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Also should have legal representation for the fathers as well when pit on child support. Instead of costing the father to pay thousands to be represented to have no worry's of hiked monthly support. Because that case worker is not in the interest of the father but the mother. Then about visitation what's not included with out legal representation. Because the case worker and judge don't care about the father seeing his child or if he have other kids he takes care of. So this law is to keep men traped and financially unstable to live.
Getting pregnant for a woman is like early retirement. ..I know lots of woman who know these laws and abuse them to the fullest. Plus most of these woman use the money to go party or drugs. This law is a nightmare for good fathers..
I am tired of us almost being homeless and my other children not on welfare. Suffering, things need to change. Because I choose to work and he didn't I have to pay for his new wife, her cars and he lives and works for his dad. My son goes without because I can't even get Medicaid or food stamps while he and his wife buys new cars and travel quite frequently. How do I owe interest when I didn't agree to a loan. Where's my loan to put food on the table or basic items. Why does my earned income credit go to pay for other children? That shouldn't be taken because all that proves is welfare kids are more important, my son is adhd and needs therapy for his eyes. Is going blind and I can't afford to help him. Change things now.
Women get a free ride on the systems abuse to the husband, because of bad seed husbands beating them and abusive behavior. And the court don't use a case by case system. So every man is considered guilty in the systems eyes. This needs to be address at US Supreme Court and final laws put in place by the US Congress to stop the abusive behavior of women and lawyers using the systems of Social Security, Welfare and the Justice System automatically assuming the man, men or husband is guilty.

