Unfair child support laws

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There is no incentive for the custodial parent, ie the mother, to get any sort of better job. They make more in child support. This system is unfair and makes the non-custodial parent nothing more than an indentured servant.
these current laws promote modern day slavery and enable the custodial parent to not be financially responsible for their child. why would my ex spouse want to get a job when she will receive more in child support a month then if she were working a better job. stop this modern day slavery. if a parent is unable to support a child financially and both parents are fit then the financially stable parent should be the custodial parent. otherwise one is saying non custodial parent provide everything the child needs to survive but you cant see them.
I pay $966 a month, $562 of which is basic support, but my ex still doesn't think that is enough. She makes $80,000 a year while I make 40,000. She consistently asks for more. For instance, clothes for the boys, money for school lunch, etc. I was under the understanding that is what child support is for. I will support my kids til the day I die, but I will not support her. Child support needs to end and it needs to stop being a source of revenue for the states.
I work fulltime for the airforce and want custody of my kid. I was given joint custody and have my child half of the time yet I am still paying child support. My ex got remarried and has no job which makes my income higher than hers. Their household income is way more than mine, keep in mind I have my daughter half of the time, since my income is more than her unemployeed income I still have to pay her for taking care of my child? Give me full custody then an I will take care of her without needing any money from the mother. This whole system needs to be looked at and revamped for the 21st century. I am all for having to support your child, but don't force dads who are taking care of their children just as much if not more than the mother to pay child support while the mother sits home and gets paid to not get a job. Please fix this system.
I pay $440 for one child, compared to other people that is not alot, but keep in mind, i make 10.75 an hour and work a full time job, my take home Gross is about 1400-1500 a month, honestly after child support and taxes my take home every two weeks is 430, keep this in mind thats 860 every month. thats monthly gas to make it back and forth to work, thats rent, somehow i found a room to rent for 300, I cannot afford dental and i cannot afford health insurance. the very basics and im not even including food. what im getting at is there is no way a person can live off from wages like this and the amount of support there needs to be some type of change, i cant get approved for anytype of assistance i make to much gross income. it is literally making me sick, yet the babymamma has a part time job 10 hours a week making minimum wage and im paying out the*****because of it. i dont know how much longer i can keep doing this. holding strong for 3 years. you dont even want to know how much i am in debt because of loans just to live.
Child Support is geared to destroying the man and the laws are very unfair toward those who are out of work.
Child Support system is in the best interest of the State. It has nothing to do with the child.
Unless you are disabled, you should be working or enrolled in school full-time if your child is at least 5. What are you doing while the child is at school?
child support is taking half my income with no consideration of how am i suppose to support my self and my new family i live in san bernardino,california and the laws are so unfair the say screw the fathers and could care less what a hardship they have child support laws need to be changed im not saying i dont need to pay child support but make it to where im able to still survive
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I agree I love my kids always always keep a good job just to work for free .. it take 2 ppl to have a kid but they just making all the guys pay or send us to jail . While women's lay up and keep haven kids after kid not trying to help they self jus wanted to get paid. The government just give them food stamps and money that the man got to pay back. . Then lot of women who got kids and dont work letting other ppl clam they kid on income tax. .. dis have to stop
Child support is not fair to men at all. I'm not on child support but I've witness a man who was on it...and the woman called him and told him as soon as the money came in she was taking her new boyfriend shopping with the money. ...the bad thing is I know the woman and when it came in she took the child support card got the money out and bought him things instead of the child. ...the hat is not right. ..
So I go to court and asked for joint custody. I stated on the forms he was reading that I have a flexible schedule and can take my daughter to school and pick her up no problem. All the judge asked her was if I paid child support... she said no and the judge didn't bother to ask me why I haven't. Even though I was providing for my daughter. Then the judge asked her if she paid day care, she said yes. And I know she leaves my daughter in an after school program till 6pm. So what day care is she taking about? She of course lied about that and the judge said I have to pay half of day care plus child support without even asking her for proof. The judge didn't let me talk. He treated me like trash. I had plans to move to a better place for my daughter so she can be in a better environment. But now that the system forces me to pay outrageous amount of money, I'm stuck in my small apartment and cannot even buy my daughter clothes. And to top it of, her mother doesn't spend the money on my daughter. My daughter told me that her mom bought herself a new iphone. That's where my money is going.
