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When. Are all you going to realize that csru doesn't. Represent the children or the dad or the mother there only selling you out to the US bank Corp in 16 states. Connected. To the " to big to fail " in 2008 seriously people. Run the math. The person. With the support card with drawing cash from atm at a $2 fee at only 1 time a week for 700000 cardholders. Comes out to 1400000 a week. Now take that times 16 states. 22400000 shouldn't this . make You sick now don't it. Just look at it... fact. Is more support more money. The banks aka csru have capitalized on children as support orders. My figures are not accurate by any means but. There. Are. Numerous people being choked out. Financially this goes states wide. Poverty levels at an all time high. Look at your life. It's time us Americans take. A stand against this csru. There breaking our constitutional rights under the ucc. Look at it I'm dead serious its pure genius. And the government saves. Money by not having to process paper checks and your. Money. Also accumulates interest on all this money. Paid in. Now. Just look at stock spikes month to month with. US banks. Were. All fighting to live. A so called Life ??????????
Unfair law
Why I'm paying 17% to a child that the mother keeps away from me and she refused to sign legitimation papers! I'm also paying health and dental also. She works a full time job too so where is the fairness? You tell me.
I think the child support laws needs to be changed. It needs to hold each parent responsible in providing for the child or children not just one. It took two to make the child or children and it should take two to provide. And sending people to jail and taking away their license is just ludicrous. The law is old and needs to be changed.
Why do I get punished for working harder and she gets rewarded for not working at all?
Because of child support i have lost my home,car,and because i lost my car i lost my job.She has not worked every since she filed for child support.
have provided for my kids since the divorce. We have joint custody over our 11 yr. old twin boys. My ex did not work for 5 years and was able to purchase 5 used cars, keep them insured, registered, go on vacation and have another baby while being unemployed. I have one car and only can afford one car with one job. In 2010, I lost my job but, managed to keep my children medically covered. I was able to get a job at Stanford Hospital the same year. My ex had been unemployed since 2009. He finally got a job last year....but because I make more. I have to fork up more money. The system doesn't make sense. He doesn't use the money towards our boys but, on his new girlfriend. Not to mention, he was able to file hardship because a new child that has nothing to do with me. I showed proof of his fraudulent actions, letters, witnesses...yet, his actions weren't looked into. I have consistently been responsible for the sake of my children since the divorce. His long length of unemployment and his many cars weren't questioned. I was so tired of paying him that he needed an incentive to work. Because I did that, I had to pay him arrears $8000+ of hard earned money to a man that has done very little. I paid for our 2'older kids college tuition and books. I paid the medical bills and on top of my own. I have paid for the necessities that my kids needs. How can I rely on giving a man medical bills if he cant even pay a cell bill?
I have lost all trust in our family laws. Its full of injustice and the good for nothing parent seems to get the better deal. The list goes on with what this person as done. I have been nothing but honest. Something has to be done! I need
I am writing from the beautiful Austin, TX, I personally have not been involved in a Child Support dilemma but I have witnessed someone close go through it.
First, if the mother wants full custody, that entails being able to financially support the child as in GET OFF YOUR ASS, GET A JOB AND PROVIDE FOR YOUR CHILD. I do not understand a mother not working and why mainly the father has to solely provide for his child that he only gets to see 6 days a month(the Texas normal every other weekend BS law). AND had no say in HOW his money is spent in regards to his child's lively hood.
Child Support laws are severely unfair to whomever is given the duty to pay child support, most folks do not have enough money to cover rent, bills, or living expenses due to the unfair system. Cost of living is higher now, wages have not kept up with that incline.
If the mother wants sole custody, that is fine, but she should be able to financially support herself AND child without the help from the other parent. Child Support laws need to change. No more baby mamas taking advantage of father's income, no more baby mamas using child support payments to fund THEIR wants rather than the child's needs, no more baby mamas exploiting the system.
