Unfair child support laws

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i was abused by this System .it needs work..my child Support helped care for a grown man.and my Kids were told i didnt pay.i payed as long as i had a. job .even to the point of being homless
I am sick an tired of seeing our men in jail or prison just because they don't or can't afford child support!!!! It's ridiculous that what they charge our men weekly to pay. This is an outrage!!
I grew up in a home where my father did not give us enough child support and my mother got up and worked to support us. I have friends who want to be involved in their children's lives and because they make more money than the women (who choose not to work) have to pay half of their income to these woman who use it for personal use, cars, vacations, etc.. I think the laws need to be reevaluated to make the custodial parent (be it female or male) have to give a full account of where every dime of child support goes. Especially when they have remarried and have their new spouses income. This isn"t for the children anymore it is about people wanting to be lazy and take hard working people for granted! It is crazy to expect a person to support two households (in different states/cities, some more or less expensive) and still be able to have a decent lifestyle and not even consider the cost the non-custodial parent has. It is madness! And too many people are taking advantage of trapping wealthier people into paying for them because they are lazy and don't
I find it difficult to sit back and watch someone be able to have kids with different fathers, and they don't have to work.
My husband and I found out that he has a daughter 10 years later. The mother has been married and divorced with another child at home from this married. My husband and her were never married and dated for a little while. Now 10-11 years later we are being taking to court for child support. We have a child at home that is 6 years old. We both work to make ends meet and now we have to pay the mother $650.00 a month plus insurance for the child. That would total up to $12000.00 a year once all said and done for the year. Plus LAWYER FEES, COURT COST... ETC..
She in turns gets to sit at home and collect $500.00 food stamps, child support from 2 guys, and have her child on Medicaid, plus the state has my husbands daughter on our insurance. So it's not fair that she gets to sit home a collect whatever and we have to work our lives away to support our family and hers.
i just receive a summoned for family court, because my baby mother went on public assistance to which i give her 200 a money for support plus buy cloths shoes anything my daughter needs i am there.the judge request my pay stub then she say i make 508 a week she is going to apply 17 percent to my pay check every week. what am i saying is this is unfair for her to stay home while i am out there working my*****off while she just collecting child support. this is how much i make a month 2000-60=1940 the 60 for union... rent 1000.. i have 940 leave metro for month 124 . food for my house 300. phone bill 45 cable with internet 159.99 i have nothing leave for my self nyc expensive.... i never pay child support before my first time going on it..
I have been order by the state of Michigan, Kalkaska County by Lynn Buday to pay my ex wife $1115 a month for support. I have no problem with this to support my kids. What I do have a problem with is the fact that their mother, Deborah Dianne Titus, Coon, Jonker whatever her name is this year wont let me speak to my kids, gets new tattoos, tongue piercing, hair done, legal marijuana card, liquor, other drugs, all this according to my last conversation to my eldest daughter, age 11. She gets food stamps, free medical, free lunches at school and her bed partner this year has an income that she wont report. She has asked me for more money on more occasions than I can remember telling me of her financial problems and need for money, which by the court is considered a gift, so I get no credit for it. I still have and have kept all wire receipts for these for the last 3 years as I plan to use this info in court one day plus much more. Since my daughter talked to me and told me about what was going on at home I cant speak to all 3 of my daughters. I sent a motion for parenting time to the court over 3 weeks ago. They sent me a letter stating I must pay $100 in fees to send this and request to speak to my kids that I have not heard from since June, 2014. My ex has done this before when I have refused to send her wired money on top of support. The court states that they can do nothing about her not letting me speak to my kids even though my divorce decree states that I am allowed to personal and phone visits with them. So I am being told by the Kalkaska Co. court that I have to pay $100 to file to speak with my kids, pay my ex this money that my oldest daughter says is spent on other things than support, as she has asked for items for sports, school, entertainment, personal items and been refused by my ex. Why is this allowed to go on. This is hurting my relationship with my children, they are confused, and don't understand. As long as I give extra money to their mother everything is fine, when I cant or wont, both me and my kids get punished. When is this going to change? She must be held responsible for her actions and forced to do what she agreed to in the decree signed by judge Lynn Buday.
