Stop False Allegations of Domestic Violence

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I am a woman who was falsely accused by my husband who was told by his attorney to lie to a judge for the sake of legal leverage and blindsiding me. My professional life is ruined. I can not secure a job and the civil restraining order which I am told is permanent on my record. Even if the person who falsely made the allegations wishes to be truthful and clear my name before a judge
Cont.... is hhighly unlikely to reverse or clear my record. Mostly men are victims of mean vindictive motives or urged by their attorney's to make false allegations as a means to win a divorce proceeding etc... I am here to say it happened to me, a female. Male or female, makes no difference Its a violation of our constitutional.rights and it destroys the lives of the falsely accused. Please stop this injustice. I thought I lived in a country where you could defend yourself before being accused.

My life is ruined, my own parents, siblings do not understand how this can be possible but are devastated to read about how easy it is to slander and quickly turn an innocent mother or father unjustly to appear on record as a criminal. The loss caused by false restraining orders perpetrated is so damaging on all areas on a persons life is incomprehensible.
My brother in law was falsely accused and has not been able to see his children for over a month. The accuser is facing jail time on a felony for habitual driving on a permament revoked license, that she lost because of DUI. She has not hidden the reason that she wanted an injunction is to shave time off her sentence for being a (battered person). She went one step further and put the kids on the injunction. One day after she filed the injunction, she dropped off the kids to the wrongly accused. If she was in fear of her life, and the kids. Why did she leave them repeatedly, until the actual injunction was served. I have watched a very loving, respectful and careing father goes through some of the most devistating time in his life. He has seen these boys everday of their life, and in one short second, being falsely accused, he can not talk, see or contact his boys. There is not money for an attorney, which the accuser knows, so he has to just hope what evidence he has, is not taken lightly. We were told that legal aid will not help the respondent, because they only get funded for the petitioner. This is just rediculous that a person can accuse any one, and they are quilty until proven innocent. What is wrong with this picture. The kids are the ones that are hurt in all of this. That is all.
Our son was used to get a child, bad parental agreement we couldn't afford to change, fishing, camping, hunting, overnight visits were banned so he ended up in court every other month defending his right NORMAL things with his son and always lost, he never got to have a say in any court proceedings. He even spent a week in jail for taking his son fishing on a boat. She tracked where he took his son and then wouldn't open the door to him thus causing abandonment charges and he lost. Missing Theron for 28 months now due to being normal. Our son is a mental mess now over missing his little boy. Why is the mother more important just because she carried the child! Do none of you remember having a dad and how important it is? Money, Money, Money. Sheila
My son is the victim of false claims of abuse..
He is loosing everything little by little.. Sir, Mam, my son just wants to be heard and delt with a unbiased opinion.. They are Judges.. correct?.
We can prove beyond a reasonable doubt, he is innocent..
This happens often in Mo. Too often..
If the petitioner is Wrong.. no accountability to them.. we should all be accountable to a Judge.. for making false statements.. I believe we call this Defamation of Character.. or Down right Slander.. a abuse of the system.
please please hear our cries and humiliation.. we are loosing all we have over something that can be proven false... Thank you for your time, Jasen Teel and his mother..Lisa Kennett. 636 -279-0717
Lets talk about this! The Pink Elephant in the room... needs to be addressed...
This is currently happening to me. My ex-wife whom i was married to for about 9 months is accusing me of extreme abuse, all of which is untrue. And she has called before, which makes it seem as though I continually beat her.
I m victim of domestic violence. my wife is blackmailing me , so plz stop the misuse of domestic violence law.other wise no one do marry.
I told my wife I wanted a divorce. She is controlling and manipulative, she doesn't always take her medication and it causes her a great deal of instability. She threatened me with bodily harm, I called the police to make a report. I moved out of our home and I took my property with me. I am now being accused of burglary. Something MUST be done to prevent vindictive people from filing false police reports of domestic violence.