Change Child Support Laws nationwide. Hold the mother accountable on how the money is spent, set limitations to what may be purchased as in clothing, groceries, grooming, extracurricular expenses, and school related items. Require her to keep records/receipts of how the money is support the child. We must protect the father's that are trying to do the right thing, but get discouraged by irresponsible mothers with the help of a severely flawed system.
You want sole custody, show you can afford everything that it comes with.
All I know is that child support is federal funding,all 50 states gets an equal 66% The judges get paid first before anybody else they are making millions off cases and its unfair. Child support is not constitional its not judicial or legislative its an administration hearing(man made law) The constitution is suppose to protect our rights and child support does not protect our rights so always remember that God is watching and justice will be served 1 day because God is not happy with these man made laws.
All I know is that child support is federal funding,all 50 states gets an equal 66% The judges get paid first before anybody else they are making millions off cases and its unfair. Child support is not constitional its not judicial or legislative its an administration hearing(man made law) The constitution is suppose to protect our rights and child support does not protect our rights so always remember that God is watching and justice will be served 1 day because God is not happy with these man made laws.
I do not think a Custodial parent should be rewarded Child Support payment at all. If the Custodial parent feels they can take care of the child is the only thing that should make them a custodial parent. However the rights to the children should be agree on what they want to consider 50/50 and when the child is in that parent care it is up to the parent on his/her time to take care of the child. It should be required when that child is on that parents time to purchase 50% what ever that child needs, clothes, schooling supplies, doctor bills. If that child is in your care going to school from your home then you should take responsibility taking care of that child on your time which includes buying school supplies, both parents should supply clothing, if that child is with the parent or other on winter break that parent should be supplying the winter clothes, Only a parent that neglects his child in his her time should be put in jail. Starving you child and not proper clothing your child or getting the right medical attention is neglect. That is the only time jail time should be served. Not because someone did not get their money. Make people responsible for their own action. The Child Support system needs to be changed where everybody is not spreading their legs out because they can count on that money to come to them or I will play with your life and throw you in jail. No one should be rewarded with money to take care of a child. You should know yourself that you can take care of that child if you going to be the custodial parent and that their is consequences to having a child. Meaning you split up or have a divorce. Have a job to take care of your children. Sending someone to jail does not solve anything, taking someone license away is pure stupid. I do not agree with the laws.
I work in Divorce and Family Law in New York State. There is a huge disconnect between the law and reality as far as child support goes. Percentages of income are grossly inflated and ridiculously arbitrary. The percentages do not account for the non custodial parents time and care of the Children, i.e., if a father has the child for 15 days a month, he is not credited with the food, clothing, housing, and expenses for that time. If the law states that 17% (1 child) of the parents combined income is allocated to the food, housing, clothing, and other expenses of the child, account should be taken of the non custodial parents obligation as equal to that of the custodial parents. Either the percentage is too high or more credits need to be given to the payor spouse. In addition, the percentage is taken from a gross income less certain deductions. No one lives on their gross income. Both spouses need to be accountable for their reality and the custodial parent should not receive a windfall and prejudice the fathers ability to parent from a financial standpoint. For these reasons, I believe that the NY Child Support Laws need reform.
I am hardworking mother that been the main provider since the divorce. My refused to work. But because we have joint custody of the kids. I have to be the one to pay him. How is that ok? Not to mention, he was able to purchase 5 vehicles while unemployed. He finally gets a job after 5 years and because I make more....I have to pay him double?? Its unbelievably unfair. Lastly, I just overheard a conversation that he had that he went and splurged on black Friday. These laws need to change. If medical bills needs to be provided as proof that they need to be reimbursed. The same should go the parent that is receiving child support to show that the money is towards the children. There's no reason anyone should be spending over $1000 a month on 2 boys that does not need daycare.
My fiance has 2 grown sons he still owes about $8000 in arearages for (they are completely out of school) he and I have been together almost 10 years and have 2 little girls we have suffered so much over the years (financially) . I wish (now that they were grown that the back support could be put towards younger babies of his.) He actually is having to apply for foodstamps so we can make ends meet..its embarrassing.
