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I am being accused of this and I have a ton of evidence not only did I never abuse her, she was the only one to be physically abusive.
Congress (under the 14th Amendment) can make a state subject to money damages if the state violates civil rights of individuals.
The law must always be upheld according to our constitution which says that the accused are presumed innocent until proven guilty. Women who make false accusations should be prosecuted under the law. Lawyers, police officers, and prosecutors, also need to follow the law of ,"innocent until proven guilty".
My brother is currently in jail awaiting a November trial because of a scorned spouse's preposterous allegations. It is truly unfair and so very sad.
No appeal, no proof, completely an easy way for a vengeful spouse to get control of all bank accounts, as well as keeping the accused from contacting persons to let them know the truth. It silences the accused which is the sickest part.
My best friend has been accused by her ex husband and he put a false pfa on her. This is not just for men being fasley accused their are women out there as well!
I was charged in a court I could not go to without violating the petition than the DCFS Judge who heard the case Violated the intent of the law and without any proof of my abuse yet with proof of Child's mothers mental unfitness 'I always grant these orders as I find it makes things easier'. For who? Without proof? Whos the abuser now??? I have the case file with that Quote!!!
I am in this situation ..my gf fell as we were walking home and after 8 days with her I have suddenly been accused of domestic violence ..its so weird but no cover up or lie and such a simple story ..we held hands and kissed and all and then she asked me to hold her sandles ..then she ran and fell from a wall and broke her temporal bone ..last thing we said to each other was I love you ..its been four weeks .order of protection ..jail and not supreme court for domestic violence ..I'm an immigrant and already know this won't work out for me .do people who love you really turn so bad.for a visa
I too was arrested and falsely accused. My wife was drunk and on antidepressants due to loosing her son. She got out of control. I called 911 to get her to a hospital. The police came and convinced her she was abused by asking her in her mental state, questions for DV. I had stated in the 911 call she threw a glass at me. The police took her cell phone without permission and found picture of her with a black eye she got 8 months earlier by falling down the stairs. They asked her if I did this to her, which I did not, and she said no. The police put in the police report that photos were not of this incident but exhibit battered wife syndrome. I never touched my wife. She stated I pulled her hard at this incident because the police( female officer) officer told her that if she didn't say she was the victim she would go to jail. How can an uneducated cop be the determination of a complex law. Doesn't this need an educated person or persons to determine the VICTIM. Tis law is crap, it deters the responsibility off the courts should a woman actually be abused. So instead of innocent before proven guilty, men are guilty and will remain so unless you have the$$$$ , and even then you could be thrown to the wolves. I have to attend DV classes at $400. I told the judge this incident has cost me a lot of $, that I was put out of my house and no late on my mortgage, he repeated, that the state of Connecticut was ALLOWING me to participate in the program. GUILTY without a trial, Constitutional rights were denied through tout and continue. This needs to stop.
This will not change, its a big money maker and a big political game.
I think that it should be mandatory for people to give out proof on D.V case
The Pinellas County court system is out of control regarding the failure to protect people from false DVI's.
I was charged on a DV call which was a fake report to scare me into giving the female money; when the police came to the house I was upstairs with my then 24 month baby taking a nap and my chest. The police kicked in my bedroom door, scared my daughter and was arrested for domestic violence, with no evidence of probable case, just because I was the male as the officers stated.
laws that allow men to be detained based on her say with no proof of actual abuse need to be abolished the same process should go for domestic violence as any other felony or misdemeanor
Bill Clinton , Joe Biden have push through the domestic violence laws and destroyed peoples lives and they don't even care what is happening to men and dads with this corrupt system ,please change this law , to protect innocent people , no destroy their lives because of someone lying to be vindictive and get a free ride through a divorce or for personal gain and control this alone is domestic violence.
Found guilty by the "State" and not my spouse whom refused to show up on my court date. I am still with my spouse to this day after being falsely accused of touching her in a abusive manner. I did what the court order me to do.6 months of DV counseling while still working for 2 years in a customer service base setting until being laid off. Since, Mar 2012 I am still having issues finding a job due to this particular situation/ blemish. I would still have a job
without the stressful situation of
consistently being turned down because of this useless matter.
If someone can assist me with a solution to my situation along with others that would be helpful. My email address is Ron29301@yahoo.com
It seems to be standard procedure for attorneys to recommend that women file a TRO if they have decided on filing for dissolution of marriage.
Wrong on so many levels.
