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Some recent comments: these messages are published with permission of the signer.

“How common is restraining order abuse?”
It’s been extrapolated from government studies that 80% of restraining orders are either frivolous (“unnecessary”) or fraudulent. A frivolous restraining order might be one that forbids someone from annoyingly texting too persistently. To put this in perspective, an injunction to stop someone from texting you (on pain of police arrest) may cost the state $1,300 to $2,000 just to process. A fraudulent restraining order would be one that’s based on lies and likely motivated by sheer malice (its cost to state resources is the same). It’s estimated that as many as three million restraining orders are filed each year. Therefore 2.4 million restraining orders would fall into the categories of frivolous or false (at a correspondent cost to the nation in the neighborhood of $3.2 billion).
Falsely accused by ex wife to gain possession of my firearms collection through the courts. All charges dismissed, dvpo expired. The courts against the law won't release my firearms, even though the law is very clear on this. The court is violating the law. The NRA is no help, or any other "Second Amendment" group. We must repeal the DV laws, the criminal code already addresses this. In North Carolina, this civil domestic law doesn't allow for discovery rights, court recording of the proceedings, no lawyer if cannot afford, no jury trial right, presumption of guilt over innocence, corrupt judges due to federal funds for each domestic case brought. Conflict of interest of the court: the same court who gets funds for each domestic case, is the same court that hears the case against you. What a crock. This is a new industry, making big bucks for the lawyers and the courts. WE MUST REPEAL THIS LAW.
I am a victm of false allegations of demestic abuse. It since has been resolved through the divorce proceedings but I am a huge actavist agains the way these laws are set up. I am writing a book and i continue tio contact law makers and do what i can to help with the fight to right these wrongs. I intend to do alot more in the neer future.
I often wonder how these laws can still be in place as there are and continue to ruin mens lives as they have for so many years. I have since came to the conclusion that they do not change because all the lawyers are making huge amounts of money from the false alligations. I believe there is a attorney "brotherhood" or something of that nature for the reason that these anti-american laws stay on the books. every person we are relying on to change and correct these laws are all lawyers. The practicing lawyer is benifiting from this. the judges are all lawyers and the lawmakers who we patition to make change are all lawyers, as well.
In conclusion I would like to add that the easiest and best way to curb false DV acusations is to prosicute people who use these laws for their finacial, emotional, or criminal gain. if people are being punished for lying to the courts and law enforcement, I think it would accusations would deminish greatly.

Thank you and good luck!!