I pay $250 child support + $50 arrears per week for 1 child that is now 14 years old in the State of New Jersey. I am re married with 3 small children that I have to provide for. The child support laws here in New Jersey are so wrong focus than I can even provide rightfully for my current family and also comply with my obligations reasonably. I want to pay child support to provide for my child but I also I want to be able to have a life and enjoy with my family. The economy keep going up and pay at work don't but they still also adjust child support 3% for cost of living. What about my cost of living that is also higher and not enough pay? If you get laid off and start getting unemployment they start taking full payments living you with barely any money left. If you don't pay your child support, they suspend your license and you can't drive to start looking for work. I know some people just want to be irresponsible but not everybody is the same. This laws need to be amended to help every party; children's, parents to be able to support but also live and enjoy life in this stressful world.
I pay $250 child support + $50 arrears per week for 1 child that is now 14 years old in the State of New Jersey. I am re married with 3 small children that I have to provide for. The child support laws here in New Jersey are so wrong focus than I can even provide rightfully for my current family and also comply with my obligations reasonably. I want to pay child support to provide for my child but I also I want to be able to have a life and enjoy with my family. The economy keep going up and pay at work don't but they still also adjust child support 3% for cost of living. What about my cost of living that is also higher and not enough pay? If you get laid off and start getting unemployment they start taking full payments living you with barely any money left. If you don't pay your child support, they suspend your license and you can't drive to start looking for work. I know some people just want to be irresponsible but not everybody is the same. This laws need to be amended to help every party; children's, parents to be able to support but also live and enjoy life in this stressful world.
The law is broken and needs to be revised
I paid $1058 per month on a temporary order for 2 kids during proceedings just over 2 years ago working a seasonal job for the union and income was superimposed from a monthly $832 final order as I continued to be homeless and working on the road for 2 years. I approached $11000 in arrears, they withheld my federal and state income taxes to make current my arrears. I just a few months ago attained a residence at the closing of the second time my former spouse took me to court for an adjustment. I was again thrown under the heavy financial burden of more support, backdated payments/arrears caused by the Court of Iowa and the legal parties opposing me, as I was self represented. I now pay $1200+ a month and will return to $1058 per month. It is crushing me financially as I work a good job, pay for the kid's medical insurance an additional $242 per month, and no means to drive the 3 hour round trip to spend the weekend with my children. I all in all will give up and move back in with my parents, give up a new loving relationship, and be near penniless only bringing home $726 dollars a month. My rent is $735, I had to let my truck go back to the bank, can't afford fuel, borrow transportation, utilities are past due, my phone is soon to be shut off, and the list goes on. In closing, Iowa is terrible and CSRU is beyond crooked as are the courts that allow such action. Thank you Iowa for ruining the next decade of my life and the chance to ensure my children a great future.
Concerned Father
It is entirely unfair to force one parent to pay more towards the child's care than the other. Each parent has an EQUAL responsibility to the child. By allowing one parent to pay more than the other, only enables the lesser paying parent to continue down a less productive path.
To many have kids with many partners just to collect child support sad part not even 25% is used on the child. I am a hard working mom and very Thankful that my husband and I are a team. Before having our children we made a promise no matter what happens to us our kids will not suffer both have to work to support them and I agree with this 10000000000%
You choice to have the child now it is yr obligation to take care of the child
My ex owed me $68,000 when he passed away a few years ago. I worked and took care of my kids and remarried recently My now husband pays his child support every week as ordered while his ex and her husband neither one worked and lived solely on the mass amount of child support he was ordered to pay. His work slowed down and he got behind and now he owes more in interest on his support then what he owed in arrearrage. DCSE ruined his credit and takes so much from him tha we barely get by while his ex is living high on the hog. What is wrong with our coutry?
