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my wife is threatening to do just that. hope it doesn't happen, but if it does this might help with my defense I hope.
my wife is threatening to do just that.
My ex fiance did this to me multiple times. I got out of it. I am happier now, but still it messed up part of my future based on her false allegations. What she doesn't understand is that under federal law, I can pursue purgery charges against her for lieing to police and judges as I have proof against her on that.
Amen!!
When I served Divorce papers on my ex wife. She served me with a false Protection order. Multiple calls in saying I violated the protection order. Multiple calls to the police alleging false domestic. Abuse. And one call to the police saying I had pointed a gun at her threatening to kill her which resulted in me being taken down by the local swat team. During the divorce she claimed I had poisoned her in our marriage. Through all of this I was never arrested thankfully. But it caused me to lose custody of my daughter who I was taking care of as a full time stay at home father for 2 years prior to the divorce.

I lost my daughter and everything but the clothes on my back and I was the one who refused to lie and tell the truth and I was the one who was punished.

My ex who lived and did all of this to my was awarded my daughter, my house, the cars and everything else. The more she lied and cheated the more she was rewarded. This needs to stop. And this needs to be addressed to stop rewarding those that make false allegations. They should be forced to pay damages court costs and attorney fees for those who are the targets.

Thanks for your time.
John Kilene
This happened to my husband by his ex. It took over a year to finally go to trial. He was found not guilty. Terrible to have all your rights taken away based on false allegations.
Prosecute perjury and false allegations.it is a crime
Domestic Violence is very real and the victims need the resources that have been set aside for them. Unfortunately, we are at a place where vindictive women can abuse these laws as a form of punishing their ex and/or maintaining full custody of the children. Something has to change! The current laws are destroying men and children. This is an important issue that needs to be addressed.
A very good friend of mine was arrested and charged with domestic abuse even though there were many witnesses who stated that his wife had assaulted him, however law enforcement and the prosecutor wore the witnesses down by telling them that if they went to court they were supporting the abuse of all women and that it would have a negative impact on their families, employment, etc. An order of protection was ordered, and he obeyed it to the letter, however his wife would call at all hours of the day and night to scream obscene rants over the phone. When my friend of over 20 years pointed this out at the hearing, of which my husband and I were witnesses to both "the assault" as well as the calls, the judge refused to listen, only to remind him that if he refused to plea and it went to a jury trial he could face jail time as well as hefty fines, however if he agreed to a plea bargain he potentially could walk away with a year probation and nothing more. Fearing the worst and not wanting to lose his job, he agreed to the plea, only to be slapped so hard with fines in excess of $10,000, probation, and forfeiture of all of his belongings. And all she had to do was say she was afraid. No evidence, no previous record, nothing but her word. She even admitted in court that she had a nasty habit of drinking to excess, blacking out, and even admitted to assaulting him on the occasions when he walked away because he didn't want to argue with her. He was left destitute and was also labeled as an abuser; a man who had never even so much as raised his voice! Her reason: he had said he wanted a divorce after he discovered she had been taking the mortgage payments for over 2 years and she refused to tell him where the money went. I am a child of domestic violence. I would NEVER belittle a true victim's pain and fear, but there is the unfortunate reality of women who knowingly abuse the system and view it either as a way to get back at someone or to create a victim status as a way of detracting from their own wrong doing. I implore you to enact legislation that would protect true victims of domestic abuse and send a strong message to women who are nothing more than opportunists that falsely accusing someone in an effort to destroy them for selfish reasons will not be tolerated.
Are we not all equal? Man, woman the innocent, the accused? The person with malice making a false claim has broken the law, wasted taxpayer money, made a mockery of our justice system! The true victim, the falsely accused has no means of being made whole afterwards. Where is the justice in this? Our Lady Justice is blind and holds a scale for a reason, have we forgotten this?
I was arrested not more than 7 days ago under false allegations since I wanted no further contact with my accuser! Held for 8 hours before Judge heard case and assigned Supervised ROR. It was another 9 hours before I was able to walk out. Now and until the case is closed; I am unable to leave the county for work or otherwise without prior approval from the judge, I am unable to move (within the county) without prior approval from the judge, I am unable to consume nor possess alcohol, I must check in weekly with the courts. A defense attorney has cost me $1,500 thus far, but potentially can total out at over $7,000. Advise received sickens me. Pleading Not Guilty will most certainly result in more than 1 year of these continued restrictions. An unbelievable system of Guilty until proven Innocent. Please help!
Lives are being ruined by manipulators! Sadly the judicial system is being used to assist these liars and the way the laws are set up actually incourages this behavior. Civil rights and Constitutional rights are constantly being violated. This has to stop!!
So many illegal women are using this law to become legal and they're putting good men behind bars. Shame on the U.S., for allowing this to get out of hand!
People who false report should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law! My aunt has false reported my mother for abuse of me, my aunt for abuse of my cousin, my other aunt for abuse of her 2 kids, me for abuse of my daughter & numerous neighbors. She uses it as a way to get revenge upon people & recently told her own daughter if she was next! It's sick & wrong & there is a history of proof that she does this yet nobody does anything about it! She's free to wreck any life she wants! Her & people like her need to be prosecuted for using the system to get revenge! Pass this law!!!
The father of my kid did a false report ABOUT doméstic violence he also kidnapped my kid event number 150325-2551
