Stop False Allegations of Domestic Violence

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I have been a victim of this and it has ruined my life. The court had no interest in my side especially considering there was no proof on the other side. This needs to be put to an end
I'm really sick of vengeful ex wives. They need to stop the false allegations.Your marriage/relationship is over, get over the guy and move on!
This is also going on in Porter County IN
I was punched in the face by my insane wife because she did not like the fact that she didn't t have a stereo in the family room! I left and stayed in a motel and decided not to prosecute. The worst mistake of my life. She hit her forearms until they were black and blue. When I announced that I wanted a divorce 6 months later, she started provoking arguments and always had my 11 year old daughter with her. I never hit her, but did raise my arm in protest. She did a mock recoil, which my daughter saw from behind. She had me arrested, used photos of her arms as "proof" and asked for a CPO. During the 2 years after the CPO was in effect SHE repeatedly defied it by showing up at my apartment. I plead no contest so to avoid my daughter being "crucified" as my lawyer put it, on the stand. Another big mistake. Just have a misdemeanor on my record has cost me several jobs. My lawyer tried to convince her to drop the charge since there was a CPO in effect, but she refused. The net result was added difficulty in paying my $1800/month child support and spousal support. But I PAID it. She has never done anything the court required her to do and when I bring her to court, she gets scolded and still does not comply. I did not see my kids for three years. When the child support ran out for the oldest at 18, she kicked him out. I could go on but it's too damn painful.