I feel everyone's pain. I spend tons of time with my son, very chance I get I have him. I am paying his mom 450.00 a month in support. She really 9 ly has hiM from the hours of 7pm until he goes to school the next morning and that is Monday through Thursday I have him friday, Saturday and Sunday and sometimes Thursday night. When he's not in school he's at his grandmas Monday through Thursday until 7 pm.when.she gets off. I can write a whole book on all the things I do and time I spend with my son. But I won't....oh and by the way my son's mother makes 1500 more then me a . The only way the government is going to do anything is if we can do something for them.
I've posted before and received the standard electronic responses from my local politicians thanking me for my concern.
By the way, it's child support, I'm concerned about and not your election process.
I guess I keep coming back to remind myself I'm not alone in this struggle.
If it were not for my belief that someday my son, whom I've not had contact with for seven years now, would want to know the truth. I would have ended it all out of desperation for I am a slave to the system.
I have no trust or respect for a process that does not allow for the truth to dictate the results.
I have not been witness to one person, from the CPS office, to the elected official, that wants to hear the facts.
It seems as if nobody really gives anything a second thought unless it makes the evening news.
And then only if it effects them personally.
I'm 55. My debt is in the stratosphere. Because of interest on the balance I will never have this paid.
Lies and deception from the ex spouse.
When did the statue of limitations run out concerning the truth?
Truth be considered I could pay my debt in less than two years.
I'm dumb to it all.
I wish to all that are suffering from an unjust situation the best. To hell with our elected members that turn a blind eye to this topic.
Put down your schedule for a few minutes and realize who your supposed to be representing.
child support isn't about children. It's about politics, power and money to keep politicians in power and continue to expand the reach of government to total dictatorship. It's about appeasing women at the expense of men. Child support is a back door to alimony. There's so much corruption in this system. Jailing men over child support is "debtor's prison" which is illegal according to the U.S. Constitution but who cares about the law of the land? Tough laws need to be enacted over women violating visitation orders and they need to go to jail for they are in "contempt of court".
I'm about to. E homeless with my 3 kids because ex is underemployed and judge wants to reduce his child support after he has barely paid in a year !
I lost my job due to all the times ive had t call out of work, to try and handle things down at the family courts, here in dade county, its definitely an unfair. Ilost my house and now im forced to live like i just came to this country with shared room because i cant afford to live a normal life, im a hard worker a great devoted father, and definitely dont deserve this
I got fired from my private dental office because of child support harasment to my employer and threats of penalization if they dont give them money,my office told them i work three days a week and they responded that isnt there problem. I was told business was to slow so i got let go and the next day there was a new worker. During this process i had sent clothes and money a little of what i can possibly afford barely living in los angeles. I work hard as i can but recently i became homless due to child support and now i owe ba k child support. I have papers i will be sending a copy to them from the court that the mother waived her right to child support.

I support my son, i love him. But thats not what they care about.
I am currently paying back child support for a child that is 21 and supporting herself. And paying to a man who at the time of our divorce and to this day makes well over 100,000 a year, yet lies on his tax returns saying he makes less than me a year to increase my amount of support. I will never be able to make as much as he does because I am a woman. I am at poverty level and still having to pay child support for a child who is grown and supporting herself. We need child support reform NOW to stop punishing those who have already suffered enough. I left his sociopathic, alcoholic*****for a good reason. I shouldn't have to continue paying him for my release from slavery.
The court system is lazy and our law makers are too frightened to reign them in. No rational person would look at this situation and evaluate it as being "in the best interest of the children." This is, almost certainly, a socialistic redistribution of those who actually work to support themselves. What father can afford to pursue overacrhing legal change? We are too heavily taxed to survive, let alone pursue action to the highest courts in the land. Shame on the vengeful who enacted this insanity and shame on those in power allowing it to continue.