Ok well I just learned that my wife has a warrant out for my arrest for domestic violence. However, I never put hands on her. What can I do?
This situation is also running my life.. My husband tossed a very heavy duty cell phone at me and it hit just right on my lip and split it causing stitches.. I told him run I already knew his this would go.. They made me take photos no matter how many times I said no.. Now 2 months later hubby facing two felony dv charges looking at prison time when ask I needed was an ambulance to get stitches... They have taken away my constitutional right to make my own decision.. He has to serve time for me having a few drinks and a lousy catcher? This is causing way more problems anxiety stress money depletion and anger than anything else my husband and I have been through... They are relentless.. This is no longer a country of democracy.. It is money and power driven through and through so for anyone needing an ambulance caused by an accident... Don't... Bleed out, stitch yourself, anything but that as they will ruin you'd and your loved ones lives.
My husband, who has deep emotional issues, moved out after knocking me down, only to return three weeks later with a TPO stating he was terrified of me. The only thing he is terrified are his mental issues never faced, and being forced to seek counseling or divorce, has hired the most unethical lawyer in town, who is increasing his mental illness by allowing him to ignore HIS self admitted problem and lie through his teeth.
This is true about women. My ex-wife try to take away my kids by lying.
My nephew was enraged by a non threatening text from me and came to my home and broke in beating me to the hospital..Broken ring finger and middle finger, banged up prior shoulder injuy.....And he filed an Order Of Protection against ME.....We go to court tommorow as I filed as well not knowing of his....BOTH were passed so I'm hoping with a broken finger and him BREAKING into my home they would understand that HE WAS NOT AT ALL AFRAID OF ME.....It is rediculious though how simple it was for him to get one on me..NO FACTS
My wife has made many false reports of DV as documented by the police and now as once before when she attacked me and caused injury I was arrested for defending myself while she goes free
My son was accused of domestic violence by his wife. She would call the cops and say little things like he pushed me,he hit with his hands. She built a case on my son just by her constantly calling the police. She had him locked up because she couldn't control him. She stated to my daughter that she got somebody that will make him ask right. She finally kept calling the police until she got him in jail without a bond. My son is a loving person and did everything for her she did nothing. This type of alligators should be stopped.
It's not right that the woman's word is taken and the males is just ignored. I feel so helpless because at any time she can lie to the police and I will be arrested
My fiance was abused by his ex-girlfriend several times. He finally got enough nerve to call the police after she severly beat him, she was arrested on two counts of domestic abuse and one count of disorderly conduct. One week before he is to appear in court to testify against her, he brings it up to her stating that they needed to talk about this!! She freaks out, turns everything on him and the next thing he knows he is arrested and accused of rape and kidnapping. He was aquitted of the rape, but was convicted of kidnapping and spent 2 years in a federal prison for her claims that he stood in front of the door and wouldn't let her out. The charges against her were dropped before he ever went to trial, siting "based upon the victim facing federal charges. The system is seriously not right!!
My soon to be ex-wife has cps snowed that I am a terrible person who beats her, I have never touched her our daughter testified she has never seen me touché her yet im guilty just based on her allegations, CPS has not attempted one time to interview me. They are simply going off her multiple phone calls to try to paint a terrible picture of me.
My son has been falsely accused by soon to be x and cps has not even given him chance, he is guilty just cause she lies and says so. The child even said she never seen him abuse her. I am so angry with the system and waste of money involved lying to officials courts etv
The laws are such that non-abusers falsely accused are having their constitutional rights violated while the supposed "victim" suffers no repercussions thus sending a clear message that this behavior is okay and will be tolerated. This country prides itself on freedom and justice for all, yet I can assure you that someone falsely accused feels more like a POW, trapped and mistreated by the very laws that claim to protect every American's rights under the US Constitution.
Restraining orders and orders of protection should not even be an option unless there is a plausible threat or history of PHYSICAL violence. Even then, the burden of proof needs to lie with the supposed victim and the accused should be able to defend him/herself prior to having their name added to a national registry for DV. Allegations of abuse are just that, allegations. We are supposed to be seen as innocent until PROVEN guilty. Stop allowing lying liars to use the system for their own personal gain. Not only are they destroying lives, but they are utilizing goods and services that are in place for those who actually ARE victims.
The laws need to be revisited and rewritten to stop allowing abuse of the system. Harsh financial and judicial penalties need to be in place for those whose allegations are proven to be false and those penalties should should carry the same zero tolerance policies as is placed on children for bullying; and I DO believe this is a form of bullying.
Just as with any misused policy/law/service, and there are plenty, the people cannot misuse it if the lawmakers don't allow it.
The laws are such that non-abusers falsly accused are having their constitutional rights violated while the supposed "victim" suffers no repercussions thus sending a clear message that this behavior is okay and will be tolerated. This country prides itself on freedom and justice for all, yet I can assure you that someone falsly accused feels more like a POW, trapped and mistreated by the very laws that claim to protect every American's rights under the US Constitution.
Restraining orders and orders of protection should not even be an option unless there is a plausible threat or history of PHYSICAL violence. Even then, the burden of proof needs to lie with the supposed victim and the accused should be able to defend him/herself prior to having their name added to a national registry for DV. Allegations of abuse are just that, allegations. We are supposed to be seen as innocent until PROVEN guilty. Stop allowing lying liars to use the system for their own personal gain. Not only are they destroying lives, but they are utilizing goods and services that are in place for those who actually ARE victims.