The Supreme Court Civil Law states all people are presumed Innocent when being issued to appear into the court of law in front of a judge. And this Law needs to be Enforce first and reminded the judges that if they can't follow the law they will be disbarred from serving the law in the courts. And lawyers need to take note that they will be put on notice of abusing the systems and the law of the courts in the United States of America, that they to can be disbarred from such actions. That being said if such fault play is found to be part of the Social Security and Welfare Systems superiors, workers and lawyers that a judge will issue subpoenas to people of these and other outside organizations to get to the real problem of the system. Actions will be taken to fine them and disbar them or desertification to not ever work for or consult with in the reaches system again. Then we will get to see some innocent until proving guilty in the court of laws in the United States of America to full work at its best.
My bank account was just levied for an minimal amount of arearrages while my other ex walks out of court paying a paltry 251$ a month of current child support. So let get this straight, they put a levy on every penny I have, threaten (and may still) too take my drivers license, and report this "unpaid" amount to the credit beaurea, all for an adult that is now over 20 years old while I support 3 children (7mo's, 2, & 11) and wife full time in college. The levy was placed the day before the ruling from the judge that I even owed it at all. And the attorney that sued me is also supposed to be working for me. I swear they want me to fire DHR by doing a horrible job. My ex just spoke up in court that she's working 38hrs and they didn't say anything about the current support being based off 26 hours a week or increasing it. There are many grevious errors and nothing being done about them after complaints to state representatives, congressme, and adminstration. But that's OK because judicial review is coming.
It is everyone getting screwed not just males, not just females. My ex ruined my college education which I was obtaining to help them an myself. An a court sees nothing wrong with this? While my ex makes triple what I make. I would love to know who to write to. Because it is time something is done to help parents. I will never be able to own my own home, or even rent.
I was ordered child support in 2001 and got 69.00 a week for a year. I worked with my sons father only for him to leave the state for 2 yrs and not have contact with his son. When he did return he stayed at my house for a year with no job. I went out of my way to help this man even when he wouldn't pay. In 2010 my son went to live with him for the better school district ( I still had custody). I picked him up everyday, kept insurance on him, and did the doctor visits. In 2014 he tried to cut me off from seeing my son! In sept. 2015 he was given custody and I was ordered to pay 93.00 a week all the way back to Jan. of 2015. Now I'm being garnished 133.00 weekly. I cant pay my bills and was denied my back support of 50,000. They are now saying my support order was only good for a year. How is this fair. I think I went above what I should have! He still keeps my 16 year old from me.
Fathers need to have equal representation of parental rights. If there is 50/50 custody, no child support should be paid to either party. The amount of child support paid each month should be reduced when the child is of school age. My boyfriend has a son who is 7 years old, he pays $780/month (Almost double his portion of rent). My boyfriend can hardly afford to live/move forward with his life... and HE WORKS 7 DAYS A WEEK! The income of both parties should be taken into consideration, and child support should not exceed a certain percentage of income (20% for example). Maybe women should have to submit expense reports of some kind. This system is horrible and broken, and fathers suffer unfairly.
The system is legal extortion. I have lost my house and my wife. Living check to check is horrible. Sixteen years and I am still paying for my twins who have jobs but go to school. One does well, the other not performing at all. Got a lawyer and spent thousands to get help. After 8 months I am where I began. I live with my parents now. I have nothing and fear I can't live like this anymore. You can't collect money from a dead man.
I as the father of three amazing kids was planning on going for full custody based on how there mother was. I did my research online. Every where it told me to be straight up and not make it a surprise for the other party. So i did just that, I told me ex that i was going to ask for custody and if she went against it I would fight for them. Two days later I was falsely accused of Assault and Battery. She used this to manipulate me because she knows I would do anything for my kids and that I want to be with them so bad. I ended up having to give her primary custody. On normal schedule she has them only 13 more days then I do through out the whole year, not including my holidays and vacations (end up with more day but I'm not complaining about that). I have to pay 40% (before taxes) of my yearly income, not leaving me with enough to live on my own. It caused me to move back in with my parents as i couldn't even afford to rent a studio. If It were up to me I would have the court check on the parents. My kids complain that they wish they could live with me more and things that they tell me that happen that aren't ok but the system supports females in a way that is can really mess up a fathers relationship with their kids. If i didn't have my parents that were nice enough to even let me in there house again I would of had to give up my days with my kids because I would of needed a second or even a THIRD job to be able to just pass by. It's not hard to see who is really involved and cares for there kids if the system just put some effort.
I as the father of three amazing kids was planning on going for full custody based on how there mother was. I did my research online. Every where it told me to be straight up and not make it a surprise for the other party. So i did just that, I told me ex that i was going to ask for custody and if she went against it I would fight for them. Two days later I was falsely accused of Assault and Battery. She used this to manipulate me because she knows I would do anything for my kids and that I want to be with them so bad. I ended up having to give her primary custody. On normal schedule she has them only 13 more days then I do through out the whole year, not including my holidays and vacations (end up with more day but I'm not complaining about that). I have to pay 40% (before taxes) of my yearly income, not leaving me with enough to live on my own. It caused me to move back in with my parents as i couldn't even afford to rent a studio. If It were up to me I would have the court check on the parents. My kids complain that they wish they could live with me more and things that they tell me that happen that aren't ok but the system supports females in a way that is can really mess up a fathers relationship with their kids. If i didn't have my parents that were nice enough to even let me in there house again I would of had to give up my days with my kids because I would of needed a second or even a THIRD job to be able to just pass by. It's not hard to see who is really involved and cares for there kids if the system just put some effort.
My brother-in-law has been court-ordered under Minnesota state law to pay alimony to his ex-wife decades after their divorce, because the laws in that state require it. Their children are adults now, but because she is a resident of Minnesota and suffers from a disability, he has been coerced by the punitive laws in that state indefinitely. He is now literally dying from complications of his own after a string of financial setbacks to his own economic betterment and well-being. After losing a few jobs because the contract has ended, he has not only suffered from financial hardship from lack of work opportunities, but the added and unnecessary stress of paying for someone else's livelihood even though the domestic arrangement has been annulled years ago. Now it is too late to reverse what should have been non-binding after their children have grown. It's time to end this legal requirement of alimony for life at any cost.
I was taken to court for cs when I was unemployed relying on student loans to pay my bills. After finally finding a job, I get the final court order in the mail. I make 33 percent of the total income, I also had both of my children 5 days a week while the mother worked while I was unemployed. She did not help with lunch for the kids during the week. Again I make 33 % of our total income and still have to pay 486/month. I do not have enough money to pay my bills and mortgage. Child support is very very unfair.
I have to pay cs for a kid that I've never met, and another guy is acting as the father of the kid. The mother moved to another state before I ever knew she was preg. So at this point its a kid that has been pretty much stolen and I can't do anything except pay.
I pay child support and live with the mother of my six kid how is this fair it's ******** laws that Delaware won't take me off I am layoff now and she won't get the******took off so we need to do something about the USA really.
My wife and I were both self employed REALTORS, Some years she made more money than I did, other years I made more. We had two daughters, we both shared parenting duties. Friends tell me my wife began planning our divorce two years before she served me paperwork. Those two last years she dropped her income to nothing and I picked up the slack. Once served paperwork, she kicked me out of the family house, we shared the kids 50/50 for about 6 months but then she decided she wanted them more than that, hired a dirty lawyer who bent the law to take them from me, Now wife who is the same age as me, perfectly healthy, has the same profession as me and stole my children from me is getting $1000 a month from me in child support AND claiming I need to work even more so that I can send her MORE money in child support. I can no longer afford the little townhouse I moved into or my car and I miss my daughters terribly. How can the courts allow this? I'm a college grad, served honorably for 10 years in the USAF and have no criminal background. Why should I be forced to take care of this lying cheating whore who stole my children from me and has the ability to make just as much money as I do? The summer we were separated and I had the children 50% of the time I still tripped her income, not because I'm any smarter, but because I'm willing to work harder and would never accept or expect handouts.
I have to say this system could not be more broken, i am the non custodial father, who was honest through and through, i work full time, only to struggle, because of my 600 a month payments, and i literally have him every day after school until 7 30 and every weekend except for once a month, so she basically has him only during sleep and school time, yet she still has the much higher %! How is this fair??? She also lives with her boyfriend and apenda all the money on him and herself, in a nice apt while i had to move back home and struggle because calculations are based on GROSS not NET which is a bunch of bs!! Im getting totally hosed, because its basically a brolen calculator with no feelings, this needs to change
This whole system is a joke. You have men who work over 40 hours a week having half their checks going to a mother who doesn't work and gets tax free money (paid for by the father!) Then you have guys who don't pay a dime, are thousands of dollars in arrears, and yet they go free.

