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My son served a 5 year sentence based on lies told by his girlfriend due to her lying to her parents. Back in the 80's, I was a victim of domestic violence. There was no help for me except to find the internal strength to take my son and run, which I did. I have spent a ton of money in the legal system trying to defend my son. All a person has to do is say you hit them, and a warrant will be issued. Funding for domestic violence programs is based on conviction rates. Destroying lives by false accusations costs us all money. And ruins the life of the accused. In Maryland, the law is a joke and so is the legal process. Everybody is guilty just because they've been accused. Do something!
My boyfriend's ex wife (married only 1 1/2 yrs and still in divorce litigation) has spent the last 2 1/2 years doing p.r. For any and every domestic violence charity in Dallas that will listen, to solidify her claim of domestic violence where there was no evidence solely to defraud his estate claiming her suffering should be worth millions. I've known him since I was 6, we now have a child and he has never raised a finger at me nor with his previous marriages. This woman is so sickly manipulative and has completely ruined him financially with regard to his work and his assets. She has committed fraudulent actions against his estate by altering title documents with the help of her sister's crooked atty husband. They are all out of Vegas and conduct themselves as such. Priding themselves on being able to 'bamboozle' unsuspecting people out of money and property. It has been a sad and grueling time for my boyfriend and I AND his 4 other children from his first 2 marriages. It's pathetic and the charities have supported it without looking at the facts, including HIS results from a lie detector test he subjected himself to and HER adamant refusal to take one. The court system isn't buying her claims but it is also allowing her to continue this legal onslaught of motions after all this time. Enough is enough. What her and her family has done is nothing short of criminal in so many ways.
In April of this year, I attempted to intervene in my 18 year old son's drug abuse problem. This included the abuse of alcohol, marijuana, LSD and heroin, which my ex-wife had allowed to occur at her house where my son lived. When I suggested he enter a Rehab Program, my wife filed a TPO against me. I had Joint Custody of my son for four years prior to this incident and we had a great relationship. Upon receipt of the TPO, I was shocked to read the flagrant lies she had alleged, one of which that I had been abusive to my son. Bear in mind, my son was 18 years old, an adult and he NEVER filed a TPO or criminal charges against me. The Judge, Martha Christian, acknowledged the falsehoods in the TPO, struck them from the official record, but ALLOWED the TPO against me. Her order included me NOT having contact with my 18 year old son! I spoke with the Forsyth County Sheriff's Office (GA) and they assured me if I contacted my son, I would "go to jail for 10 years".

Fast forward to September, 2014. My Mother suffered a stroke and was placed in a hospital and ultimately passed in a local Hospice. My brother, with the assistance of my ex-wife, filed a TPO against me in spite of the fact I HAD NOT SPOKEN TO HIM in over 10 years! He then had his son contact me 6 times from a Burner Phone Number and when I returned the missed calls, I was threatened with arrest by the Cherokee AND Forsyth County Sheriff's Offices (GA) for "violating the TPO". Both Sheriff's Offices assured me that I COULD NOT visit my dying Mother because she was my brother's "immediate family" and if I did I would be arrested. The TPO was filed on 9/4//14 and we went to Magistrate's Court on 9/24/14, where the TPO was thrown out for lack of sufficient evidence. Sadly, my Mother passed at 12:30a.m. that very day and I was not even allowed to be with her during her final 21 days on this earth.