Require the recipients of child support AND welfare, to provide legitimate proof of where this money is being spent! Join this cause! Help us be heard! Let us create and submit a bill to congress! Contact me at ehintca@gmail.com to join this cause! THERE IS STRENGTH IN NUMBERS!!!!! Our children deserve better!!!!
Have been paying for six years and still my ex refuses to let me c my kids and the attorney general does nothing my calls and letters are not cared for. Its all about the money not about the children to the states. Do something it's time!!!
This country is no longer serve justice.
This welfare is terrible, my childsupport case was opened when I was 19 yrs old back in 1993 by a fake wife only out to have kids an jump on the welfare gravy train; and she did - with a green card and not even a high school diploma - she has made easy livin for herself! Welfare stood by her side the entire time and left me with checks that said "VOID" the welfare stole my entire paycheck and that was a 40 hour a week paycheck , so then I worked 3 double shifts per week just to get to take home about 130.00$ for that week and that barely paid to trip to work: I went to modify the welfare order for the two boys that I don't even know in Fresno ca and the judge stuck me with MORE per month since she said her sister babysits them and even though her sister was on welfare too and was surposed to be getting paid to watch them BUT could not come up with a payment receipt , the Judge still stuck me with what ever magical amount that she came up with for me to pay for the so called day care , she was on welfare n wasn't even licensed to be a babysitter by the state of california .... But it held for her favor in court... All her family are on welfare and have kids of all different men and they all live in the same apartment complex ALL 4 of them and even the mother scemes the welfare too.... American men have NO rights when these paracites sick the legal system on us , welfare .... Calling it childsupport and keeping the money ..... Ha it's 2014 and I'm about 250,000.00$ in on this childsupport stuff and still paying..... Almost done but the Fresno welfare has had me over 1/2 my life and ALL OF MY ADULT LIFE .. And meny meny times I wished I was never BORN, or that I wouldn't wake up one day .... Never had to strength to commit suicide but life sucked that bad and even though I had really good jobs , the more I progressed so did the welfare .. I never gave up I lived to fight the next day.... And my kids NEVER seen the amount that welfare took from me.... MY KIDS WILL NEVER KNOW THE FIGHT THERE DAD HAD TO FIGHT JUST TO SURVIVE ,WHILE THE WELFARE KEPT MY AS A SLAVE, I don't know the two now men in Fresno that are called my kids, it is a terrible life for them too.... But who cares ! As long as Fresno makes me pay up ...... 21 years later n still paying Fresno count welfare .... Then that's all that matters....; soon I'll be done I'm almost done with the extra 10,000.00$ the welfare stacked on top of me ... And when it asked the welfare " why are you all putting 10,000.00$ more on top of me "? They said "the state gives us the right to do so"A LONG JOURNEY IT'S BEEN AND THE SUCKIEST PART OF IT ALL IS .....all I've ever done was work all my time work to survive : and I never had a life or a social life .. Always bitter... And negative... And now that I'm almost gonna get my welfare freedom papers , what KINDA life do I live .... Will I finally not wake up..? What now? Welfare you stole not only my paychecks n tax returns, U STOLE MY LIFE...