Joseph A. Meyer
I have been accused of a domestic assault that I absolutely had nothing to do with. I've lost two opportunities at 6 figure salary jobs because of my pending case. This injustice, this guilty until proven innocent system needs to be fixed. Now. I am a contributing & caring member of society and respect our legal system, but this has gone too far. Where can I go to actually have a District Attorney or Court House investigator ACTUALLY look at my case? Do I have to go through 2 years of trial resets, stress, and debt? All for something I never did!? Someone needs to address these issues that are happening to men AND women all over the United States. It is not too be stood for.
As a victim of this situation, I'm looking out for others, as well as trying to find out how to spotlight this crime, and the "Lower than Low" persons who perpetrate this nonsense.
A Firm Hand is needed to put an end to False Allegations.
I was a true victim of abuse but in the meantime have watched several of my close friends become victims of false reports. How many times can 1 woman cry wolf to the authorities before her false reports are noticed with no proof to back her allegations??
Protection orders based on lies should be a crime against the accuser.
I think this is very true. I've seen this happen too many times to innocent men. One being my son.....
I am a victim and currently fighting and uphill battle this started out as a Custody case, The mother would not sign the Paternity Papers and i have proof she was verbally abusing me and threats and still she got an EPO to gain all she had to say is "Has put his hands on me in the past" it was horrifying that my child was taken from me...... this needs Addressed
Police men aren't trained properly to decide who the true"aggressor" really is. They base an arrest solely on whose story they decide to believe? In my case there was No evidence but false allegations that led the police to arrest me. This was in NO way "innocent until proven guilty" I was the true victim which was now treated like a criminal and victimized even more by our UNJUST justice system. I called the police to protect me instead the true aggressor was!. There needs to better protocol on proper procedures put into place on how to determine the true aggressor instead of going on a 'hunch' on whose story is more believable. I am a woman that was the true victim in this case and was wrongly accused, so this isn't just happening to the men. Because of one police man believing one mans lies I was wrongly arrested and me and my children were forced to stay away from are own home until I fought to prove my innocence 2500 dollars later and medical reports of me having chest wall contusions from a blow in the chest was I then treated "innocent" something VERY wrong with this!!! My life will forever be changed from this experience and will forever feel violated of my basic civil rights.
i am also a victim of false accusations, we deserved to be treated as people not criminals, the real criminal is calling the police, stop them!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i am also a victim of false accusations, we deserved to be treated as people not criminals, the real criminal is calling the police, stop them!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have been a victim of false accusations, my ex wife used dv as a weapon instead of as a protection to gain advantage on the custody case of or children. I am desperate because i see how the system is very biased on regards to this.. i need help.
The Domestic Violence Laws in NYC are criminal. They do not protect women or families, but rather have the police LIE, INTIMIDATE and COERCE women, so the police can fulfill a quota. If you call 911 in NYC and say that you feel unsafe (regardless if you are drunk, emotional, or mentally unstable) YOUR LIFE AS YOU KNOW IT IS OVER! They WILL prosecute NO MATTER WHAT. One stupid phone call = people losing their jobs, their housing, and their rights. THIS HAS TO CHANGE!
My husband and I are in a similar situation. Right mm ow my husband Is in jail for dv and other reasons but the one that is being more attention to is the dv. My husband is innocent and I did wrong. We had our worst argument that day and when I called the police all I wanted was a little space for us both just til we had cooled down then sit together and work it out as usual. My husband, Frank & I, we love each other so much, if you'd see us together you too would see how deep is our love for one another. Since the stay away order we have been forcefully separated by the DA. I even spoke up at my husbands court to please not to separate us and i told the DA thst my husband never put his hands on me. I really dont know what i said to the police in my anger and pain that I was feeling but I do know saying that all I want is for us to have some time away cool down I didn't want to go to jail and I didn't think he was going to jail I bailed him out a couple hours later.And everything written on this paragraph that I read is exactly what's happening to my husband with the judge and the DA already thinking he's guilty not given him a fair trial and the attorney who was assigned to my husband was just the same as a judge and the DA. I don't believe in domestic violence in abusive relationships that's very wrong and I know what an abusive relationship is I've been there before and just as fast I have walked out of that relationship you can't make me believe that you going to hurt me because you love me no no way not me. I love my husband with all my life all my heart and soul and he loves me back just as much for such good friends I will never involve the police in argument what my husband again and I'm so sorry I really am.
Pay special attention to the part
which states that men, if even proven innocent in court, lose months of their lives, this is wrong, especially where the allegations are trivial
My son is 22 and his child's mother go and continuously takes PFA's out on my son just so he can't see his baby......This needs to stop.....We have a custody order against her so she abuses the PFA system.....
My wife filed two false police reports against me. The officer put in the one report where my wife specifically asked him "What do I have to do to get him arrested?"
Hi my name is Jimmy and I am a victim of Domestic Violence and a Victim of false allegations of Domestic Violence, I hope and pray that when someone reads this that they know someone who can take this to the law makers there a plenty of places on the web that can prove my research, there are 2 ways to do this, 1) type the how words,
how many divorces caused by false allegations.
2) how many divorces caused by false allegations in boise idaho
the links there will open your eyes to a whole new world, so please read this post and then do the research yourself
My Research of false Allegations of Abuse
The Alarming Rise of False Allegations of Abuse
Alienation occurs when a parent consciously or unconsciously attempts to brainwash, or otherwise influence a family member or friends memories, perceptions, feelings, and relationship toward the other parent in a negative, unhealthy, selfish, or destructive way.