Both of these are PERFECT EXAMPLES of how arbitrary and illegal the enforcement of TPO's are in Forsyth County, GA and the United States. A TPO protects MINOR CHILDREN, not adults of family members. They are supposed to apply to family members who LIVE TOGETHER or people who have recently cohabited. I was divorced from my ex-wife in 2009, my son was 18 years old and my Mother was 85 years old. These actions are a clear and criminal violation of my civil rights. I have not spoken to my son since April 12th since his Mom told him he would not have to attend Rehab if he did not speak to me. I was not allowed to visit my 85 year old Mother on her death bed although she had not lived with my brother since 1979! These events have devastated me emotionally and psychologically. I will be agreeable to offer my assistance to any organization that is willing to seek legislation that will rectify this draconian nightmare in our legal system.
Hope this helps the innocent!!
My crazy Bi-polar ex girlfriend is doing this to me right now.
The police are out of control and the courts along with them. Why does not anyone have the desire or the balls to do something? They promote guilty until proven innocent, they promote conflict among family, they are against family yet say they do it to protect family members, they are against forgiveness, and against the founding principals of this country that most everyone in the country still believes in and follows despite what the major news networks will tell you. They are hypocrites, liars, and thieves. They take actions that are clearly and decisively the complete opposite of the principals this country was founded on, They stand for principals that are contrary to the principals that the vast majority of the population still believe in, and they oppose some of the most fundamental principals of almost every major religion in the world.
The fact that this problem exists extends beyond domestic violence alone. The manner in which all of you have been treated in regards to domestic violence charges is deplorable and if not stopped soon, could set a precedence that at some point not so far down the road, would give absolute power to law enforcement and the courts to throw anyone in jail for any reason and to leave them there at will for as long as they "feel" is necessary. This power, attitude, movement, whatever you want to call it is dangerous, vicious, and anyone not opposed to it and actively doing something, anything, to stop it is a fool and God help you when they come for you! Violence is bad. Lying is bad. Speeding on the highway is bad. "Domestic Violence" is what they claim they are trying to stop. Why domestic violence? Because it is politically correct and hard for someone to speak against it. What would someone say, "Don't protect that poor woman from her terribly violent beast of a husband" You see they chose "Domestic Violence" because it gives them an easy path to gain what they really want and that is to have the power to throw you in jail at any time for any reason and to keep you there as long as it serves their purpose. I know this sounds crazy but let me tell you what crazy is. Crazy is when no one does anything to stop the police and other officials from protecting us by locking us all up and doing it based on hearsay, a letter, a phone call, a wink, or a sarcastic joke. any comment will suffice and of course it is expensive and difficult to sue them because there are "immunity laws to protect them to a certain extent. That is crazy. If you are chaerged and not found guilty, the person charging you should pay!!!!!!! They should reimburse you for you time, your pain, your suffering, your humility, your reputation, and your future loses and this reimbursement should be automatic not something you should have to fight for. Why should you have to pay such a high price for something they should not even be involved in the first place. The vast majority of the time the people would have been better off all aro
