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VAWA is being misused.
the madness has to stop , our children are being harmed by our family court systems,
Make it punishable!
Make it illegal to make false allegations. I think this would make someone think twice before doing so. Whatever happened to guilty to proven innocent?
Lost my home and children to false accusations
MY WIFE ATTACKED ME IN OUR GARAGE AND BIT MY ARM HARD ENOUGH TO DRAW BLOOD. I DID NOT STRIKE HERE AND SIMPLY PUSHED HERE AWAY AS IT REALLY HURT. WHEN THE POLICE SHOW UP AFTER HER TEENAGE SON CALLED 911 WHEN HE HEARD NOT SAW US ARGUING SHE SAID I WAS SHOVING HER AROUND. THE POLICE ARRESTED ME AND CHARGED ME WITH DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. WHEN I ARGUED WITH LAW ENFORCEMENT THAT SHE SHOULD BE CHARGED WITH BATTERY FOR BITING THEY LAUGHED AND SAID THAT THE D.A. MIGHT DO IT LATER? I HAD TO HIRE AN EXPENSIVE ATTORNEY AS I AM A FEDERAL FIREARMS DEALER. ULTIMATELY THE CASE GOT PLEAD DOWN TO COUNTY DISORDERLY WITHOUT THE D.V. INCREDIBLY NOTHING EVER HAPPENED TO MY SOON TO BE EX WIFE!
Stop the unjust treatment of men by unscrupulous women
I am a victim of false accustations as stated above
I am a grandmother of three beautiful granddaughters that was falsely accused for stalking by my mentally ill daughter. She happens to be the mother of my grandchildren. A Restraining Order was granted even though there were no police reports, witnesses or any evidence what so ever! Just a way to keep me out of her life with "at risk" children who are being isolated from ALL family members! The last time I seen the children briefly, the 10 year old told me she wanted to commit suicide! It's pretty sad that I can't do anything about it due to false allegations and a bogus Restraining Order granted! What a waste of tax payer money and it's time to begin prosecuting the ones that make these false allegations!!!
It's time to prosecute to false allegations, to many liars are making a mockery of family law.
When I was a kid in MD they done nothing for the abuse my dad did to us kids and mom. Now my son is dealing with being falsely acused of DV. The female even sent my son text that he never touched her. But that she was going to lie. Now he's fighting it in courts. How is this rite. Something needs to be done. Abuse isn't always a male on female. This girl is mad that he wanted to move to get away from her abuse. So she turned it around to punish him. This is sick and abuse of the system.
The Violence Against Women Act should be renamed the Intimate Partner and Family Violence Act. The VAWA inaccurately assumes universal male power and guilt while assuming universal female weakness and innocence. These assumptions are predicated on the Duluth Model of Violence conceptualized by anti-male extremists. Current VAWA components prevent unbiased intervention and investigation by law enforcement officers as well as promote judicial/procedural bias in the courts. Of particular concern is the exclusion of male victims and female perpetrators from recognition under the law's implementation clauses. Examples of critically unjust clauses include the primary aggressor and mandatory arrest clauses.
I had to sue local law enforcement in Federal Court over this issue. I was the victim but the police arrested me. It ruined my life. I immediately lost my job. The false accuser stole or destroyed almost everything I owned.
I post this http://youtu.be/l523XAgv_vc to inform the public about the current antiquated alimony laws still in existence around the country. This is my alimony horror story. In the no fault divorce state of Florida, the ex had many adulterous affairs with other women (while pregnant with the second and last child) and including her incestuous relationship with her own 20 year old female cousin. In 2003 she formed Tampa Chaverot-Jewish Lesbians of Tampa Bay http://members.tripod.com/sherylk_/tampachaverot/i... while we were still married. Then, she gets rewarded for all this and her changed sexual orientation with lifetime alimony in 2006 by the Hillsborough County Court (Tampa Case No: 05-DR-013627 http://opencourtrecords.org/case.php?id=3795300) and I get punished financially. How is this right and just? It certainly isn't and the time to fix such an injustice is now. The duplicity continues and she blogs and writes as well as conducts her day to day life under an assumed last name, only using her legal last name on the driver's license and to cash the hefty checks I write. If you are outraged about this avaricious hypocrite, please get involved to fight the unjust alimony laws around the country. There is no reason why a judge can't order her to return to the workforce. She is a four year university graduate. The children are adults and no longer living in the home. There's no reason why an able bodied, healthy, educated woman can't be instructed by new law and guidelines to fully financially support herself. In a case similar to mine, a man paying lifetime alimony to his lesbian ex-wife had the alimony award overturned. A Minnesota court held that the “defendant’s post-decree lesbianism is a material change in circumstances which justifies the termination of alimony.” The case is Anonymous v Anonymous, 5 Fam.L Rptr. (BNA) 2127 (Minn.Dist.Ct.15 Nov 1978). Read the article here: http://news.google.com/newspapers…
This key point should be addressed in all proposed alimony reform legislation. Expanding the definition of "change in circumstances" beyond the financial to include a change in sexual orientation or gender will make the criteria more relevant to today.
While the contemporary picture of marriage may be changing, when we divorced in Florida, marriage was between a man and a woman. Currently sexual reassignment surgeries are becoming more common place. Why should a spouse who believed they were marrying someone of the opposite sex, have to support that spouse who changes their gender or sexual orientation and redefines the marriage? The traditional marriage is broken through no fault of the other spouse. This is not like a couple who "fall out of love" or have grown tired of one another.