The ARE males who are both physically and emotionally abused. Neither sex should endure that!
This is exactly what my ex did to me. She lied through her teeth alleging abuse. Truth is, her and her kids were the abusive ones towards me and my daughters. Her son was prosecuted for an assault on my youngest daughter. During the investigation on her son, she told me daughters repeatedly that "if they talked to DHHS or the police about what Jose did to" my daughter "they would be put in foster homes." She was arrested for cutting me up inside the courthouse during her son's arraignment, in front of the very same "judge" who decided our divorce fate. My daughter filled out an affidavit and told the courts of mom's abuse as well as her half siblings. DHHS and the courts continue to do absolutely nothing. It is a blatant abuse of authority and gross misconduct by the "legal system" in Maine. I am still fighting...
My fiancÚ has been fight for his kids since August of 2009. He has not seen his kids since 2009. Nor has he seen a judge since then. He was falsely accused that he would leave the state or country with them. For one why would he leave the state when everyone in our family is in alabama. We have no family in any other state. He wouldn't just take them to another state not knowing anyone or not having a job or home. And second he doesn't even have a passport to leave the country, she knew that would not stand in court. Her and her boyfriend who is a cop is friends with the judge and the judge keeps putting off the court dates, I know it sounds far fetched but it isn't. He loves his kids with all his heart. My fiancÚ has offered to pay her whatever in child support to let him see the kids. It isn't court ordered for him to pay her because she doesn't want to go to court because she doesn't want him to see his kids to hurt him. But she threatens him if he doesn't pay her. So though it isn't court ordered he sends her 400 a month which is what she asked for. But with that money she takes it and goes to Mississippi and blows it gambling.. He and I have 5 month old daughter and she or I have never met his kids... He has the proof of the ex partying and doing drugs with the kids around. Yet the judge will not take the time of the day to see those things or even let him speak or his lawyer. Because judge puts off the court dates. His lawyer filed for a emergency hearing. He was suppose to have that hearing within 30 days and it took them from November to July to set up a hearing THAT they canceled. The lawyer told the judge that it was my fiancÚ's civil rights to have a fair and speedy trail and they have yet to give him one court date. The judge said he could do a phone conference. But the judge has yet to call. When the lawyer calls him he does not call back. We need equal parenting. My fiancÚ is a good man. He is not a bad father in anyway at all. Yet he can no see his kids. The fathers out there that are dead beats and on drugs and have 10 kids. They are never kept from their kids but the good fathers who love his kids and wants to just see them, hold them, hug and kiss them and tell them how much they have been missed and take care of them can't... Something needs done about this..
I have been falsely accused of domestic violence for more than 13 years. It never happened but was the easiest way for her to get divorced and attempt to keep our adopted some away from me. This situation and her affair occured just 6 months after the adoption. She was not able to have children and used me after 7 years of marriage. The whole time collecting her child support and constantly denying me visitation. She has narcissist behaviors and tries very hard to not follow the divorce decree and keeps the child from me. Since 2009 we have been in a custody battle and she has went as far as to lock him into mental hospitals in Little Rock, AR to stop my visitations. The last visit was more than 7 months and this is one of the worst cases of child abuse I have ever seen. She brain washed him into believing many things and the latest mental hospital records will contain many false statements about my family and I. It seems she uses the hospital stays to place bogus things into the hospital records. I work for the government and have a secret clearance. This requires constant drug tests and an extensive back ground check. None of that matters because in December 2013 when we have our court date in Little Rock, she will tell all of these false statements and I pray that the judge actually asks for proof. Her narcissistic behavior has gotten so far out of hand that she has been harming the child. This type of behavior is not in the "best interest of the child!" Fathers, like me that really care and attempt to be in the child's life are treated worse than any others. We are taken for as much money as the courts can get and it never matters if the mothers keep the children from us. People should be held accountable for the false statements they say in a court of law. Extensive back ground checks and drug tests should be enough to stop the false statements and ensure it isn't allowed to be told in a court of law. We need help with these matters and the children are suffering needlessly because of this.
I have four children with a mother who has revealed her true sociopath ways and is preventing me financially and physically from seeing my kids. The rare times I do see my kids 1/2 the time they are just literally hugging me and not letting go. Meanwhile the court just believes her lies and makes me jump through ridiculous hoops.
Rights should be equalized!
Use facts
Wake up and let the fathers speak up! Stop False Allegations!!!!!!! Mothers that lie need to be prosecuted!
I fully agree with this petition. This has become a social epidemic that needs to stop. False Allegations need to be investigated, before you remove the ANY parent from his or her children. Just like in Criminal court, you go to court hearings and pretrials and if need a trial, so should Family Court have the same process. No mother should be immune to Perjury or False Police reports. It is very suspicious why Family Courts believe so easily these false allegations. Title IV-D needs to be regulated and monitored, and so does VAWA; as this are incentives to receive money at the expense of a fatherless child. Please Help.
It's happened to my daughter in reverse. Her ex knew how to inflict injury to her that would remain unseen until the deep bruising surfaced days later. She did what she could to defend herself and scratched his face. She was arrested, charged and convicted. Now it will hang over her for life. No voice. No justice. FYI the law caught up with him on other charges...finally after much damage to her and the children. The law needs to change to allow some legal recourse for the falsely accused.
I have been wrongly charged with this crime just because the accuser said I did these things. The actual incident began with me being hit in the mouth by the accuser. All I did was push her to get away.
I am a victim of false accusations brought by a police officer that was shown a PBA card.the officer failed to adequately do his job,lacked common sense and takes away my civil rights based on that PBA card and a false accusation with not one bit of evidence..today 14 months after the fact I am being victimized again by ny criminal court who is refusing to allow me to cross examine my accuser in a timely manner..this is a money making machine the criminal court holds you up while the supreme court picks my pockets.district attorney spota ,judge bean and my lawyer who I paid 3000.00 to represent me but has yet to do so...I have court 8/14 I intend on not walking out of that court I will protest this miscarriage of justice nd I would rather go to jail than continued to be alienated from my children for ms fifty shades of grey and not for her safety as the laws were written..
I am so upset with the way laws that were put in place to protect persons of domestic violence being used for selfish gain by attorneys and ex partners with no concern for what the child is going through while they go about this process. Going through this with my son at this time. I am a former shelter manager and I do understand the need for such laws but what I see going on is unfair. No way to tell your story. I am so sick of hearing attorneys saying, "but you have a DVP." Well,,,,,if the DVP was awarded with lies,,,,,,it is still a false accusation. Something needs to be done, this is sooooo wrong.
I asked my wife for dissolution of our marrage and as she had 3 month to go to get her green card she started screeming dont hit me. I ran out the door but was still arrested.
I have been a victim of this tactic which has cost me 9 months of time away from my first and only daughter.

