Unfair child support laws

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After children turn 5 they are in school and those women who collect child support sit at home doing nothing when they could be working part time to help support there children. It use to be the male as the main source of income, not anymore, we live in tough economic times, where it takes two in the household to support children. Why should those women stay at home when they could be working. The law should be added to so that those women don't have several babies and then wait for the child support to come in. They should at least be given some finacial responsibility as well as the father. After there youngest turns 5 they should should be required to work part-time to collect there child support. Nobody should have a free ride.

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I pay my Ex $398 every week for 2 kids. One of them is a step child adopted from her. My ex lives with her boyfriend in a nice neiberhood in a $400,000 home. I live alone in a small apartment in probably worse city in Massachusetts. I provide help insurance and often take my son to doctors appointment. My Ex somehow is enroll for an MBA program at Suffolk university. I technically don't have a college degree.
I'm a divorced dad of 3 kids and I work at a factory full time working anywhere from 45 to 60 hours a week and I pay an ungodly amount of child support between my child support and insurance it's over $500 every 2 weeks which may not seem like a lot but when I get my paycheck it's usually $650 for 2 weeks I'm remarried and thank god for her check because I couldn't support myself and my ex is remarried to a guy who works at Toyota making cars plus he has a trust fund their house is completely paid for since he inherited it all they pay for is their bills and utilities meanwhile me and my wife can barely afford to pay our bills and even have to have my parents help us at times thank god for them these laws are so unfair why should I have to wonder how I'm gonna pay a bill I understand I have to pay support and I don't mind supporting my kids but when my ex doesn't have to work and has more than enough money it's unfair to me and my wife and my parents I've done everything I could short of filing for custody since obviously financially she's better off and I have nothing to fight I've tried to get it modified but they said it has to be a 20% change in income and I'm afraid if it does go through I'll only be ordered to pay more since I got raises
Tell me what percent of non custodial parents have the necessary funds to hire lawyers, leave work, travel out of state, and pay legal fees?