I gave every penny i had to the mother of my son to get out of debt. I found out she was bringing my son around a child molester and attacked me bit me and i didn't press charges as she just had our son. My company got bought by another company and my pay dropped in half yet i still have to pay 1290 plus his health care. I was forced to quit my job and move in with family as i was going to be homeless. I don't understand how this is a fair system my son now has his father living across country and she doesn't want me seeing him. I just found a job but have to save for a lawyer money that could be going to support my son but can't afford the amount they want me to pay as i only made that much money for one year of my life and gave most of the money to the mother. She won't send me photos of my son and i have to wait for weeks for her to tell me how he is doing. I fear for myself as i might end up in jail now as i'm trying to make ends meet and get stuff fixed but the system is very unfair and the person that is getting punished the most is my son. I now have a job that pays less than my past job but couldn't live without someone's help as they were taking everything i made. I really wish i could of keep my job and they could of fixed something but they told me they couldn't do anything for me. It's amazing someone that is working full time and trying to do the best for my son. I had the mother file a restaining order against me two days after i called CPS that she was bringing my son around a sexual molester. And i wasn't able to see my son for seven months. Our country really needs to fix this as it's destroying my son having a loving father in this life as i'm trying to find a way to pay for everything but am not able to. I hope they fix this one day as it's destroyed my life and i'm sure will destroy countless more lives. Having my company bought and my pay dropping wasn't something i could control and i was back on child support because half my paycheck wasn't enough to cover what they said i should pay. So I don't know if my job will hire me after they do the check on my credit so i might not be able to get a decent job anymore and i know i have suffered a lot but the one who i feel the worst for is my son who i love more than anything in the world.
I just got out of the marine corps after 7 and a half years (honorable service ) I first started paying child support in 2007 when I joined, I was sending the mother $600 a month every month on time as usual with no delays, now I am out of the corps as of 10/14/2014 and am unable to pay bec I don't have a job and it's hard to find work here in washington d.c. I have contacted child support and told them and explained that I am no longer a marine and they said sorry nothing they can do and that I still half to pay $600 every month, they don't even try to work with the parent who has to pay at all and now I don't know what to do, I have no job and no money and I am afraid that if it keeps going the way it's going I will be in jail and my license will be suspended, I have never had any type of trouble in my life until now not even with law enforcement, my child's mother works as a nurse and she also has a husband and are doing fine. I love my child and would do anything for him but I feel that the court system is making things unfair for the men that are really doing there jobs and providing for the children.
I just got out of the marine corps after 7 and a half years, I first started paying child support in 2007 when I joined, I was sending the mother $600 a month every month on time as usual with no delays, now I am out of the corps as of 10/14/2014 and am unable to pay bec I don't have a job and it's hard to find work here in washington d.c. I have contacted child support and told them and explained that I am no longer a marine and they said sorry nothing they can do and that I still half to pay $600 every month, I don't know what to do now, I have no job and no money and I am afraid that if it keeps going the way it's going I will be in jail and my license will be suspended, I have never had any type of trouble in my life until now, my child's mother works as a nurse and she also has a husband and are doing fine. I love my child and would do anything for him but I feel that the court system is making things unfair for the men that are really doing there jobs and providing for the children.
Its the same as every other father on here, we pay to much, we cannot live within our means, I'm about to be homeless and she just bought a new car? How does this work
2005 Missouri Revised Statutes - 454.420. Legal actions to establish or enforce support obligations, brought, by whom, procedure--assignment to family services terminates, when, effect--money collected, where deposited.

454.420. Any legal action necessary to establish or enforce support obligations owed to the state shall be brought by prosecuting attorneys, or other attorneys under cooperative agreement with the division of child support enforcement, upon being furnished notice by the division of such obligation. If the amount of the support obligation owed to the state has not been determined because no court order exists, the division of child support enforcement may refer the case to the appropriate prosecuting attorney, or other attorney under cooperative agreement with the division, for establishment and enforcement of a support order or order for reimbursement. When a recipient is no longer eligible for aid to families with dependent children benefits, the assignment shall terminate, unless the recipient and the division of child support enforcement agree otherwise, except for those unpaid support obligations still owing to the state under the assignment at the time of the discontinuance of aid. Upon referral from the division of child support enforcement, such unpaid obligations shall be collected by the prosecuting attorney, or other attorney under cooperative agreement with the division, up to the amount of unreimbursed aid paid by the division of family services prior to or after execution of the assignment of support rights. Moneys collected pursuant to this section shall be paid to the department of social services for deposit in the child support enforcement fund in the state treasury.