Of course on the flip side, you have women who use child support as a weapon, either because they felt slighted, the man left them, whatever stupid reason they can come up with.

The whole thing is a joke and needs to be completely destroyed and rebuilt in a fair manner for both parents, but more importantly for the children.
My husband's ex left him and took their children. She took them to her boyfriends home and he soon became her husband. My husband lost his home and had to file bankruptcy. He has been paying her consistently and recently moved close so he could share the responsibility of raising them. He took her to court and the judge said no to reduction of child support. He has been giving her so much money over the years there's not much left to plan anything other than paying bills and getting groceries. The laws are so unfair!! She works but claims to make much less than him. So what if she makes less...she has a husband and the kids are provided for in both homes. The system definitely needs to be changed and child support shouldn't be given when the visitation is split!
Child support should not be a one sided law. Very uneven very unfair.
Child support is modern day slavery
My boyfriend makes minimum wage and has 2 kids. He is having to pay her over $400 a month in child support and after taxes he is left with less than $600 a month to pay rent/bills/transportation/food and take care of his kids on the weekends as well. It's impossible.

She works 2 days a week so she can stay home and babysit her live in boyfriends young son. She needs to work full time or try to work from home or something. It's impossible to support 2 households on minimum wage. The courts are promoting poverty and homelessness and that should be illegal to do. Just so this man can pay child support, if he were homeless, or in jail (for not paying), the government would have to pay an outrageous amount for his housing/food/medical. It makes no sense.

I understand the kids need to be supported but how supportive is it if they see their father struggling, living in a shelter, not having enough food to eat, depressed, suicidal. That's not good for the kids either is it?

If she wanted out of the marriage, she needs to find a way to support her kids. Because on minimum wage, there's only so much a human being can do.

He's disabled but chooses to work, so he can only do certain jobs so it's impossible for him to find 2 jobs he can do that are scheduled at the right hours.

He's trying and the system is failing him.

Something needs to be fixed.
I'm a mother of 3 working to support my kids with no child support... I think woman should work too, because the dad ain't the only parent
I am a full time working mother making 45k annually. My sons father, who is 9 years old than me, claims to only make $9 an hour and works 33 hours a week making sandwiches at a Primo Hoagie. My son lives with me full time, he is scheduled to see his father every other Friday night for supervised visitations at his grandparents house, if his father actually follows through. The court system does nothing to help me, they just give him extra chances every time he is brought in for contempt. He owes close to 10K and has proven that he can not hold a steady job. Now I am missing a day of work to go to a support modification hearing, filed by HIM, because he wants to pay LESS! The total support received from him in 2015 was around $3,000.....Our son attends private school, numerous after school sports and activities, and has medical bills, not to mention I provide the health insurance...$3,000 doesn't even start to put a dent into the annual cost of raising children.

The entire support system needs a revamp.


If a parent makes consistent payments, and they're just short, then maybe that parent really does need help financially. At least that would show that they are trying, but these parents who just choose not to pay then ask for help need to be stopped.

The court system needs to have the childs best interest in mind and look at the whole picture. In PA the system does not look at support inconsistencies and custody inconsistencies...they really need to. If my sons father provides next to nothing and cancels close to half of their visits then why is he still in the picture? My son is unfortunately growing up knowing he has a dead beat father, and I can't protect him from that, I can only do my best and provide my all in every aspect.
I would like to point out its not just women...My ex left me to raise our son when I was 15 for 12 years he hardly ever seen his son,and forget paying child support. After 12 .yes I decided to turn him in.He then decided he would bribe our son into telling the court he wanted to live with him..He was going to buy him a rifle and all sorts of other stuff.Which I could not afford because I raised our kid alone and did not have the money for anything extra..So I agree with this,but it should go both ways.
I think child support should be different i believe that both parents should have least part time job to receive any kind support. I get support but my ex and i both work too i do not think its right for it all to be on one parent it took two people to make those children so how is it one gets sit and be lazy why the other one works constantly just to pay support and have money to live on. I know some say well got baby at home no excuse uf you cant find baby sitter to run you can find one to work.child support was not meant for one to be lazy and live off others money its to help but the other parent should do the same as well cause you both made em.
They should adjust how much you pay to the amount you would have after you paid taxes and insurance out of your check.
They should adjust how much you pay to the amount you would have after you paid taxes and insurance out of your check.
I also believe that the payee shouldn't have their license taken away if they haven't paid, or forgot, etc. How will you get the payment if you take their transportation?