The judge dismissed the PO and reprimanded my ex for abusing the legal system, but yet did nothing to teach her a lesson so I am still fending off false allegations which continues to keep me away from my daughter.
Women get falsely accused, also. My daughter's ex husband filed a false report with no 911 call ever made. He did this in an attempt to use it against her in a child custody case. What will happen when he is found guilty of perjury? What recourse does my daughter have in the State of Texas?
Even during my arrest the "Victim" said I did not hit or threaten her yet I was still arrested & Charged ? nonsensical insanity!
I was accused falsely while not living in the state or even in the state at the time of inncident. Charges were dropped due to paperwork could not be served since party lied where I lived. I provided proof to the court of my exact location at two state away and they refused to bring charges against the party.
The way DV cases are being investigated (Not investigated) and prosecuted is a gross miscarriage of Justice.

Not until true equality exists can justice prevail.

To be accused as a man is a long slow and expensive railroad job that destroys families.

I am ashamed to say that I fought for my country and had no idea how messed up our justice system was until I was accused of DV.

My "Victim" even flat out told the prosecutor she had made up horrendous allegations and has a history of doing the same to others in her family but the prosecutor simply ignored her and proceeded anyways.

The police and DA's office did not even bother to do an investigation into the relevant facts around the case and also worked to exclude a ton of exculpatory evidence to secure a conviction at trial.

It was disgusting.

