Unfair child support laws

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After children turn 5 they are in school and those women who collect child support sit at home doing nothing when they could be working part time to help support there children. It use to be the male as the main source of income, not anymore, we live in tough economic times, where it takes two in the household to support children. Why should those women stay at home when they could be working. The law should be added to so that those women don't have several babies and then wait for the child support to come in. They should at least be given some finacial responsibility as well as the father. After there youngest turns 5 they should should be required to work part-time to collect there child support. Nobody should have a free ride.

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I absolutely agree. I was a single mom prior to my re-marriage and I always worked and provided support for my children. My new husband shells out 30-40% of his income to pay child support to his re-married ex wife because she had another baby with her new husband who makes considerably more than we do combined. My husband and her children are all school age. He shouldn't have to pay additional support because she chooses to stay home to care for her new husbands baby.
I live in N.C And have to pay more then the 25% of my income, I have been told by N.C that nothing can be done seeing that the child support order is in another state, and that V.A will do nothing to change the ordered amount, On top of that , My Ex has on many occassions told me that the child I am and have been paying for for 8 years is not mine, I asked that a DNA test be done to prove it, and was denied because the state of V.A deems the child mine no matter what just cause the child was born while my EX and I were married. From everything I have found out I am not supposed to have to pay over 25% on my income, ( By Law) yet this LAW is not being FOLLOWED.
So yes my fellow American fathers this child support system is kinda a load of crap. I can understand if the father is a dead beat, but to make a system to push fathers away from his children is upserd and not justifiable.
So the mother wants to end the marriage and gets the house the equity and a car and the children. So she goes with out electric for weeks, house is at the end of forclousre,mother gets aressted Infront of children, child misses a lot of school, father tries for custody and still looses white paying over $130 a week. Ya she can't hold a job down either and lies in court. The father still looses custody in NY. The father visits his children all weekend and works full time all week. While the mother don't work can barely get the kids on the bus for school and sends the children to the father with junk clothes. This is OK??? This is America this is all based off of old out dated laws. So now you have a bitter children's mother, who don't work who would rather voulenteer than work full time or even part time for the children! This is right that she every 6 months who will take everything she can from the father who tries, who lives off of nothing to maintain a car to get to work, who drives 2hrs round trip to see his children. Then the state wonders why fathers give up! Support court says it's only money!! But yet the father is made to pay all medical!! Weekly copays for treatment for dr visits!!!
THIS IS AMERICA? These laws must change.
If the mother is able to make the same wage as the father then why don't she. The jobs out here suck!
So a father brings home less than half of gross because of taxes and support and yet the mother can get good stamps free rain on the children's fathers pay every 6months. And yes the mother is supose to pay half of medical but when father brings it up she don't answer and if the father don't pay then it goes on his credit. Where is the justice?

Some one must change this or there will be one more dead beat father out here because of a court backed greedy evil person who wanted the whole thing to end. Who told the father everyday a month after his brother died. Who got the children to tell me to leave.

So to all the young men out here don't have kids and don't get married. Because if it falls apart then your screwed

Not a judge, not the president of this once a great nation not the pope no one gives a crap. The law is the law America men are nothing men with greedy x wife's who don't work refuse to work because they can.

The father can barely afford a loaf of bread for pbj, gas to work, get the children ever weekend and can not do anything with them because he has no money. But yet the father must work 2,3 jobs and find time and money to pay support, taxes, ins, a place to live, food, medical ins and gets yelled at for not seeing the children because he can't! The father is unable to.