My brother has never done anything illegal in his life and would NEVER hurt his wife or children. She continues to fabricate stories and have him arrested. A few days ago she beat him and the kids up, so he grabbed his kids and left to go stay the night at her mothers home, so she could help with the kids and he could work the next day. She was mad that he left so she cut up a t-shirt and called the cops. She told them that he stabbed her, even thought she didn't have a mark on her. He is covered in cuts and bruises from her. The police arrested him, denied him bond initially, then when they granted him bond yesterday, they put an ankle monitor on him and he's facing felony charges. She showed up at his work today threatening him. She wont stop with the lies and false accusations. She has proven psychiatric problems and is a known drug addict. SOMEONE PLEASE HELP!
My brother has never done anything illegal in his life and would NEVER hurt his wife or children. She continues to fabricate stories and have him arrested. A few days ago she beat him and the kids up, so he grabbed his kids and left to go stay the night at her mothers home, so she could help with the kids and he could work the next day. She was mad that he left so she cut up a t-shirt and called the cops. She told them that he stabbed her, even thought she didn't have a mark on her. He is covered in cuts and bruises from her. The police arrested him, denied him bond initially, then when they granted him bond yesterday, they put an ankle monitor on him and he's facing felony charges. She showed up at his work today threatening him. She wont stop with the lies and false accusations. She has proven psychiatric problems and is a known drug addict. SOMEONE PLEASE HELP!
After going though a bad divorce and her and the Jefferson county DA's office pressing multiple charges (33) against me with only her say on things and in domestic violence cases you are guilty until proven innocent, I had a gps device on my ankle for 2 years until I went to trial and took a plea bargain just to get over with all of this, having a gps device on your ankle all the time is a great way to force one to admit that they are guilty even thou they are not, just to end this terrible experience with the "Judicial " system and now I have a few misdemeanor charges against me! For a person who has served his country and was a voluntary firefighter and had never even had a speeding ticket in 48 years, this is very devastating!
I am a female attorney who became a victim of multiple false allegations of dv by my now ex husband, including felony internet stalking. This was a result of his belief of my infidelity and in contemplation of divorce. We had been married for 16 years, yet he convinced investigators that I had beat him on a regular basis! This outcry of victim-hood from a man who outweighed me by more than 60 pounds. The evidence? A report from our pc doc that actually weighed in my favor! Jefferson County spent thousands of dollars to investigate and prosecute this unbelievable case, including buying plane tickets for the "victim" and other members of his family (all of whom I met exactly twice in our 16-year relationship. The taxpayers should be informed of how their hard-earned tax dollars are so whimsically and dishonestly being spent. These people's chose not to show up for trial (wow, what a shock), depriving me of my much anticipated say in court. I wanted to clear my name in this public forum, but I knew they would never subject their lies to my attorney's cross-examination.
My question is this: where's MY shot at justice? Why is the D.A. not pursuing charges such as False Reporting against my ex?! Facing false accusations and formal charges will effect me for the rest of my life, and this evil family learned that all it takes is the point of a finger. I'm up for participation in your movement and anything else I can do to help fix this broken, jagged system. I hate the thought that Justice is nothing more than an illusion.
I am a female attorney who became a victim of multiple false allegations of dv by my now ex husband, including felony internet stalking. This was a result of his belief of my infidelity and in contemplation of divorce. We had been married for 16 years, yet he convinced investigators that I had beat him on a regular basis! This outcry of victim-hood from a man who outweighed me by more than 60 pounds. The evidence? A report from our pc doc that actually weighed in my favor! Jefferson County spent thousands of dollars to investigate and prosecute this unbelievable case, including buying plane tickets for the "victim" and other members of his family (all of whom I met exactly twice in our 16-year relationship. The taxpayers should be informed of how their hard-earned tax dollars are so whimsically and dishonestly being spent. These people's chose not to show up for trial (wow, what a shock), depriving me of my much anticipated say in court. I wanted to clear my name in this public forum, but I knew they would never subject their lies to my attorney's cross-examination.
