mother. About three months ago Dexters mother and I had an arguement during which she repeatedly told me I had to obey her by breaking up with my fiance, Logans mother or she would file for child support. I did not truly believe that our court system would allow itself to be used as a weapon of greed and misguided anger. I was mistaken. My paycheck was garnished for the first time yesterday. I was never notified that it was coming had no means to prepare for it. The state took 50% of my pay. After my bills were paid I had three dollars left over. That left no money to purchase diapers for Logan. I currently have three left. What am I supposed to do? How can the state justify taking from one child to give to a mother, who has no bills to pay, free rent, free food, is basically waited on hand and foot? Its just sickening, because for the last three months I was homeless, couch surfing and finding a new place for Logan to sleep every night. Finally I am so close to getting back on my feet and without knowing any of that, without knowing I have another son, without knowing anything about me, the state has decided to gut my ability to be a parent. That is not justice, it is catering to one persons selfish desires and apparently hundreds of thousands of others as I have learned from reading the comments here. Something needs to change, this system is flawed.
I give half of my take home pay to support my two kids. I am homeless. I have met another woman that helps me out alot. I want 50/50 time but can't afford a place. I am a nursing aide living on $800 dollars a month. I want to finish my RN degree but the WIA state scholarship tells me that I make too much money. **** the system.
Who ever has custody or the child needs to support the child while they have custody. Forced Child support/alimony is slavery, and I have not idea why it is still allowed in this country.
My husband's ex works part-time (in a school so she 'can have the summers off') even though she has a degree. She received a substantial settlement from the divorce but tells everyone she meets that she is starving and poor single mother who's ex doesn't supply enough support for her children. The courts should not let parents like these continue to go to court demanding more support when they are not doing what they can to support themselves. In addition, the costs of raising children does not increase just because a household has greater income. We don't spend more than what she gets a month on the kids so why should she have that option? We work full time to provide for our family, not to provide for her lifestyle choice.
This matter needs to be addressed promptly.simple soulotion for everyone lets all go on childsupport strike"
This matter needs to be addressed promptly.

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