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This predicament I am in is horrible. Me and my lady are completely victimized by the law. I was visiting her at her parents house whom became overly attached to her (My lady's) daughter. We've been together for quite a long time, and she is pregnant with my child.

Well, we decided it was about time to move on with our lives, and move out. Her parents didn't like that at all. Her parents already tried tricking her multiple times in signing custody over to them. Well, her mother snatched her child from her arms as she was attempting to put her to sleep, then put the child down only to slam m'lady against the wall, yelling at her to leave her daughter with her.

I heard dreadful screams of help from the other room. I ran in to see what's wrong, but then both her father and mother (after her mother let go exactly once I came into the room.) turned on me, telling me to get out the house that I wasn't allowed there anymore. I told them I shall, but I am calling the cops to peacefully get m'lady's daughter and our belongings. As I went to go get my own belongings, they followed me at attempt to scare me by threatening that they will file molestation charges, that I am not man enough, and that they were going to pay the cops off.

I told them to get out of the door way, then her mother lost it and proceeded to punch me in the face as I was on the phone with my mother. As soon as she did, the father jumped on me, then I held him back, telling him, "I do NOT want to hit you." As he proceeded to slam me against the wall, then start clawing into my neck, I defend myself by pushing him to the bed and running out of the house (running through her mother that was blocking the door way calling for the brothers to jump on me..) I was out of the house within 3 minutes from the start of conflict.

As I left the situation, I called the police in worry of my lady still being in this house, but knowing I couldn't go back due to it being their property, and me not wanting to get in trouble. It took an HOUR and a HALF for the cops to get their as I was dehydrated and couldn't leave the scene completely. (Thankfully my lady went down the road to me before than, making my stress go down.)

When the cops came by, one stayed in his vehicle as the other (VERY rude one) proceeded to talk to us, digging in his ear while yawning at us, making *Hurry up* hand motions. We told him the story, but he misheard m'lady saying she slapped her mother, but she said she slapped at her AFTER she was attacked and I was just in the situation as the protective boyfriend/father of my soon to be child. (She was pregnant).

After all of that, the cops went to talk to her parents, the one that stayed in the vehicle came back to tell us we're okay and that we were going to get m'lady's daughter. After that, the rude one came back and said no, that he was arresting us. (Not even checking me, he arrested us, took us 5 miles down the road only to pull over, take me
In my case I spoke with five lawyers Defense Attorneys in my area they feared not take on cases when dealing with department of social services. I asked why? Social Services and Judges intermingle in there cases to win politically. Basically, they would scratch each other backs for there own gains politically in our area we are small country town. I was told no matter how innocent my case was they would manufacture and fabricate to win. My last lawyer told me the court system was so corrupt he call them a bunch of GESTAPOS with there own country court laws.. I was devastated only pay him to loose. It been a long time now the pain of being guilty of my innocents affects everything I do everyday it horrific for my friends and my family. I thought our court system in North Carolina where fair but I learned quickly before entering and hiring my lawyer it was not. At least my Attorney's where honest before I hired them.
I'm a Active Duty (Army) Officer. My ex accused me of domestic abuse and Terrorism Threats also she file a DA restraining order. She claimed that I say during a family therapy that I was going to kill her. Which did not happen. Even the therapy doctor testify that never happen. I being arrested, loose all my personal property, treated as a criminal, laughed at, emotionally torn down and even when proof appears that she lied the I still ends up paying and defending himself and in the edge of loose my job. My military service is being use againts me all of this with no evidence I was arrested and it costing me alot for no reason.She lied and got away with it.

Since the government passed the "Violence Against Women Act." While this act has significantly helped women who were in actual abusive situations, it has also allowed women to falsely accuse their spouses of domestic violence and "get away with it" as my case show. I facing 4 1/2 years of prision because i asked for "Divorce". The act loose it intentn when someone who seeks revenge or get even tool.