Family law and judges need to look at both the mothers and fathers UNIQUE situation to figure an amount. Some mothers are unfortunately left alone to care for their child because some fathers do not care of wish to help, but that does not mean all fathers are this way. My husband took care of his first child ALONE for 5 years because the mother chose to go out and do her "own thing" and he never expected her to hand over her checks. After their son turned 5 she decided she wanted her son, so slowly he started to stay with her and eventually started to stay for a week here and their. Well, as soon as she got him for a week she filed for child support saying the the father did not help out and when he tried to prove that he took care of his son alone with out her ever visiting until recently, they did not care what he had to say, made him pay and now their son is living with her and her new boyfriend for the week. His son basically got ripped away from him when all he tried to do was let his son spend time with his mother and instead she some how got the courts to believe that he did not help out. Now, 4 years later, we have our own son who is 5 and we hardly have enough income to be able to live on our own, while she gets her own house and car. Must be nice to be handed everything from child support with no evidence or records of anything. Both the mother and fathers situations need to be considered because eventhough they think they are helping one child, another child is strugglng. Thank you family law!
I have custody of my child for the past year now and I am still being wage garnished for child support. My professional license has been suspended and released and suspended again 3 times in the past 3 months! The is totally rediculous. The "case worker" says that even though she can see my proof that my child lives with me, Lease agreement, Medical insurance, etc ... she says I have to wait until court date months away. In the mean time, they continue to garnish me and suspend my licenes to make money.
How is it fair that someone who brings home $11000/month and largely supported the children prior to the divorce get 25% of a $5000/month income in child support? The money is not needed and not necessary in raising the children but is necessary for the father to have the same standards of living for when they come to stay with him. When placement was 50/50, no support was awarded the other way. Biased and unfair
This needs to change
Now
I believe the children should be living with the parent that supports the child in many cases. My ex daughter in law, hooked up with 6 men in 3 years, this is not good life lessons for a child under 5 yrs old. She had another baby,opps, and has gotten married to a guy that adopted that child since the biological father didn't want anything to do with him. She has lived bounced around for 3yrs from house to house, NOT a stable environment for a child, (court in KS. see's it as a roof over his head though) She is living in a 2 BR home with her sister and her 2 kids and 5 dogs. Her sister was married in July but doesn't live with her spouse. I am not sure where the new husband is going to fit in that 2BR,( 2 adults 4 kids, 5 dogs)! Child support should not be based on income. I don't see how my ex daughter in law spends $450+ a month on my Grandson. One she sleeps with him so, does not have a room of his own. They have food stamps, and eat steaks. ( she does not know how to budget a dime) I raised my 2 sons on $150 a month support just fine. We learned how to do without when we had to. I think the court should hold the receiver of support accountable to how it is spent! Showing the court how each dime is spent on the child/children with receipts. Fathers are left with hardly enough to live on in many cases, yet these mothers are living high on the hog and not having a job.(I don't consider babysitting for your sister a job if you are not paying taxes on the income you are receiving.) So fix the problem through out the USA. Mothers are not always the best option for children. Child abuse in many cases have been done by the boy friend of the mother.
How can a man survive if he has to pay so much but yet get so little time with his kids. The system has to change to be far with both party's not just put all the weight on the man that is slaving just to eat a piece of bread .
Because of a broken child support system, we have children not able to get support because the non custodial parent is unemployed or underemployed, unable to pay the support amount set by the courts, cant pay their own living expenses, having licenses both drivers and business taken away so they cant work, in jail for non payment of support, again by the courts. Custodial parents that are not made responsible to submit all of their income, wont work, not contributing their half of support and are not liable for how the support is spent. With this situation everyone loses, especially the children the child support system is suppose to protect. We have jails full of non custodial parents that if they could drive to work and find work they would be paying support and able to help their children. Take in consideration both parents and their incomes and responsibilities, set support to reflect the jobs, incomes and expenses of both parents. This system is set up now just to make money for the courts. Fix this system now and we wont have all of these homeless children we keep reading about.