This welfare is terrible, my childsupport case was opened when I was 19 yrs old back in 1993 by a fake wife only out to have kids an jump on the welfare gravy train; and she did - with a green card and not even a high school diploma - she has made easy livin for herself! Welfare stood by her side the entire time and left me with checks that said "VOID" the welfare stole my entire paycheck and that was a 40 hour a week paycheck , so then I worked 3 double shifts per week just to get to take home about 130.00$ for that week and that barely paid to trip to work: I went to modify the welfare order for the two boys that I don't even know in Fresno ca and the judge stuck me with MORE per month since she said her sister babysits them and even though her sister was on welfare too and was surposed to be getting paid to watch them BUT could not come up with a payment receipt , the Judge still stuck me with what ever magical amount that she came up with for me to pay for the so called day care , she was on welfare n wasn't even licensed to be a babysitter by the state of california .... But it held for her favor in court... All her family are on welfare and have kids of all different men and they all live in the same apartment complex ALL 4 of them and even the mother scemes the welfare too.... American men and woman have NO rights when these paracites sick the legal system on us , welfare .... Calling it childsupport and keeping the money ..... Ha it's 2014 and I'm about 250,000.00$ in on this childsupport stuff and still paying..... Almost done but the Fresno welfare has had me over 1/2 my life and ALL OF MY ADULT LIFE .. And meny meny times I wished I was never BORN, or that I wouldn't wake up one day .... Never had to strength to commit suicide but life sucked that bad and even though I had really good jobs , the more I progressed so did the welfare .. I never gave up I lived to fight the next day.... And my kids NEVER seen the amount that welfare took from me.... MY KIDS WILL NEVER KNOW THE FIGHT THERE DAD HAD TO FIGHT JUST TO SURVIVE ,WHILE THE WELFARE KEPT MY AS A SLAVE, I don't know the two now men in Fresno that are called my kids, it is a terrible life for them too.... But who cares ! As long as Fresno makes me pay up ...... 21 years later n still paying Fresno count welfare .... Then that's all that matters....; soon I'll be done I'm almost done with the extra 10,000.00$ the welfare stacked on top of me ... And when it asked the welfare " why are you all putting 10,000.00$ more on top of me "? They said "the state gives us the right to do so"A LONG JOURNEY IT'S BEEN AND THE SUCKIEST PART OF IT ALL IS .....all I've ever done was work all my time work to survive : and I never had a life or a social life .. Always bitter... And negative... And now that I'm almost gonna get my welfare freedom papers , what KINDA life do I live .... Will I finally not wake up..? What now? Welfare you stole not only my paychecks n All but one of my tax returns my enti
Fathers do not receive fair income guidelines and the calculations for fathers with decent income are not accurate. Though fathers should pay child support the amount should not exceed 50% of their net pay even of there are multiple children involved. Fathers in addition to paying for their child support should also be able to afford badic living expenses such as food, housing and gas to get to work and pay for a vehicle as well as clothing for themselves and a phone to communicate with children. I know several cases where fathers are ordered to pay around $3500 or more for support only leaving $1400 for themselves to live on. Since the state can legally only garnish 50% of wages if 50% of wages is not enough to pay the ordered amount these men can go in the hole $500+ a month and are at risk of jail or loosing their license which can result in job loss and inability to pay any support. These laws are unfair to dads who are trying to support their children because often times they are unable to support themselves when the calculations are made and they can't afford the amount and pay for their own basic needs.
I absolutely agree! This also holds true to the mother sending the children to day care while they sit at home doing nothing!
I can relate to the comments that others have posted my wife was cheating on me filed for TANF and the state of Oregon went after me for arrears in the 14 months that it took for them to establish the name of the Father and not only that I had to pay for the paternity test. now she collects all this money for the past two years and until I go to court and finish the divorce I cannot see my children I haven't seen them in over 2 years but somehow she still needs more money but she has the money to do her candle business smoker marijuana and buy a 30 pack for her new boyfriend she has a child by
everytime I talk to child support they always Stonewall me I can never get anywhere with them and they constantly screw up in her favor always trying to make me pay more even though there is a court order that says I pay 750 a month I am sick of the Oregon Child Support Division the so-called Department of Justice where is the justice the laws need to be reformed she needs to be accountable for every penny spent and what is not spent on the children needs to go to the fund so they can go to college.
I am a divorced Mother of 3, Received the equivalent of 2 years support throughout 13 yrs..I chose to work more to provide for my children. It relieved a lot of my stress But I do feel child support is unconstitutional in the way it treats Fathers and in many instances the children are taught wrong perceptions of their Dad. My children know their Father did not step up financially but they have been taught to love him and care for him.
