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I fell victim to this same allegations and have been processed to be kicked out of the military and have trouble looking for work of Public Safety. I was not convicted of any offense. All because I simply chose to no longer be in the relationship with her. There needs to be a voice and there needs to be justice.
This bull has got to stop!!!! My sons in jail facing a year because of a lie !! What happen to America ?
This needs attention, there has to be consequences for making false allegations.
I was removed from my home after being beat several times by my wife and I finally called the police. She told me I'll tell them you hit me. And she did. I was taken to jail. We have kids and my 8yo daughter heard the entire thing. Divorced now and it's a complete nightmare trying to deal with her and seeing my kids. She's continuing the behavior because it worked for her.
I am severely paying for this DV charge even though I was not found guilty I have a hard time getting my job just because of a malicious bipolar woman that chose to make my life a living hell. A scam artist and she herself is actually charged and found guilty of dv and simple assault in the past. The justice system should atleast check their history including their aliases and charge them for slander!!
Normally this sort of thing would catch my eye. And i wiuld think "those poor saops are trting to get out of their classes" or whatever the punishment was for beating their wife.
But not today

My name is Jeffrey Wayne Howard recently I was in the newspaper in Monterey County as a high-profile domestic violence suspect. You see my live in girlfriend and I were fighting a routine thing. Here's the history we live together for a year or so several months ago we broke up or I broke up. I told her she had to move she refused to leave. I should have most of you out there with think when they read something like this that it was just a crock another domestic violence guy trying to get out of this. Well not so. She refused to leave I even had her served and recorded the service. But when it came time in the date came up that she was supposed to leave she cried and whined. Stating that she had nowhere to go except a woman shelter I got soft and didn't have enforced big mistake. A few days later her son shows up on my doorstep at 2 o'clock in the morning with a baby no jacket no shoes nothing. You got it he also needs a place to stay. Naturally I say will come inside let's talk about it. to make a long story short now there's three of them in my house and none of them will leave. And she has said several times she was going to have me thrown in jail for this and that. I blew it off leaving her just to be mad and ridiculous. Well she did she called the cops and told me I was beating her up whatever she said I heard about it on the news. What she said was I was chasing her around the house with a shotgun telling her I was going to kill her. Now I'm an ex felon in the state of California of course it was a long time ago more than 12 years. Nevertheless a felon in possession of a handgun any gun for that matter is an automatic 5 years now add to that another five years for discharging the weapon oh and wait we're not done yet because I have a prison prior we're going to add another year in addition. So that's quickly adding up to about 11 years and all that in this state because its violence is done at at and with all those points. I'll be in prison at level 4.
Well I'm 51 years old I had hepatitis C since I was 18 and didn't know it now its psoriasis of the liver and very shortly going to be. First stage cancer. Sorry there's a typo that's cirrhosis of the liver. So anyway the sheriff comes the SWAT team comes everybody and their sister and brother never comes this 30 cops at my house trying to negotiate with me and I'm not even there and I haven't been there all night.
So they send a sweaty man and realize I'm not there then I go to my mothers house and they send us what you mean there and realize I'm not there. Anyways it's the whole big old deal and this never even happened its all debauchery. Clouded by what I now know it is a very sick majorly bipolar woman. And believe it or not even as I write this this still in my house and living there.
Normally this sort of thing would catch my eye. And i wiuld think "those poor saops are trting to get out of their classes" or whatever the punishment was for beating their wife.
But not today