But that's America land of the free to screw you over
I asked for a divorce from my husband in Michigan 5 years ago. I moved to Michigan for his job. The cost of living is more than most single parents could ever afford. I didn't get enough to live a year as a stay-at-home mom who had raised kids for 7 years and who had to start a new career. I get $500 a month because I got a job. We share custody 50/50. Meanwhile I can't afford childcare to HAVE a career to support my kids. He has our beautiful home, a gardner, a weekly housekeeper, a membership to an expensive club, handmade furniture. I can't afford my groceries. My children love me but I can't even feel secure driving them around in my car because I can't afford the repairs it needs to be safe. There is something very, very wrong with these laws. I should not pay because I had a verbally abusive and controlling husband who I chose to divorce. Do I have to give up custody of my own children b/c I can't make ends meet in a town I didn't want to move to in which I am now stuck? I don't want more money to buy clothes for myself. I don't want more money to go out for dinner. I want enough money to afford to live, buy groceries, pay for my kids' new shoes and live HALF as well and with HALF the security my ex-husband does. It's not right. A "formula" for something that is NOT formulaic is wrong.
Sounds like a success story for him : I never herd of any man getting such a break: maybe us men that are being robbed by the welfare should all pack up and move minnesota , too bad for you: at least you have your kids you should be grateful, unlike us men ... We get our fatherly rights ripped away and forced Into being slaves to the welfare system , working 2 or 3 jobs just to get by and having the welfare comb threw our lives all the time / people that are illegal have more rights then us non custodial parents that society calls dead beat dads : we are constantly harast and dragged back to court and no matter how hard we work we never get anyware/woman want equal rights ,the way things are today MEN don't count and we are just slaves to welfare: stop crying n be grateful ... At least you have your kids
I am a mother to 4 young boys. I DO stay at home and work my butt off taking care of these children who are under 5. Our family lives in Chippewa Falls, WI the divorced father lives In Esko, MN. I do NOT sit around and collect child support OR any form of government assistance, never have.. I've always had a job. I was divorced and remarried. Two of the children are from the divorce their ages are 4,5. One will be attending kindergarten the other will stay home. I am a railroad wife and we travel a lot, to save on cost of daycare my husband and I decided that it would be better if I stayed at home until the children are in school.. The other two are from this current marriage, they are both under 12 months old.. Are mothers not allowed to breastfeed and stay at home until the child turns one? According to Wisconsin I should be working 40 hours a week, at least. The divorced father doesn't see the children often, doesn't really work, but since he's in school he only should have a part time job.. He works 10 hours a week only in the summer. I took him back to court..JUST To help pay for half of medical expenses. Well the judge in MINNESOTA.. Where he resides.. ruled because he is sitting in school part time with basically no job.. he only has to pay $50 a month for the two children in total cost of child support. He is supposed to pay only 30% of cost for medical..... Which he doesn't pay anything for medical. How is this justice???? Thanks MINNESOTA. The child support was lowered from $152 to $50 a month. Total for 2 kids!!!! $152 was Originally ordered in WISCONSIN.. Where my family resides.. at the time of the divorce. And the kicker.. After putting in for a court appearance I am the one who got dumped on.. All I wanted was to see him pay for part of the medical since my husband now insures his kids 100% and supports his kids. So unfair. This needs to get fixed. The law for child support in Minnesota is beyond corrupt. He should be responsible for at LEAST half since he doesn't take initiative to see his kids.. It should be more but the point is he got off on paying for medical, and he got off on paying child support. $50 a month for two kids does not even cover half of the gas on that rare occasion when he does want to see the kids. Talk about someone getting a free ride.
I am a mother to 4 young boys. I DO stay at home and work my butt off taking care of these children who are under 5. Our family lives in Chippewa Falls, WI the divorced father lives In Esko, MN. I do NOT sit around and collect child support OR any form of government assistance, never have.. I've always had a job. I was divorced and remarried. Two of the children are from the divorce their ages are 4,5. One will be attending kindergarten the other will stay home. I am a railroad wife and we travel a lot, to save on cost of daycare my husband and I decided that it would be better if I stayed at home until the children are in school.. The other two are from this current marriage, they are both under 12 months old.. Are mothers not allowed to breastfeed and stay at home until the child turns one? According to Wisconsin I should be working 40 hours a week, at least. The divorced father doesn't see the children often, doesn't really work, but since he's in school he only should have a part time job.. He works 10 hours a week only in the summer. I took him back to court..JUST To help pay for half of medical expenses. Well the judge in MINNESOTA.. Where he resides.. ruled because he is sitting in school part time with basically no job.. he only has to pay $50 a month for the two children in total cost of child support. He is supposed to pay only 30% of cost for medical..... Which he doesn't pay anything for medical. How is this justice???? Thanks MINNESOTA. The child support was lowered from $152 to $50 a month. Total for 2 kids!!!! $152 was Originally ordered in WISCONSIN.. Where my family resides.. at the time of the divorce. And the kicker.. After putting in for a court appearance I am the one who got dumped on.. All I wanted was to see him pay for part of the medical since my husband now insures his kids 100% and supports his kids. So unfair. This needs to get fixed. The law for child support in Minnesota is beyond corrupt. He should be responsible for at LEAST half since he doesn't take initiative to see his kids.. It should be more but the point is he got off on paying for medical, and he got off on paying child support. $50 a month for two kids does not even cover half of the gas on that rare occasion when he does want to see the kids. Talk about someone getting a free ride.