My ex accused me of domestic abuse by petitioning for a DA restraining order. I had my day in court and I was exonerated of all accusations, but it still shows up in the online court docketing system. I live in a small town, and I actually had a person stop and point their finger at me and yell in public that I was a "wife beater". All because of the case record online.

It's shameful that some women will make these false allegations -- it makes domestic abuse facilities waste precious resources that should be helping someone in need.....not someone who seeks revenge.
My ex wanted to continue her control of me. I have a mental disability from a mva and as I learned to live with it better I became aware of her stealing. She just ran out screaming one night while outside put duct tape in her hair and called the police for dv. They didn't even cuff me and I am a big man guess they knew if I had really wanted to restrain her she wouldn't be outside. I have majority custody of my kids too was just bringing them to her which our custody agreement says we are supposed meet halfway not me drive 20 miles.
going to court tomorrow. I have all the evidence and retracted statements to clear my name... I love my wife and prosecution of false police statement will prevent her from being promoted. She is a alcoholic and I have enough to get it all dismissed. She is sober again but unpromotable at her job (I am disabled) catch 22..
I agree that there is a need for a more intense investigation and that each person, man or woman shall be explained that making a false report shall get you arrested and purjuiry if false statement are made in a judicial setting.
Although I didn't have a domestic violence case between a man I too was wrongfully arrested and convicted of assault for defending myself. A female for several weeks kept coming to my apartment complex accusing my roommate/friend of being a pedophile which was not true when I came down to question her, she threw her food down and approaches me pulling my hair I began to pull hers back her other sister jumps in and my roommate breaks it up. She calls her cop friend and he arrest me and puts an assault case on me. I have never left the house again I'm just in disbelief of this awful justice system. Disgusted I have never been a liar or violent person but it's on my record.
I don't promote any type of violence toward women or men, but sometime we as women will victimize a situation when a man has cheated or left the relationship,as a get even method. Everybody heard that old saying hell has no furry like a women scorn.Some of these scorn women need to stop trying to control these men with the fear of sending them to jail on a lie, and if god wanted us to control and run things he would have made us first. The truth of the matter behind every good man stands a real woman not a girl playing childish games with some one else life. I always say if this man or women is not for you let them go and if somehow you all find your way back in his or her life god will reveal if he or she is for you and if you all are truly meant to be.. Ladies and Gentlemen let's stop having these one side love affairs and stop turning into sour grapes, because of lust not love because true love is worth its weight/ wait in gold And if its true love no one can steal that.We have to let go and let god because he knows best..
I am a lady and i was put out of my home by a horrific dvi all lies this inj sworn under oath was written by my husband to remove me he is comming into some money i took care of us for 14 yrs i recieved my last trust ck june 24 2014 2 and a hafe weeks latter he left me for his ex. Changed his phone # and add on his drivers lic to levy co and after 5 days of leaving he filed a d v i to get rid of me im 63 all due to recieving money from a sale of a retirement park his father ownes, and he has voteing shares in for yrs so now the park,,(holiday travel park in holiday fl) is sold his 1. 4 mil is hidden so now what he had his ex fill out the inj and she never signed it can they just lie and treat me as uf u wasnt there for 14yrs i took xare if ys all these yrs. Tgerehas been phy and emotional Abuse hospital records pics. Beyound belief there has to ve something that can be done im fileing
For div have med. Bills due to him etc his fatger refuses to give hom his shares as long as he is married to me his shares are traceable the sale will show joliday travel park owened by dreher const robert dreher holiday fl sold for over 23 mil. Thanks for reading 7276457052 they want me to leave and get a div due to money my husband said i owe you nothing just because we ve been married for 14 yrs he said get out find somebody else to take care if you!!! No way. Thanjs for aby help A good kawyer us 500.00 an hr he should pay. Donna Dreher
I've heard and seen such behavior from women who were angry because they didn't get their way when they wanted it. Men have been getting shafted for years not only about domestic abuse but when it came to getting custody of their children. Let's face it, there are men better at raising their children then women in many cases. I'm tired of watching the system turn a blind eye to the truth!
