Unfair child support laws

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After children turn 5 they are in school and those women who collect child support sit at home doing nothing when they could be working part time to help support there children. It use to be the male as the main source of income, not anymore, we live in tough economic times, where it takes two in the household to support children. Why should those women stay at home when they could be working. The law should be added to so that those women don't have several babies and then wait for the child support to come in. They should at least be given some finacial responsibility as well as the father. After there youngest turns 5 they should should be required to work part-time to collect there child support. Nobody should have a free ride.

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I have been paying child support a long time and I am so tired. (not complaining) I barely afford anything I know some people say that $863.00 a month for two kids is nothing,Child support needs to be reformed. I have just spent the last year fighting a system to have my son emancipated at 18 yrs old. only to find out that non accredited "home schooling" will allow the mother to claim he/she is still on school well past the age of emancipation. I have paid on time for the past 16 years without complaint I have 18 months left on my last child and am currently trying to battle money hungry lawyers and a court system/Judge that continues to allow continuance after continuance driving up the legal fees. There has to be a change and soon many more parents will be financially raped by the system and many more will continue to use the system as a way of life
I am married to a man who has 3 kids from his previous marriage. He has paid child support on time every month for the 5 years I've known him. His ex wife is married and has decided she wants more money a month. I understand the cost of living, but there's nothing the kids need that they don't already get. We pay all of the insurance costs for them ,pay for all activities they are in, and if anything extra comes up, (school supplies, shoes, coats, etc) we always help out. The ex wife and her husband both drive 2015 vehicles, own a business (small town hotel), have snowmobiles, atv's, and other expensive toys. They are also granted free health care, free dental care, and are on WIC for the 2 children they have together. They take big trips, and don't seem to have a care in the world when it comes to spending money. The ex wife claims she has a $0 income and her husband works outside the hotel part time. My husband and I both work full time jobs, and both of our cars are 10 years old. We don't have any government assistance on anything and certainly don't have any of the toys I listed earlier, mostly because we can't afford them. I know that when we have our child support amount reviewed, it's going to go up dramatically because of the requirement of listing your GROSS vs NET income. She will claim 0, because that's what she does. Why isn't this ever investigated? Why is the woman entitled to collecting anything and everything she can get her hands on without any proof of actual need??? It's messed up - and we are frustrated!!!
Child support needs to be reformed. It is very unfair. I should be able to claim it on my taxes.. I cannot claim my child or the support of my child on my taxes at all, please revise the laws!!
Listen all fathers getting screwed.here is truth.federal government will pay the state you live in 2 dollars for every dollar of childsupport you pay.plus its coming out of social security that 2 dollars there paying to that state. so the state you live in the judge dont give a rats*****if your ex is a whore or the well being of the child.bottom line is money in there pocket.that is the truth.I worked for government for 11 years.I dont know it all but what I know is true.this system is not about the child or children its about the federal money and state pay back.**** you government.im an honest father whomarried a whore.go after them.this country Iis a joke.wish I was a women.spread my legs pop out kids get money.oh great america.whatever:(fu
last message continued...gh economy. Men who can not pay because they can not find a job should NOT go to jail AT ALL unless they are working, making a paycheck and not paying. Men should also be garaunteed visitation, unless they do not pay, They should also not have to request it either, which gets denied 99.99% of the time when they do, just like I was denied visitation of my daughters even though I am paying. Anyhow, I am off to the sex change center to turn female. Being a guy in today's society blows goats! lol
I also wanted to add, that I am glad I am educated now, for I will have a good career after graduation, in which, child support will be over by then and the money I make is all mine. I am so thankful for the education system, because without it I would be sunk and I would rather have a career due to the poor economy seemingly only wanting to hire those with a degree and because it benefits my Author skill and i will have an Instructor career that brings in a nice income. I think what would help a lot of men and even women deal with child support situations such as these would be to legalize marijuana in every state. The reason why is because a LOT of jobs would come to be and those men and women who are not in college would have a secure good paying job. Fact, Colorado has generated over $33 billion dollars from recreational marijuana sales, in which, a lot of that money has gone to schools. Why can't it also be legal everywhere so that people will have work? If Colorado brings in such great wealth from a population of only around 5.5 million, just imagine what a state like Florida with 20 million will bring in. Wholesale warehouse employment positions would be plentiful with good pay and both men and women would have the money they need to prevent complications such as being mentioned on this page from happening. Although it is up to each state to legalize marijuana, this is not acceptable, because it is hypocritical to jail millions of it while millions party