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My wife of six years filed a false allegation of abuse to obtain a protective order because I returned home to work out everything. She states I was there to ruin the child support & custody cases she filed behind my back and had called police prior to that and had cps involved after claiming I threatened to kill her (LIE) and once their investigation was completed there was a ruling of (unfounded).
So her next move was to lie about me pulling a weapon and locking her in our bathroom which then she went to the court and obtained a protective order allowing me to be removed without any clue of what just happened, and she never mentioned my daughter to the courts who was at my mother's for the week on summer break who is her step daughter, but did list our other two children
In the protection order who I cannot see now and I am out in the streets with my eleven year old daughter and have no help from any agencies.
Née court date was set to 12/2014 with courts having no knowledge of eleven year old daughter being victimized by my wife as well.
I was falsely convicted of domestic violence - my 10 year old son was taken from me and turned over to an abusive alcoholic ex wife. She used the system as a tool - it was very easy for her to accomplish her vindictive agenda. My life has been destroyed by lies and the court system.
I too have been a victim of false allegations and actually was able to show proof that no violence had occurred and no I ament danger to follow , so I was able to go home, but now , are u guys ready for this, my ex wife married this guy and I knew he was a bad guy but what am I supposed to do? We have been divorced for 2 1/2 years now and to be honest , I was missing her but never knew how to contact her without putting her in harms way so I wasn't able to contact her, I had givin up on those thoughts , but one evening I got a instant message from her and she was asking me questions and they started getting kinda personal , I kept listening and she asked me if I still loved her , and I said yes, she then asked , could she come home? I was really freaking out , I said sure , and she absolutely ran from that place to be safe with me and in the week of planning her move out from her new marital home , she was met by a police officer and was served a EPO, couldn't get non of her things and was put out in the street because this yellow bellied coward lied and said she slapped him, pulled his 14 yr old boy with major mental issues by the arm and said she told his twin daughter that she was ugly when she woreskeup, , if you knew these people , everyone would say really? No way , but yes way , the court system said they saw where more violence could occur so they awarded a DVO that lasts for 3 years and that means no firearms , and that means no hunting for my friend, so people of the earth , can u hear me ? This protection order business is a joke most of the time, there would be a lot less domestic violence if there was a Penalty for filing a fraudulent EPO, meaning if u file a fraudulent EPO on someone and they had overwhelming proof ur lying and trying to abuse the system, u could spend a week in jail urself, I think if that would be looked at by our elected leaders and make something have a consequence for ur actions , I'll bet a lot more men will keep the right to keep and bare arms and won't be takin away from there kids and some of these vindictive women and some me will get some of there own medicine and I think there should be some type of cost to following thru with EPO , that would stop a lot of wrongfully accused men and a few women for being victims of the upside down governmental jurisdiction in keepin a good man down and believe it or not women too cause there are little me that hide behind these epo's and only did the EPO so that he still had control over this woman, we are goin back to court to get the DVO reversed if that doesn't happen , we will go to the court of appeals and show this cowardly act that women play , I'll keep y'all posted to see if we can get this gals gun rights back b4 deer season, she has cried on my shoulder because her soon to be ex says he won't drop the DVO and that could be a reality but I'm hoping the people will see how badly this emergency protective orders are abused and used solely for revenge it isn't
A False 3rd degree Domestic Violence Charge ended in a "non-conviction" in court. However, my arrest was made public on Mugshots.com. I was harassed by strangers, denied apartment rentals, my name dragged through the mud.
My son was falsely accuse of domestic violence and the mother stated that she was afraid of him because he is so tall in height but yet this woman wants him to pick of their child outside her apartment..go figure. Just a way for some women to get back at men and get their way in court. Its awful and this needs to stop. This same woman has called my son's job and made threats against him yet he cannot get a PO.
I am going though this now. My soon to be ex-wife took out a dvpo on me (with false accusations) , i was served with it, went to court; she did not so it was thrown out. Then she went and re-filed the exact same affidavit and is trying to run it again.(she did it before in Pennsylvania and withdrew everything in court) any advice from anyone? How should i go about handling this? On top of that her boy friend and new childs' father who lives with her has/had a assult with a deadly weapon against her and last month a assault on a female charge... (who needs a dvpo on who)
DVTRO's and DVRO's, when used for "Ill Intent", Personal and or Vindictive purposes are some of the most devastating Misuses and Abusive of Protective Laws; complete Miscarriages of Justice
My big brother is going through this now i cant stop sheding tears because of the pain...i feel like the police need to start lookin at both sides instead of one..i really need help shouldn't no one be treated like this not even my worst enemy. ..heart hurts bad...
I had a false allegation of domestic violence ordered against me on June 19, 2006. It was based on lies, but the local sheriffs office and State Attorney's office didn't care that he was a covert lying narcissist. I doubt they ever heard of the term, in fact. I made the mistake of moving back in with him in September 2008.