My x lied to the police, had 2 differnt statements for the same day, n in open court told the judge she lied .my order ended last week got to talk n see my kids for a couple of days , she lives in vidalia , ga iam in fl , now shes pulling another order. More false allegations n not once has the police has called or talked to me , cant aford a lawer , , all iam she has both kids 7_8 the place is unsanitary, shes got a lock on the refrigerator door , n she olny gets by dopeing my son n collecting his check , there is no way inhell 2,000a month income n she cant make it, 850.00high end total bills dcf calls before showing. Are u serious ,she abuses verbally and physically and mentally, the sadest part is my children rather be w me. ,ive never hurt or ever will put my kids at risk like she does gets high in front of them , no regrads of the affects n safty of our children , I need help
Some thing needs to be done now.
I understand real victims need to be protected but your not protecting all the victims!!!! These men are being laughed at and emotionally torn down and even when proof appears that she lied the man still ends up paying and defending himself. When women file false complaints they need to be fined or prosecuted or both. They are ruining these mens lives!!!!
I was recently accused by me now ex-fiance of CDV and Child neglect. We have been having issues for years, but now that she knew the end of the road was coming she pulled the victim act to make sure I could not attempt to get custody of our 11 month old daughter. She has admitted to having bi-polar disorder, but always refused to get help. I went to court this morning for the Protection order she filed for, and it was quite clear the judge made up her mind before I even entered the court room. Both both explained what happened, and the judge pretty much said she is more credible and dismissed all I had to say. I am a military vet with a CLEAN background who has been studying criminal justice for the past 4 years. After spending all this time learning about the system, I now realize how broken it is and refuse to be a part of something that just condemns innocent men/women on the word of a "self-claimed" victim who has no tangible proof.
I was just accused of domestic violence she had no evidence she cried in court made statements about my character as a husband and a father when it was time for me to speak I minds well just have said nothing my evidence to prove my innocent was thrown out she was caught lying in court 2 times and still was looked at as the victim. I currently have to go to abuse classes on my dime for something I didn't do.
My falsely accused me of D.V because she thought our marriage was over just because we had an argument on our way from airport. She scratched her self and gave a police officer a wrong statement so that she can get to the shelter which she did because I was taken to jail 3 days for the crime that I never committed. Her Idea is to file for violence against women act so she can stay in the US. I hope the government do investigation and find out the truth. Foreign women should stop using American men and get a green card, because they are damaging lives seriously.
My mentally ill wife had borderline personality disorder. She had delusions of parasites for 8 months, then delusions of me having an affair and filed a restraining order to force me out of my own house and away from the kids. Rubber stamped approved now I don't see my kids and moved out of my house and she's selling my stuff. It's completely wrong in every way.
My ex-girlfriend deliberately undermined a divorce Case in CA, had her daughter of 31 years stay at my house (in my name only) while she followed me to CA, then posted on Facebook I was a meth head and abandoned her at airport. After losing my hearing in CA, had to fly home as daugher was claiming to sheriff she was a resident there having received 2 boxes of internet purchases, then left 30 min before I got there. I went to Sheriffs office in Platte County at 1:30am on a Saturday morning to have ex-parte done. She showed up on Sunday went to Sheriff's office was served and then turned around and filled out her own ex-parte which I was served at 12:30am on Monday morning and given 10 min to remove my belonging. For the next 10 days while I waited for the hearing to get back my home, my new business computer and supporting hardware fo $5000 was destroyed (stole harddrive, external harddrive and all back up discs and software) putting honey in the power supply and data connections, watered down