We need to please stop this. I was falsely accussed of Domestic Violence because I first of all I discovered the person that I was involved with in another relationship. Second because I am Hispanic, and thirdly because I am poor. I had no way to represent myself and so therefore was falsely accussed of Domestic Violence. Please stop this now!! Do not let people, innocent people who are the victims, be the ones accussed of commiting a crime. Stop the Violence For Once and For All!
My story takes 3 hours to tell. If you want to know then call me at 256-452-2365. It has been a nightmare and my children have suffered tremendously because of her selfishness.
I have recently been falsely accused of d v by my child's mother. Due to a pattern in herviolent behavior , criminal record , and iconsistencies in her story the case was dismissed.however there was a mediation for custody because of the case.even after the case was dismissed (child's mother even lied to mediator of why the case was dismissed.) she was awarded sole custody and I was given 3 hours a week with my child. A child that I raised alone for the first two years of her life that the mother didn't even acknowledge her existence and we all lived together for 18 months. What can I do?
Little consider, if any, is given to the child and how this destructive, mean spirited, self-serving, often financially motivated vindictiveness plays out.
My ex girlfriend was married to a man and she wanted to get him in trouble and told me about that and threatened me with dire consequences if I did not comply. I did not comply to her orders and the next thing I know is she had a false case of DV against me. My then room-mate was a witness to the made up story that she furnished, and her claims could not stand in the court and the case got dismissed. She filed for a restraining order at the same time and hired a lawyer to convince the judge. I had presented more than 50 evidences but did not have a lawyer and the judge commented "she feels I could take my ex to civil court (and sue her)" and she granted my ex a 2 year RO against me although I was the real victim here. I request anybody who is reading this to consider the plight of innocent people and change the laws in order to make it difficult for narcissists to abuse the system. Also, it should be strictly enforced to file a case against somebody for lying by the DA.
My son has been accused of DV. His brother "heard" the whole argument between him and his gf. The police ignored the facts his brother gave them because he did not see it only heard it as he was standing at the door listening. . We now have to sell everything we own to get a lawyer to prove his innocence. We are told even after we do that we there is no repercussions for her lying to the police. This has to stop. He lost a job, was not able to live in his own home for a month and was not able to give his side of the story. No one cares. I understand wanting to protect the ones that are truly victimized, but what has happened you have created a new victim. Please change these laws to protect everyone, not give women a trump card in an argument.....
I have been verbally abused and harassed by both my own sister and her husband. I moved to Florida from Georgia with my family after I retired to be close to my sister since both our spouses travel for work during a one year period I was verbally harassed by both my sister and her husband. In May her husband actually came after me threatening to hurt me as my 20 year old son and 2 male neighbors stood by my side to protect me because my husband was out of state working. After this incident we decided to move back to Georgia at the beginning of June. We moved while my sister was on vacation to avoid any conflict. She in turn filed a FALSE DV report on 7/9/2013 after we had been in GA for a month accusing my husband and myself of harassment against her! I had not seen my sister or her husband since the end of May nor has my husband. It has cost over 1K in 2 weeks of travel and my husband missing work to go to court and she did not even show up!! I had proof of her harassment towards me but the judge didn't want to see it and just dismissed the DV request she made. I can't understand how anyone can just say things that are not true and cause emotional stress to the accused and you can't even defend yourself! What about the law that states when signing the DV affidavit the information is true or you commit perjury? In FL it seems it does not matter! What about the falsely accused? With proof it doesn't matter! There has got to be a way to enforce perjury on a false DV report! It is not fair what has happened to my family because of her anger issues!
This can go both ways, too. Strangely enough, my daughter has been kicked out oh HER home with nowhere to live and no money because her husband claimed abuse on the kids! All he had to do was go to a judge and claim she was physically and emotionally abusing them, and hours later she was on the streets! We, her parents, live 5,000 miles away, but are doing everything we can to help her. So far it's cost us over 6K and we're just starting! There were no exams on the kids and no CPS called. Just the words of her soon to be ex...
I have spent 100k on trying to get a divorce. Problem is I was accused of DV one week after I filed for divorce. Go figure !!! So now I fight to just have timeshare with my kids. My ex , after 9 months of a temporary restraining order against me, decided to dismiss all charges just 5 days before my day in court. However, the damage has already been done. The judge has read the false reports so now I am "DV GUY". Try getting a judge to allow you fair timeshare with your kids after you have been falsely accused of DV. GOOD LUCK. So now the bad guy wants to see his kids more which confuses the hell out of the judge which decides not to give me a divorce. Why ? Because it wants to send us to mediation over and over again. The proof to the lies are all available but judges to not react on perjury in family court. They just want it to go away. Men, fathers, I have seen it and experienced it in the last 18 months. You will not find justice in the false accusations against you. You will suffer because of it in some way. Please prove me wrong. You will know me when I am done with my divorce. I will speak out for all of you in an attempt to protect us against false allegations. But that is when I don't need to spend countless hours every week defending myself. I am not an atty but if you need to chat , (I've been there, it's a long road). 3057766779.