And this kind of behavior is repulsive enough.
But one of the most extreme and increasingly popular forms of alienation arising in custody cases today involves the false allegations of physical abuse against women in a relationship or a marriage and in a divorce action.
And there is a reason for this: it’s a fast and easy way to get your parenting rights terminated and create unhealthy separation between you and your children during a divorce, even as court-ordered child-support keeps flowing.
Of Course, this is why within professional circles, false allegations of physical abuse in a relationship or a marriage and a divorce action are commonly referred to as: The Nuclear Option.
Because with one simple, fraudulent allegation, your divorce opponent can not only inflict massive damage to your relationship with your children, but can completely destroy your life as well.
According to the National Vital Statistics Report published by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, the number of divorces in the United States during 2008 was approximately 1,065,750. And According to medical, legal, and psychological studies allegations of physical abuse against a parent occur in approximately Seven hundred thousand individuals are wrongfully arrested for domestic violence each year. While women can be the victims of false domestic violence allegations, men are more often targeted.4% of divorce cases, or 12% of divorce cases classified as high conflict custody battles.
WARNING: If you’re involved in a serious conflict over the custody of your children, statistics show your chances of being accused of molesting a child are greater than ONE in TEN.
Assuming we utilize the more conservative 4% allegation rate, there were likely around 43,030 allegations of sexual abuse against children made within divorce courts in 2008.
And lastly, of those 43,000 or so allegations (depending on the study, sampling methods, and definitions), anywhere from 85% to 97% of cases are shown to be false or un
I am dealing with this scenario now and it's as if the judge and prosecutor assumes the worse and the public defender does not ask the men any questions, assumes and does not do their part to help the men. This woman became upset that her relationship with this man was over and he wanted nothing to do with her that she falsely accused him of two acts of Domestic Violence, harasses his family and him and placed a protection order against him that was violated because she brought the police to his place of employment. She has put his life and his families life in danger and we believe that she is mentally disabled which makes us scared at what she would do next. Now he has to sit in prison until is proven otherwise because the judge feels that he is a threat to the community because of what was "allegedly" said. We are unaware of how things will go but we have a letter from the "alleged" victim stating it never happened, witnesses and phone records. Where do we go from here?
I guess leader and law makers an courts of this domestic violence system are like the blind leading the blind, and are destroying people's lives mostly men or (dads) and there children are used as ponds along with proctection orders , to get free ride through divorce and to get child support the home and wellfare , spending billions of dollars on an unjust system and its only getting worse , please fix this so family's are not destroyed why are our leaders and law makers not fixing this ????
I guess leader and law makers an courts of this domestic violence system are like the blind leading the blind, and are destroying people's lives mostly men or (dads) and there children are used as ponds along with proctection orders , to get free ride through divorce and to get child support the home and wellfare , spending billions of dollars on an unjust system and its only getting worse , please fix this so family's are not destroyed why are our leaders and law makers not fixing this ????
As a female I am appalled by the women who use false domestic violence claims as a weapon to control the court in child coustody issues. It is devastating to the falsely accused parent and the child. It also belittles those women who are truly victims of domestic violence.
Devastating for the falsely accused parent, but more importantly, the children. Contributes to parental alienation. Permanent damage to parent-child relationship. Lifelong consequences, generational consequences. False accusations diminish the credibility of true victims of domestic violence. False accusations and the legal system that supports and allows for the abuse of false allegations contribute to the failure to recognize responsibility of both parties in a relationship, especially when severe emotional abuse is present. Reforms could include due process for accused and mandatory counseling for both. False accusations create a culture where it is acceptable to alienate one parent, permanently damaging the parent-child relationship. Contributes to a culture where there is an imbalance in taking responsibility for individual behaviors that contribute to relationship conflict. Both parties must be educated and counseled. Awareness of relationship dynamics that contribute to abusive conflict should be promoted. Prevention versus reacting should be emphasized. The term domestic violence trivializes the
When they lie and it sticks!
My son is being wrongly accused and hasn't seen his children that he has raised,feed,changed diapers and stayed up with when sick while she slept or stayed on the computer.
The worse abuse that I can see occurs in Alaska. I is my understanding women flock there with intent to file charges in order to receive the great benefits Alaska offers.
Falsely accused on Aprol 2013. My estranged wife has continued this case for 6 months. As my job requires a security clearance I have not been able to work because of a "pending" charge. This is ludicrous to be guilty until proven innocent.
wrong to be that evil to send a innocent man to jail
People who use false restraining orders need to be jailed . They use the system
People who use false restraining orders need to be jailed . They use the system
My MD wife unknown to me was taking (she had prescriptions) a dozen psychiatric drugs (including antipsychotic) while drinking half a bottle of wine a night. She threw an 8-in kitchen knife at my six year old daughter and I. She was found to have major depression, and anxiety disorder and explosive acting out (as if I needed to know that after she woke me up by sitting on my chest and punching me in the face). Twelve months later she gets the kids and I was primary caretaker.
My second wife and I were married for 20 months in CA. She attempted seven times there to get restraining orders, and failed. So when she moved to the Bronx she conjured false accusations and the order was granted, and then lifted at a hearing 3 weeks later. (I live 200 miles away). Since then she has added a multitude of other lies, all getting her nowhere.