the motherboard and was told by Micro Center Tech is was now an expense paperweight. My sewer was filled with cement causing still undetermined damage and cost, my ATV Polaris had fuel tank contaminated, my $9200 jacuzzi brand new and need for physical therapy from next and lower back injury from car accident was stolen, every file in my office was pulled and shuffled like a deck of cards except the obiturary of my father's death a year and a half earlier was placed in with my new truck title. I have given evidence of all this to Sheriff and District Attorney and am told its "A Civil Matter" while person heirlooms of my family, personal property stolen from kitchen ware to tool from garage. 2 days after moving out she moved in with her new boyfriend and the very same weekend all this went down at my house, the new boyfriend pulled similar acts to his wife of 32 years allowing my ex to move in the day after his wife was removed. My hard drive alone had my 30 year career of documents related to my medical, my new business docs and over 10,000 images of copyright for my business not to mention 15 years of pictures for annual family reunions, my kids growing up and the final months of my dad. GONE. What in the hell is civil about this. I was set up for months after returning home from a 14 months recall to work in CA while she stayed in MY house. I paid the mortgage and upon my return all the utilities and bills. She lived there for free and now I am paying out my retirement fund just to get my things back in time to loose my house. This is the absolute nightmare of my life and come to find out this woman has 7 AKA's and this was far too smooth to have been her first rodeo. The guy who hauled off my jacuzzi has a history of buying stolen property. I even gave the DA copies of the deposit slips for merchandise she purchase on my behalf showing "jacuzzi" in plain print. She claimed to want the frequent flier miles so we could go to Tahiti for our
My ex-girlfriend deliberately undermined a divorce Case in CA, had her daughter of 31 years stay at my house (in my name only) while she followed me to CA, then posted on Facebook I was a meth head and abandoned her at airport. After losing my hearing in CA, had to fly home as daugher was claiming to sheriff she was a resident there having received 2 boxes of internet purchases, then left 30 min before I got there. I went to Sheriffs office in Platte County at 1:30am on a Saturday morning to have ex-parte done. She showed up on Sunday went to Sheriff's office was served and then turned around and filled out her own ex-parte which I was served at 12:30am on Monday morning and given 10 min to remove my belonging. For the next 10 days while I waited for the hearing to get back my home, my new business computer and supporting hardware fo $5000 was destroyed (stole harddrive, external harddrive and all back up discs and software) putting honey in the power supply and data connections, watered down the motherboard and was told by Micro Center Tech is was now an expense paperweight. My sewer was filled with cement causing still undetermined damage and cost, my ATV Polaris had fuel tank contaminated, my $9200 jacuzzi brand new and need for physical therapy from next and lower back injury
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Men are not the only ones being falsely accused of domestic violence. 66 years of age and my 28 year old daughter has assaulted me two times. I am the one that get arrested. Congress needs to find applied for basis in the law on domestic assault.
I am going through the process right now. My wife staged an argument, called the police, and without questioning me, I was jailed for domestic intimidation. She pinched me, kneed me and slapped me. I went to press charges on her but they would not even listen to me. She wanted me out of the house. She has the home and I have a small room at my parents. Is there a law against what she has done? something need to be done. Thanks, Mark Aldridge
All very true happened to me
I have been falsely accused of domestic violence. Me and my fiance got into an argument and both had been drinking a little. She told me to leave or she would call the cops. I said I did not have to and she said I will just have you arrested then and proceeded to call the cops. I left. I came back hours later and she said that the cops came and she told them I hit her and signed the statement. I apologized about the argument and all was good between us. A week later I got a subpoena in the mail for court for domestic violence 4.