In 2012 I was accused of domestic violence. My son's mother told the judge that I attempted to kill her. Without a police report, without any evidence at all, I was sentenced. And even with evidence that she lied I'm still having trouble proving my innocence.
False allegations are being used by women nationwide to help steal their children from their fathers. I know this personally. Their attorneys advised some of it and there are books written about it. Look up "Hit Him Where It Hurts". I live my life everyday voluntarily under video and audio surveillance to protect myself from the woman who controls my child all because of false allegations. a woman I am subject to abuse from everyday and no one corrects her actions of hate or control.
Children should not ever be used to bring billions of tax payers dollars to fuel states political agendas.
True intention Gone Wrong to Tell Someone and Living in Fear. I am disabled, no right hand and no vision in left eye. with my two children I am a victim of the following: when I exposed my estranged ex Medhin H Awala, an Ethiopian citizentic for Domestic violence, child abuse, sexual assault, illegal activities (signed for illegal person to receive government benefits), frauduently or bribely (an Ethiopian transelator in MVA) to get a driver license from Gaithersburg, MD, human trafficing and for Immigration sham marriage, she sheltered sponsored and sheltered by Montgomary Count MD DSS and VAWA then trained and claimed false allegations against me with my two innocent children)as soon as she received her "green card." DSS and VAWA blocked us from basic justice and silenced the victims. Then Family law and family court of Montgomary County, MD sentenced us for pain strugle, suffer, fear, loss fedral job, loss two carsr, bankrupcy, loss health (underthreatment since 2009) and homelessnes. She owned all our belongings including garnished my retirement. True definition of DV in Montgomery County MD is "protected criminals and victimize" innocent citizens by Family Law-Family Court. I guess, you dont expect if you dont test..humanities cry.
I am also a victim
A man automatically loses any court case when it comes down to "he said, she said". Society needs to protect anyone who is unable to defend themselves. No question there are abusers that deserve harsh punishment for their crimes. Some of the accused, however, are innocent.
True victims of Domestic Violence are wronged and degrated by all those whom misuse the justice system as a tool for revenge.
Just because you have a child does not mean that you can be a MOM.. False allegations to a man, a father is not noticed!! Time to look at facts !!!
Just because you have a child does not mean that you can be a MOM.. False allegations to a man, a father is not noticed!! Time to look at facts !!!
Rape Shield laws is the feminist answer to equality? Men found guilty in the court of public opinion. While the accuser hides from her victim.
Not only Florida but Illinois does not even have a clear definition of domestic violence.
Have you been falsely accused or wrongly prosecuted for domestic violence? False allegations and wrongful prosecutions harm the innocent, squander resources, and shortchange true victims.
In honor of Mike Pedarock..falsely accused of domestic violence by an angry ex girlfriend on drugs...
Im a strong supporter of victimsbof domestic violence, but someone I know and love had bogus allegations made against him out of revenge and it destroyed his life-homeless, lost employment, lost children's.
My coward of an ex-husband (allegedly) gave me years of abuse, to include bruises, broken bones, financial ruin, custody battles and when I was finally brave enough to speak up about this, he managed to twist the story around and make himself the victim. This victimized me twice; first to endure his abuse, then again as I watch those who would help me turn against me. This is not a man/woman issue, but a cowardly choice abusers make.