The laws need to be revisited and rewritten to stop allowing abuse of the system. Harsh financial and judicial penalties need to be in place for those whose allegations are proven to be false and those penalties should should carry the same zero tolerance policies as is placed on children for bullying; and I DO believe this is a form of bullying.
Just as with any misused policy/law/service, and there are plenty, the people cannot misuse it if the lawmakers don't allow it.
I am a former service member who was kicked out from false allegations of domestic abuse. It didn't matter I had witnesses every step of the way and could disprove time frames and events. I went to military legal, civilian legal, and have written Congress: they all tell me even though I did nothing wrong, there's nothing I can do the way the laws are. I had excellent credit, savings and investments, a career, a solid reputation and a bright future: all destroyed because of a series of false accusations meanwhile my accuser gets off with sympathy and uses documents resulting from her making things up as evidence. My education benefits, pay for the last days on record plus saved leave and liberty and much more. There is no incentive for accusers coming forward. My accuser said she was afraid she would go to the brig/jail if she officially told the truth which only made her go even further with grander accusations to ensure I could never rebuild my career. I've been denied a restraining order against a female who threatened my life with a deadly weapon. Nothing seems to be more sensational than a woman saying she is a survivor of violence; even when she is the perpetrator and victimizes others. The current laws do not protect victims: they only serve as tools for small time criminals to hurt the innocent.
This is what I'm going through right now. I'm 21 years old, I was living in Central Florida, my ex-boyfriend and father of my (now almost 2yr old) son, accused me of hitting him in the face when I was out one night. Him and I had split up and were staying together for the sake of our son, but I had told his father that I wanted to leave back to California (which is where we are both from and where our families are) at the end of the month of January 2015 with my son. He didn't want that and when I went out with my friend that night, my kids father got extremely drunk on Carhart wine, he somehow managed to bruise his face while I was gone, and when I was returning home the next morning, he called the police and then texted me and told me about how "I hit him". I was immediately arrested after giving a statement to the police, they didn't listen to a single word that I was saying to them, they didn't care about me. I'm a 5'3 106lb girl who at the time didn't work out or anything, my kids father is 6'4 215lbs. The bruise that was on his face all the way across the underneath of his eye and across his temple. I've never been in a fight but I'm pretty sure it doesn't look that way when you get hit in the eye.
No matter, though. I hired two separate lawyers because on top of him lying and saying I hit him, he said I hit him in front of my baby, which got me a child protective services case, then he filed an injunction and a paternity. I haven't seen my son since December 29th 2014, because he filed a false charge against me. This could potentially damage my entire future, and my kids father couldn't care less. This all needs to stop, this is happening to so many people all around the US. Police officers and gov. officials need to realize that sometimes people aren't making truthful accusations. Help innocent people be free and stay free.
Family brawls should not be classified as domestic violence.Women fight and/or instigate fights. The law needs to consider more than the accuser's word ie. how could she profit from a conviction. Will her divorce proceedings
increase with a conviction? What does her criminal background look like? Has she falsified information in the past for gain? Abuse should be punished not setups.
This petition is very true. It happened to me. I was falsely accused of domestic violence and immediately I was placed under arrest and the following days she obtained a restraining order to keep me away from my kids and to take control of the money. My life took a 180 degrees turn in a matter of minutes. I was without kicked out of my house and left homeless, without my kids and with only a bag of clothes. Fortunately I have a good profession and was able to hire a good lawyer that proved that she had staged everything and she lied under oath. I decided to go to trial and was declared not guilty of the charges. But in the meantime I lost one and a half years of full interaction with my kids and thousands of dollars and suffered medical problems because of these allegations. I'm hoping that members of congress take a moment to read this and truly take action against these injustices.
My Jealous lady friend was drinking and in a fit of rage caused by jealousy that was based on her imagination she whipped up on me and my car as she blocked me from leaving - As I pulled the propane tank away from her - She looked directly at me and screamed you're going to jail and she screamed and screamed - soon - the Florida Country Cops came and cuffed me - taking off to jail - put me into a cell with what looked like a Tattooed White supremacist and a huge Black guy. I was chained like an animal and taken before a judge this way. I was then released at 3 in the morning - they had taken my cash - removed fees from it for some crap - wrote me a check and released me into the night - No money - No phone - No car Nothing --- I'm a 70 year old man fighting cancer - - They bent my arms backwards so hard I think I have a torn Rotter up now --- I wouldn't treat a DOG this way!!!
I agree. Our justice system needs to be educated, from the police, to public defenders, to the judges. Too many people are arrested without definite proof, and no proof is required. I've seen this happen in my own family more than once. I will gladly sign the petition, but I want to also point out that sometimes, especially today, the female is arrested and falsely considered guilty, so it works both ways. I agree, however, that some mentally ill women who have had experience or have advice, use domestic violence as a means of getting the residence, child custody, etc. We need a complete overhaul of the police departments and the justice system.
On Valentine’s weekend, my ex called the State Police on me from the barracks, where we do our exchanges, and proceeded to tell them in front of our kids that I was stalking her, immediately after I had dropped them off following my weekend visit. While at the gas station, filling up my car to go home (I live an hour away), two state troopers pulled in behind me (driving separate cars) and questioned me. After speaking with me, they let me go.