well ive been accused of being unfit with no evidence no crimanal history very educated but for the judge to just hand my sons over to a drug user a women that is a crimanal please tell me what i can do ive payed for a lawyer no help at all its been two years for me fighting for my sons when i seek justice the judge always throws my case to the side
While I truly feel like real domestic violence that causes serious injury is deplorable and should be prosecuted, I am yet another man fighting a domestic violence charge. I had been traveling down an interstate with my spouse and child in the back seat of a car. My spouse and I had been arguing and saying things we should not have. I pleaded for her not to talk about our issues in front of our child, yet she continued on. Of course there had been alcohol use on both of our parts. Needless to say, when she refused to quit talking about it, I decided to say something that she did not want our child to hear. At this point she hit me in the head from behind which somewhat stunned me. I quickly brought the car to a stop and then attempted to slap her on the top of her head. I told her that she was putting all of our lives in danger. Because it was dark and I slapped backwards, I had unintentionally bruised her eyelid. Of course she called 911, and told the dispatcher that I was hitting her. (I slapped at her just the one time.) While I am not proud of my actions and wish I had been able to react differently, I know it was a defense mechanism. She had actually punched me in the face with a closed fist a couple months earlier, and I did nothing to retaliate. Unfortunately, again as a man, I didn't report it because of the embarrassment as well as the desire to keep my family intact. We started counseling and things were starting to improve just before this unfortunate event. Needless to say, I have been unable to see my daughter for nearly a month now, despite the fact that my spouse has asked for the protection order to be lifted. The courts have only created a larger rift and it seems that they are happy to divide a family because it proposes this is best for all parties. My problem is that should I fight the charges, I have to wait that much longer without contact with my family. If I settle for a plea agreement, I have a conviction for domestic violence and likely have little custody rights should all this result in a divorce. It is rather unjust and the system leans toward favoring the woman when in fact not all cases are equal. Each case must be handled individually. My spouse has a history of rage and has even directed it at our child . My seven year old daughter has told me she wants to be with me because of this, when we had previously considered a separation. In any event, it is quite arrogant that the government claims to know better than those who have a long history together. My spouse is no longer the victim, the state of Indiana is and she has no right to make amends for a decision that was made in the heat of the moment and under the influence of alcohol. I realize that there are victims too quick to forgive, but I believe that if an accuser is given proper counsel and they decide not to press charges, it ought to be his or her right. Also the counseling should be timely so that it doesn't disrupt the lives of
While I truly feel like real domestic violence that causes serious injury is deplorable and should be prosecuted, I am yet another man fighting such a charge. I was recently charged with domestic battery in the presence of a minor.
I had been traveling down an interstate with my spouse and child in the back seat of a car. My spouse and I had been arguing and saying things in the heat of the moment. I pleaded for her not to talk about our issues while we were heading home yet she continued on. And yes there had been alcohol use on both of our parts. Needless to say, when she refused to quit talking about it, I decided to say something that she did not want our child to hear. At this point she hit me in the head from behind which somewhat stunned me. I quickly brought the car to a stop and then threw my hand at her to slap her on the top of her head. I told her that she was putting all of our lives in danger. Because it was dark and I was swinging backwards, I had unintentionally bruised her eyelid. Of course she called 911, and told the dispatcher that I was hitting her. (I slapped at her just the one time.) While I am not proud of my actions and wish I had been able to react differently, I know it was a defense reaction. She had actually punched me in the face with a closed fist a couple months earlier, and I did nothing to retaliate. And unfortunately, again as a man, I didn't report it because of the embarrassment as well as the want to keep my family intact. We started counseling and things were starting to improve just before this unfortunate event. Needless to say, I haven't been able to see my daughter for nearly a month now, despite the fact that my spouse has asked for the protection order to be lifted. The courts have only created a larger rift and it seems that they are happy to split up a family because they feel its in the best interest of all parties. This is a huge problem in that should I fight the charges, I have to wait that much longer without contact with my family. If I settle for a plea agreement, I have a conviction for domestic violence and likely have little custody rights should all this result in a divorce. It all seems rather unjust and the system leans toward favoring the woman when in fact not all cases are equal. Each case must be handled individually. My spouse has a history of rage and has even aimed it at our child frequently. My seven year old daughter has told me she wants to be with me because of this, when my spouse and I have talked about a possible separation previously. In any event, it is rather arrogant that the government knows better than those who have known each other for 18 years. My spouse is no longer the victim, the state of Indiana is and she has no rights to make amends for a decision that was made in the heat of the moment and under the influence of alcohol. I understand that there are real victims that are quick to forgive even the worst abusers, but I believe th
While I truly feel like real domestic violence that causes serious injury is deplorable and should be prosecuted, I am yet another man fighting such a charge. I was recently charged with domestic battery in the presence of a minor.

