Unfair child support laws

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After children turn 5 they are in school and those women who collect child support sit at home doing nothing when they could be working part time to help support there children. It use to be the male as the main source of income, not anymore, we live in tough economic times, where it takes two in the household to support children. Why should those women stay at home when they could be working. The law should be added to so that those women don't have several babies and then wait for the child support to come in. They should at least be given some finacial responsibility as well as the father. After there youngest turns 5 they should should be required to work part-time to collect there child support. Nobody should have a free ride.

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I been on child support for 2years and some how some way I am 17 thousand in the whole with 3 thousand dollars pending, I provided proof to child support showing the all my pay stubs and they still saying they are suspending my license, my son mom constantly ask for more money for my son whose 5, she ask for money to buy him school clothes, shoes, and food. My pay is automatically taken out through child support so I'm left with nothing I feel as though I'm working for free, I pay 718.96 a month 50 hrs a week .... every time I go to child support to talk to them I receive more letters saying that I need to pay more money... I feel like I'm backed up against the wall with the government screwing me.... and I don't get to see my son...
I am a 20 year old who visits and gives gifts to to my daughter. The mother who doesn't even try to let me visit my own child complains about that she is so busy and that is the reason why I can't go see my daughter more than I want. It is ridiculous how when I went to court that they did not take any consideration of how I pay for rent , I am a full time student and on top of all this I give money to the mother. With bank statements in proof that I do. But the mother does not work or chooses to not work. So I have to be pushed hard around. I struggle to pay rent. And help my little brothers to go to school for my mother who makes less than I the poverty wage of America. On top of all of this it's an embarrassment. How the court acted when I brought documentation to tell me in my face that the paperwork provided does not matter all that matters. Is how much I make before taxes? That's cruel. How do they expect me to survive for paying rent and my bills? I love my daughter and if it wasn't for her mother she would be living like a queen and enjoying life... I buy her the things she needs and wants and take her out to eat. I love my little queen such a shame to see a corrupt government.
I am a 20 year old who visits and gives gifts to to my daughter. The mother who doesn't even try to let me visit my own child complains about that she is so busy and that is the reason why I can't go see my daughter more than I want. It is ridiculous how when I went to court that they did not take any consideration of how I pay for rent , I am a full time student and on top of all this I give money to the mother. With bank statements in proof that I do. But the mother does not work or chooses to not work. So I have to be pushed hard around. I struggle to pay rent. And help my little brothers to go to school for my mother who makes less than I the poverty wage of America. On top of all of this it's an embarrassment. How the court acted when I brought documentation to tell me in my face that the paperwork provided does not matter all that matters. Is how much I make before taxes? That's cruel. How do they expect me to survive for paying rent and my bills? I love my daughter and if it wasn't for her mother she would be living like a queen and enjoying life... I buy her the things she needs and wants and take her out to eat. I love my little queen such a shame to see a corrupt government.
I have been paying child support for over 13 years, working full-time and getting regular pay increases. Every 3 years, my children's mother has the ability to review the child support order and get an increase because my salary has increased. She does not work but always claims she pays for things that I then have to pay half of. If she doesn't work where does she get her money, from my child support. So is getting even more money from me. This system needs to be adjusted. I should not have to work 2 jobs to be able to support myself while she does not work at all.
I am a mother of 2 children whose father does not see them regularly and as far as I know does not have a job. I know by taking him to court will only make things worst for his life , so I choose not to. My kids may not have everything they want but they have what they have what they need. Hopefully one day he will realize what he has done.
I have a fiance who has 3 kids and he sees them all the time visits with them, buys them things they need, goes to work and STILL the mother of his kids took him to court and charged him $1000 to pay her child support! This is outrageous! Now after going to court back and forth my fiance now has 50/50 and still has to pay $50 to her for child support BC he makes a lil more than she does. This is still outrageous! There should be no child support BC they both work full time and see the kids 50/50. This system makes my blood boil. I'm done
The court system is terribly one sided with the mother. I recently got my order for child support and they dont care about your bills. Now i have to worry about how ill pay my bills. And did i mention the mother is unemployed?
'When a female determines she is pregnant, she has the freedom to decide if she has the maturity level to undertake the responsibilities of motherhood, if she is financially able to support a child, if she is at a place in her career to take the time to have a child, or if she has other concerns precluding her from carrying the child to term. After weighing her options, the female may choose abortion. Once she aborts the fetus, the female's interests in and obligations to the child are terminated. In stark contrast, the unwed father has no options. His responsibilities to the child begin at conception and can only be terminated with the female's decision to abort the fetus or with the mother's decision to give the child up for adoption. Thus, he must rely on the decisions of the female to determine his future. The putative father does not have the luxury, after the fact of conception, to decide that he is not ready for fatherhood. Unlike the female, he has no escape route."
-Attorney Melanie McCulley

McCulley's male abortion concept aims to equalize the legal status of unwed men and unwed women by giving the unwed man by law the ability to 'abort' his rights in and obligations to the child. If a woman decides to keep the child the father may choose not to by severing all ties legally.