In the end, it just destroyed my life and my families lives so a DA could get another conviction.
I was falsley accused of domestic violence. The police officer realized that he had arrested the victim, so he lied under oath. He got caught the case was dismissed, but he was never arrested for perjury because the prosecuting attorney is a crimminal.
I am a female and have been trying to divorce amicably for 4 years. My ex refuses to be reasonable in any way. He attacked our little daughter and then attacked me when she ran and hid behind me for protection, in Sept 2012. In Jan 2013, he decided to file a police report. Three cops came to my home and arrested me with no warrant and no explanation. My little daughter had a friend over and was home with me, after church, on a Sunday. He has used this to his advantage in our divorce and custody case. The TX legal system has allowed my ex to abuse me to the point that I suffer from Legal Abuse Syndrome.
I have written my Congressman, State Representative, Governor and news media, to no avail. I have spent over $30K on this situation and the attorneys I have had so far are only interested in money, not the welfare or best interest of our daughter. It is a traumatic ordeal to endure.
My story is kinda out there but I swear it on my Fathers grave. I was charged with domestic violence just shy of three months ago because my ex threatened to have my Mom raped by a tweaker for a twenty of meth, and then proceeded to get on the phone and tried to actually have it carried out. I got scared instantly because she is completely psycho and I felt that not only was she capable but knew people who would be willing. So I freaked out and went after her phone. She ran outside and started screaming at the top of her lungs " please help me he's gonna kill me " so now I was scared for my Mom and my freedom. Not knowing what to do I panicked and picked her up to carry her in the house and on the way in she grabbed the screen door and it slammed shut on her hands causing about a 1/2 cut on her palm. Then I carried her into the bedroom and threw her down on the bed and took her phone, and instantly realised her hands were hurt. So I immediately gave her her phone back to call and get herself help and left while she called to distance myself from the situation. I was genuinely horrified and panicked because of the threat she made against my Mom. Now I face dv charges and she got off scot free. Ive never in my life been violent or had any kind of violent charges and would never ever hurt a woman or child. She has a huve history of violence and is completely nuts, and for her threat she got absolutely nothing. Bogus setting for trial on Monday.
My story is kinda out there but I swear it on my Fathers grave. I was charged with domestic violence just shy of three months ago because my ex threatened to have my Mom raped by a tweaker for a twenty of meth, and then proceeded to get on the phone and tried to actually have it carried out. I got scared instantly because she is completely psycho and I felt that not only was she capable but knew people who would be willing. So I freaked out and went after her phone. She ran outside and started screaming at the top of her lungs " please help me he's gonna kill me " so now I was scared for my Mom and my freedom. Not knowing what to do I panicked and picked her up to carry her in the house and on the way in she grabbed the screen door and it slammed shut on her hands causing about a 1/2 cut on her palm. Then I carried her into the bedroom and threw her down on the bed and took her phone, and instantly realised her hands were hurt. So I immediately gave her her phone back to call and get herself help and left while she called to distance myself from the situation. I was genuinely horrified and panicked because of the threat she made against my Mom. Now I face dv charges and she got off scot free. Ive never in my life been violent or had any kind of violent charges and would never ever hurt a woman or child. She has a huve history of violence and is completely nuts, and for her threat she got absolutely nothing. Bogus setting for trial on Monday.
The woman are using this as a tool for control of a mans life when they can't do anything else. Including, but not limited to custody of the children
My sister is being charged falsely by Her soon to be Ex- Husband He works for Law Enforcement and has misused the Law..Her public defender wants her to Plea Guilty. That's my sister with three children, Some way Some How .. We need to fight for the Innocen.t
Sooooo true, more people should know.
im going thew it now with the mother of my child i need some one to help with my case
My friend was drug under this bus. And sehe walked off after wasing his time and money with a obviously bogus case. No repercussions this is despicable.
My ex-wife is trying to put a restraining on me because she doesn't want me to see my children
i am a victim of False allegations... Stop False Allegations of Domestic Violence.. she was beating her head on the wall, i said babes stop ur going to hurt urself, she replyed, i'll tell the cops you did it.
There are so many women who are truly abused and need help. The women who falsely report are hurting the women who truly need help and should be ashamed of themselves and they should also be prosecuted!
A woman named Debra Detamble of Lancaster NY falsely accused Kyle Mitchell of domestic violence after he called the police on her. I was with Kyle,so I know he didn't do what she said. When we ran into her at a local supermarket,before he was arrested,she informed him. She told him "You gave me no choice" (to protect herself),and "I'd rather put you in jail than see you with someone else". I was also with him. She has an order of protection against him. He was recently sentenced 11 months for her false accusation. The woman is a drunk,and has a lying problem (especially when she is drinking). Kyle has a past record and this worked against him,even though he's been getting help on his own through psychiatric doctor ( who gave him a note for the judge). It's just horrible that people can lie to and just go on with their own lives while ruining others.
I'm a 41 year old man who works for Los Angeles County Public Health Department. My ex lied to the Montebello PD and LA Sheriff's Department that my life is now destroyed. My career is on the line, my daughters fear me and as of today I continued to be harassed by the LASD. I fear for my safety. From a law abiding citizen back in Nov 2012 I have been labeled as a hard core criminal and even got arrested!
Because I told her "that's it, this is the end, I'm divorcing you, as your jealousy has no remedy". My wife simply called up the cops, told them I hit her, the next day she filed sextual assult chages just to keep me in jail when she knew I was getting out on a $20 personal pond. only one simple fact still stands...my life as I knew it has gone.
I was arrested twice and had my our child kidnapped twice by my ex who was diagnosed with BPD, the same thing the murderer in Conn had. I had notes written by her threatening the lives of the children, psych profiles, proof of her violent nature and she had tried to kill me twice. They still refused to see the truth and because the GAL refused to advise supervised visitation, she was able to kidnap our daughter and her half sister and take them to Mexico, intending to go to Belize. They were caught after 12 days and she was allowed to plead to two misdemeanors. Time served and two years probation. I had to fight to get that, the DA wanted to give her time served and let her go free. If I had not been able to get the news media involved, that is what would have happened.

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