I had been traveling down an interstate with my spouse and child in the back seat of a car. My spouse and I had been arguing and saying things in the heat of the moment. I pleaded for her not to talk about our issues while we were heading home yet she continued on. And yes there had been alcohol use on both of our parts. Needless to say, when she refused to quit talking about it, I decided to say something that she did not want our child to hear. At this point she hit me in the head from behind which somewhat stunned me. I quickly brought the car to a stop and then threw my hand at her to slap her on the top of her head. I told her that she was putting all of our lives in danger. Because it was dark and I was swinging backwards, I had unintentionally bruised her eyelid. Of course she called 911, and told the dispatcher that I was hitting her. (I slapped at her just the one time.) While I am not proud of my actions and wish I had been able to react differently, I know it was a defense reaction. She had actually punched me in the face with a closed fist a couple months earlier, and I did nothing to retaliate. And unfortunately, again as a man, I didn't report it because of the embarrassment as well as the want to keep my family intact. We started counseling and things were starting to improve just before this unfortunate event. Needless to say, I haven't been able to see my daughter for nearly a month now, despite the fact that my spouse has asked for the protection order to be lifted. The courts have only created a larger rift and it seems that they are happy to split up a family because they feel its in the best interest of all parties.

There is a huge problem in that should I fight the charges, I have to wait that much longer without contact with my family. If I settle for a plea agreement, I have a conviction for domestic violence and likely have little custody rights should all this result in a divorce.

It all seems rather unjust and the system leans toward favoring the woman when in fact not all cases are equal. Each case must be handled individually. My spouse has a history of rage and has even aimed it at our child frequently. My seven year old daughter has told me she wants to be with me because of this, when my spouse and I have talked about a possible separation previously. In any event, it is rather arrogant that the government knows better than those who have known each other for 18 years. She is no longer the victim, the state of Indiana is and she has no rights to make amends for a decision that was made in the heat of the moment and under the influence of alcohol. I understand that there are real victims that are quick to forgive even the worst abusers, but I belie
My partner has tried on several occasions to have me arrested for DV. I prosecuted her in one case & obtained a conviction on DV. I am living proof that this mis-justice is alive & well in our court system.
The issues with our legal system need to be addressed as a party and not as a sole individual. .if we all contribute (and there is bunch of us) what we can. We can make a difference. .my e-mail is tonykirk60@gmail.com
This hits very close to home!!
My husband has gone through this not once but twice, the first time was in 2011, after asking his neice to leave his home several times she became violent, attacked him, he grabbed her by the neck and told her to get out, 2hours later he was being arrested, six months later the case was dropped after his neice failed to show up for court, my husband refused to plea bargain and wanted to go to trial. Monday sept 15th my husband was arrested again on the same charge, now we must go through this ordeal all over again, we can't afford an attorney, our only assett is personal items and a1982lincoln town car, we own no jewelry and could probably get 1,000 for the contents in my husbands apartment, i recently began reading dave ramseys book and started saving. Luckly for him I had 650.00 in savings it took 1000 to bond out, I wrote the bondsman 2postdated checks, for the remaining amount.keep us in your prayers
I am going through this right now, I was arrested because my wife said that i physically picked her up from my bed threw her over my sholder, drug her down the hallway, and physically threw her out the front door on to the front pourch. She also clamed i had been drinking and i had a gun and she was scared of what i was going to do to her and our children, when the police got to my house i was imeditly arrested, no gun on me or wepon what so ever, was giving a pbt and blew 0.00. Also she never had a mark on her and the police stated that in there report.
I obtained a copy of the audio video of when the police questioned us and when she was asked if she was assaulted she infact says " no" " i mean i dont have any marks on me"
After this i filed for divorce and after doing so she obtained a ppo claming that i was always abusive to her, this was eventually terminated
The domestic violance was redused to a disorderly person and will be off of my record after 12 months
Two years ago she filed a divorce agianst me and clamed i was abusive to our son as well as abusive to her, she got a ppo then as well and then she had it dismissed and wanted to be back together
I have alot of proof of her lies and no one will do anything
Disability recipient 51 years old male 2014
17 years married/2001 divorced no marriage history of abuse or any contact.