I also believe that if the custodial parent denies visitation the other parent shouldn't have to pay the child support. How can they pay their support for their child(ren) and then be denied the right to see them?
Time for Change...

https://www.change.org/p/u-s-senate-u-s-house-of-representatives-president-of-the-united-states-modern-day-child-support-reform-equality-and-the-cessation-of-freeloading-women
Child Support should be for the child not for the mother to live off of and still want more from the father on the side. I know someone that has been paying his child support and his son as been living with him since he was 12 now he is 22 yrs. old. The daughter did not live with the same mother for 4 yrs. in which 2 yrs. of it was during the time for child support. There should be no interest on child support, since there is, why can't you use it as a tax right off? Just like when you have a mortgage on a house that is a tax deductible. Also, there should be a statute of limitation law after 10 yrs. and they have not paid because of no real income or due to no job off and on. How can anyone pay when they do not have the money? Then here comes the interest charges that do not stop. That is wrong. What about the people that do pay and all of the sudden, they loose their licence because the state wants you to pay more without taking the case in front of a judge first to decide? That is definitely wrong. How can they get to work to pay? What if you work for yourself and you have to drive in order to work?
In my case, I am a female. I gave my children to their father years ago, because he was not paying me child support. I lost two of my three part time jobs. Could not get any assistance. Once he had them he turned me over to Texas child support division. Now my children are 28 and 26 yrs. old. I owe back child support.. My children's father, my ex-husband, has always made more money than me, way more. I make enough to barely survive, still to this day. He made approximately $80,000.00 or more a year. The most I have made a year since they have been with their father is $15,000.00 a year. I was married for 12 yrs. and my husband at that time made the money and supported me. He died will be five yrs. ago.
Yes, the child support law needs to be changed.
Children are not being able to see the other parent and women out there stop taking the pill just to trap the man and or use the system.
Also, if a parent is paying child support to the other, then receipts need to be produced to the court or the public aid office, because you know that even if the other parent is paying, they are collecting Aid also. Instead of trying to get a job and work. Me, I have been looking for a job for six months are longer and no unemployment. If I didn't have a mother to help me, I would loose my home. Yet, Texas wants me to pay my back child support.. I never had the money to be able to fight, because I don't live in that state. I live about 720 miles away.
Child support laws are just down right wrong and unfair. I can't even see my kids the during the visitation time because I have to work. The thoughts I get scare me because I'm so mad with how the system allows my son mom get over me
Child support in any matter needs to handled in a way that agrees with a common sense approach. Child support needs to be split 50/50 and based on a itemized list of needs for the child or children. Not 8% of income imputed income or any other type of income. Thus you will find more parents being able to afford child support due to its fairness and sound reasoning. In addition child support payments to the custodial parent need to be on a debt card that shows all purchases made for the child this way nobody can put it up there nose and get away with it. Also, any and all taxpayer funded government programs need to tighten their requirements to be eligible prohibiting women who don't want to work from living off the system and falling back on child support and taxpayer-funded programs pleasing them a burden on society.
I believe they are garnishing my wages more then half how can I pay my house payment and car payment electric,water phone exc. The daily expenses while the mothers are on states care housing and food rental assistance using all assistance avaliable and I have to lose all that I've worked for because of my wages now barley cover cost of living house morgage is a loan about to lose my house because of garnishments and cant pay morgage have lost so many cars because of the garnishments. I have 2 cases and they both taken the max out shouldn't they split it up as in one payment not separate I know it's based on income when you gross 33,000 a year and they garnish 18,000- 20,000 I believe it's unfair
I believe they are garnishing my wages more then half how can I pay my house payment and car payment electric,water phone exc. The daily expenses while the mothers are on states care housing and food rental assistance using all assistance avaliable and I have to lose all that I've worked for because of my wages now barley cover cost of living house morgage is a loan about to lose my house because of garnishments and cant pay morgage have lost so many cars because of the garnishments. I have 2 cases and they both taken the max out shouldn't they split it up as in one payment not separate I know it's based on income when you gross 33,000 a year and they garnish 18,000- 20,000 I believe it's unfair
I'm sorry, but I have seen enough suffering on the non custodial parents side. The get Charged penalties and interest. How in the world can they keep up with payments if they are jobless or can barely support themselves.. think about it.. the government does what it always does and that's TAKE. Non custodial parents in a child's eyes no are WALLETS, nothing more.. I know that I would not pay the penalties or the interest... I rather go to jail or kill myself before I see a government belittle me in my child's eyes.