This country should be ashamed of it's polotics inteferoing in personal matters between people. The law clearly favors mothers and has no system to keep the child support enforcement fair. What's shameful is the lack of a system for fathers to use to fight back against unfair judgments and mothers who use loop-holes to exploited fathers. The financial burden is twice what it cost and the system has no adjustment built-in to truly calculate what is fair.
I am the custodial parent to my daughter and a single mom. I work fulltime and have nothing for myself my daughters dad gets a wage attachment and quits his job. I have been going to court every 3- 6 months for 4 years and I am owed a VERY small amount due to these stupid laws, he goes says he was fired but really quit and what he has to pay gets thrown out because of SSR range, if I dont pay a bill its still due next month right? Something needs fixed
I think the system should at least look into why the parents are not together instead of just taking the Mothers word for everything and pretty much punishing the Father not knowing why the events came to pass...
I am the custodial parent to my daughter and a single mom. I work fulltime and have nothing for myself my daughters dad gets a wage attachment and quits his job. I have been going to court every 3- 6 months for 4 years and I am owed a VERY small amount due to these stupid laws, he goes says he was fired but really quit and what he has to pay gets thrown out because of SSR range, if I dont pay a bill its still due next month right? Something needs fixed
I am the custodial parent to my daughter and a single mom. I work fulltime and have nothing for myself my daughters dad gets a wage attachment and quits his job. I have been going to court every 3- 6 months for 4 years and I am owed a VERY small amount due to these stupid laws, he goes says he was fired but really quit and what he has to pay gets thrown out because of SSR range, if I dont pay a bill its still due next month right? Something needs fixed
I have 4 kids that I pay child support for, A 17 year old son a 6 year old daughter and 5 year old twin boys. My soon to be ex wife had an affair left me and bought a 200,000 home and lives with her boyfriend with my 2 twin boys. I'm paying her 960.00 a month as of last week. This is in addition to the 700.00 I'm paying my first wife for my 2 other children. I just need someone to explain to me why its ok for mw to pay for my cheating soon to be exes new 200,000 home while i live for free in my parents basement. Yes I have a job, but for what, I can't survive like this. Can someone please answer me how I am supposed to live?
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The cs system is outdated and needs a revamp for modern times....
Wow look someone from Fresno signed , welfare is hooking people up over there ... Man I got robbed for going on 250,000.00$ in the past going on 22 years GOOD GOOD WELFARE GRAVY TRAIN IN FRESNO!!!they even gave me 35,000.00$ in arrears too and 10,000.00$ of that is just becuase they could.... They even used my wifes income AND her son from her previouse marrages childsupport - Fresno welfare : ha a bunch a PIGS!
If someone don't revamp the child support laws, good men are going to go insane or commit suicide trying to figure out how to pay what they want you to pay and then affording there own bills. ITS INSANE.
Raising a child should not put a parent in debt? Why is that when you fill out about 10 pages of an affidavit from front to back so they can see what is in your savings and checking, but the judge ignore the rest of your information you have wrote. Retroactive payments is robbery to the non custodial after modification.
I have seen the child support system FAIL my husband and family or more than one occasion. The child support/ baby mama support-system is failing my husband who is constantly being dragged into court although he PAYS child support for his daughter. My husband and I have 3 other children together (besides the one he provides weekly support for). The system has completely forgotten about my children. They fail to judge fairly based on the fact that my kids need care too. My husband only makes $9.50 an hour and cannot afford the amount that was decided he needs to pay. I now must take care of our kids solely because he does not make enough. And to make matters worse, they asked him how much I make and can I help him out. How dare they?? So now it's every working adult that lives in my APARTMENT (not house, thanks system) responsibility to take care of his other daughter? If we ALL took care of his daughter who would take care of MY kids. This system is so unfair! It is frustrating and disgusting the way the system continues to attacks father's that actually take care of their kids but FAIL to follow up or catch dead beat dads! Whenever he has to go to court because he ignorant daughter's mother is requesting MORE money, the judge and prosecutor are rude and nasty to him. They belittle him, and NEVER listen to a word he has to say. They never even review the information provided on that information sheet they give that clearly states his other kids and their expenses. Their sole purpose to is collect more money for a child that is almost in high school, no before and after care fees, no daycare expenses and that already gets ALL the money he makes. That child’s mother pimps the food stamp and cash assistance system and continues to collect money from the state although her current husband is a general manager and makes in upwards of $55k annually! If you can't tell, I have lost complete faith in our system!