2003 charged with violaitng tpo/ppo .
imprisoned for five years in six
different Georgia facilitys. released 2008.
violation consisted of contacting ex-wife from lexington,ky via phone to Ga, to get address to send children b-day gift.
(No history of any violence and im 51 years old)
I was abused in six differant facilitys not fed forced to give blood and fed pills. for that one phone call in 2003. lost my only source of income.
sincerely
Msl USN honorable Discharge.
1988
Well I am married and during heated arugments there can be a lot said. I don't have any defense so I trusted I could call the cops to defend me and educate my husband on respect for women. I was tired and just getting off from work. They police were taking to long and there was no violence so I called and told them nevermind I was leaving. So I left a month later my husband comes to my job and hands me a report that he didn't understand because he is not even from America. My month dropped as he explained that he had lied to the police and didn't remember to well because he was intoxicated. All I wanted was someone to defend me on respect for women. I have a case open and I am very confused and hurt that the police took a report from someone that does not speak good English and was under the influence and was able to lie. He told them I had scratched him which was a scratch from his work that day. He wrote a letter to the DA stating he was intoxicated and was not aware that he was pressing charges due to the language barrier. Now I am looking for a lawyer to help me because I do not want this on my record or to have to go to jail for something I did not do or for any violence that never occurred. I was not even there to defend myself against his story. I assumed and trusted that it was not a problem to call during an argument. Now I am the one with the charge and I am scared.
I'm going through this right now.. I was arrested days after she called the police and filed a report. The officers (female officers) stated in the official police report that they did not observe any marks or bruises and that there were no witnesses to the alleged assault. 37 hours later she went to the police station with what the officer described as minor scratches.. I was arrested 4 days after the allegations we're made.. I was plastered all over the local news stations and newspapers for days.. My bond was set at 200,000 which they later reduced to 25,000 upon my lawyers request. 11 months later I'm still going to court. This has been a nightmare experience!
I was convicted of felony domestic violence. I have served the requirements of a 4 year prison term. She had scratches and puncture wounds on her face and bruises. The documents now prove that she was admitted to the ER with none of those injuries present. Those injuries were clearly from her finger nails. A forensic pathologist has proven the bruises came from something like a hair brush, not my hand slapping her as she claimed. I have lost everything I ever worked for and she has been given everything. The DA never considered she was lying. Today he knows he convicted an innocent man and is trying to keep me from getting a new trial.
Men will never learn. Mainly because you can't find a place where anyone dares say it in public. Become a slave...get a wife. Learn the law. Or. Become a slave....get someone pregnant. Learn the law. Not opinion, fact, government enforced. Do us all good and tell as many boys and men as you can. Tell them to learn the law for themselves. She is only trouble. Not because she is, but because the law says so.
I was alsely accused of domestic abuse. In the restraining order she never mentioned violence. She talked about the relationship. I was served with the papers after i had just given her 500 bucks. I told her that I would not pay her anymore money. I went to the hearing and sat there all day just to find out it had been continued because she was out of town on vacation with the money i had just given her. I got a little upset after a beers and left her a couple of angry messages. I got arrested and charged with 17 counts of felony aggravated stalking. I went to trial and was declared a miss trial. The said if I didn't plea to 17 misdemeanors they would file more charges. I took the deal. The judge got ****ed off at one of my voice mails. My ex.stood up and said i am doing all of this to save her from him, referring to my wife. My wife testified on my behalf that she has known me 3 years and never heard me raise my voice and that she knew domestic violence because her last husband shot her 5 times point blank with a 9 millimeter pistol and then took his own life. She did not understand how this women could talk about me like that. The judge called her a lier, the judge gave years in prison.then this women stated that she purchased a hand gun and obtained a concealed hand gun permit. This women is bipolar suicidal and extremely violent. She falsified the documents to obtain these she has been put in mental hospitals because of her mental. State. I filled 2 restraining order against her and was denied. She is a danger to herself and those around her with in her possession.she should be stopped before someone gets hurt. My contact information is 575 415 5007
I am currently going through this at this very moment, and to make it worse, my ex is claiming that this didnt just happen,.. but this happened over a MONTH ago, we have our own children but she has it so I cant even see my own children now as well, filing civil and criminal actions with lies,.and requested a continuance to get a lawyer for the civil case after I agreed to stay away, just I want to be with my children whom I have been their sole care-giver for 4 years, my oldest being autistic and has now completely shut down. And in the hopes that I can be allowed to PROVE this woman has done this before, what sanction will she get? so many destroyed lives and so many of HER friends lost because they know she is lying,.. where does this end?