If a fire alarm is pulled falsely, does the fire department stop responding? No. And if you falsely pull a fire alarm there is consequences. Everyone knows that.

If you report a child or a spouse being abused, they tell you there have been so many false reports made that they will not respond anymore until something 'really bad' happens. There should be strong consequences for those who file false reports! And all reports should be investigated regardless.

My life is a silent prison and everyone involved says there is nothing they can do about it. This cannot continue.
yes my ex is using this towards me and I know that I am NOT that person that she claims
Conspiracy? Plotted? My x moved in the new boyfriend and slept with him in front of me. One night they both crawled in bed with me. They called the police on me 2 or 3 times per day and filed 30 reports of allegations. Cameras came into the house, things began to be stolen and i was accused of what he was removing. I was moving belongings from a 6000 sq foot home after 17 years and needed a place for my 3 dogs. My x finally got me arrested on a lie. He took my dogs, piano, everything. I was found 'not guilty' and his testimony was impeached for inconsistent statements and the new boyfriend was impeached as a witness for following the lies. The same video he had me arrested on also set me free because it revealed him tormenting me and locking up my possessions deliberately. I am a survivor of false allegations of domestic violence, tormented for months, but it destroyed my life. He was awarded by taking all my things and hurting me through keeping my dogs and lost my job over the arrest. It is so clear of a set up and the judge and attorney caught him easy in the lie. He is also a pathological liar since childhood and severe dyslexia through high school. Because he got away with lying his whole life and was never punished, he knew he could also get away with false allegations. But he would not succeed in he court room. My attorney busted him 3 times for lying. It was as if my X on the stand was inventing stories and mixing different stories, like a child and he smiled while doing it. I stayed with someone for 17 years and never really knew who he was until I saw his sick head lie on the witness stand.
I also had police tell me they were not on his side and I think eventually the whole department began to realize. After all, he called the police on me at 2 am, accusing me, when I was fast to sleep!!!
Please pray for me. I am one of those people that is facing this charge. Logan county Colorado M3 harassment.
I attended an event October 14, 2014 at Touro Law School where Kathleen Rice, Touro Alumna and Nassau County District Attorney, was the guest speaker on the topic of Domestic Violence. I asked her if the prosecutors office has brought charges against anyone that has falsely claimed domestic violence especially in cases of divorce and custody battles. Although she seemed somewhat surprised by the question she answered honestly saying that her office is aware of the problem but has not acted on it. The pattern of mostly women claiming domestic violence just to improve their position in custody and child support will sadly continue until these cases are taken seriously and prosecuted. I ask you, is this equality?
I attended an event last night at Touro Law School where Kathleen Rice, Touro Alumna and Nassau County District Attorney, was the guest speaker on the topic of Domestic Violence. I asked her if the prosecutors office has brought charges against anyone that has falsely claimed domestic violence especially in cases of divorce and custody battles. Although she seemed somewhat surprised by the question she answered honestly saying that her office is aware of the problem but has not acted on it. The pattern of mostly women claiming domestic violence just to improve their position in custody and child support will sadly continue until these cases are taken seriously and prosecuted. I ask you, is this equality?
This system was used by my then-pregnant girlfriend to kidnap my unborn son from me. He is now 11 months old and I have yet to see him. There needs to be recourse for the true victims, those who are subject to these manipulators and liars.
False allegations not only do damage to the one accused, but also to the accused's family and friends. I don't believe the men and women who make these false allegations realize, or care about, the impact they have on those surrounding the accused. Often times the false allegations come about when someone feels betrayed or hurt and they want to get back at that person. It's that kind of selfish thinking that ruins people's lives.

Not only does this negatively impact the accused and their family, but also those with real, genuine abuse claims. I have noticed that I am now more skeptical of abuse claims where I used to be very sympathetic. People who falsely accuse others of this kind of abuse are belittling and trivializing those who are actually being abused.

As someone who has been abused and also close with someone that has been falsely accused, I understand the grey area and very fine line that needs to be walked by law enforcement in these situations. However, I agree that something needs to be done to help those who are falsely accused. I hope good things come out of this petition and more light is shed on situations where someone is falsely accused.

Thank you for doing your part to support the men and women who are seemingly helpless to defend themselves when falsely accused of these crimes.
I have been in contact with Senator John Edwards of Roanoke, Virginia for several YEARS about this issue! He agrees that there is a problem with false accusations, specifically with Protective Orders and Restraining Orders, but he still REFUSES to do anything about it!! He can be reached at (540) 985-8690

People MUST call their STATE LEGISLATORS about this! Get RID of Protective and Restraining Orders!!!! They are done with NO TRIAL, NO DUE PROCESS, and very little, if ANY evidence!! It's SYSTEMIC and WIDESPREAD!! It is ALL coming from VAWA (The violence against women act) which is Federal, but the STATE LEGISLATORS are the ones who can change it!!!

If you're in Virginia... Contact:
Senator John Edwards.... (540) 985-8690
Tell him to END Protective Orders!! There is NO due process with a Protective Order!! NONE!
For the past six years, my wife and I have been abused by our neighbors who obtained restraining orders against us with assistance from the police and city attorney. Essentially, we challenged the government about some issues in our neighborhood. The neighbors and the government didn't like their ILLEGAL actions being questioned. They had their feelings hurt. We live in Seattle. Nobody has ever been physically harmed. WE have been emotionally and financially damaged.

The police and city government coached neighbors to get court orders and continue to help them harass us by abusing the orders. We filed an abuse of process suit. The court dismissed it based on anti-SLAPP and we had to pay over $100,000 in attorney's fees and sanctions. Essentially, the court said anyone can abuse the legal system and lie as long as the system is in on it. Again, we were punished for challenging the government. We had attorneys for our cases. Obviously, their efforts could not stop the abusive orders.