Last year, on July 23, 2013 he, with the help of his conniving sister, literally abandoned me. Left me without transportation and tried to have the electricity cut off. However, the electric company told him it was unlawful to do so. I am disabled, because of him and have been fighting to get my life, reputation and sanity restored. It has been over a year and while, life goes on for him. I am still struggling from deep scares of betrayal, lies and his continued smear campaign against me.

I thank you for the opportunity to speak out and stand with other true victims of abuse. You see, it isn't just women who abuse the system, but men, as well.

M.E. Piccirillo
My son got temporary court ordered visitation with his son after his ex got pregnant by another man and took his son completely out of his life in August of last year. On second visit to get his son, his ex "claimed" he slammed her hand in the door. It never happened. I was with him when he went to pick his son up. So, it has been over a year since he has seen his son, aside from the first visitation in March of this year. He was found "guilty" by an idiot judge who didn't even take my testimony seriously and totally ignored his lawyer when he summed things up. My son has decided to pay his child support and drop trying to get visitation with him. He hopes that his son will attempt to see him when he gets older. He is eight years old and I'm sure he has very good memories of the family she has taken away from him. She is evil and I'm sure if my son continued to see his son she would claim the worst....sexual abuse. I wouldn't put that past her. She's the biggest liar and thief I have ever known. Next court date is December and charge will be dropped pending no contact with his ex. I despise this woman and her parents for doing this to my grandson.
Rainbow services of San Pedro Ca! You should be ashamed of yourself for taking advantage of woman's vulnerability with Gifts. I'm exposing this agency, you can get away with it but so long but when you mess with the wrong family, God will not let you mess with his children. they take these woman's story and turn it into life a threaten situation and make them do things like get a divorce file restraining order and file custody quicky within 30 days of being there. when these women come in they write a statement for them by copying pasting and if they don't comply with what they put in those statements they get kick to the curb, these women advocates use strong language that makes innocent men look like a monster in the eyes of the court system. It doesn't stop there those women that have children they bribe these children with gifts by telling them to say that their dad is a bad man and he will hurt you and your family. You wouldn't believe what I am finding out from these woman that were at rainbow services. This agency is destroying families and making these innocent men look like monsters. I am now coming out and Telling my story. I am suppose to be hero in the eyes of this country fighting for this country. And this is how I am treated I feel like a refugee in my own country.

I will not sit back and allow you to destroy my family and my character. I am putting it out on here hoping that people will see my truth and join in with me and help me fight back. And yes you men that are out there you can come swallow your pride and do something to change this system. Together we can make a change.

I will continue to pray for this agency!
I was taken to court back in 2013 I believe by the House of Ruth Baltimore. District Court in Catonsville, Maryland. My ex wife angry that I divorced her and later remarried, claimed that back on 2001 I beat her up while she was pregnant with our oldest daughter. Funny thin is she was only pregnant for 17 days in 2001, while I was in the field for the Army as our daughter was born Jan 2001. She claimed she feared for her life, when I simply asked to pick up our daughter's an hour earlier for what she claimed was no good reason, yet she never asked me why or allowed me to explain why for my request. She even had her then bf come to her house to stop me from getting my girls. The police I called treated me like I was the bad guy and even thought her bf was their father. I explained to the officers that I'm a career Soldier and there was no way I would jeopardize that.