Hmmmmm it's time to eat; I'm in the welfare gravy train line and the portions look scrumptious , so now that I got the biggest plate my fragile small hands can possibly hold serve me a double scoop of welfare topped with food stamps and smother it with all the childsupport you can possibly fit on My plate: and I'll wash it all down with a 40oz of court modification ;thanks welfare gravy train,.....see y'all in the cheese line.....
My 30 year old son had to move back home with me just so he could survive because a completely unfair and biased judge ordered an outrageous amount of child support retroactive to the day his ex decided she didn't want a relationship any longer. This woman lives at home, her mother does not work, and the day the astronomical child support was ordered. ...Her father quit his job. So my son is now paying not only for his son..but his exes parents to live a nice life as well. There is something completely WRONG with the child support system and it needs to be changed! In the meantime...my son's ex has completely cut off all communication and will not allow my son to have contact with his son..or me to have any contact with my grandson. And because of all the child support ordered...there is no money to keep taking her back to court to get her to comply with court orders. Child support was never intended to completely remove a father from his sons life....but these women know how to manipulate the system to do EXACTLY that. We are also not living in the same world when these antiquated laws were written...nor are we living in great economic times!! The laws need to be changed!
How can i support my two children during the time i have them if i cant even pay my bills? i got a promotion, and after a court hearing i have to pay more, leaving me only with 200 dollars a month to live on and support my two children when i have them. this is no way to live. i can't even get an apartment. i cant have my own place to live.
Nor should we lose any of our licenses as they are a necessity to provide for any type of family. 11 years I've been doing this BS and have to keep my eyes on the rearview as I have no choice but to drive and do what I have to do, all due to one whiny female who took her deal to D.C. and completely f*cked things up for the good dads to have any kind of good or even decent relationship with their kid(s). And yes, all this while the other party is allowed ta sit around all day on social networks because they have no life or skills of any kind, as they have been allowed to do this since 1994. This needs to end NOW!!!!!!
ANor should we lose any of our licenses as they are a necessity to provide for any type of family. 11 years I've been doing this BS and have to keep my eyes on the review as I have no choice but to drive and do what I have to do, all due to one whiny female who took her deal to D.C. and completely f*cked things up for the good dads to have any kind of good or even decent relationship with their kid(s). And yes, all this while the other party is allowed ta sit around all day on social networks because they have no life or skills of any kind, as they have been allowed to do this since 1994. This needs to end NOW!!!!!!
I am 24 years old. My original support amount was 64 dollars every two weeks. The judge ordered i begin paying on January 8th, 2011. My ex wife's lawyer wrote January 8th, 2010, and now all of a sudden i am 2368 dollars in arrears 4 years later. When they first issued the summons for me to appear in court about the arrearage, the hick*****judge told me i'd have to get a transcript of the court proceedings. They also told me i would be paying an extra 12.80 bi-weekly to get caught up. I missed only 2 or 3 payments the entire time, and never even have came close to making a dent in the payments. Turns out the 12.80 extra they keep as a fee. so back to the transcript, boom they are charging me 300 dollars in transcription fees. At this point, it wouldn't suprise me if they have redacted the judges statements where he ordered me to begin paying childsupport in 2 weeks(which was january 2011, not january 2010) and replaced it with something to suit their company line. I have been unable to secure the funds for the transcript until last week i broke down and asked my dad for a loan.

a month ago, i got a certified letter saying they were suspending my drivers license and i had a warrant for my arrest. I sold a bunch of my possessions, and they agreed to let me pay 400 dollars and they would set aside the warrant and suspension of my drivers license. They had me sign papers, and at a glance they appeared the same. Then i had a court appearance on september 8th, 2014.

I was presented with two options:

Sign their latest document agreeing to start paying 64 + 12.80 every week instead of two weeks as per the original order, or be held in contempt of court.