There should be stipulation on how the money is spent and it should be monitored...
I pay child support yet I have no idea where my kid is. I sued the mom for custody and was awarded joint legal custody but that's not worth the piece of paper it's written on. Why is it a crime for a man to not send money but it isn't a crime for that same man to have his offspring alienated from him. When speaking to police about it, they only say its a civil matter an it's nothing they can do. I'm not going back to court because they'll find a way for me to lose but child support will be increased and the cycle begins again
I am glad I don't use the system. I do not have my children's dad on child support. Even though I have them most of the time he still helps provide for them. I use to have him on child support but I could see he was struggling to pay his bills to keep a home. I also see my bf struggling to pay his child support as he gets his children 50/50 and has rent and other bills to support them while the mother gets 122 dollars a week receives food stamps and wic and has no bills cause she still lives with her parents. I believe the law def needs to be changed. It takes 2 to make a baby and so the children's needs should be split.
Quick Question? What happens to the senior citizens we become that has no security and you to depend on? There taking half of my gross, Kids (2) were dropped off to me June 2013,I put a motion in through family court back in Feb 2014 showed up in court twice recently Sept.22 she didn't show either time and neither did the state the irs whom the judge says has to be there to explain why they should keep me on child support. WOW I don't even want to begin to tell you what would happen to me if I didn't show but she was given a default some fancy word the judge used I guess it's striking her complaint.Why should this take so long? Thank god for my mom because I would never be able to live on my own and take care of them.has yet to see my final day in court,I am still paying and to poor to afford an attorney .You guys take it all! This is "Modern Day Slavery" at it's best.
Something has to be done. My son is with me about 60 to 70% of the time. He basically lives with me. Taxes take about 1/4 of my check and child support another 1/4 . So after taxes I end up with less than half of what I gross. I can barely support myself now that I live on my own!. So how can I start a new family if I don't make enough.!
This law will never change ...... Our kid$ are money money money .......welfare gets 2 dollars for every dollar they garnish from us ...... It's all about the money , 5 billion a year industry our kids...... If you was the welfare , would you cut the free flowing gravy train? And there's NO law to stop them from taking ALL our property, bank account , cars, busyness license , jewelry , inheritance , unemployment , V A money , or Even our spouse income.... We are slaves and extorted legally by the welfare ..... N they call it childsupport
My child has a serious chronic medical condition. Our medical copayments are roughly $200, and although he provides the medical insurance and takes his children 45% of the time he is not allocated any financial relief to help support our child's medical needs. We know my two children don't matter in the court. My "secondary" children don't deserve any financial help because we are married. Meanwhile his ex girlfriend is now receiving more money for her 15 year old daughter. She bartends and claims very little money. How about making these parents support themselves at some point. Shouldn't all children be worth the same $ amount? It costs significantly more per year to raise a baby than a grown child. The idea is to create an equal standard of living but we are struggling and she is buying Coach. The system is very broken.
I have been taking care of my child ever since she was born and still to this day and yet just because her mother did not want to work and have services help her I agreed with having her on her case so medical could be provided for her. But now I'm paying child support and trying to take care everyone of my child's needs and cannot even buy what she wants, because of it. it is not fare that I'm paying working my*****of for my child and me and paying for something else. It is Unfair that the law has been set since 1975. How many stupid laws have been removed and this one is still on without change is not Right.
The system is designed to force indentured servitude without consideration for life or the quality therein.
It's not fair to suspend license when u need your license to get back and forth to work to pay the child support...After that you will get incarcerated that'll take you away from your kids and they're still not getting any support. They're still good father's out here but it's hard to get a job without a license to go look for work. Women should have to pay support too because both of you are parents why should one parent have to pay? Usually the father/man.