the purpose of child support is to keep the child living as comfortable as if the parents were still together. I went to court to get shared parenting and was told by the judge since the other automatically has sole custody she has to agree to shared parenting which ishould funny because if she agreed to it we wouldn't be in court. Now we have to go to child support court which she will get even though she makes more then I do per hour. The amazing thing is that at the custody hearing she said I missed the child support hearing. Why was there a child support hearing before the custody hearing. So she said no to shared parenting but yesterday to child support. So she doesn't agree with me having shared parenting but she agrees to me paying as if I do. So I have to pay her as if we were still together but then have to provide the same things I'm already paying for when my son is with me. So I guess if we were still together my son would another person come get him every other weekend. Cincinnati Ohio and Hamilton County are screwd up and set up to keep fathers out of theither child's lives. They say they do what's in the best interest of the child yet every study ever done says that children that has both parents equally involved in their lives tend to do better in life then those who don't but then the court says I can't have shared parenting unless she agrees so how is that what's best if the studies show its not?
I believe chidsupport laws are very unfair and unjust. Considering there are still good hardworking fathers in this world I am engaged to one.why is that I go to work killing myself. To support six children by myself from my previous marriage. On top of trying to take care of my fiance who's x-girlfriend gets stick him on $700 a month child support. Whats worse we struggle pay check to pay check. Because he is paying a woman who refuses to work but rather smoke marijuana daily. Live off her grandparents, and gets to party. Whats really sad she lied to the judge as to where thier three boys reside.they don't even live with her for what ever reason. So why should she receive benefits an riding the system for three boys she is not even rasing.. Why should me,my fiance, an our children have to struggle to keep from drowning..why is that women get to have children but not have to raise them with or without a father..I should know I am a woman.rasing 6 alone ages 13,11,10,7,5,4.. I don't get a dime. But I do work as hard as a ma to provide for them without any hand outs..if I have to work why come a woman with three kids gets to stay at home buying drugs, diamond teeth,clothes etc..the laws need to change.I don't see how a person can survive off of $600 a month..what is that supposed to pay. We argue constantly about money. Praying for a change.we never get to see his boys..and when his girlfriend calls she's always high and has slurred speech..its time for men an women who are in love with the hardworking men getting screwed by the government to stand up and fight back. Enough is enough.. Times are harder.. Money is hard to make.. Enough with the free rides..it angers me when I see women getting HUD, food stamps, child support, but its funny because they don't even own a car. So I am confused..women need to get off thier butts and take some type of responsibility.. After a it takes two to tango.. Our government makes it a game of one like they are punishing the man..its so unjust.I cry watching my fiance trying hard to make it and support us with what little he does have..I pray everyday that GOD changes this wicked world..
The parent receiving the support payments should have to show receipts. When someone received over $7000 in 10 months the for a healthy child and keeps petitioning for more, it's just an injustice. In my case, it's for spite from an immature woman driven by her own mother who did the same thing. If the father is fighting for shared 50% custody is is more than able to do that, the courts should grant that and no support should have to be paid by either party. The system really needs to be proactive on this.
The "system" is corrupt. Child Support is unconstitutional and many, not all, women use the system as a career move. It's this fallacy of, "best interest of the child" that perverts the thinking of the mass public. The system does NOT have the best interest of the child in mind when it is used as a punitive measure against, specifically, fathers. Fathers do love their kids, but when the system FORCES them against their own self determination to pay an amount that is far in excess of what it needs to be to care for the child, it destroys that man's sense of freedom. Especially when the money is given to the mother who very often does not use it for the child, but instead on herself. Why is the system dictating how much a man should pay anyway? When a happy married couple lose their jobs and must place a strict budget on household bills, does the system come in and arrest the parents for not spending $1000/month on the kid? No, the system should never interfere with the lives of parents, it's none of their damn business. If child support (tax free and NOT considered Income) payments were not so high, women would not be so quick to become pregnant. That is a fact that can be seen statistically by viewing the pre and post child support laws in this country. There are millions of testimonies all over the internet that attest to this tragic state of affairs. Also, unwed, unplanned pregnancies should never warrant the system intervening. If a woman doesn't want the baby, she aborts it, puts it up for adoption or abandons it "legally." She has 3 outs, not including the morning after pill. A man, who's not himself willing to be a father should have those same outs. It's only fair. Yes, it takes TWO to tango and make a baby, BUT only one gets to decide what happens. Only one gets paid. Only one gets to keep the baby and hold it ransom because the system doesn't enforce visitation the same way it does paying the bill, and a man can go to jail if he gets too far behind??? That's debtors prison, a violation against the US Constitution right along with indentured servitude. The system is corrupt, there is no way of saying it isn't. Men who've been through it know.-
I think it's unfair to get one year with overtime, and it set up all the years for then on out -- and now you pay an extra $200 a month, when it's already hard enough (losing 1/3 to half your net)
I think the parent who receives child support should have to account for where the money goes at any time the court decided they want to know. This should be law in all 50 states. Too many parents looking to get a free ride from the hard working Non custodial parent
