Unfair child support laws
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After children turn 5 they are in school and those women who collect child support sit at home doing nothing when they could be working part time to help support there children. It use to be the male as the main source of income, not anymore, we live in tough economic times, where it takes two in the household to support children. Why should those women stay at home when they could be working. The law should be added to so that those women don't have several babies and then wait for the child support to come in. They should at least be given some finacial responsibility as well as the father. After there youngest turns 5 they should should be required to work part-time to collect there child support. Nobody should have a free ride.
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Child support is crippling men and second families. Children of second families go unsupported financially because of the greedy and irrational government. The pendulum of feminism has swung too far on this one. Men are being imprisoned and prevented from progressing in employment or education because of licenses being taken. This is evil.
My child's mother collects over 10,000 in public assistance every month lives at home with her parents and I get harassed for missing 1 week of 30$ payment for switching jobs. Every month getting dragged into court when the child support comes right from my pay checks and I'm no longer behind. The system is absolutely unfair!
The law needs to be adjusted so its fair for both parties and people can actually live a life that they deserve.
The courts are against fathers. I paid over 100k in legal fees to have the rights to my own kids!?? I was fortunate enough to have a 50-50 shared custody. But I'm still slammed with child support! My ex-wife makes 20k a year more than me and her husband makes more than her. I'm paying 55% of my income in child support and 20% in taxes. I work 60 hours a week to make 60k a year. My whole life is setup around the schedule I have with my kids. Shamefully the quality of life they have half the time when they are with me is very low compared to their mother. Myself and three kids are living on less than 2k a month while there mother is shopping for a third home. I have lost everything. I'm close to loosing my house now and don't know where we will go. If I work anymore hours it will cut into the time I have with my kids. Again they are with me 50% of the time. I do not see how the court is operating in the best interest of the children in this case.
I am divorced , with joint custody of our two children. I pay child support. My ex wife does not work. It should be equal financial responsibility, 50/50 is what I am talking about. My ex wife uses my child support money for her own needs. She must get a job and stop relying on my money. If I was to stop paying my child support. My ex wife might suffer. Oh well ! she asked for the divorce. Child support rules must change. CS is BS !
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It's time for transparency on Child Support for all parents. Laws need to be updated to account for Good fathers and better accountability for those who collect it.
I married a man whom is divorced and a father of 5 children. I love him and refused to allow his financial strain to stop me from wanting a life with him. Based on the NYS law regarding spousal support, my husband was ordered to pay his ex an amount that exceeded his ability to provide a home to his 5 kids in which he has half of the time, child support is less than spousal, together the support exceeds his take home because the previous year he received a bonus in which she was entitled to. the formula doesn't allow these men and in some cases woman to move forward in life, to plan for a future of love again, more children, and in our case my husband can't even go to the doctors because he can't pay the bills. He is left to suffer working a job that pays for his ex wife's lifestyle. He gets paid 8,000 a month, a pretty good job considering the economy these days but every two weeks he is left with 157.00.... For two weeks and we have a 4 year old to provide for. Is this man not supposed to provide for his new family? Does Paterson not think that people want to begin a new life after a painful 1st marriage? Start over and experience life with someone whom they are in love with or are they not supposed to want to start over?
I am a father with a child in New Jersey (the worst state in the nation to deal with family law, in) and I am willing to stand up for unfair child support laws and practices that work against fathers and promote an adversarial relationship between parents. Unfair laws like the "Bradley Amendment" and Debters Jail need to be reviewed and a better solution has to be reached. Family matters are a delicate and extremely sensitive subject that needs to be approached with a scalpel...the involvement of the court as it stands today, is a chainsaw.
This is so frustrating! It makes me sick... My fiancé is a wonderful father and all he wants is more time with his daughter! not only does he provide everything she needs in our home, he pays a ridiculous amount of child support every month and only gets to see her 8 days a month! After thousands of dollars in lawyer fees that's what the court ordered...
its been hard for me to go through this with him, I cant fathom the idea of being told when I can see MY child and it being only every other weekend. Especially when you want to be in the child's life???? its mind boggling that he's not given permission to see his child a fair amount but he is court ordered to pay for the child??? doesn't make sense to me. As a mother I wouldn't be ok with my child not seeing her father for week periods at a time.... who are these monsters that make these laws??? How does any of this benefit the child? So the mother gets child support... does the child really see any of it? where are the receipts to prove it? My fiancé works hard for his money and its sad that now that we have a child together we all suffer from the ridiculous laws. I watch my fiancé struggle paycheck to paycheck to help me support our family while his ex doesn't work, lives in a nice home, and just bought a new car! How she does this? She has HUD housing, gets hundreds of dollars from us, and gets food stamps. Something has to be done! This needs to change! Its becoming more common that women pray on established men to get pregnant so they can succubus off them and tax payers. Me personally, as a women, I would not have a child if I couldn't provide for it. The government enables women to get away with this and its disgusting! unfortunately, I believe Its only going to get worse before it gets better. I hope I'm wrong!