My question is this: where's MY shot at justice? Why is the D.A. not pursuing charges such as False Reporting against my ex?! Facing false accusations and formal charges will effect me for the rest of my life, and this evil family learned that all it takes is the point of a finger. I'm up for participation in your movement and anything else I can do to help fix this broken, jagged system. I hate the thought that Justice is nothing more than an illusion.
The law is being hijacked by vindictive disturbed women, it's a great idea to have solid laws to protect women and children from domestic violence, but it should be a harsh punishment for anyone who falsely accused an other person to deter from the real abuse in this case.
I have been the victim of false allegations and it seems that some women have been giving a strong weapon to hurt innocent men with these laws . I find that women who often misuse these laws are also hurting the women who are really being abused.
I have been the victim of false allegations and it seems that some women have been giving a strong weapon to hurt innocent men with these laws . I find that women who often misuse these laws are also hurting the women who are really being abused.
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The Adkins Recovery Plan Against False Allegations of Domestic Violence
I have been falsely accused with no evidence whatsoever and they still believed her... I don't have a record and police were never called and not a single bruise on her but still thy gave her the restraining order and 5 months later she filed for assault and battery.
Innocent until proven guilty
When I contacted DSS on the mother of my children who for the second time abused my autistic son, she filed for a Order of Restraint and was given it based on using the word "fear". I have not seen my kids for six months that I raised for a decade. My life is ruined, I am fighting the allegations in court, and I am filing for custody and suing the SC DSS for unfound findings that were used against me. This MUST STOP NOW. I am not white trash I am a college professor and consultant for a state government agency and federal program and I love my kids beyond words, beyond life, and beyond the stars. Please deal with this, end this, and uphold the US Constitution as well as the Civil Rights and Liberties we all deserve. Please Help ME!
Both My ex Son inlaws are going threw Charges of domestic violence and even worse . with absolutely no evidence of the charges just all based on her word. and even a history of false allegations they are prosecuting the laws need to change. And if they make a false charge just cause they want custody of the kids then they need to do the time...
A) Attorney ASAP. B) Bail Out. C) Clear Name. This is the only way to avoid wrongful conviction after a wrongful arrest. Even if your public defender knows you are innocent, there isnt much they can do. They work for the same boss as the prosecutor, and that boss doesnt like to admit a mistake and have to pay out wrongful reimbursement. What alot of people miss, is the connection between the officials we elected and our harmless family member who shouldnt be in jail. The system is just, but human errors happen everyday. Can we maybe require more thorough investigations in this area? Or require a mandatory evaluation by an independant physician or psychiatrist before conviction? []Deace
I am a victim of this abuse of the law and I am a woman. After being beaten, abused, and tortured PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY, AND PSYCHOLOGICALLY I finally decided to leave the relationship. He told me "If im not with hime Im against him." In doing so my ex has made false accusations against me on police reports saying that I violated the OOP. I have him on a recording stating he lied about tge accusations and my attorney tells me I can't use the recording in court. He has a history of doing this to women. His sons mother got deported because he did the same thing to her. I am just hoping his past behavior will get me a victory in this case. I now have an ACS case in Family court and a criminal case and I am currently out of work from my government job. This whole thing sucks. What happened to innocent until proven guilty ? And how in a county like America a so called Democratic country could allegations stick and completely ruin a persons life. ITS NOT FAIR OR RIGHT WE NEED JUSTICE !!!
I've been a victim of revenge filled woman TWICE! They use the laws the punish good men because they didn't get their way! Mean while my professional and personal reputation is ruined. They post your record out for ALL to see once arrested but never post that the charge was dismissed or not prosecuted. Woman use this law to gain wealth and possessions while the man's life is ruined.