So i am probably headed to jail soon. I just got the letter in the mail today and noticed that they changed it from bi-weekly two weekly, doubling my payment. I make more per hour now, but the cost of living has doubled in that timespan. This******is not fair, and every time i go to court they find a new way to screw me over, and they nickel and dime me with fees.

If it wasn't for my daughter, i would walk into that court room and blast everyone of them mother****ers to hell.

Luckily, i started a new job on Wednesday which i make 12 dollars per hour, but if they get wind of that,******i'll be giving them 100% of my check per week. This system is ****ed.

I just sent my dad a text to see if he'd loan me the money to get a lawyer, but guess what: The state of Arkansas has Sovereign immunity. God damnit. ****ing bastards. Looks like i'll soon be joining the ranks of The DeadBeat Dad club, which sucks. It pains my heart to think what my child must feel like being in the middle of this, and she acts out as a result. She is the apple of my eye, and you can ask anybody around. She belongs with me and not her piece of******mother.
I'm going to jail because I cannot afford the alimony. Want to support my kids but can't anymore the court took away my drivers license and issued arrest warrent , will lose my income now as I'll be in jail and can't drive to work... HELP
I still don't understand how it is in the best interest of the child. How is it in the best interest of the child for one parent to collect and have no ambition, while the other pays out half of their wages to child support for one child? How is the parent who pays half of their wages ever going to give that child healthy meals, decent quality clothing, pay for extracurricular activities, or a college education? How is it in the best interest of the child to have a parent that can barely afford to support themselves? IT IS NOT IN THE BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILD. BOTTOM LINE! Also, how many recipients of child support get added benefits, reduced child care costs, free food, and subsidized housing? All of them. How many of them actually work and attempt to support the child the "Old Fashioned way"? A very small percentage. To ignore the actual cost the government pays annually for public assistance, versus how much they get reimbursement, they would see a great deal of money slipping through the cracks. All we can ask for is that you, The Federal Government, of The United States of America, REQUIRE, the recipients of child support, to provide LEGITIMATE PROOF of what the child support is spent on. From there, proper measure should be taken. I ask all of you petitioning, to join me in submitting a bill to congress, requiring recipients of child support to provide legitimate proof of what child support is being spent on. I can guarantee that this will bring the issue to their attention and progress will be made! Join me! We have the right and responsibility to provide our children with a better future! If anyone is interested in joining this cause, contact me at ehintca@gmail.com.
ALL-ABOARD! Get on the welfare gravy train n live like a Queen, n do what ever you want all day n sleep all day and go to Walmart in your pee stained pajamas ... ;just sighn on the X at your local welfare office:...... WELFARE , it's not just a life style it's ROYALTY.....and freedom..... THAT'S SERVESE YOU AND not your baby daddy'S ....... "This is called childsupport "
This made me cry. I cannot believe the government do not see anything wrong with this. This is child abuse on many levels.
I have been bank Levied on two occasions while actively paying to support my child and trying to figure out how I am going to Survive with My wife and our two Children in the home. They made no concession or considerations even when I was in a Coma, which caused the Levi. It's just business I guess, nothing will ever change.
i cant believe the child support system in America. I am ashamed of our so called leaders in Washington. but one day you will have to answer to the most high
i cant believe the child support system in America. I am ashamed of our so called leaders in Washington. but one day you will have to answer to the most high
i cant believe the child support system in America. I am ashamed of our so called leaders in Washington. but one day you will have to answer to the most high
i cant believe the child support system in America. I am ashamed of our so called leaders in Washington. but one day you will have to answer to the most high
I am struggling and almost homeless having to support two households on my own. I am still paying my child support, and because i have owed in the past they suspended my licence... How am i supposed to get to work to pay my child support? i do not live near a bus line.. Please help us!!!!
I am a single Mom who does not collect child support and watch many others collect and sit on their assess all day claiming to be miracle mom's. When women who don't work and ask the children's father for money because they are just getting by, wouldn't you think is time to grow up and support the children you've jointly made??

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