Meant to add to long comment below that our son was cleared of all charges and judge dismissed the case and we are thankful for to her for that, but because his soon-to-be ex-wife still has a restraining order on our son ( based on false allegations) which is extended to us by-the-way, he is still unable to see his child more than twice a month and unable to leave Mass. w/o being charged with child desertion or so he has been told by family court. What kind of a state & country do we live in that would take the word, any word of a person and allow them to file a restraining order and the court issues it w/o vetting the source???? As we said , the restraining order extends to us , and we live 1,000 miles away and have NO criminal records, unless 1 speeding ticket in 50 years counts as a crime enough to to take away grandparents rights. We have never seen our own grand-child. We have never threatened or been ugly to this girl, and as a matter of fact welcomed her into our home and family with open arms and hearts. Can only say, in one way we are glad we found our her true nature before more of our family was hurt by her and her family. Thank you for reading this.
Attorneys rig trumped up charges of DV to put their clients in the "golden chair" for divorce settlements.
Despicable!
Am writing on behalf of our son who lives in Massachusetts and who was/has been accused of DV when in fact it was HE who was the victim of over a year of verbal and physical abuse from his girlfriend/wife, and like many men are too proud or embarrassed to report it. She not only assaulted him ( and SHE & her mother were actually charged with assault with a deadly weapon when they ambushed him one night a year ago, and our son was charged with simple assault in self defense. It was all detailed in police report) and things were not looking good for her, she then turned to the courts with more false allegations and action and they were more than willing to take the side of a woman, which they almost always do. They took his infant child from him and basically ruined his life. His wife is the one with documented mental illness, is a self mutilator, and has attempted suicide,and we provided piles of evidence & photos to DCF & the courts and still he is the one who has been hurt by all this, and an infant child is in daily danger being left in the "care" of a woman who is unstable and violent. Not sure where this will all end. Our family is not used to this sort of low life "COPS" lifestyle.. We are self employed small business owners, stable and non-violent sort of people who raised our kids accordingly and have never even been inside a court except when we adopted our children. Our son made a horrible mistake of meeting (& then eventually eloping with) a girl online while he was a lonely combat medic deployed in Iraq. After he left the military, he enrolled back in college, stupidly married this girl one weekend. They were living in one state and when she became pregnant threatened to leave him if he didn't follow her to Mass which he did and that is where all hell broke loose..Massachusetts is notorious for its gender bias in the family courts and she knew it.
Our son is a responsible, hard working young man who wants nothing more than to protect his 1 year old daughter and be able to leave Massachusetts to begin his life anew, but the courts have given custody to his soon-to-be ex-wife and he has no money to hire attnys and the courts say he makes too much to be appointed public counsel, which is an absolute lie. He works as a grocery store shift manager making not much more than minimum wage and lives in a room in a boarding house. His paycheck is attached each month with $500 for child support and he must pay $50 to the YWCA every time he see his child where he is frisked and wanded. He has NO CRIMINAL RECORD , has never been in trouble with the law except with the false accusation thrust upon him by his wife. We are heart broken and have done all we can afford both emotionally and financially to help him. God Bless all you men who are living in this un-just nightmare.
Going thru trial cause girlfriend lied and the police report is very wrong and she agrees
Misdemeanor crime of domestic violence” are forever barred from possessing a firearm because of the federal prohibition. So what idiot started making misdemeanor into felons.

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