The courts don't care! At one renewal hearing, the judge said 'I only have 15 minutes. We have a busy docket today.' Our incompetent, expensive attorney didn't care and told the judge 'we don't care if it's renewed.' That definitely wasn't how we felt. But, we were prohibited from speaking; only the lawyers and judges can talk to each other in court! At another hearing the judge said 'I'm not even supposed to be here today.'

Judges and the legislature have all the power to stop this abuse and they don't. Lives are ruined financially and emotionally. Taxpayers' money is wasted. And it's almost impossible to get rid of judges who don't care or don't want to do their jobs. This is shameful and disgusting in our country. It's up to the legislature to stop this now!!
I was falsely charged with domestic assault. My ex wife assaulted me and then called 911. I was arrested and thrown in jail. I worked for a government agency. I was employed 18 years. The fact that arrested for domestic assault destroyed my career. I have now been unemployed for 4 years
The petition was a no wrongdoing petition if there's no wrongdoing hot going to be abusive I don't understandon the poor man 69 years old with so security and can't afford an attorney and I need help with the situation
Sunday I was at a public car show at Riverside and camping association club and and she and her son showed up and probably share for a while her son came over to me told me to get the **** out of here I said why he said because my moms this is interfering in my life making my life very difficult to livethere so I left I didn't want to cause any trouble I reported it to the assistant District attorney in Pennsylvania they told me there was nothing I could do about it , but just put up with for 3 next for years and spent nine days in jail for making a mistake and texting her the wrong person when I was trying to text somebody else I feel like I'm on justly petitioned because I'm poor man and without funds so security I'm a 69 years old
Sunday I was at a public car show at Riverside and camping association club and and she and her son showed up and probably share for a while her son came over to me told me to get the **** out of here I said why he said because my moms there so I left I didn't want to cause any trouble I reported it to the assistant district attorney to be a face-off spell ministration like to Pennsylvania they told me was nothing I could do about it
I have a PFA against me in Pa and I never hit her yelled at her threatened her followed her , I have no money for a lawyer and have some knowledge on how to file petitions
I have a PFA against me in Pa and I never hit her yelled at her threatened her followed her
I have seen firsthand how the courts treat men accused of DV. The women can say and do what ever they want to ruin a mans life. Its throw them(men) in jail because' SHE SAID" he did this or that" even though she is a jealous twit and is going to say and do whatever it takes to make sure he goes to jail for a crime he did NOT commit! Just because she is an evil person. Those women should be ashamed and punished. Lied under oath! Her tearful account of something that did not happen the way she says it happened! I blame the lawmakers, police,and judges, for creating this monster. It's your fault we have so many men seeking revenge,you have allowed these power hungry evil creatures to destroy someones life...because you(the broken system) allow it.Trying to protect the innocent little woman from the big bad wolf. EPIC FAIL! I know some are in need, but it needs to be investigated and both sides need to be heard,and you can't always believe what comes out of a witches mouth to be true!
Having been through this abuse with a non-domestic restraining order against me, I am all too aware of how terrible the results of such actions can be. I am still suffering from PTSD because of this. Please do something about this unlawful abuse. Those of us who are having a restraining order put against us aren't even able to defend ourselves properly. My cases were total entrapment and staged from the very beginning. Why else would people be filming me at precisely the unscheduled time I came out of my home? Why would they sick some dogs on me so that the dogs came up to me? This was all done and got much worse because I repeatedly called the police about some drug dealers next door to me. These people who went after me had harassed me for two years, even sending unsigned hate letters and assaulting me, but when it came to court, they