its been hard for me to go through this with him, I cant fathom the idea of being told when I can see MY child and it being only every other weekend. Especially when you want to be in the child's life???? its mind boggling that he's not given permission to see his child a fair amount but he is court ordered to pay for the child??? doesn't make sense to me. As a mother I wouldn't be ok with my child not seeing her father for week periods at a time.... who are these monsters that make these laws??? How does any of this benefit the child? So the mother gets child support... does the child really see any of it? where are the receipts to prove it? My fiancé works hard for his money and its sad that now that we have a child together we all suffer from the ridiculous laws. I watch my fiancé struggle paycheck to paycheck to help me support our family while his ex doesn't work, lives in a nice home, and just bought a new car! How she does this? She has HUD housing, gets hundreds of dollars from us, and gets food stamps. Something has to be done! This needs to change! Its becoming more common that women pray on established men to get pregnant so they can succubus off them and tax payers. Me personally, as a women, I would not have a child if I couldn't provide for it. The government enables women to get away with this and its disgusting! unfortunately, I believe Its only going to get worse before it gets better. I hope I'm wrong!
FOr 15 years, I have struggled to pay Colorado Child support because the unfair amount i have to pay with the wages im earning . In the beggining I will agree and take responssibility that yes I refused to pay the support. As time went by I accepted it and pay when im working because my kids can use that money I dont mind its for them . I was living pay check to paycheck and it seems i was just working to pay child support, I had to learn to live that way.
I finally took action to further my education to get out of this child support pitfall. I am finally making a good living and low and behold now I have to pay an additional MEdical insurance premiuim that is unreasoanble and beyond unacceptable and just as much as my Currnt Child support order ? REally ? When will it end ? And when I call the CSE agency these so called Techs that handle your case ? MY tech ? They do absolutley nothing for me ? They are so one sided its just upsets me off.
I finally took action to further my education to get out of this child support pitfall. I am finally making a good living and low and behold now I have to pay an additional MEdical insurance premiuim that is unreasoanble and beyond unacceptable and just as much as my Currnt Child support order ? REally ? When will it end ? And when I call the CSE agency these so called Techs that handle your case ? MY tech ? They do absolutley nothing for me ? They are so one sided its just upsets me off.
Well I'm currently stuck with a $875.00 a wk temporary court order, the sad part is it was based upon the income of a real estate transaction from 9yrs ago, because at our first court appearance I did not have council present and my spouses lawyer used mortgage application from 9yrs ago..there's nothing temporary about 3yrs when her lawyer continues to drag her feet and purposely prolongs the divorce for my soon to be ex and her "attorney " financial gain her attorneys fees are now approaching $95,000.00 she's a complete crook and the middlesex probate court is corrupt
I am a woman, and I am disgusted by the number of women who view having children as a money making venture. The women who chase highly paid men in hopes that they get impregnated. Also, the idea that child support typically supports the mother, and the child rarely sees the benefit of the money because the mother is getting her nails and hair done. My proposal is this: child support should all be put on a card, similar to how food stamps are, and then each month, the mother should be required to provide the statements of purchases to the father. Another proposal should be this: in a court hearing, custodial parent should be required to bring proof of all child related expenses, including food clothes etc. The judge should split those costs right down the middle so both parents are equal in financial support. In regards to paying for housing for the kids, I feel that the custodial parent should be responsible for all of it. If they can't put a roof over kids heads then they don't need custody. The maximum should be that the father pay 1/4 of the rent. Mainly due to the fact that the mother would have to pay rent for herself regardless of if she had kids or not.
The law create a hostile and resentful environment between exes that the children will definitely feel. If things are unfair between exes this promotes a lack of enthusiasm in the non custodial parent, and kids will remember their fathers frustration far more than they remember their mom getting "paid".
The law create a hostile and resentful environment between exes that the children will definitely feel. If things are unfair between exes this promotes a lack of enthusiasm in the non custodial parent, and kids will remember their fathers frustration far more than they remember their mom getting "paid".
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