The women make these false claims that ruin peoples lives because there is no consequence. If they are found making false allegations they should be fined and jailed.
There has to be some penalty for intentionally and fraudulently trying to ruin someone’s life for their own gain.
Laws and systems were not made for bitter women crying wolf!!
The Gun Control Act of 1968 needs to remove the Lautenberg amendment. If not they should at least exempt cops and soldiers for official duties. This charge is too easy to catch.
More to the discrimination of Dad's in this country , domestic violence all a women has to do is lie an the man [husband or mate] gets removed from his home , my now x wife told me she wanted a divorce and she was moving out, but instead she accused me of domestic violence so she could have a free ride through the whole divorce , and just because I bought my home before we were married and put her name on the deed she used this to stay in the house ,it has been over two years and she is still there not paying the home loan property tax's , insurance ect. I had to fill bankruptcy because or her she promised to help me pay for this house when we bought it , she never did , and the domestic violence gave her the right to stay in the home , it's all about control in the divorce and destroying Dad's life and the laws let women do this and no one even cares because it's all money driven billions of dollars from our own government , there are people in jail because of the way the law's are , as men [Dad's] we have no rights , domestic violence law's are the cause of most of the violence , after the fact , this is unbelievable , we live in a free country but even if you are falsely accused of domestic violence you are guilty , and your life will become a nightmare , you are guilty as soon as you are arrested , this is wrong and you are striped of your right's guilty no mater what , that's our government at work spend billion's on a corrupt system , and no one even seam's to care , this is why people kill each other and that make's the news but what about all the false accusations people are getting away with , not only does it destroy the family but innocent lives ,when is the law makers and leaders of this country going to see what is going on with all the corruption with this system of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE WHEN IS SOMEONE GOING TO DO SOMETHING TO CHANGE THE LAWS TO PROCTECT [ Dad's and Men ] so lives are not destroyed
I gave my wife everything and she falsely accused me of domestic violence, I lost my home, my business, and now I get to see my son every other weekend, it's our own law makers , President, vice president, and so on , its discrimination at its best and all a women has to do is lie and the district attorney and judges don't care if she lied just throw the man in jail, ruin his life , all because a women wants a divorce an control , and some women know this and falsely accused the man , husband Ect. So welfare just keep growing , its all about money an destroying lives????
I gave my wife everything and she falsely accused me of domestic violence, I lost my home, my business, and now I get to see my son every other weekend, it's our own law makers , President, vice president, and so on , its discrimination at its best and all a women has to do is lie and the district attorney and judges don't care if she lied just throw the man in jail, ruin his life , all because a women wants a divorce an control , and some women know this and falsely accused the man , husband Ect. So welfare just keep growing , its all about money an destroying lives????
I gave my wife everything and she falsely accused me of domestic violence, I lost my home, my business, and now I get to see my son every other weekend, it's our own law makers , President, vice president, and so on , its discrimination at its best and all a women has to do is lie and the district attorney and judges don't care if she lied just throw the man in jail, ruin his life , all because a women wants a divorce an control , and some women know this and falsely accused the man , husband Ect. So welfare just keep growing , its all about money an destroying lives????
I have been arrested for stalking. This lady a friend at one time of 25 years, told police that I saw her in a store and smiled at her and began to dance around her..Also she said she seen me on the road..I went to her church to buy a dinner and help kids with a trip, She called the police the next day and said I sat beside her and winked and smile at her and her 15 year old daughter. The thing is, she did not have any protective order against me at the time, I was placed in jail with a high bond placed on me and somehow she got a 2 year order against me to stay away from her and her daughter..All of this on her word to police no proof..To top it off she said she had 40 people in the church that would stand up for her..and police didn't talk to any of them..I believe I will win this case but that is not the point, I am a poor man but the Lord has bless ed me with a good lawyer..My point is it's not fair that woman can just say a man did this and the police will come and take us to jail but if a man was to do the same thing..We men would be hule off to jail for harassment. I am all for the law to be changed for it to become fair..That police check closer before arresting someone just by word only..
My Father was arrested, because a women said he beat her, I was there. and yet the police..or ermm the Pigs said I had no say so in this. and that my dad was trash. this stuff needs to stop people.