I have provided for my kids since the divorce. We have joint custody over our 11 yr. old twin boys. My ex did not work for 5 years and was able to purchase 5 used cars, keep them insured, registered, go on vacation and have another baby while being unemployed. I have one car and only can afford one car with one job. In 2010, I lost my job but, managed to keep my children medically covered. I was able to get a job at Stanford Hospital the same year. My ex had been unemployed since 2009. He finally got a job last year....but because I make more. I have to fork up more money. The system doesn't make sense. He doesn't use the money towards our boys but, on his new girlfriend. Not to mention, he was able to file hardship because a new child that has nothing to do with me. I showed proof of his fraudulent actions, letters, witnesses...yet, his actions weren't looked into. I have consistently been responsible for the sake of my children since the divorce. His long length of unemployment and his many cars weren't questioned. I was so tired of paying him that he needed an incentive to work. Because I did that, I had to pay him arrears $8000+ of hard earned money to a man that has done very little. I paid for our 2'older kids college tuition and books. I paid the medical bills and on top of my own. I have paid for the necessities that my kids needs. How can I rely on giving a man medical bills if he cant even pay a cell bill?
I have lost all trust in our family laws. Its full of injustice and the good for nothing parent seems to get the better deal. The list goes on with what this person as done. I have been nothing but honest. Something has to be done! I need help.

Thank you!
I have provided for my kids since the divorce. This "man" did not work for 5 years and was able to purchase 5 used cars, keep the insured, registered, go on vacation and have another a baby. He finally got a job but because I make more. I have to fork up more money. The system doesnt make sense. He doesnt use the money towards our boys but, on his new girlfriend. Not to mention, he was able to file hardship because a new child that has nothing to do with me. I showed proof of his fraudulent actions, letters, witnesses...yet, his actions weren't looked into. I have consistently been responsible for the sake of my children since the divorce. His long length of unemployment and his many cars weren't questioned.
I have lost all trust in our family laws. Its full of injustice and the good for nothing parent seems to get the better deal. Something has to be done!
my ex got house paid for , maintence,child support, works and just recieved an heritence and i just lost my job and still have to pay. How is this fair? She lives better then we ever did while married. If we where still married she be going through hard times right now also. Both parents responsibility? Doesnt seem that way
my ex got house paid for , maintence,child support, works and just recieved an heritence and i just lost my job and still have to pay. How is this fair? She lives better then we ever did while married. If we where still married she be going through hard times right now also. Both parents responsibility? Doesnt seem that way
I have paid $36,000 of the $38,000 of my child support to date. Yet a judge in Hemphill County Texas has now sentenced me to 240 days in jail for contempt. The monthly rate is and has been set above my means at a rate that if continuously paid in full (even with working a full time job) would cause me to become homeless.
Yes I agree,too many ex wives want a free ride.
Too many women want to
Stay home in the trailer park, and chase after men, While watching the money pour in!
I'm a working mom who pays child support and I get to see my children 2 days per week. Their dad has taken me to court over and over and alienated the kids from me just so he can collect money from me. We had 50/50 and agreed to only reimbursing for insurance for the kids, but he had to have it all, the time and the money. The system is broken and needs to be reformed. I also get the privilege if driving the kids 140 miles each day just to get them to and from school during my timeshare yet I get to keep none of the money designated for the "care of the children".
I think child support should have a cap, and there needs to be a defined outline of what the child support money can be used on. Also, the custodial parent should have to show receipts. The current child support system encourages women to engage in misandry and single motherhood.
Both parents should be financially obligated to provide sustenance for their children. Spousal income should also be taken into consideration especially if the custodial parent decides to opt out of work and stay home.