Due to this current system many parents will never be able to afford to pursue their custodial rights, because their paying child support to a parent who illegally ran away with their children in the first place. The current system allows irresponsible parents to kidnap children and then turn around and allow the kidnapper to recieve child support.
I have been paying child support for 10 years now. My child's mother only recently got a job a few months ago after ripping away her ability to claim my daughter as a tax exemption. I had to have my attorney put in writing if she ever wanted to claim her that she get a job. This was the ONLY way I could get her to work. Laws that don't exist to force these lazy*****woman to work only condem hard working men such as myself to a lifetime of struggling financially, or at least until child support no longer had to be paid. At that point I'll be worrying about my children's college and how the hell in going to help fund their education. It's depressing to the point where I just feel like I can't get a leg up at all in life.......
Suspending a driver license is not effective, the individual circumvents that law by driving a vehicle that is registered to someone with a valid license.
Garnishing your pay check from their employer causes the individual to become self employed.
Intercepting bank accounts, causes indviduals to deal only with cash.
As for holding you in house arrest by taking your U S passport causes ilegal border crossings and Sail aways and returns. In my case i need my passport to work i deliver vessels world wide, how am i to pay child support if the government does not return the passport that i need for work. This system does not work
Paying child support to a mother that has been in jail the past 8 months. She just got out today, I'm sure she's on her way to buy clothes and food for our 2 children as we speak. $800 a month to her and I'm going to lose my rental property. Seems a little unfair.
As a Custodial Parent of two wonderful children and also a soon to be step mother of two children I fully agree this system is broken. I have and ex-husband who is ex law enforcement that uses his knowledge to bend and break the rules in the child support system and goes about his daily life unfazed. On the other hand my fiancé struggles daily attempting to make sure his children are supported and cared for to the best of his abilities yet continues to be harassed by child support and has been pushed to the point that he may loose his current job that allows him to financially provide for his children. If this happens he will be unable to pay his child support. Then what happens? That's right, jail. Where his children are deprived of his presence and he financially is unable to provide for them. After he has an arrest on is record how many employees will be jumping to hire him? My ex who hasn't paid child support and doesn't plan on it and has moved completely across the country deserves this type of treatment for his abandonment of his children. My fiancé however who wants to take his children on trips or hunting or fishing cant even do so because this system denies him that ability. The current system has thrown all men into one category and abandons them, cripples them. The men we expect to help lead our children by example are emasculated. Where is the emphasis on parent involvement when a court refuses to adjust support so a man may take his kids to the movies and tells him to simply get a second or third job if he's unable to simply find the money to care for his children when he has them. What time is left for good quality parenting time? It doesn't. It leaves a father begging his children to understand why he is too busy working to pay child support while the mother sits back with a second income (financially more than a low income family might make in a month) and he watches his money pay for vacations etc he will never get with his children. We wonder why men give up or run out or get jobs that pay under the table. I can only hope someone in a position of power has the ability to bring about change and that this system is corrected.
My sons mother has taken me to freind of the court over forty times. And not with her intended purpose of getting money but to capitalize on the fact that I make little money which is constantly bringing my arrears up. She doesn't care about the money she just wants me in jail which she verbalizes at every court date and freind of the courts reaction when I filed for a modification was you can make more money. I was working 55-65 hours a week every week and would only take home $150-200 a week. I couldn't make more money! So now all these show cause hearings keep happening like the next one I have in 2 weeks and I am now a wreck. I've been put through this so many times with the fear of is this going to be the day I loose my freedom and my family have to go through the hurt of me loosing my freedom just to please this lying vindictive women that has 3 kids from 3 different men? I can't even function as a normal productive man in society anymore because I'm anxiety ridden and always waiting for when and what next. The courts have impowered this women and all women to, (if they choose) destroy any and all forms and chances of having anything resembling a normal life. It's not right or civilized for me to do everything I can and have to wonder everyday IF I'm going to jail, it's not a question of if but when. I can not keep living like this mentally and physically.
Laws and guidelines in Pennsylvania regarding child support MUST be changed. I'm sure no one high enough with enough authority will even read this but I have to try anyway.
I am a divorced father who is struggling to get by and on the verge of bankruptcy. Many times already the bank seized my accounts to take child support. This should not be allowed! How can I survive with my accounts seized! I was even told by a veteran court employee that the more money the court collects makes them look good and helps to maintain and increase funding for the department! In addition, my ex-wife is a money hungry resentful person who tries to take everything from me she is able to. How can the court not take into account, your complete financial situation? I work hard, have a budget, save as much as possible and the court takes it so my ex-wife can get pedicures. There needs to be changes, please! The system is unjust and custodial parents are not using the money for the allocated purposes. Please change the system.
Laws and guidelines in Pennsylvania regarding child support MUST be changed. I'm sure no one high enough with enough authority will even read this but I have to try anyway.
I am a divorced father who is struggling to get by and on the verge of bankruptcy. Many times already the bank seized my accounts to take child support. This should not be allowed! How can I survive with my accounts seized! I was even told by a veteran court employee that the more money the court collects makes them look good and helps to maintain and increase funding for the department! In addition, my ex-wife is a money hungry resentful person who tries to take everything from me she is able to. How can the court not take into account, your complete financial situation? I work hard, have a budget, save as much as possible and the court takes it so my ex-wife can get pedicures. There needs to be changes, please! The system is unjust and custodial parents are not using the money for the allocated purposes. Please change the system.
Although financially supporting your child is important, it takes more than money to raise a child. The child support system may have had good intentions when it was 1st created but times have changed. Child support has transformed into a brick wall that separates the mother and the father and takes all importance away from the child. The system is all about money. This is destroying the parent's ability to come together and raise their children. The amount of money that the court system legally required the noncustodial parent to pay is sometimes outrageous. They are taking aways drivers licenses and even incarcerating the parent, mainly the fathers for falling behind, which limits their ability to earn wages. They don't care if you are disabled or if the custodial parent has no job. They are making the children choose sides with the parent that has custody, while looking at the noncustodial parent as a Dead Beat. There is no system for accountability set up for the custodial parent. This is why so many are not willing to take the noncustodial parent off of child support and work together, once that parent gets on his or her feet. It is also why so many noncustodial parent aren't willing to do any additional for their children, because the court system call if a gift as it has no value. Disabled veterans that have children aren't given any credit when the VA covers the cost of their children's college, leaving the noncustodial parent free of responsibility. Once the child is 18, they still continue to force the noncustodial parent to pay a parent who is no longer raising a child, as if the noncustodial parent is Indebted to them. All odds are stacked against the noncustodial parent, who often stop working, lose the house and cars because of the unfair treatment and garnishment of a large portion of that hard earned income. They treat the noncustodial parents like criminals but restricting their travel in and outside of the U.S. Lastly, the court system makes it very hard to challenge any wrong doings on the part of the custodial parent. Please help me take a stand against a system that are tearing families apart and leaving the children to feel like a piece of property and not a child.
Men are not just ATMs. They are also fathers.

Children should be provided for EQUALLY by BOTH parents.