My name is Jeffrey Wayne Howard recently I was in the newspaper in Monterey County as a high-profile domestic violence suspect. You see my live in girlfriend and I were fighting a routine thing. Here's the history we live together for a year or so several months ago we broke up or I broke up. I told her she had to move she refused to leave. I should have most of you out there with think when they read something like this that it was just a crock another domestic violence guy trying to get out of this. Well not so. She refused to leave I even had her served and recorded the service. But when it came time in the date came up that she was supposed to leave she cried and whined. Stating that she had nowhere to go except a woman shelter I got soft and didn't have enforced big mistake. A few days later her son shows up on my doorstep at 2 o'clock in the morning with a baby no jacket no shoes nothing. You got it he also needs a place to stay. Naturally I say will come inside let's talk about it. to make a long story short now there's three of them in my house and none of them will leave. And she has said several times she was going to have me thrown in jail for this and that. I blew it off leaving her just to be mad and ridiculous. Well she did she called the cops and told me I was beating her up whatever she said I heard about it on the news. What she said was I was chasing her around the house with a shotgun telling her I was going to kill her. Now I'm an ex felon in the state of California of course it was a long time ago more than 12 years. Nevertheless a felon in possession of a handgun any gun for that matter is an automatic 5 years now add to that another five years for discharging the weapon oh and wait we're not done yet because I have a prison prior we're going to add another year in addition. So that's quickly adding up to about 11 years and all that in this state because its violence is done at at and with all those points. I'll be in prison at level 4.
Well I'm 51 years old I had hepatitis C since I was 18 and didn't know it now its psoriasis of the liver and very shortly going to be. First stage cancer. Sorry there's a typo that's cirrhosis of the liver. So anyway the sheriff comes the SWAT team comes everybody and their sister and brother never comes this 30 cops at my house trying to negotiate with me and I'm not even there and I haven't been there all night.
So they send a sweaty man and realize I'm not there then I go to my mothers house and they send us what you mean there and realize I'm not there. Anyways it's the whole big old deal and this never even happened its all debauchery. Clouded by what I now know it is a very sick majorly bipolar woman. And believe it or not even as I write this this still in my house and living there.
I was falsely accused of DV. I helped her obtain her immigration papers and 3 months after she received them she called the police over a simple argument. I had scratches, a busted lip , bight marks on my fingers and a swollen hand cause she thru a perfume bottle at me everything was visible officers took pictures of my injuries asked me if i wanted to press charges and still took me. She had no physical injures i was just holding her hand as self deference to prevent her from hitting me. Not only that she also put a temporary. TPO on me. I feel like wat she did was a fraud cause since she only recieved a 2 year temporary resident permit if i do get charged for DV she would recieve a permanent residency. I try to contact the immigration office and the only thing they told me was that the best thing i cold do was to annul my marriage or get a divorce and go on with my life. Sad to say but Im extremely disappointed with my country and their justice system.
When we start didn't know people who get a thrill on people's lives mentally physically without that person not knowing there colors can get away from justice system are slander there name dechacterized there identity the person they love so much get them in trouble when that person never been in trouble still finding themselves trying to set there goals and for that person who is prideful and feels some accomplishment in life is blind sided by the law and don't know******on her rights and AMENDMENTS TO THE CONSITITION Now finding herself being a lawyer and now changing her mind on what she wants to do in the next phase of her life remind you she has a baby with him and he has so much avatange than her being a more smarter convincing cause he done this to other victims before her he has insightful about the law he has a sister who works for a legal firm her boss is running for judge and he betrays himself as a father Away from his child due to mothers lies and mad cause he don't want her act knowing he is the abuser and prepatrator all long so please I need a break A T RUE BELiver no doubtful minds just a lending ear WHERE MY JUSTICE WHEN IS IT My turn for AIR, SUN ,HAPPINESS ,RESPECT
No such thing as innocent until proven guilty. Anyone can make up a lie, no evidence needed, and you can be thrown in jail with the only hope of getting your name cleared eventually, being to spend thousands and thousands of dollars on lawyers if you can afford them. I don't think this is how our justice system was designed to work.
No such thing as innocent until proven guilty. Anyone can make up a lie, no evidence needed, and you can be thrown in jail with the only hope of getting your name cleared eventually, being to spend thousands and thousands of dollars on lawyers if you can afford them. I don't think this is how our justice system was designed to work.
It has become ridiculous the people these laws were created to protect are now being used by vindictive women to cause pain to their exes and, or family members. They don't even have the burden of proof they just take them at their word, which can be nothing but a bunch of lies. It is a great way for a vindictive ex or soon to be ex wife to deprive their spouse of visitation with their children. It is sad that a law meant to help people who really need it is being used for malice.
my fiance was falsely accused by officers for domestic battery with two witnesses and put a stay away order on him him now he is the only person I have and they are saying it could take up to 3 months to get that order released I have hired an attorney but I want more help than just this gentleman
The hipa laws in this country need to be changed. Having a mentally ill family member that brings false charges against you can reek havic in your life. All the statements made were false. Even so, it has cost me financially and emotionally. No one seems to care.
Please help me!!!! No evidence against me... she did it on purpose
Please we need your help, children lives are being destroyed simply because of greed by these accusers, these children become fatherless, and soon become indigent or delinquent of society,
They don't have a father figure im their lives because those women are using the law to further their agenda for one reason or another against someone they once love and feel no longer the same. I have a lot to say , i wish one day , you invite
to speak. After 25 years of marriage i will be delighyed i
There is not a quality worse than being a liar. Honesty is the best policy...some people never change...once a liar, always a liar...
I was just released from jail on a 24 hour hold because of woman was being vindictive cuz she was mad at me and made a false police reportI am self employed and I lost a brand new contractor because I was in jail instead of being on his job to put a roof on for him
Not only women but anybody can cry wolf. A person just has to say that they're in FEAR for their life,then call some want to be attorney and boom your hit with a TRO.Face it, the economy sucks, so allot of people have to move back home.Like a daughter moved back in with her mom. If two or more people live under the same roof their is a chance of arguing .Everybody has different beliefs, and just because a little yelling and screaming arises should not be grounds for a TRO. Now you have a daughter that moved in with her mother because of hardship ordered out of the house with nothing and has to switch into survival mode.Which means she might have to turn to crime in order to eat or have shelter.This is what happened to a friend of mine that I use to date back in high school.Once again these restraining orders, protective orders are handed out like bingo cards. Whoever wants one can get one.At least a back ground check of the defendant to see if their are any signs of violence.
After being in a relationship with a pathological liar and opportunist who happens to be mother to one of my sons. I have been through arrests that were inflated due to lies of domestic violence. In order to get out of jail being impoverished I had to enter a plea. After entering a plea of guilt so that Childrens services taking my son I was released. When my son's mother realized that I was not intending on pursuing a marriage with her propagated another arrest against me. Swat team extracted me from the house based on (pleasing to a prior offense) violating my civil rights and incarcerating me in the excess of 50 days and not hiring an attorney to represent me. All of my evidence wasn't presented in open court to face my accuser. Instead I was scheduled to a hearing in domestic relations court where the judge allowed my accuser to read her testimony off a piece of paper. While in this court I asked my accuser to confess to an account of her saying that "I'm emotional and can rally the troops and hang someone at the stake!" She admitted and the judge in this court still ajudicated a CPO of 5years against me to stay away from my son 400 ft. I was returned to county, and have written down many other accounts in my defense, and had motorized affidavit for court. Common pleas court judge dismissed my charges without prejudice, and I was released from jail (homeless). My accuser moved to Seattle ,WA and how I found this out after a year of freedom. She had her father contact me for the purpose of calling my son who is upset and depressed wanting to know where I am. I contacted the court and was told that the CPO was against me and not my accuser. My accuser then began contacting me via VIOP services (voice over internet protocol) and I haven't the resources to hire my own counsel let alone present my evidence to the various courts that supports my rights being violated.
We tried to help my brothers girlfriend by giving her a place to stay when she had nowhere else to go. There were rules that she continued to break. When my brother finally told her to leave, all she had to do was to falsely accuse him and the police and justice system has treated him like a full on abuser. My brother has never done anything but try to love her - love - the bad apples are now taking away our right to love and to care about our fellow human being. How fair and "free" is that?
I've been falsely accused in Numerous cases by an ex girlfriend that plead guilty to stalking and harassment charges(stalking me) and failed urinalysis for crystal meth but for some reason the DA in Albuquerque keeps filing charges.