down with it in legal marijuana states. Alcohol was legalized nation wide and so should marijuana be. Not everyone can go to school, because they do not have the time, like single moms who do not have family or friends to help and they work full time plus pay a baby sitter for example or because both sexes dislike it and would rather work. Above all else, I think that a law should be implemented in a child support order, that enforces visitation. This would also eliminate the complaints among many men who pay child support, such as the saying "I never get to see my kids and I am paying". It would be a pretty straight forward simple law that if a man is paying child support he gets a certain amount of hours every week with the child and proof must be given of the visitation, such as signed documents between the mother and father each time the visit per week takes place that is then submitted to the court once every other month or so, so that both parties have proof they are complying with a visitation part of the order. If a man stops paying then revoke the visitation of course, but, there definitely needs to be something done about men having to pay child support when they do not have a job. Trying to put them through a program as an alternative to jail is not enough to suffice this. Using methods such as legalizing marijuana in all states would help create the jobs needed, for those programs the state puts men through do not have good outcomes because jobs are hard to find in today's tou
I have been paying child support a long time and I am so tired. I never can afford anything I need and practically starve because I never have the money to buy a decent amount of groceries. I know some people say that $386 a month for two kids is nothing, but when you are only a student who is in school because businesses of our crap economy never hire anyone, that $386 after using the rest of my school money for bills to make it till my next loan is for me to buy necessities. Nothing like never having anymore than a 1/4 of a tank of gas in your car always and can never go places to do anything or take a real woman who will appreciate you more out on a date. Also, I do not see how it can be fair for the law to be 100% on the mother's side and never allow the father to see their kids when a parent is paying. I swear that society has turned hardcore feminist and women rule the world. We men are just slaves to pay the bills. I know for a fact that a lot of these women never buy anything for the child with the money they receive from fathers and instead they spend it on getting their nails done, partying with their boyfriends etc. Both of my exes left me when my daughters were born and I have missed out on almost all of their child hood. Soon they will be 18 in about 4- 5 years and I have done nothing but pay to spend time with the air. I think I am going to have a sex change so that I will have a better life in this feminist world. If you are a woman life is a party and you stay clean and have tons of money. If you are a male get ready to be slaved, used and thrown in jail if you can not keep producing money for child support while being a citizen of a bunk feminist economy. In my opinion, visitation should be enforced on mothers to allow the fathers to see their kids if they are paying. Like I said, being a man in this society means you are a slave and nobody cares about you, so I think I will have a sex change and be a female. Then it will be party time and I will have a ton of cash while I make the boys beg and suffer and take all their money. :) Thanks law makers! You guys do a great job!
I'm just frustrated with the system. I am a woman of 2 kids and I lived "happily" with their father for 14 years. He left me for another woman and he moved 9 hours away and refuses to support the children at all. I've been going through the court system to try to get support but Ive been told by my attorney that my case from a legal standpoint will never be "priority" because I don't recieve cash assistance and therefore my ex's neglect isn't costing the state anything (in other words-unless a man's failure to support his his kids doesn't take money from the state, the state isn't going to take the time to enforce payments or lock them up). I make $33,000 a year. I'm combing the websites like mad trying to find more work, because I don't have any living family or friends that can help me. Thankfully, I'm now happily with a very wonderful man who has 3 children of his own. He works 2 jobs and pulls over 70 hours a week. He earns very little at his jobs hourly so the take home isn't much. Due to the court order, he pays his ex over $1000 per month. Additionally, despite my fiancee's opposition in court, his ex moved 3 hours away out of state and my fiancee is limited to seeing his kids 2 weekends per month but the court said he has to meet his ex at an agreed halfway point which is more costs and time for him. The courts agreed she could move so far considering my fiancee already works long hours during the week and the jugde didn't think he would have much time to see the kids anyway. This arrangement has totally changed my fiancee's relationship with his kids and how the kids feel and I can see how it hurt both him and the children every time they come to visit. My fiancee would like to quit one job and go back to school so he can increase his skills and find a suitable long term career. But because his child support is so high, coupled with the fact that FASFA only looks at a person's gross earning when allotting financial aid for post secondary schooling (which disqualifies him from the income guidelines) this man will work bs dead end jobs forever. I barely make enough to support myself and my kids without any support from my ex. These child support and visitation laws need to be adjusted so that the single parents left to raise the kids aren't being left out, and the dad's that support their kids are being left with enough to live. They just seem completely backwards. I'm a social worker whose been working with children and families in a variety of settings and I never knew just how traumatic and impossible this situation really is until it hit me personally.