How do they make u pay when it was niether court ordered r a paternity test? I have two open cases like this, one im paying for and it wasnt court ordered the 2nd i was at wrk over the road i was a truck driver until they suspended my license now that i dont have my cdl's im only making $9.25 an hr n they take $140 a wk plus my job gets a $2 processing fee for each case oh n did i say my support payments went from $82 a wk $140 a wk in less than a yr check goes down childsupport goes WOW!!!
I have custody of my two grandchilden. Under the current laws may oldest grandsons so called father does have to pay a damn penny as of 2 months ago. He was 8 thousand dollars behind. Never paid me a penny in 21 months I have had custody. On Aug 6 he went to a doctor said he has anxiety the doctor then wrote a letter stating that the father can not work until Aug 6 of next year. Really on one visit. How nice that the court then say he's not obligated to pay any child support. Not even the back support. No one pays anything in support for 2 grandbabies. Where is the law to help the children?????????????
I am a woman and I think it is sad that men are all seen as deadbeats. This is not true at all! I know a few fathers that have had to sue to even get to see their children and the mothers still don't abide to court orders. These dads struggle to get by while these woman drive around in fancy cars BMW's, are always on vacation when the father wants visitation, and have expensive clothes and purses. They need to account where that money is being spent and should be required to work just like the father is required to work! the costs should be 50/50 of actual child costs and not costs of the custodial parents private life. Or half the income of the higher paying parent. It really isn't right to award people who have babies just to collect the money. And not having to show where that money goes makes this situation worse.
I find it absolutely ridiculous the laws associated with child support for absentee parents. For example because I work and do not sit back and collect a tax payers check and my income is higher than the absentee parents they drop my drop my child support by almost half on a monthly basis so it's as if a woman who actually has some ambition is penalized. Also this 1800 number for child support is bogus they don't know anything and I have to pay an annual fee of $25 for CSE for what I am the one calling notifying you of job changes by the absentee parent yet as though you guys allow him to get almost 8k in the hole. CSE is a joke and somethig should be done or eliminate that department completely because their useless.
my child's mother has 4 kids 4 baby daddies doesn't allow any of us to see the kids....but she collects the child support for all of them. SORRY!
Laws in general for anyone receiving child support should be changed no matter the age of the child or children. My ex just uses my money I give to her and then says it should be 50-50 but where is she using any of her money and the courts don't help the one paying, whether it is the male or woman at all
my ex wife owes me 3 years worth od child support... and bc/ she was receiving TANF/ cash assistance... the prosecutor wouldnt prosecute her bc "she was too poor to pay". So make her get a job... Why is she getting foodstamps and cash assistance without the requirement to look for a job? Well she has finally used up her 60 lifetime months of TANF/cash assistance... so she can no longer hide behind welfare... Still waiting for the government to prosecute her... My daughter is intitled to receive help from BOTH parents... every month that she doesnt pay her part, she is stealing from me and my kid...
It makes me sick that you can have the children living with the father, after stating in the divorce papers he is no good. Keep his money tied up with taking care of the kids, and hauling him in and out of court so he has no cash to hire an attorney. Then after the kids are grown and have families of their own, to have think you are owed his ssd lump sum and still payments for child support and interest when he had beeen disable since 2005. It is just unfair.
All woman that has kids over the age of 5 should go out there and get a job! Stop depending on child support to save your life! And these men wouldnt have to pay so much money because sum of these women are lazy and dont want to work. I am a hard working PREGNANT WOMAN AT THAT!!! And i would never look for the government or child support to help me. I am a strong woman and i can make money on my own! Now what do you women have too say about that now??? Stop making poor excuses! If u decided to bear children take action for yourself and stop relying on others!!
Child Support is an important part of the equation when parents split.
The calculation of same should be just as important.
In my case it's only done every three years.
I experienced a accident while performing my job which left me without a job. I was a truck driver.
An accident, no matter whose at fault, is a bad thing when comes to finding work. Work that compares to the income one can make as a driver.
My income dropped to 0.00 the first year, then after returning to school to retrain, rose to only half of what I was previously making.
Went to school on state grants and odd jobs. Took a year but graduated and became employed after a six month job search.
Again only making half of what I previously made.