In the past 16 months my ex has:

1. Filed a pfa against me, falsely claiming assault
2. Tried to have pfa extended for three years, falsely claiming stalking
3. Has tried to have me arrested on 4 different occasions by 3 different law enforcement entities.

I've never been arrested, yet nothing is done to her. The system is set up so that innocent men's lives are destroyed and their children that they love are taken away from them simply because a nasty and/or mentally ill woman makes a false claim.

I'm all for equal rights, and those equal rights need to be applied in family court. They currently are not. In family court, you are guilty until proven innocent, and then your still treated as guilty even if you prove your innocence.

Things need to change in this country.
I was wrongly accused of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE by PASQUALE CERASUOLO IN MICHIGAN! He called the police on me because I was fed up with his kids coming to me with HYGIENE, MEDICAL NEEDS, and finally the last time the child came to me crying so hard he couldn't breathe wishing people were dead just so the ABUSE would stop!!!! I touched his shoulder to get his attention because he was ignoring me. He walked away like usual. I sat in the living of course mad and I was arrested!!! Even though past CPS reports and the children even told him things!!! This needs to stop!!!! Ann-Marie Distefanis. 567-225-7789.
I believe that domestic abuse is wrong..however it is even worse when one is accused of false accusations of domestic abuse or any crime. It's wrong and those falsely accusing should make it right to those facing serious time for some thing they didn't do.
I believe that someone who lies about such an offense should have it put on their record the way a true criminal would have to. I also believe that women who lie about rape should have to register as a convicted 'Cry Wolf' Offender like convicted rapists.
Domestic Enemies Make, Support, Enforce, and Defend Un-Constitutional Laws.
Criminals and mental illness are NOT the majority of murderers.
America is the leading jailer in the history of all human civilizations.
Despite being Innocent over 95% are forced to plead guilty rather than go to trial.
At least 12% of People convicted of 'Serious' crimes are INNOCENT.
(Less serious crimes much higher % innocent wrongly convicted.)
In the 1990s, a federal inquiry found that DNA testing, then new, was clearing 25% of primary suspects.
America is NOT Free. USA Citizens are denied their Constitutional Rights.
Some Government & Legal Officials, and many Laws are domestic enemies, traitors, perjures, and in violation to the US Constitution.
Domestic Violence industry and laws are a Scam.
1 in 10 falsely accused of child abuse, sexual assault, and domestic violence.
Women perpetrate over 70% of interpersonal violence against men.
Women murder family members 60% of the time, while men murder family only 20% of the time.
Women use weapons in 80% of their assaults, while only 25% for men.
Up to 80% of domestic violence allegations against men are false allegations.
Women are 9 times more likely to call the police than men in domestic violence.
1 in 3, mostly men, are falsely arrested for domestic violence nationally.
Nearly 1 out of every 2, mostly men, are falsely arrested for domestic violence in N.D.
Law Enforcement Officers commit the most violent assault crimes, the most sexual assault crimes, the most fatal excessive force crimes, and police domestic violence is two to four times higher than the general population.