I'm pro men's choice. If the father is aware of the pregnancy early enough in the term, and does not want the woman to go through with it, he shouldn't have to pay the full 20%, maybe pay 10%. I think there'll be a lot less complaining, spite babies, and latchkey kids.
It's just not fair. All a woman has to do is have a child and collect. They do not have an intention of finding a job. I know this is not the same for all woman. If there was not child support. In my personal opinion there would no longer be lines at the delivery room to have children.
Our system is failling our children! My husband and his ex have 50 50 custody even though me and my husband have his children way more than she does, the mother maybe gets her kids a month total out of a year and yet he still has to pay child suport to her... When the mother decides she wants to see the children she dont call nothing just goes and takes them from school never answers his calls or nothing .. When the father trys to get help Monroe County Court Systems tell him pucker up your butt because we wont help you unless you dish more money outta your pocket thats going to end up taking from children... All the while his children could be anywhere and we no are crying confused because they are used to being in daddys care and the Courts dont care unless you have money!!!!! The other thing why do fathers have to fight soooo hard to get there children when the female is so unfit realy this needs to get fixed STOP FAILING OUR CHILDREN!
This system is a joke run by woman for women... at least in my state. I pay 950 a month and only make 50000. She is able to work but refuses... and she collects from the state while living at home. It's no wonder so many father's refuse do do anything anymore. They can't afford it. BS...
I have 4 children, 3 in the home, and one is living with a relative that has legal guardianship of my daughter. I've been on child support since I was 16. I am 2500 in arrears. I have a fulltime job. I pay child support. They have a warrant for my arrest. They want to take me to jail for 30 days. When I get out of jail, I will no longer have a home for my children, or a job to pay more child support. More arrears....more jail time. No way to provide for my babies at home. Crying right now....no place to turn.
I have 50/50 custody I buy my child's clothes food and other things needed when she is with me and her mother buys the things she needs over there nothing goes back and forth and I still am required to pay 166 a month, supply insurance that only I must pay for because the mother has no need to get a full time job. Keep in mind I have my child 50% of the time and buy all the things she needs during that 50% of the time so it feels like I pay for 85% my 50% plus insurance that is required to be carried (why does the mother not have to pay 50% of that?) plus another 166 on top of all that. how is this fair? 166 does not sound like much but i gross a little over 2000 a month that's around 1600 take home.
My husband's ex-wife has the luxury of not having to work a full time job in order to support their child and her child with her new husband. Her current husband is a dentist, and according to court documents earns well over $200,000. She is part owner of a knitting store in NJ which she can co-own as a hobby since all her needs are met. My husband's child support payments equal 80% of their child's support. He is a high school teacher. This is terribly unfair and unjust. Something has to be done within our court system to establish a more equal plan to support these children of divorce.
My exwife get $966 for two children...she works a full time job, lives with a cop, received a house for free and and gets free health benefits from the state. HMMM how does this work???
I was ordered to pay $800 a month in child support plus pay for health, vision and dental insurance which add up to $135 for a total of $935. This is for my one child still in school. My support was based on me working a 65 hour week which is never guaranteed. My ex didn't report income from a second job. While I work 10-11 hour days 6 to 7 days a week, my ex uses my money to go to the beach 3 times this year and constantly go out to eat while I'm watching every penny and eating at home. I would like to know what is fair about this scenario. Our law makers that continue to put these laws in place need to understand that half of their constituents are men and we need to get together and vote them out of office if they continue to make laws that hurt us. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for taking care of my child financially but most of us carry this burden while only being allowed time with our children for 4 days a month and there is nothing at all fair about this.
No life money or kids left sold tools want drive and the jail cell awaits.
The battle over child support separated me from my children. There is a better way just talk to those of us that have the experience. Let me provide from my children while maintaining some type of quality of life with them.