Any way in court, I provided phone records and text messages which pointed all to the contrary of what my ex was trying to say. The judge listened to a voice mail on her phone of someone with a Jamaican accent. I'm not from Jamaica or know any one from there. She also presented a typed up word document claiming I typed it or had someone type it and place it on her car. She claimed she made a report, yet police never once came to my house to talk to me to see about my side of the story or to even see if I had an an explanation.

She claimed she was so frightened by me, but yet we remained together another 11 years after her claim of the 2001 so called incident. We had another child together in 2007, bought a house together in 2007 or 2008. We even drove cross country from WA state to Maryland in June of 2006.

I ask you does this sound like a woman who was afraid or had a reason to be afraid of me. Nonetheless, the courts believed her story with the corrupted evidence she had. Oh, I forgot to say that the typed up letter was not even signed had not signature or physical handwriting on it what so ever.

I was mistreated by the court and my military record and accomplishments were in jeopardy.

Later I was told that this District Court was under scrutiny for releasing people or not granting Protective orders when a woman makes a claim.

In my opinion I was used as an example. I'm black, she's asian, and she claimed to be here alone with no family, when I was her family and she got caught cheating. My family took her in and welcomed her.

From the time she said I beat her up, my case was done. The judge heard everything her attorney from House of Ruth said, but was essentially than attentive to my attorney.

After the court granted her the false protective order. We immediately filed for an appeal. With the threat of me suing her for everything, a month an a half later she dropped the case. Now if she had nothing to hide, how come she just dropped it like that. If I did what she claimed, she would've had a strong case.

I ended up partitioning for custody of ou
in 2003 the Appeals Court in Massachusetts VACATED the 209 a order issued against me.(Szymkowski v Szymkowski) I am not an Attorney and represented myself Pro-Se I exhausted all of my savings in an effort to hold on to my Children. In the end when the Court Vacated the order my Children were completely BRAINWASHED by my ex-wife and her now ex husband and as a result I have never seen them again. Yes I won the Case but in the end I lost everything. My Story would make a very sad Movie.
I have quantifiable proof that the allegations made are false and impossible. Even proof where the plaintiffs statement changes 180 degrees from what she told the police officer vs what she used to get a PPO. Pure leverage in a horrible 7 year divorce. I heave never had the opportunity to have a hearing on this evidence. It is her only weapon she can use to get out of our signed judgement of divorce. But she obtains them with ease and no recourse or punishment for fabricating evidence. We need to fight back against the decades of "education" some women's groups have used to get the attention and ability to seamlessly get ppo
I am a victim of this very thing. 4 protection orders in the last 4 months. 2 days in jail. And all because she is afraid and I stated "I am coming for my son legally". I've been accused of gun violence, physical violence, and emotional abuse. These allegations are simply not true and as a result I am not able to see my little boy for the next year. The only crime committed here is gender bias and abuse of power.
Please this law needs to be re-evalulated it is suppose to be the right of us americans to be innocent til proven guilty, yet this is not how the system really works. Innocent people are spending time in jail for something for they did not do they are the victims here. While the sooo called victim pressin these charges are getting away with making the false allegations setting the next person up who gets into relatioships with them easier targets to have the same thing happen to them. When will it stop unless we the people and anyone we know let our voices be heard and put a stop to the ruining of the lives of the true victims.
I fell victim to this same allegations and have been processed to be kicked out of the military and have trouble looking for work of Public Safety. I was not convicted of any offense. All because I simply chose to no longer be in the relationship with her. There needs to be a voice and there needs to be justice.
This bull has got to stop!!!! My sons in jail facing a year because of a lie !! What happen to America ?
This needs attention, there has to be consequences for making false allegations.
I was removed from my home after being beat several times by my wife and I finally called the police. She told me I'll tell them you hit me. And she did. I was taken to jail. We have kids and my 8yo daughter heard the entire thing. Divorced now and it's a complete nightmare trying to deal with her and seeing my kids. She's continuing the behavior because it worked for her.
I am severely paying for this DV charge even though I was not found guilty I have a hard time getting my job just because of a malicious bipolar woman that chose to make my life a living hell. A scam artist and she herself is actually charged and found guilty of dv and simple assault in the past. The justice system should atleast check their history including their aliases and charge them for slander!!
Normally this sort of thing would catch my eye. And i wiuld think "those poor saops are trting to get out of their classes" or whatever the punishment was for beating their wife.
But not today