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https://sites.google.com/site/nodakwc/domestic-violence-reports-1/domestic-violence-reports-2015/domestic-violence-reports-march-2015

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My best friend in Boulder, CO is being brutally charged for a false allegation from his ex. The system is set up for him to lose in the face of an unheard of amount of exculpatory evidence.
I've lost my children my home and am constantly being humiliated and shamed while my son is with the abuser I filed restraining order against and he did one and lied
Yes, I fully agree with this, it seem like guilty until proven innocent. I am going through this right now with my child mother. She has a violent history in her past and present, also she has been lying on me every since I was granted shared custody 2012 and present. She knows how to manipulate the systems. This make me look like the bad person , and I am not that type of guy. I do like too spend time with my daughter and my family and working, the best way I can but that can't happen simple fact that I have bitter child mother keep filing false charges on me . I been fighting since 2012 when this case has started and still is 2015. Please sign off on this.

Thank You In Advance
I am going thru right now my ex lied on me she has a violent history been to prison she lied she know how to manipulate the system now she is the victim
got gun charges violent history no one
Your laws are complete and utter trash I am about to loose if not already lost my daughter due to crap laws made by retarded politicians I will sue every one someday because for one I haven't even been arrested and 2 local friend of the court took it into there own hands I am going to sue that's a promise
I have been a victim of fraud by in Illegal Brazilian woman who I met at a singles night. Came back to me with letter saying that she was pregnant and threats to marry her for 1 1/2 years to assist her in gaining citizenship. Against legal advise i let her move in as she was going to give birth to my child.. Lived under threats that I would never see my child again if i didnt do what she said on my couch for four years until mothers day 2011 when she told me she no longer needed me exposed a bruise on her leg and started laughing at me.. The next day I was removed from my home.. In court her story fell apart.. she admitted that all her id was wrong and testified that she was 6 different ages. Admitted that she had been consulting with an immigration lawyer when we met. Denied knowing that she could get her papers through VAWA. Admitted that she had researched everything that she needed to do to me weeks prior to her allegations. Turned in as evidence on her behalf the telephone number of US Justice department office of Women's issues.. Denied having Passports for my child.. Was caught four months later with fraudulently obtained Brazilian Passports after her Italian husband called me to warn me that she was planning on leaving the country. (also denied that she was ever married in court.) Brazil refused to help me. She admitted to lying on police reports, immigration forms, my childs birth certificate and court records yet nothing is done, I have been unable to get custody of my child,... She is a welfare queen milking the system. I get nowhere in family court due to bias... I am addressed as Sir while she is referred to as mommy.. Every word that she says in court is pure lies that I prove over and over again yet she has no fear that anyone will ever do anything.. She is also related through marriage to ex-county prosecutor. Fraud to the highest level.
The exact thing has happened to me. I was falsely accused, was physically struck by the "victim's" sister, went to jail, spent $1000 in fines and probation fees, lost my right to own a gun, and have a permanent scar on my record. For a crime I never committed.
It is a tragedy that the constitution that i have fought for has been put aside in the name of justice. As a military member i have an exwife that has put me through hell because of false allegations. Now that i have retired it is still happening. We need lawmakers and elected officials to stop playing politics. What if your exwife did it to you? We know politicians really dont care. I am the proof!
I am a victim of many false allegations and fines (bail money, lawyers, etc.). My son has been physically and emotionally abused his entire life (8 years). This needs to stop!

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