I PAY CHILD SUPPORT FOR TWO KIDS AND PAY BACK PAY FOR THREE WHICH MEANS IM PAYING FOR THREE KIDS ANDI HAVE SERVED A SIX MONTH SENTENCE FOR ONE LOST EVERYTHING I EVER HAD BUT WHILE I WAS INCARCERATED MY CHILD SUPPORT NEVER STOPPED IV ALWAYS PAID MY CHILD SUPPORT FOR ALL MY KIDS AND I WAS TOLD BY EACH OF THE MOMS THAT I CANT SEE MY KIDS SO I CONTACTED CHILD SUPPORT AND THEY TOLD ME THERE WAS NOTHING THEY COULD DO FOR ME......BUT THE THING IS NONE OF THESE WOMEN WORK AND HAVE NEVER WORKED AND IM A 100% SURE THAT MY MONEY DOESNT GO TO NONE OF THESE KIDS I LOST 6MOS OF MY LIFE CUZ I WAS 2,000 DOLLARS BEHIND I TOLD CHILD SUPPORT THAT IM BARELY MAKING ENOUGH MONEY TO LIVE AND I WAS TOLD THAT IT DOSENT MATTER HOW I MAKE IT AS LONG AS I CONTINUE TO PAY I WONT GO TO JAIL I PAY OVER 1,000 DOLLARS A MONTH IN CHILD SUPPORT WHILE THESE WOMEN COLLECT MY MONEY AND SIT ON THERE BUTTS WITH OTHER MEN IV ASKED TO GET MY CHILDSUPPORT LOWERD BUT IT WONT HAPPEN THIS JUST ISNT FAIR I THINK BOTH PARENTS SHOULD PAY NOT JUST ONE IT TOOK TWO TO MAKE IT IT SHOULD TAKE TWO TO TAKE CARE OF IT .
Honestly this is for the a men that make good money. I love my child and I'm more than gland to buy him whatever he wants. On that same note $6000 a month for child support just because I'm successful, its unfair. What baby NEEDS $6000 a month. That money is really for all the baby mothers out there looking for a check to support themselves and the justice system is allowing them to do so. I find it extremely disgusting.
Child support should be based on costs of raising the child. A custodial parent is not using $400/month to buy items needed to raise the child. Child support should have a cap placed on it that would be equal from state to state, and not have it based on income. Although it would change support and relieve those who believe they are paying too much, those with lower incomes may still struggle, however they would realize that the courts would not be able to calculate what "they are able to earn" if someone has no or low income. The percentage should be done on what the average cost is to raise a child in that particular state. Forcing the NCP to pay out of their means will eventually leave them broke and have no job. If that happens, then no one gets paid. The way it is setup now, is unconstitutional and needs to become a more serious matter. I also believe that once the child turns 18 AND is enrolled in college full-time, that they should receive the money and not the CP.
Childsupport is currently garnishing my paycheck.I am a Cook I received $140.00 out of $500 my last paycheck for two weeks work .I just got evicted because I can't afford the lowest of rents .My first kids mother took my son to California on a so called visit an I haven't seen him since.(I live in Florida) I can't afford a lawyer or a private investigator. I went to courthouse to try an get visitation. I was told I could not because Paternity wasn't established. I miss my kids and I am financially ruined. The system helps women to kidnap your child an brainwash them while you pay 65%.
I get 50% of Va Composition income for PTSD and I got a girl pregnant and she has a full time job and she lives with her sister and brother in law, who also has a baby in a 2 bed room apartment, on top of that she drives a 2014 Toyota Prius. Its left me hard to keep my head above water.....
Everybody knows this is a major rip off of men. How did this happen to us? Where and why did this get so out of control? How are the lawyers benefiting ? I don't know but follow the money. I have 2 exes that gripe that I'm behind on support. I ask them, could you pay to me what I'm expected to pay you? Heck no they say! One of my exes makes 60K and she is dragging me to court for contempt for being behind on support. I'm suppose to pay about 13k a year for 2 kids. I have to earn 17K, about, to be able to give them tax free money that they can spend anyway they want. My other ex is married to a millionaire. I could go to jail, while they think about buying their 3rd Jet ski. This is not child support. It is clearly ex-wife support. When I go to court they will ask me why I'm behind. My reply will be can't you do math?! Can anybody do math anymore? I can afford the support if I had parents to live with or lived in a shack. Is that in my children's best interest to live in a shack? Apparently the state of Minnesota thinks it is.
Unwed father have no rights regardless of circumstances. In this country, even murderers have rights. This mindless child support law is over simplified in the name of supporting the baby, but it does not take any consideration of the rights of the man. This law kills good man. Please change it.
I work 82 hours every 2 weeks I'll make about 1100 to 1010 after support it will be like 487 to 550. Feel really unfair so I pay about close to 1000 a month. How am I supose to progress in life like this. While the mother work a bit get taxes get a check from her job and a check from me. What do I get just hard work. Something needs to be done before people start taking there own actions people or committing suicide killing there child's mom quiting there job becoming drug dealers. The government is broken and is making more problems than fixing
Child support laws are completely unfair, and hurts relationships of children and there non custodial parent .,Why should a child loose a parent due to the fact that they cant pay what the state thinks they can afford when most of the time they are struggling themselves just to eat . The fact that some people are unable to pay their full child support does not mean that person has less love for their child then someone who is able to pay. People can still be there for their children without alot of money. How can a Non Custodial parent feed and clothe their child when its their weekend when they have no money and no help. Its a huge debt for some people that are having a hard time making it as it is .So we call them deadbeats ,Why ? Because they have no money ? Because the ex says so ? Because their disabled and unable ? Because there is No help from the state to help get these people caught up and they fall more behind every month with interest ? ! ? So they are now labeled as a deadbeat because they are in debt like most americans? . What good does it do to lock someone up for child support and then hold them responsible for child support while they are locked up ? How is this constitutional ? At some point the custodial parent chose the other parent to mother/father their children they weren't so bad then were they? In a lot of cases they are the reason for the non custodial parents downfall. If they wanted the divorce or if they cheated or if they decided to walk away taking the child then they shouldn't be allowed to also collect money when they have ruined someone's life and taken their child away from them, that's cruel and unusual punishment in my opinion.