I've been found not guilty by a jury in one so far. The system is completely broken. The detective that investigated the case even testified in all of the pretrials in my favor but they are just out for blood.

The legal fees to try to fight and keep my freedom have exceeded $40k and are only rising.

I've lost work, been slandered in public in someones sick obsessive game. Now i'm at risk of going to jail for the rest of my life because I wont plea out for crimes I didnt commit.

I wish someone could help me make the state of New Mexico, City of Albuquerque just attempt to seek justice.
This has happened to my husband because of a quick fling,now he has been in jail for 90 days and we don't know when he will be released falsely. accused of aggravated battery and aggravated stalking.Public Defender is not telling him anything.I have called the police on this girl at least 5-7 times for criminal trespass,nothing has happened to her just him arrested.
You have allowed us to share our stories, our feelings and given hope that something might actually be done. Yet recently I am left to wonder. I notice other posts are allowed that do not specifically have to do with False allegations leading to PFA's . We have given you our names and e-mail addresses. Please share more with us!
I am a victim of VAWA.
In Feb of 2011 I left my then wife because she is a full blown alcoholic. From Feb to May I had my 3 year old son almost every night, because this was her opportunity to party 7 days a week. Until one Sunday night he cried because he didn't want to leave my house..
After that I was blackmailed by having to pay her to see my son. She called me one afternoon and asked if I wanted to take him that evening. I said of course, and immediately drove over there. When I got to her house, she had changed her mind. She told me I couldn't have him. This was the 4th time she had done this to me. So I was standing on the parking 50 from her standing at her doorway. I calmy asked her 3 times to please let me have my son so I could leave. She repeatly said no. So I told her I am sick of this s**t, I'm going g to take you down in court you bi**h. I got in my truck and went home.10 min later I was arrested for a verbal domestic assault. I shouldn't have called names but there was no abuse or threats. She made up a huge lie to the police and I didn't even get a chance to defend myself or tell them what really happened. So after 28 weeks of batterers edu action classes, 2 years probation and thousands in fines and court costs. I am a convi ted domestic abuser and can no longer carry a gun.
Was need to change and these false accusing woman are only hurting other woman who are really being beaten and abused. Very sad
It's a terrible thing!
As a recent victim of a false accusation. I am a complete and total pacifist and my female roommate does MMA and taekwondo. She tried to get me to put gloves on and hit her, but I completely refused. So now she drums up this fabricated domestic abuse charge on me which stands to ruin my entire future. My employer can simply put a freeze on my salary because I will soon be un-employable.