My name is Jeffrey Wayne Howard recently I was in the newspaper in Monterey County as a high-profile domestic violence suspect. You see my live in girlfriend and I were fighting a routine thing. Here's the history we live together for a year or so several months ago we broke up or I broke up. I told her she had to move she refused to leave. I should have most of you out there with think when they read something like this that it was just a crock another domestic violence guy trying to get out of this. Well not so. She refused to leave I even had her served and recorded the service. But when it came time in the date came up that she was supposed to leave she cried and whined. Stating that she had nowhere to go except a woman shelter I got soft and didn't have enforced big mistake. A few days later her son shows up on my doorstep at 2 o'clock in the morning with a baby no jacket no shoes nothing. You got it he also needs a place to stay. Naturally I say will come inside let's talk about it. to make a long story short now there's three of them in my house and none of them will leave. And she has said several times she was going to have me thrown in jail for this and that. I blew it off leaving her just to be mad and ridiculous. Well she did she called the cops and told me I was beating her up whatever she said I heard about it on the news. What she said was I was chasing her around the house with a shotgun telling her I was going to kill her. Now I'm an ex felon in the state of California of course it was a long time ago more than 12 years. Nevertheless a felon in possession of a handgun any gun for that matter is an automatic 5 years now add to that another five years for discharging the weapon oh and wait we're not done yet because I have a prison prior we're going to add another year in addition. So that's quickly adding up to about 11 years and all that in this state because its violence is done at at and with all those points. I'll be in prison at level 4.
Well I'm 51 years old I had hepatitis C since I was 18 and didn't know it now its psoriasis of the liver and very shortly going to be. First stage cancer. Sorry there's a typo that's cirrhosis of the liver. So anyway the sheriff comes the SWAT team comes everybody and their sister and brother never comes this 30 cops at my house trying to negotiate with me and I'm not even there and I haven't been there all night.
So they send a sweaty man and realize I'm not there then I go to my mothers house and they send us what you mean there and realize I'm not there. Anyways it's the whole big old deal and this never even happened its all debauchery. Clouded by what I now know it is a very sick majorly bipolar woman. And believe it or not even as I write this this still in my house and living there.
Normally this sort of thing would catch my eye. And i wiuld think "those poor saops are trting to get out of their classes" or whatever the punishment was for beating their wife.
But not today