It is a huge burden to have to work 3 jobs just to get by. I have expenses, the courts don't care! I have to work to make my payments, so I need reliable transportation, and fuel money and maintenance costs! The money that I pay leaves me broke and I worry every day how will I get through the week. What I pay makes it hard to go visit my children, let alone give them any gifts for holidays and birthdays! I already know the money is not going to good use, when I see my kids I expect to see them dressed better and a little more cleaned up. Enough is enough! 10% per child is what should be mandatory with a cap at 40% or any more than 2 kids the custodial parent picks up for the Non custodial. All I know just needs a change, not 65% of the Non custodial parents income!!!! Make them work their butts off too!!!!
I live n another state I have 2 travel every other wknd 2 pick my child also my child is not on my benefits yet if something happens I have 2 come out my pockets, the courts or her would not give me the child birth certificate or ss. All ever hear is because of ur income u have 2 pay this amount. I'm all 4 taking care child.
I live in Illinois. The laws here are totally in favor of the mother. I pay child support to two different children that have separate mothers. The first mother I pay $520 a month to. The second I pay $55.40 a month. The first mother has a husband that provides well. The mother also works and makes a decent amount of money. In fact she makes more than i do. The other mothers husband is a deadbeat and does nothing. She herself is ambitious but doesnt live anywhere near as comfortably as the first. I am medically separated from the military with no benefits but do receive 80% disability from the VA (according to federal law VA comp is NOT to be counted as income when figuring child support or alimony). I also have 2 children of my own and a step child at home. My first child wants nothing to do with me due to how much time I had to spend away. Yet I have to spend more for her support then the other 4 children receive combined.
Illinois law states that the non-custodial parent is to pay 20% of their net income but is not to exceed 50% of the cost of raising the child but, the custodial parent does not have to provide proof of what the money is actually used for. Any other children after the first gets 20% of the remainder. I.e. if I net $100 a week the first child would get $20. The second child would then get 20% of the $80 that is left and so on. How is it fair to the younger children? The older child in my situation already has a much more "well off" home than the second but still receives more than twice what the more needy child receives. By the way I forgot to mention the younger child has medical issues which has added medical expenses for her mother.
The issuance of child support should be levelized. The most fair way to go about this is to have a "pool" so to speak. If the father or non-custodial parent has just one child that child should receive the 20%. If any other child comes into play each should add 5% to the amount the father pays in to the pool. The amount in the pool would then be split evenly among all of the children. This would guarantee equal treatment of all the children.
At the time my first child was born I was only 20 years old and just starting out. I successfully raised my child with the $200 or so a week that I made. Unfortunately her mother and I couldn't make things work and went our separate ways. She immediately filed for support (and tried to block visitation rights) and ended up with the $520 a month that I still pay. Do the math on that.if I could pay rent, utilities, groceries etc before that point on $800 a month, why does it all of a sudden cost $520 a month for HALF of the cost to raise the child? Now that I no longer receive military pay and am surviving on odd jobs that I am able to work. I am borderline bankrupt. All of my credit is just about maxed out and I'm not sure how much longer I can feed my wife and kids.
I am a women but I completely agree that both mother and father should be equally liable. Medical and expenses. This system is designed to enable women to use their children as pawns to get a free ride. We are living in a different era reality is different and women need to be held accountable and stop playing victim.
I am a women but I completely agree that both mother and father should be equally liable. Medical and expenses. This system is designed to enable women to use their children as pawns to get a free ride. We are living in a different era reality is different and women need to be held accountable and stop playing victim.
The child support and custody laws are wrong and there needs to be adjustments made. Today in almost all cases, the law favors the woman. Many laws today still seem to remain tied to older historical thinking. Up until the late 1950's most women were married, home makers and did not learn or have the skills to work outside the home. In the event of a divorce, it would be very hard for those women to support themselves and their kids. Laws had to be put in place to protect them and the kids. That is fair. In the 1960's came the women's lib movement and women pushed for equality. From the 1960's, it has become the norm for most women to have a career just like men and there are numerous cases where the mother earns more than the father. The problem with the current laws are they seem to have the view that the woman is still the helpless house wife and the man is the only bread winner. Times have changed and it is time the laws are corrected to match the times.