I'm a woman who has one child and I work to make sure my daughter has and get the things she needs. I've meet many woman who uses their kids as weapons to get back at their ex's. They refuse to work and would rather become life time students, basically sitting at home on their butts and try to receive as much child support as the law will allow. Leaving hard working men bitter because they are working many hours to afford to pay support and not leaving much for them to live off. Men if you even consider working a constant flow of overtime to keep food on your table and a roof over your head, bad ideal. Eventually, that will also counts as income. On top of that, it doesn't leave you much available time to spend with your kids. Now, your kids don't have a meaningful, loving, respectable relationship with their fathers. Now, I do understand that their are a lot of dead beat dad's out there and there are no excuses for you not taking care of your seeds. I'm only speaking on behalf of the hard working dad's who genuinely try hard to do the right thing. The system is designed to keep woman lazy and please understand I'm not talking about the ones that contribute to helping in the care of your kids. I'm mainly talking about the ones that sit at home all day and wait on child support each and every month. Don't let them find out you made a $dollar more...oops, your back in child support court again.
Men and Woman who work hard to make a difference in your kids future, keep your head up. After your kids reach 18, then what? Lazy mom's what will you do, you have no job and no work experience. Ladies think into the future.
I am 43 years ol had a daughter when i was 19 in kansas.I paid for her until she was 19 and quit college and got married.As mothers and fathers we know it is our responsibility if we make a chile to support him or her,but and a big but is when we get unemployed and do not recieve unemployment or any kind of income we are jailed and labled deadbeat parents.As in my case I got married and had a son 13 years ago,I love more than anything but do not get to see anymore,at one point I was paying support for him and my gilr until she got married.Anyways back to the true story that is going on now is that I have always paid my support until last year,I worked at walmart only job here in this small town where I live and had to move after my wife got everything from my divorce in WI.I had to quit that job because health reasons with my heart and needed hernia surgey.I have been DR every month over 100k in bills trying get back on my feet so I can work again,I always have sine i was 14 years old had a full time job.Now I am doing better and cant find a job but have sold everything I owned and cashed out my 401k to try and keep with my payments,I am 900 dollars in arrears now and they want me to show cause why I am not paying every month and providing health insurance,which he gets free from his mom geting disability cause she tried kill herself 3 times,thats another story I tried geting custody over that in 2008 and cost me all my savings and she still has custody.My point is they dont try to work with you.I live 900 miles away and have court next month to try and defend myself with 70 cents in the bank and no vehicle and no way to get there,so I will get A FTA and contempt charge plus says that they will charge me 2k a day for each noncompliance.WTF!!!! I am trying get a job and i try make payments when ever I get any kind of money,I eat once a day and live at my mothers who is on social security and cant help,we get lot of our food from food pantry once a month.I use to help her with bills and pay my support when working,now I will be jailed here and extridited to WI to serve time because I am 900 bucks behind all because its a IVD case and the get matched a dollor for every one they collect from me,the whole thing is a scam,woman and fathers that dont get welfare from the state get no help to collect,but the lazy parent geting disabilty and free health care get free lawyers to come after us fathers that are trying our hardest to pay.So looks like I am going get a warrant,so wont be able to apply for jobs now.so hurts my son and family here as I cant help.Oh and the modification is a freaking joke,I tried that took months to even get a call back from it and said I was already paying the lowest at 17% of what i use to make so they cant do anything to lower it.
9 years of anger built up inside of me from this absolutely unjust system of family courts. I can not believe that these legislators have made the policy the way it is. HEY LEGISLATORS! YOUR LAWS PROVIDE INCENTIVE FOR WOMEN TO BECOME PREGNANT, KEEP THE CHILDREN AWAY FROM THERE FATHER, AND COLLECT WINDFALL CHILD SUPPORT AMOUNTS.
I used to see my children every week, several times a week. Now I haven't seen them in 3 years. They are suffering! Why did this happen? Well there mother and I had a tremendous argument in 2009 when I was struggling financially. The state of CA suspended my drivers license for the inability to pay A RIDICULOUS AMOUNT OF MONEY to the custodial parent. I begged and pleased with the mother of my children to make them stop. Her, loving control and power, refused to do anything. So I told her I was in despair, and feeling suicidal. I was. Day after day the feeling of hopelessness. I declining economy, no work, yet the jurisdiction and its partner (my children's mother) still demanded an unreasonable amount of money. So she suspended visitation. I went to court to fight for my rights as a father. The courts said ok, now go to mediation. I went there, and guess what: "I fell into a trap". Because I was honest about smoking marijuana in my passed. The mediator said, I fell into a trap, and now I have to prove that Im not a detriment to my children. I said ok. Bring it on. I'll show you through character references, pictures, and their testimony. Oh no, you can forget that path of righteousness and justice. Her is what was recommended: I was court ordered to go see Colleen Moore for a drug evaluation. Called her to make an appointment. $1000!!! Up front. I then tried to sign up for a less expensive option (one of the other options in the court handout, Sierra Counseling). Nope I must be Colleen Moore. NOW I HAVE A HUGE FINANCIAL IMPEDIMENT TO ME SEEING MY KIDS! Since then they were moved to Riverside County, the mother married another man, and I pay that household $1800 month.

THESE FAMILY COURTS AND THEIR TWISTED, CORRUPT LOGIC HAVE DONE EXTENSIVE DAMAGES TO ME AND MY INNOCENT CHILDREN.

Something has to change. Again women are motivated to conceive and then collect.