My name is Jeffrey Wayne Howard recently I was in the newspaper in Monterey County as a high-profile domestic violence suspect. You see my live in girlfriend and I were fighting a routine thing. Here's the history we live together for a year or so several months ago we broke up or I broke up. I told her she had to move she refused to leave. I should have most of you out there with think when they read something like this that it was just a crock another domestic violence guy trying to get out of this. Well not so. She refused to leave I even had her served and recorded the service. But when it came time in the date came up that she was supposed to leave she cried and whined. Stating that she had nowhere to go except a woman shelter I got soft and didn't have enforced big mistake. A few days later her son shows up on my doorstep at 2 o'clock in the morning with a baby no jacket no shoes nothing. You got it he also needs a place to stay. Naturally I say will come inside let's talk about it. to make a long story short now there's three of them in my house and none of them will leave. And she has said several times she was going to have me thrown in jail for this and that. I blew it off leaving her just to be mad and ridiculous. Well she did she called the cops and told me I was beating her up whatever she said I heard about it on the news. What she said was I was chasing her around the house with a shotgun telling her I was going to kill her. Now I'm an ex felon in the state of California of course it was a long time ago more than 12 years. Nevertheless a felon in possession of a handgun any gun for that matter is an automatic 5 years now add to that another five years for discharging the weapon oh and wait we're not done yet because I have a prison prior we're going to add another year in addition. So that's quickly adding up to about 11 years and all that in this state because its violence is done at at and with all those points. I'll be in prison at level 4.
Well I'm 51 years old I had hepatitis C since I was 18 and didn't know it now its psoriasis of the liver and very shortly going to be. First stage cancer. Sorry there's a typo that's cirrhosis of the liver. So anyway the sheriff comes the SWAT team comes everybody and their sister and brother never comes this 30 cops at my house trying to negotiate with me and I'm not even there and I haven't been there all night.
So they send a sweaty man and realize I'm not there then I go to my mothers house and they send us what you mean there and realize I'm not there. Anyways it's the whole big old deal and this never even happened its all debauchery. Clouded by what I now know it is a very sick majorly bipolar woman. And believe it or not even as I write this this still in my house and living there.
I was falsely accused of DV. I helped her obtain her immigration papers and 3 months after she received them she called the police over a simple argument. I had scratches, a busted lip , bight marks on my fingers and a swollen hand cause she thru a perfume bottle at me everything was visible officers took pictures of my injuries asked me if i wanted to press charges and still took me. She had no physical injures i was just holding her hand as self deference to prevent her from hitting me. Not only that she also put a temporary. TPO on me. I feel like wat she did was a fraud cause since she only recieved a 2 year temporary resident permit if i do get charged for DV she would recieve a permanent residency. I try to contact the immigration office and the only thing they told me was that the best thing i cold do was to annul my marriage or get a divorce and go on with my life. Sad to say but Im extremely disappointed with my country and their justice system.
When we start didn't know people who get a thrill on people's lives mentally physically without that person not knowing there colors can get away from justice system are slander there name dechacterized there identity the person they love so much get them in trouble when that person never been in trouble still finding themselves trying to set there goals and for that person who is prideful and feels some accomplishment in life is blind sided by the law and don't know******on her rights and AMENDMENTS TO THE CONSITITION Now finding herself being a lawyer and now changing her mind on what she wants to do in the next phase of her life remind you she has a baby with him and he has so much avatange than her being a more smarter convincing cause he done this to other victims before her he has insightful about the law he has a sister who works for a legal firm her boss is running for judge and he betrays himself as a father Away from his child due to mothers lies and mad cause he don't want her act knowing he is the abuser and prepatrator all long so please I need a break A T RUE BELiver no doubtful minds just a lending ear WHERE MY JUSTICE WHEN IS IT My turn for AIR, SUN ,HAPPINESS ,RESPECT
No such thing as innocent until proven guilty. Anyone can make up a lie, no evidence needed, and you can be thrown in jail with the only hope of getting your name cleared eventually, being to spend thousands and thousands of dollars on lawyers if you can afford them. I don't think this is how our justice system was designed to work.
No such thing as innocent until proven guilty. Anyone can make up a lie, no evidence needed, and you can be thrown in jail with the only hope of getting your name cleared eventually, being to spend thousands and thousands of dollars on lawyers if you can afford them. I don't think this is how our justice system was designed to work.
It has become ridiculous the people these laws were created to protect are now being used by vindictive women to cause pain to their exes and, or family members. They don't even have the burden of proof they just take them at their word, which can be nothing but a bunch of lies. It is a great way for a vindictive ex or soon to be ex wife to deprive their spouse of visitation with their children. It is sad that a law meant to help people who really need it is being used for malice.
my fiance was falsely accused by officers for domestic battery with two witnesses and put a stay away order on him him now he is the only person I have and they are saying it could take up to 3 months to get that order released I have hired an attorney but I want more help than just this gentleman