1. The VAWA, is a law that requires the mandatory arrest of a man .
2. The separation of him from his property without due process (Bill of rights).
3. The woman is then awarded with all types of assistance by the government to include, legal assistance, housing, etc.
Question: Why has congress made no provision for the man who is mandatorily been arrested? The wife has an opportunity to drain all the accounts and assets leaving the man homeless, broke and no legal aid. Why is a man not allocated housing & legal aid since all his property has been taken away from him without due process? Does the VAWA not believe in innocent until proven guilty?
Worldwide issue and requires attention of UNICEF
False allegations of child abuse is bottom line criminal. Not only does it harm the accused but also any children that have to endure such parent alienation tactics. These tactics are in fact emotional abuse on both the accused and any children that are having to endure such cruelty.
This has happened to our family 3 times and has kept my step-daughter from having a relationship with this side of the family for long periods of time. It causes undo stress and harm to all but the real abusers.
I was a victim of false DV allegations; my son and I are still suffering from it. His mother still harasses me years later, flaunts her ability to gain sympathy based on her "protected status". She puts on the false face of a victim in the public eye and the face of the "mentally unstable abuser" otherwise.
I'm watching my son being destroyed by his mentally disturbed wife and her mother who are actually the abusers. They are receiving all kinds of FREE legal aid while my son is being financially raped denied his children lost what little he had . He took a plea bargain after hiring a attorney who sat on their assets and waited for the standard plea bargain to be emailed to her. Even after she talked to the sister who was on the scene at the time of the alleged assault who told her that my son didn't do all that he was accused of she told my son she didn't have time to do anything with that information. The judge told him to sacrifice his toe or lose his leg. Well after all that the professional victim is getting all the free help she deserves as an "abused wife". What is so darn sad is that her and her mother are very aggressive people are prone to lieing and have very entitled attitudes and are totally backed up by the so called legal system. Once they have destroyed my son who will be the next victim I can answer that it will be the two children
Domestic violence laws are supposed to help victims. Not be misused to create them. Disgraceful.
You should be considered innocent until PROVEN guilty!! Many, Many, Many women are using these laws to help their divorce case!
I have been falsely accused of domestic violence by my wife that I am divorcing, she threatened to ruin my life unless I give her a big pay day and she said if I didn't she would say I hit her and have me arrested and charged and then she would get an injunction against me which she did. I have spent over 5k on attorney fee's so far and they have gotten the domestic violence case dropped by the state(they said no evidence ,plus I have a perfect past and the wife does not),but now I have to fight the injunction, all the while the wife lives it up in the home that I'm paying for and is driving my Porsche that I am paying for, while she brings a bunch of other men in to the house that she meets online all the while pretending to be a mother to her daughter. Even after all this is done nothing can be done to her she can't be sued or brought up on false charges or anything else, This is wrong and it hurts all the honest women that are truly abused. Something must be done..
I have been falsely accused of domestic violence by my wife that I am divorcing, she threatened to ruin my life unless I give her a big pay day and she said if I didn't she would say I hit her and have me arrested and charged and then she would get an injunction against me which she did. I have spent over 5k on attorney fee's so far and they have gotten the domestic violence case dropped by the state(they said no evidence ,plus I have a perfect past and the wife does not),but now I have to fight the injunction, all the while the wife lives it up in the home that I'm paying for and is driving my Porsche that I am paying for, while she brings a bunch of other men in to the house that she meets online all the while pretending to be a mother to her daughter. Even after all this is done nothing can be done to her she can't be sued or brought up on false charges or anything else, This is wrong and it hurts all the honest women that are truly abused. Something must be done..
My son was falsely charged with assault on his girlfriend by a nosy neighbor, at night, who heard an argument in the car and somehow claim his girlfriend's head was beaten on the steering wheel. When police came into their apartment the girlfriend denied any of it and she had no marks and did not want to say anything. However, my son was taken to jail and arranged by an activist female judge who is also a member of some woman's spousal abuse organization. This is wrong. My son's girlfriend wanted to say silent but the police forced her to say that they had an argument. This is coercement. My son's bond was also set at $10,000 and he has no priors whatsoever. He slept on the floor, on a mat, under constant fourescent lighting for 2 days. This has got to stop. He is being presumed guilty due to the abuse in the system.