My husband pays $1200 a month in child support and health insurance coverage. The courts do not consider the money spent on the children during our appointed visitations. The mother does not work and the excuses run the gamut. So she gets food stamps, kids get free lunches and breakfast, & free after school care. She lives with family and has minimal bills. The poor single mom card is played at every opportunity to get handouts. I was a single mom but one who worked hard to support my child. The custodial parent also gets to claim the children on their taxes. It's not fair to those who happily support their children and can prove accountability to not force the custodial parent to do the same.
There is no incentive for the custodial parent, ie the mother, to get any sort of better job. They make more in child support. This system is unfair and makes the non-custodial parent nothing more than an indentured servant.
these current laws promote modern day slavery and enable the custodial parent to not be financially responsible for their child. why would my ex spouse want to get a job when she will receive more in child support a month then if she were working a better job. stop this modern day slavery. if a parent is unable to support a child financially and both parents are fit then the financially stable parent should be the custodial parent. otherwise one is saying non custodial parent provide everything the child needs to survive but you cant see them.
I pay $966 a month, $562 of which is basic support, but my ex still doesn't think that is enough. She makes $80,000 a year while I make 40,000. She consistently asks for more. For instance, clothes for the boys, money for school lunch, etc. I was under the understanding that is what child support is for. I will support my kids til the day I die, but I will not support her. Child support needs to end and it needs to stop being a source of revenue for the states.
I work fulltime for the airforce and want custody of my kid. I was given joint custody and have my child half of the time yet I am still paying child support. My ex got remarried and has no job which makes my income higher than hers. Their household income is way more than mine, keep in mind I have my daughter half of the time, since my income is more than her unemployeed income I still have to pay her for taking care of my child? Give me full custody then an I will take care of her without needing any money from the mother. This whole system needs to be looked at and revamped for the 21st century. I am all for having to support your child, but don't force dads who are taking care of their children just as much if not more than the mother to pay child support while the mother sits home and gets paid to not get a job. Please fix this system.
I pay $440 for one child, compared to other people that is not alot, but keep in mind, i make 10.75 an hour and work a full time job, my take home Gross is about 1400-1500 a month, honestly after child support and taxes my take home every two weeks is 430, keep this in mind thats 860 every month. thats monthly gas to make it back and forth to work, thats rent, somehow i found a room to rent for 300, I cannot afford dental and i cannot afford health insurance. the very basics and im not even including food. what im getting at is there is no way a person can live off from wages like this and the amount of support there needs to be some type of change, i cant get approved for anytype of assistance i make to much gross income. it is literally making me sick, yet the babymamma has a part time job 10 hours a week making minimum wage and im paying out the*****because of it. i dont know how much longer i can keep doing this. holding strong for 3 years. you dont even want to know how much i am in debt because of loans just to live.
Child Support is geared to destroying the man and the laws are very unfair toward those who are out of work.
Child Support system is in the best interest of the State. It has nothing to do with the child.
Unless you are disabled, you should be working or enrolled in school full-time if your child is at least 5. What are you doing while the child is at school?
child support is taking half my income with no consideration of how am i suppose to support my self and my new family i live in san bernardino,california and the laws are so unfair the say screw the fathers and could care less what a hardship they have child support laws need to be changed im not saying i dont need to pay child support but make it to where im able to still survive
I agree I love my kids always always keep a good job just to work for free .. it take 2 ppl to have a kid but they just making all the guys pay or send us to jail . While women's lay up and keep haven kids after kid not trying to help they self jus wanted to get paid. The government just give them food stamps and money that the man got to pay back. . Then lot of women who got kids and dont work letting other ppl clam they kid on income tax. .. dis have to stop
Child support is not fair to men at all. I'm not on child support but I've witness a man who was on it...and the woman called him and told him as soon as the money came in she was taking her new boyfriend shopping with the money. ...the bad thing is I know the woman and when it came in she took the child support card got the money out and bought him things instead of the child. ...the hat is not right. ..

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