Meanwhile my ex-wife decides to relocate without giving notice or giving information on how to contact my son of 12 years.
I had gone to court after surgery and rehab from accident to get child support order reduced because I had no income. She never showed up and the judge set it aside.
Represented myself pro-se as I had not the funds for retention of an attorney.
I live in Tn, and she in Ga.
Never heard back from Ga concerning status of case.
I had always paid through my bank via account specifically for child support. Never was on Child Support Services through the state of Georgia.
Never an issue or late payment until the accident. When she dropped of the radar I did not have an address or contact information to send what I could.
Subsequently in the last year I get notice via my local sheriff department by summons I now owe 49,000.00 in arrears.
Mind you she has been out of touch and not allowed me knowledge of whereabouts of my son.
It's been close to six years now.
She has claimed in the past that she is unable to work because of health issues. Well guess what I know now where she is working. You see the summons had her address on it and I just dug a little with that information and was able to find her place of employment.
All I am wanting is for us to take the past six years of tax returns and calculate the correct sum of support owed. I WILL pay.
The hitch is that Georgia will not amend support order. Even though I attempted to do so back when she never showed. They are telling me that I'm responsible for the inflated amount regardless.
That's just not right.
Bad things happen to good people. When someone does their best to be accountable and is struck down because a review can be done only so often is wrong.
When a parent can move without giving notice to the other regarding the location of the child. That's wrong.
When our elected officials send out the generic letters claiming to take an interest or working on the issue. That's wrong.
I've read the many accounts of fathers and mothers alike whose lives have been ruined by this archaic system.
When are the so called representatives going to elicit changes?
What is it going to take?
To those officials: STOP claiming to be talking about it and DO someth
These women should be made to go out and work. I agree with the age of 5. The men paying child support barely make enough to survive. These women are able bodied people who can get out and work just like the next person. They have to help their selves.
Law needs to be modified
it does not take that much to take care of a kid my son got stuck with 450 a month for a 2 year old her so called mom does not work but yet since the support started shes got new clothes, boots, cell, eats out constantly and we have the little girl half or more out of a month its a bunch of bull
While I understand the purpose behind child support, I believe the laws do need to be modified. I pay more than a quarter of my take home income to my ex-husband, who makes significantly more money than I do. I cannot afford rent in Northern Ca. (where my husband chooses to live) because the combination of rent and child support is so burdensome as to make my life unmanageable. It seems absurd that my ex-husband, who would not allow me to work while we were married, is now entitled to such a high percentage of my income. I find myself traveling overseas for months or years at a time (I am a military reservist) often putting my life in jeopardy in war zones, so I can send my ex-husband on vacations with this wife. At it seems peculiar that I must pay child support to see my own daughters, but my inability to pay forces me to move further away from them or leave the United States all together. Even a very small change in the child support laws (such as making child support tax deductible or establishing maximum amounts of support based on the custodial parent's income) seem to be in order. Surely the purpose behind these laws is to care for children, not to continually punish the unfortunate non-custodial parent.
My husband pays his ex of 11years $700 a month for 2 kids(12&14), as well as medical & dental ins, and eye glasses and contacts out of pocket ($350for sept) also buys the clothes, shoes, sporting things, phones, school supplies everything they need ,in Sept an extra $1200 was spent on them because she (always) states she has no$, but yet goes on trips at least once a month, concerts, does things like that without the kids, she lives like shes not a mother. We lost our house due to increase in support, and she did it purposely (she had quit her job and went to school did nothing with it but he got screwed) it was to make our life harder, we struggle everyday, we also have 2 kids under 10yrs of our own that have to deal with all this too.

Its not fair the way the courts make the fathers pay so much to these "mothers". There should b some kind of way that the fathers can see where the $ goes, if it even goes to the kids or maybe the support collection agency could keep track of how much $ the mother pays for the kids do to how much the father pays.
And now support goes til the kid is 21, what happened to 18, Ok if the kid goes to college and lives there then $ should go to the kid not the mother, if the kid does not go to college support should only go til 18 and the kid needs to gets a job and grow up.

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