As for child support determination, all of these posts show every family situation is different. The problem is the laws are generalized and rigid. It assumes all cases are basically the same and provides very little court customization based on the situation.

Here are some examples:

Child support has no maximum amount however it is a set percentage. We'll use a one child example and it is set at 23-27%.

A woman has a child with a man making minimum wage and has his child. He pays 23-27% which will probably be set at 27% since he makes minimum wage. This poor man will be basically homeless. Why not 23% based on his income? If the child is 100% with the mother then 23% seems fair.

A woman has a child with a man making 12 million dollars a year and has his child. He pays 23-27% which will probably be set at 23% since he makes so much money and 23% will support the child. Does it really cost $230,000 a month to support that child? If so, something is very wrong.

There are no laws in place to enforce the parent receiving child support to prove the money is going to the child. All the courts care about is if the child is being taken care of. The remainder of the money can be spent as the patent receiving child support chooses on whatever they choose to spend it on.

Again, as seen in these posts, every situation is different and each one should be settled based on its own unique circumstances. I think there should be basic laws where there would be a minimum set and 23% seems fine. There should also be a reasonable maximum dollar amount which cannot be exceeded regardless of income. The 23% is for one parent receiving 100% custody. The percentage goes down to 0 in the event it is a 50-50 custody arrangement regardless of differences in income. Anywhere in between, the 23% is lowered to the proper adjustment based on the time the child spends with each parent.

Finally the courts should allow the parent paying the child support to receive proof from the receiving patent th
I not only agree with the above statement, but also believe that 20% of monthly income is too much money to be given to the custodial parent. It doesn't motivate the parent, nor create the necessity to find a fitting career to support the child. They are practically relying on the other parent, as well as have leverage over the other parent with the child. More rights and money? Seems like the government is more concerned with toying around with the fathers that are struggling to have a consistent relationship with their child/children.
In many cases children enter family court with two parents and leave with one primary parent and a payor/visitor, pushed to the periphery of their lives. The Guidelines are based on the assumption that children have primary residence with one parent and spend approximately one-third of the time with the other parent, rather than an assumption that a child will spend equal time with both parents. In most cases, the Guidelines create a windfall for the custodial parent as a child support recipient.
National Parents Organization proposes that the guidelines be developed to:
Treat the child support obligation of both parents in a shared parenting situation where both parents are custodial and residential parents equally unless the court finds that such treatment would be unjust, inappropriate, and not in the best interest of the child.
Lower support amounts with due regard to the needs of the child.
Base child support on after-tax income, not gross income.
Not include earnings form overtime and second jobs.
Not include bonus income.
Encourage equal treatment of all children, including first and second families.
Encourage shared parenting.
Incorporate a true self-support reserve for poor payors.
End or modify the child support after high school, unless special needs exist.
Remove legal requirement to pay for college.
Clarify how the child support is to be used, and specify the types of expenses it covers.
Base child support on actual income not attributed income.
I have been in the divorce process nearly 4 years. The courts have an obvious bias against the fathers and still favor the mothers even if the kids want to be with the father, the legal guardian states the children should be with the father, the forensic therapist states the children favor the father more than the mother, etc.
I was forced by the court to settle my child custody case since I am a "MAN and should be happy with 50% custody."
With these being said, I make 4 x the salary of my ex-wife (we both have the same level of education and she never spent any time at home after giving birth). Now because I have custody 50% of the time she is considered the custodial parent by the NY Child Custody laws and need to pay full child support and of course she does not need to account for any of the monies spent. Additionally, I need to cover health insurance, dental, vision, etc as well as other payments at the rate of 75% for after school activities and her babysitting costs.
At this point, even though I make 4 x my ex-wife's salary, she ends up clearing more money and now I have barely enough to live on my own and support my children's needs when they are with me 50% of the time.
What I am asking and begging for is for you to petition and work on passing fair child-support laws to protect not only the “money making spouse” but the children as well. It is time for a real child-support reform for not only men that have been unfairly treated by our court system but fo

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