The hipa laws in this country need to be changed. Having a mentally ill family member that brings false charges against you can reek havic in your life. All the statements made were false. Even so, it has cost me financially and emotionally. No one seems to care.
Please help me!!!! No evidence against me... she did it on purpose
Please we need your help, children lives are being destroyed simply because of greed by these accusers, these children become fatherless, and soon become indigent or delinquent of society,
They don't have a father figure im their lives because those women are using the law to further their agenda for one reason or another against someone they once love and feel no longer the same. I have a lot to say , i wish one day , you invite
to speak. After 25 years of marriage i will be delighyed i
There is not a quality worse than being a liar. Honesty is the best policy...some people never change...once a liar, always a liar...
I was just released from jail on a 24 hour hold because of woman was being vindictive cuz she was mad at me and made a false police reportI am self employed and I lost a brand new contractor because I was in jail instead of being on his job to put a roof on for him
Not only women but anybody can cry wolf. A person just has to say that they're in FEAR for their life,then call some want to be attorney and boom your hit with a TRO.Face it, the economy sucks, so allot of people have to move back home.Like a daughter moved back in with her mom. If two or more people live under the same roof their is a chance of arguing .Everybody has different beliefs, and just because a little yelling and screaming arises should not be grounds for a TRO. Now you have a daughter that moved in with her mother because of hardship ordered out of the house with nothing and has to switch into survival mode.Which means she might have to turn to crime in order to eat or have shelter.This is what happened to a friend of mine that I use to date back in high school.Once again these restraining orders, protective orders are handed out like bingo cards. Whoever wants one can get one.At least a back ground check of the defendant to see if their are any signs of violence.
After being in a relationship with a pathological liar and opportunist who happens to be mother to one of my sons. I have been through arrests that were inflated due to lies of domestic violence. In order to get out of jail being impoverished I had to enter a plea. After entering a plea of guilt so that Childrens services taking my son I was released. When my son's mother realized that I was not intending on pursuing a marriage with her propagated another arrest against me. Swat team extracted me from the house based on (pleasing to a prior offense) violating my civil rights and incarcerating me in the excess of 50 days and not hiring an attorney to represent me. All of my evidence wasn't presented in open court to face my accuser. Instead I was scheduled to a hearing in domestic relations court where the judge allowed my accuser to read her testimony off a piece of paper. While in this court I asked my accuser to confess to an account of her saying that "I'm emotional and can rally the troops and hang someone at the stake!" She admitted and the judge in this court still ajudicated a CPO of 5years against me to stay away from my son 400 ft. I was returned to county, and have written down many other accounts in my defense, and had motorized affidavit for court. Common pleas court judge dismissed my charges without prejudice, and I was released from jail (homeless). My accuser moved to Seattle ,WA and how I found this out after a year of freedom. She had her father contact me for the purpose of calling my son who is upset and depressed wanting to know where I am. I contacted the court and was told that the CPO was against me and not my accuser. My accuser then began contacting me via VIOP services (voice over internet protocol) and I haven't the resources to hire my own counsel let alone present my evidence to the various courts that supports my rights being violated.
We tried to help my brothers girlfriend by giving her a place to stay when she had nowhere else to go. There were rules that she continued to break. When my brother finally told her to leave, all she had to do was to falsely accuse him and the police and justice system has treated him like a full on abuser. My brother has never done anything but try to love her - love - the bad apples are now taking away our right to love and to care about our fellow human being. How fair and "free" is that?
I've been falsely accused in Numerous cases by an ex girlfriend that plead guilty to stalking and harassment charges(stalking me) and failed urinalysis for crystal meth but for some reason the DA in Albuquerque keeps filing charges.

I've been found not guilty by a jury in one so far. The system is completely broken. The detective that investigated the case even testified in all of the pretrials in my favor but they are just out for blood.

The legal fees to try to fight and keep my freedom have exceeded $40k and are only rising.

I've lost work, been slandered in public in someones sick obsessive game. Now i'm at risk of going to jail for the rest of my life because I wont plea out for crimes I didnt commit.

I wish someone could help me make the state of New Mexico, City of Albuquerque just attempt to seek justice.
This has happened to my husband because of a quick fling,now he has been in jail for 90 days and we don't know when he will be released falsely. accused of aggravated battery and aggravated stalking.Public Defender is not telling him anything.I have called the police on this girl at least 5-7 times for criminal trespass,nothing has happened to her just him arrested.
You have allowed us to share our stories, our feelings and given hope that something might actually be done. Yet recently I am left to wonder. I notice other posts are allowed that do not specifically have to do with False allegations leading to PFA's . We have given you our names and e-mail addresses. Please share more with us!
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