I believe she also did this to her ex which is a manager in an IT department at a major university.
I myself am currently being victimized by false allegations of abuse from a deranged and vindictive ex-girlfriend that I tried breaking up with for months.
This is occurring ...........
My friend is being accused of domestic violence, assault with a deadly weapon by means of HORSE, yes, a HORSE. There were 7 witnesses including myself. This poor man was stripped of his rights to see his children no questions asked (the accuser placed a 50B against him along with the other charge) and he lost his job because he was in jail! Other than exchange of a few choice words he direct her (verbally) to leave his property (did I mention 7 witnesses). She left without a hair on her head out of place, went to work then called the ambulance to come get her claiming he knocked her down with the horse (I state once more, SEVEN witnesses). Its sad that someone is arrested simply for trying to do the right thing and avoid conflict. Its unfair that the law immediately takes the accusers side without even so much as a statement from the accused. Its people (men and women) such as this accuser who cry wolf and discredit those who are truly being abused and need the protection of our law enforcement officials. On Wednesday we will all join in court to waste everyones time, money, and resources to fight a ridiculous case all because the accuser was angry, jealous, and determined to make this mans life a living hell while another lady/gentleman/child sits and waits through this needless drama so their REAL story can be heard.
I was falsely accused of Agg. Assault Deadly Weapon Date/ Family/ House, here in Denton County Texas. I was sentenced to serve 9 years in T.D.C.J. on a dismissed cause number. I wrote two 11.07 Writ of Habeas Corpus to no avail but "dismissed without written order" I am so innocent of this charge it is sickening to reflect on the Farce I endured! If anyone reads this that can help me please feel free to call me at 940-442-7320 or E-mail me at brendan_schroeder@rocketmail.com. Thank you for your time.
Its happening to me now. I am disabled but do not collect disability yet. I've also suffered from depression most of my life. Just turned 49 and will be homeless in two weeks, a month before court. In florida even as a veteran I have no say. This is more then I can bear. I've been thinking about killing my self for eight years, I guess its time now and maybe it will help change the law.
I know someone in jail on this date vecause he had his friend serve ex-wife divorce and parenting plans today. She have been calling him and my phone, beligerent etc.. she call the police and said he beat her and threw her down the stairs. He ask the police to look at her fir bruises and that will prove he did nothing. The police drew there guns in him because she lied. The kaw is not fair. The woman need to pay the price too.
I am pretty sure that my girlfriend is trying to bait me for a domestic violence situation. She has threatened to call the police and even stated, "I can end your career if I call the police". i have not touched her except when she has scratched and pushed me. Even then, I only moved her away. Women must stop this double standard!!
UNTIL IT HAPPENS TO YOU U WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND THE IMPACT IT HAS ON YOUR LIVES AND FAMILIES.

HOW DO U REALLY PROVE THREAT WHEN THERE EVIDENCES ONLY BACK AND FOURTH OF CUSTODY ISSUES
This ruins lives!
Why do we have to take legal action to establish our rights anyway? Why aren't they implied once paternity is established? This is all huge outrage!!
I hope this law incudes accusations of Child Molestation also. This is another tactic used by spouses to get revenge. These accusations are worse than Violence accusations because once accused your life is over.
I know someone in jail on this date vecause he had his friend serve ex-wife divorce and parenting plans today. She have been calling him and my phone, beligerent etc.. she call the police and said he beat her and threw her down the stairs. He ask the police to look at her fir bruises and that will prove he did nothing. The police drew there guns in him because she lied. The kaw is not fair. The woman need to pay the price too.
My bro is the victim 15 plus times and all TRO denied. He has the FRO but as long as she is able to call law enforcement and say false allegations the family has to suffer. My bro gets locked up and we have to post bail every time. He's the victim here but even with his FRO he is losing and now it cost him his job. Please change these laws.
Make this stop. It is absurd, and sexually biased. This is a serious issue.
I am a victim of my wife falsely accusing me of domestic violence after it was her whom assaulted me. It is a living nightmare everyday of my life and I pray to god that he keeps me close to whom in my time of injustice. My wife is an evil vindictive woman who only wanted to ruin me because I was leaving her tired of her abuse!!!

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