This same concept has been supported by a former president of the feminist organization National Organization for Women, attorney Karen DeCrow, who wrote:

"if a woman makes a unilateral decision to bring pregnancy to term, and the biological father does not, and cannot, share in this decision, he should not be liable for 21 years of support...autonomous women making independent decisions about their lives should not expect men to finance their choice."

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I lived homeless for 6 years and still have not caught up because of child support. This child support has left me poor and in debt. Their is no hope for fathers like me who have never had a fair chance.
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Someone from Baltimore, MD writes:
Of the dozens of complaints, there is one glaring omission: birth control. Never has there been more kinds of contraception available as there is today. I see men complaining here, offering anecdotal remarks about their child's mother "doing nothing" all day and collecting checks, while they (the fathets) work hard and have to give X amount of money in child support. Unless you are with/observe the mother 24/7, though, how do you know she is doing nothing? I wonder, who then is doing (what feels like never-ending) the laundry? Buying groceries, taking the child to doctors appointments? Helping with any homework? Caring for the child when he/she is sick? Getting little sleep when the child starts cutting teeth? Taking them to/from the bus stop or to school 5 days a week? Is the father around at ALL helping to do all the aforementioned for the child(ren) THEY helped create?

As for complaints about being poor after they pay child support--assuming they actually DO pay, and pay EVERY month, no sympathy here. YOU chose not to use a condom, far cheaper than 18 years of child support payments, don't you think? Yes, the mother is not blameless by any means. But her refusal, for instance, to use some form of birth control doesn't mean you act just as irresponsibly. Condoms cost less than a 6- or 12-pack of beer.

Our courts are still unforgivably slow in going after deadbeat fathers who won't or don't pony up support until legally forced to. And l don't think it should matter if the mother marries another man, one who makes really good mother. Or even if the mother is unmarried but actually does work and earns good money. The father should still have to pay child support because the father is JUST AS RESPONSIBLE for supporting the life it helped create. Condoms are ridiculously inexpensive compared with 18 years of child support payments. Maybe you should have thought of that before having unprotected sex. You play, you pay. Period. You have two choices: never have unprotected sex with any female, no matter if she is or says she's on birth control. Suit up (if only to protect against STD, AIDS/HIV). Or abstain. Those are your two choices. If you choose to do neither, that is YOUR fault. Not the mother's, not society's. So put your big boy pants on, stop whining it isn't fair, and pay YOUR half for the human being that YOU helped create.

The person who wrote this has no idea what he or she is even really talking about, and also you have no understanding of what is actually going on. YOU ARE VERY IGNORANT to the actual facts!!!
If you are sick and ****ing tired of being a slave to this rat-trap system of child support, then please visit http://childsupportreformnow.com and get involved.

The bottom line is this; the amount of money that people are being FORCED to pay is outrageous and unfair. The cost to raise a child is pretty standard, and no judge, or law should dictate what a person MUST pay. Children need healthy, stable and sane parents, not destitute and mentally broken slaves. What kind of example is that?

Visit the website now and get involved. This is an uprising. We're not going to take this******anymore.

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I am a loving and dedicated Father of two beautiful, healthy, intelligent, and sensitive five year old girls whose mother I am no longer with. I am also the father of their older sister, who is also healthy and happy. She is nine.
I pay child support to my first daughter's Mom, even though she earns more money than I do. She is a highly effective, intelligent, well organized woman, and although our marriage didn't work, I have a great deal of respect for her as our daughter's Parent.
The Mother of my twins by contrast is one of the most resistant and petty people I have ever known. She refuses to find work, and lives off a series of benefactors she has lined up.
I prayed for the lives of each of my children before they were conceived, and no man is more blessed than me to be a father. My children's Mom's prayed right along with me.
I am utterly confused as to why I am being required to pay child support that I cannot afford to the mom of my twins. They are in my home half the time, and I am willing to have them here more often. I do want them to have a relationship with their mother.
In the posts I read of people's opinions about child support, it seems that whatever people's perspective is, the shared sentiment is that the support of the children is a shared responsibility. Why am I supporting a mother who refuses to support herself and our children?
The financial burden to me is excruciating.
This laws are nothing more blackmail . If you don't have large amount of expendable monies you are fever the host of a parasite . Thank you for enslaving me to system of unconstitional taxes. Women have the freedom to do whatever they want and men get pay for everthing.when my children need help I'm there for them the mother just says it's your father's responsiblity. I say no one gets anything. Step up and stop using the child as a means to your own selfish desires. All any party in this process wants is money. Attorney court des ex spouse federal state County none of them give damn about the child. I say get out of everyone's personal life. if a child is left on firehouse no questions are ask. The system is full of coruption so get out of family life.