Four times police show up and four times they find nothing wrong with her. Yet she continues to threaten me and now takes pictures of bruises she has done to herself. I don't know who to turn to. Everybody seems to be against me. I'm a loving caring father of one son I'm not perfect but I do take care of my family. I have two job she has none yet I'm still a bad husband.
It is so frightening what the mentally ill , as well as any coniving individual, can falsely use and get away with.
I was accused of domestic violence by my ex girlfriend. She claimed that she lived with me (untrue- we never lived together) and that I stalked her at work and got her fired (also untrue- she was fired for stealing) she claims that I followed her and her new boyfriend. The only problem is that I was on vacation in Mexico that week.
My lawyer got me out of it, but it cost me $2,000 in legal fees. The law says I can't sue her, so she gets away with it. Why is this legal?
My boyfriend was accused of beating up his ex-girlfriend. She filed a bogus Protective Order while he was away on a work trip and stole everything in the house they lived in together. Complete con artist. Found out later through investigations, etc. that she's done this several times before, and has filed TEN Protective Orders against different people. How is this allowed to go on???????
Going through this exact crap right now.
1) Been separated from my wife for two years; she has drug issues and mental problems. She's lost her job and has lived off/on with a felon b/f.
2) I made the mistake of allowing her refuge in my home, in part so she could get her act together (rehab herself physically and in the eyes of our LDS faith) and be a better mother to our teenaged daughter. Also didn't want her to be a further burden to her eldest daughter, 28 y.o. and expected her third child soon.
3) 'Wifey', while protraying this image of a good little LDS homemaker, sees the druggie b/f again on the sly. I find out, confront her, and tell her to get the hell out of my home and my life. I CALL THE COPS when she gets out of control, swipes my phones and damages my stuff to simply have her removed. THEY ARREST ME on a DV charge.
4) While in jail, wife makes further false allegation of an incident that supposedly happened two weeks prior. She KNOWS it's ********. DA files it any, can't get bail reduced at my arraignment two days later. Family makes my bail. As expected, have TRO.
5) I'm w/o my tools, business records, and many family heirlooms (inc. my deceased mother's 80 y.o. piano), and completely at her mercy while she squats in MY HOUSE.
5) Legal system here in Sacramento is AFU where DV allegations against men are concerned. "Presumption of Innocence" is thrown out the window.
6) Sad thing is, I (mistakenly) had given her refuge from druggie b/f who HAD beaten her, and she was advised to NOT press charge by LDS Church leaders (fearing retaliation). Yet same leaders, for all practical purposes, treat me as if I'm guilty. Call it "how to make another ex-LDS".
I was falsely accused , case thrown out, damage to my employment done, emotional damage done., financial damage done. All in a divorce when I have not even seen her for over 7 months, Belief in justice gone , belief in our system gone, If the charges we false and they were , the case was dismissed why wont DA's prosecute these case's as hard as they do for real victims. I know because they don't get money to protect the falsely accused , I'm all for protecting who needs it , but not at the expense of the 85% falsely accused . Something needs to be done for sure.
I was falsely accused of punching my ex girlfriend. I am her fourth false claim, and she just filed charges against another victim. Women like her are clogging the system up for real victims and destroying men's lives just to gain sympathy. This needs to end.
my ex husband has stated so many lies putting our kids through things they should not have to all because he views them as his property not as individuals who's minds are so easily shaped ages 4 and 5 forcing your kids to pick a parent!!!!!!!!! its outraging i personally have spent all my money to get a lawyer who has saved me so much headache with our horrible system. thankfully all my exs lies are being exposed one by one. and thats gods judgment not mine!!!!!