Knowing she was losing, she made a police report on alleged letters sent 16 months before the report, and I was arrested. This is not only harassment, but police incompetence. She has sent such letters to herself in the past, and it has been documented in court. She made up these letters herself and mailed them yo herself.

I understand erring on the side of caution, but many women (and probably some men) abuse these important laws to gain legal leverage, or just punish the other.
My second wife and I were married for 20 months in CA. She attempted seven times there to get restraining orders, and failed. So when she moved to the Bronx she conjured false accusations and the order was granted, and then lifted at a hearing 3 weeks later. (I live 200 miles away). Since then she has added a multitude of other lies, all getting her nowhere.

Knowing she was losing, she made a police report on alleged letters sent 16 months before the report, and I was arrested. This is not only harassment, but police incompetence. She has sent such letters to herself in the past, and it has been documented in court. She made up these letters herself and mailed them yo herself.

I understand erring on the side of caution, but many women (and probably some men) abuse these important laws to gain legal leverage, or just punish the other.
Male, happened to me twice, complete lies that were allowed to stick because crazy (literally, not name-calling - biploar) girl knows LEOs. What everyone needs to understand right this second is that this is all by design to fracture the notion of the nuclear family. It is basically NWO divide and conquer tactics. If you realize that, then and only then will you begin to understand it all. We need to do something about this. Now.
I'm a victim of being falsely accused of domestic violence.I'm currently out on bond they dropped my charges then improvised a plan from the same incident and said I intimidated a witness which is an false accusation. There need to have better officers on the job who can do there job right and not take sides.
My husband was taking his children's mother to do errands a couple of years back. Everything was fine for most of the day, they were cordial, no problems. That is, until after her psychiatrist appointment. After that, she became, quiet, closed off, and extremely moody, and her behavior became extremely erratic. This culminated to her getting out of the car at a red light and starting to walk. He pulled the car over and tried to convince her to get back into the car because the intersection they were at was extremely unsafe and their 4 year old daughter was in the backseat and scared because she thought her mother was going to get hit by a car. She ignored the pleas for her to get back in the car and kept walking. At one point she stepped into the road and started to approach oncoming traffic at which point my husband grabbed her purse strap and pulled her out of the street. An onlooker called the police. When the officer showed up on the scene they both told him what happened, but because her purse strap left a slight red mark on her forearm, my husband was arrested for domestic violence. A private attorney was hired and unfortunately he did a terrible job.. My husband was found guilty of domestic violence and a restraining order was granted to her and he didn't get to see his children at all for 9 months. He was trying to protect her and was punished for it. How is that justice???? She's done nothing but laugh since, because she has all the power in the world over him now. The man has never laid one hand on myself or one of the children, including my 3, in anger. He isn't violent in any way, shape, or form. Not to mention that she had charged pressed against her now former boyfriend and another restraining order issued because he allegedly threw something towards her and she was "terrified" even there was no evidence supporting her claim and he vehemently denied such an incident occurring at all. My mother is a domestic violence survivor (not my dad, a precious husband), and I'm a survivor of domestic violence myself; my ex-husband was frequently enraged for no good reason, which was why I got out as quickly as possible. I in no way believe that violence of any form is okay, but these laws need to be seriously revisited as too much abuse of them is occurring and the lives of good people are being completely ruined because of women who are, quite frankly, psychotic and wouldn't know the truth of a matter if it floated right in front of the faces.

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