My son just recently got slapped with an order of protection keeping him from his wife and child. What a shock for a father who has never raised his voice or spanked his child. The mother on the other hand has on multiple occasions slapped, kicked and pinched him so hard in my presence that I have even had to tell her to stop. So many lies and yet she makes him out to be the abuser. My granddaughter has made comments to family members that mommy is mean to daddy. I find it difficult to believe that a Judge would sign something without any real proof and it should not be allowed. Also, my father has been abused by his wife for years and she has tried on several occasions to set him up trying to get him to strike back. He was so afraid for his safety that he started taping her tantum/episodes and I still have those tapes. Very scary and it disgusts me to think that women can get away with so much.
mel c. new jersey south
I was accused of domestic violence 20 years ago based on nothing but accusation. I have lost my home, kids, and 65% of my pay since. Been thrown in jail,and have money billed illegally to keep me in their system. still can't get the restraining order dropped and I live half mile away and never violated it ever. Kids don't know me and haven't seen youngest in 15 years. Judges do not care,lawyers do not care. appellate courts do not care. review boards are a joke. I am ashamed of the country I served under to let this happen to good men and women without proof. if you have V.A. benefits you are a target. have a prenup to keep what you earned by serving our military, not them.
I am simply appalled because my best friend is faced with prison time He is on parole and his wife accused him of domestic violence when he refused to sign a insurance check. the next thing he knew the police was looking for him with a warrant for his arrest.
My husband's ex claw down his face leaving a bloody trial, then called 911 claiming DV on him. Thankfully he didn't wash off his face and simply sat in the front yard waiting for the police. Though she went to jail that night for DV, it could have easily gone the other way if the officer had simply believed her side of the story. It is a disservice to women of REAL DV for others to use so very carelessly.
I totally agree
My ex, a fifth of Jack Daniels a day drinker used to start verbal fights with me then call day after the police were at my home twice already she's katinf on the bed telling me that she's calling 91 so I lean over her to grab the pgone and she starts kicking my ribs, so ibjured and angry, no alcohol whatsoever, I punched her legs, police come, I don't admit to anything, they lock me up..later I'm charged with reckless endangerment cause she claims that I threw our beautiful 9 month old daughter ob the floor (she later told me that the woman that helped her file the complaint told her to say thay to insure that she got custody) Eventually I won the case but only after watching my daughter learn how to walk and talk under guard for 18 months...not only was I in criminal court but famuly court, got hammered for child support, the whole bit, there's more false accusations but I'm sick of typing, something inside me died that day
my son ira samuel denlinger was falsely accused of dv. now he can't get a job. he was in jail and then probation. it's been 3 years ago. there was no physical evidence.
It should have a level of burden of proof not just someone able to make accusations.
Men are being falsely charged with domestic violence. In the past, men charged of rape in South Carolina would go directly to jail. The only way to go directly to jail and not collect $200 is Domestic Violence.
Now, the only way that a DEA or Law Enforcement Agent decides to put anyone in jail is to use the same premises and steal Social Security Claims. Corruption up in America...

Institute for Science and International Security
Something needs to be done about this. It's unconstitutional and way too easy for an unbalanced person to use the courts for vengeance. I've dealt with years of emotional abuse from an over the top jealous spouse, parental alienation from my children as well as these false accusations. It should be a crime.
This is my second time fighting false alligation of child abuse and spousal emotional abuse. I was proven innocent last time. I'm military to and the impact is (I believe) twice what the civilians face. Haven't seen my children in almost 30 days. Poof,
out of nowhere I'm gone from my children's lives.
Military side is keeping from speaking to my 19 year old son who is 1500 miles away. God bless all of you going through this.
I am probably the odd person out here because I am a woman who has been falsely accused of DV. I reported a friend and mother for child neglect and have been subjected to intense harassment, threats and an overall sense of dread. She showed up to request the restraining order with a fake black eye and scraped on her knees. She has reported me to the State Board of Nursing in an attempt to have my nursing license revoked and falsely accused me of stealing from her. She has a mental illness but it is no excuse for this behavior. Thankfully, I am not in as bad a situation as many who have posted here in support of the petition. The false allegation of DV and subsequent granting of a TRO is disheartening.

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