I was falsely accused so my wife can gain the green card
My friend is going through this right now. His wife has told so many outrageous stories. No she writes all over her Facebook page how he abused her. She is in the hospital for something completely unrelated. But tells everyone that she is there because he beat her. He has talk to the police. And they said that there's nothing that he can do but to file a restraining order against her and having his name drug through the dirt he would have to file a private case against her. She is in the hospital for a female issue but has convinced everyone that she is there because she was so abused. She is a pathological liar. Then she tells everyone that he is dragging her daughter through this by phone when in fact his phone has been shut off for a month. The more he refuses to have contact with her the more outrageous her stories get.
I was arrested by police officials on the word of a woman whom told me, " Your are going to pay for this." I replied what are you tailing about. I'm here with a cab to pick up my girlfriend and you are intoxicated and in no shape to care for her.
She then had her son call 911 and I was arrested for doing nothing. The arresting officer took me into custody, I spent over 20 days in jail. When this woman went to a local bar and bragged about having me arrested, my girlfriend found out and had her go to my attorney and after paying over $2000 to get me out, I still have this on my record. This lady who accused me even had an ambulance take her to the hospital saying she had bruises which were given to her by her ex-boyfriend and any experience law enforcement officer or medical professional should of been able to notice the aging of the bruising. I was held in jail told felony charges would of been brought against me. Thank God this woman had a big mouth and bragged to a person whom my girlfriend knew well. After finding this information out. My girlfriend went to my attorney and had me released. I checked my records and it is still showing up as a domestic abuse case. This is an example of certain individuals taking advantage of a system which should not be abused. I have documentation to back up everything I have stated. Please feel free to contact me if any information is needed to show proof of my incident. More needs to be done to protect men from vengeful woman whom take advantage of a system which should only be used to protect women whom need this valuable help. I am all for protection of those whom need help. Unfortunately too many cases are being processed with the accused being charged unlawfully. It was obvious and no charges were ever brought against the false accuser. Where is the justice there?
Tommy Quesada
spouse was caught in multiple affairs with multiple men over a 4 month period,was falsely jailed twice,she has accused me of violent child abuse to include molestation of my daughters,has kept my children away from me for 4 years, and has destroyed my relationship with my daughters they despise and hate me.this person continues to get away with this
A friend is dealing with this now. He left his wife. She is telling the world he attacked her. He was 200 miles away at the time she made up this story. Sad that people believe it without checking facts. When one story didn't sound good enough. She changed her story. She hurt herself to get herself admit to a hospital. And he since day one has to document his every move. Not fair that someone can make up a story and the accused lives in constant to have to justify every movement.
I am dealing with this as I post with my to be Ex wife
I am a real victim of domestic abuse and these alleged victims have made it hard for me to deal with my situation. They should be ashamed of themselves!
A false accuser stole my life, my medical career, my very dignity. I was the one assaulted. I was the victim. First by an abusive woman and then by a system designed to destroy me without any regard to truth nor justice. I cry everyday. The "victim" goes out and parties and is happy that my life is destroyed. All I ever wanted was her to tell the truth; instead I was charged with a heinous life-ending crime. Instead of her telling the truth she then took out a protective order against me. A man who has never assaulted anyone. A man who always tries to do the right thing. A man who has never been arrested or been to jail. I have lost all faith in this world, in this system and in this country. Why did my government let this happen?
What a nightmare. Women get away with way too much!
I am signing this petition because my new husband is going through this right now with his ex-wife just because we got married recently and our expecting a baby, he did nothing wrong and it kills me to see a wonderful man like him go through this, he has to see his daughter with supervision and he would never hurt anyone, he helped me out of a bad relationship where I was getting beat on and treated badly.
I am going through a heck of an ordeal right now with my ex-wife...it breaks my heart because the only way that I can see my little girl is with someone there and I have done nothing wrong...please pray for me and my family to help me through this ordeal thank you.

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