Florida lawmakers should take into consideration this new reality and the changing landscape of marriage and reasons for divorce. Granting lifetime alimony to a spouse who changed sexual orientation or gender is absolutely an injustice. This needs
I'm a male victim of domestic violence who was falsely accused of doing what she did to me. She wrote in the police report that she was hitting me and she even admitted, under oath in the custody hearing, that she only filed charges against me to gain leverage in custody. In the same hearing she admitted to assaulting me and our kids. The police and courts refuse to charge her.
We need to have a system in place where a false accusation carries the same punishment as the crime falsely alleged. Until the system is changed, judges, therapists and lawyers will always take the most profitable side. I could prove the accusations of violence to be false and unsubstantiated (photos) and yet, I basically lost my savings and my children to a mother who is a narcissistic parental alienator. I received an unjustified and fabricated restraining order after I had emailed and asked the mother for a custody schedule since she did not let me see my children anymore. I have never been violent in my entire life!
False allegations of sexual assault, domestic violence and child abuse are favored weapons in contentious divorce and child custody cases. False accusers are rarely, of ever held accountable, even after destroying careers and lives of decent people.

Through the course of my divorce, my former wife alleged not only domestic violence, but rape, leveraging her false allegations into a position whereby my own privately hired attorney counseled me to accept an unfair parenting agreement and divorce settlement. It did not end ther. On account, as I was separating from the US Army, her allegations were used to revoke my medical retirement for combat related injuries, while I was investigated for these falsified clams. Not only did it destroy my perceived character but hindered the continuation of my medical treatment, and planning for a post military career. The investigation has been concluded, after seven months, however I am still awaiting new retirement orders, at the expense of tax payer money. The cost of this ordeal has been unfathomable, and solely based on the legal manipulation of an unscrupulous individual attempting to gain an unwarranted edge in divorce proceedings.
Do you know the impact of false accusations of any crime when it deals with a woman? As for me in my case i lose my clearnace, i lose my CCW (concealed weapon permit), I lose my job. Not including the cost of fighting the court battle. False accusations leads to a lot of heartache and emotional stress. Put yourself in any man position that was falsely accused.
I too was a victim of a falsely filed restraining order. Both filed only after seperating from 1st my girlfriend and again four yrs later from my fiance. Both filed only immediately before our first appearance for Mediation in family court, yet citing supposed incidents occurring more than a year before in each case. There is a need for these laws, but like candy with a child, the more these orders are just "handed" out the more they will be abused.
Thank you
Please help..I was arrested by police knocking on my bedroom door A DAY after my little 19 yr old cousin with a disturbed mind "accused me of abuse".. My cousin who is living with me and 3 other family members who is on house arrest mind you for 2 assault and battery's with a dangerous weapon "BB gun". I simply asked him after months of cleaning up after him to clean up his own messes and called him a lazy slob. He emediatly got defensive and started acting like a tough guy for no reason..Now I'm 27 and had my share with the law from crazy ex girlfriends and been threw the system already for false accusations. I'm sick of it can anybody help me out in anyway..I live in Massachusetts and not too familiar with laws. Thank you for your time and heart.. Justin
This is a very dire issue which the media and the American public at large have essentially swept under the rug. Innocent men are being black listed and ruined thanks to this shameless display of McCarthyism, and almost NO-ONE is willing to talk about it. God bless all of you for your support.
Please advocate for the women and men that are being falsely accused of domestic violence and having everything taken away from them for a crime they never committed. We need to protect these victims as well. You can lose your family, friends, job, finances and most importantly your personal and professional reputation. If you are in an unstable relationship and considering a divorce, please evaluate your situation and protect yourself.
I am experiencing a horrible with my soon to be ex-spouse where I am being accused of assault and now facing these charges. I have paid into attorneys who have done nothing to proof the false accusations that my ex made against me. I was the one arrested after being attacked with an iron, so now he is the victim.
Amazing how many similar stories are written down here and it shows a clear pattern that the law enforcement (what a joke) is completely biased to this subject. Prosecutors vowed one time in their life to represent the People but they are representing individual victims instead.

Not only the false victims should be prosecuted but also the prosecutors themselves who are deliberately telling lies to judges in order to get a conviction and boost their statistics of crime fighting. The real crooks are these prosecutors and the cops that serve them to produce DV statistics. If you want to investigate, we have a great example here in the county.
My girlfriend of 14 years is an insulin dependent diabetic. She was diagnosed when she was 9 years old. She doesnt take care of her diabetes at all. Takes insulin shots without checking her blood or eating which she has low blood sugars all the time. Sometimes I have to hold her up and keep her arms down because she hits me and starts yelling and crying. Last night she fell out of the bed on tile floor and hit the dresser. I got up and turned the light on to see what happened. She had her face down and backside up. I tried to get her up so I could giver her some drink/snacks to get her blood sugar up. She fought me every second. Hitting me and acting nuts. When she revives from the low blood sugar that I catered to her. Like many diabetics when they're blood sugar drops low enough and they start to come out of it they dont remember anything during the low blood sugar. She feels sore. So of course I was accused by her of hitting her. First she says she remembers it, then she doesn't but she feels soreness, then its not her neck its her back that hurts she claims. Smh. Now she is up and showing no signs of anything. She playing with my son and drinking coffee now. Yet she claims injury and is threatening to call the police. I have never hit my girlfriend but I guess I'll be a victim of "false accusations" and "being in love with a diabetic." Who is gonna protect me from having to go to jail, pay $$$, and having my name drug through the dirt? Nobody, thats who! By the way I happen to of told her Im leaving her and all this happens the following night. What are my rights? Who do I talk to because if I go to the police they will arrest me whether or not if she makes a fale report.
This has to stop. I been falsely accused so many times. I been locked up and lost time from work and I don't even wanna be seen because my name was in the paper with charges of D.V Just to go to court with bad nerves to hear the judge say, case dismissed. And she walks away like nothing happen.
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