This is a real concern to me as I am with someone that is again being falsely accused of something he did not do. My fiances youngest sons mother has made two claims against him. The first claim came when there was a dispute for custody and she claimed abuse on herself and the child. The claim of the child being abused was due to nursemaids elbow which was documented on two occasions through the healthcare system and neither were turned into DHS because there was not cause to do so but because he was late to court and she had a woman right advocate she was able to get a protection order placed against him and was granted full legal and physical custody due to her claims. Years later her abuse on my fiance, myself, and alienating the child from his father continue to which we filed a motion for contempt of court. Now that we have filed the mother has made a second false claim against my fiance which includes us following her for over 6 months although we had not had a car for three of those 6 months, she makes claims that we are recording her personal activities but in reality we only record calls between the parties which we are allowed to do as is a one party state and interactions such as pick up and drop offs of the minor child. The mother was not able to get an order for protection but was able to get a order to protect from harassment due to stating she has been followed and is in fear for her life. I don't get it if you feel you are being followed and that person is behind you why would you not call the police and get that documented. But again this mother was able to get a lawyer provided to her at a low rate or at no cost to help her through the contempt of court process and have even filed a cross contempt claim that mentions the same things in her harassment order. The harassment order that the mother filed also mentioned to of the things this mother is in contempt of which is not allowing the father to know in advance of the child's extra curricular activities, and that she has had the child in therapy but has not stated the name or location of these sessions so that the father can attend or get notes regarding the visits. The mother also makes the claim that the father refused counseling which is also false. My fiance asked that they all three attend counseling with a psychologist that can help deal with the alienation and other matters. The only time the mother even asked for counseling is when she was in violation of the decree or was planning to be in violation of the decree. All I can say is this is nonsense and it is detrimental to our health and relationship with the child as we have to document things so extensively to proof her lies. There really should be something in place to wean out these people who make false claims against men, there really should be more help to these men that have false claims of abuse or harassment placed on them, and when a man calls to make a claim against a woman's abuse he should not be looked at
I have been a victim of false accusation by my former spouse. I have been cleared of any wrong doing however she took from me the ONLY thing that mattered... my children. The courts are so concerned that we've now been apart for to long and that I cant just be given visitation. and they will not enforce therapy or reunification. and I'm not a wealthy man so I can't afford to fight her in court. Please make tougher consequences for false accusations. Thank You
Happened to someone very close to me. It is the ultimate betrayal. Affects the child and disconnects the parent from the child.
This one is a tough one because I have seen this from both sides of the fence. I have seen someone close to me being abused and I have seen someone accuse another of domestic violence. The thing is that it's really common today for women to be more controlling than the men and I see a lot of women who take advantage of the messed up system. The system is here to protect the women but who is here to protect the men that get their lives ruined due to one false allegation. I know a girl who has ruined so many families by accusing the males of the things that she does to them. She has stabbed, punched, kicked, and even bit chunks of meat from her exes. She has also made false allegations of rape because she didn't want her then boyfriend to know she cheated. Never reported the rapes but rather told everyone in their community. Guys never want to go against her and press charges because she is female and always plays the victim. She is a professional victim since the age of 14 when she claimed rape on some boys in high school. These boys names were damaged and come to find out there was a tape that proved NO FORCE. There has to be some changes made to protect the men from these women who clearly have psychological problems. The worst part is that they are the best liars. I have witnessed this girl going as far as strangling herself and then reporting that someone else did this to her. It breaks my heart to see anyone accused of something that they are entirely innocent of and would beg and plead for a better system to protect the innocent from the "Professional Victims" that are out there and I know there are more out there than many think.
My little brother (27 y/o) is currently being held (for over a month now at nelson coleman correctional center for domestic abuse (false accusation). he recently ended a relationship with a girl (31 y/o) after aprox. 11 years of HER abuse. everyone in our community, family,children,adults and esspecially my brother was a victim of her jealous,selfish and hateful violence. she has manipulated the system for soo long that it just works for her. she has had my brother arrested soo many times that now he is STUCK in jail. he has never hurt this girl. she has used a taser on him, tried to stab him,run him over with her car (multiple times with witnesses), she has beat his truck from bumper to bumper with a hammer at MY mOTHER's birthday party. the list goes on and on (which is why he finally left her). she is currently on probation for beating a 10 y/o child so badly that 2 grown men had to pry her off of this little boy. she has beaten (with her fist more than one animal in our subdivision. she has stalked my brother's house from 2 of his neibore (who have already reported this). we had court about 1 month before my brother's last arrest where she convinced the judge she was deathly afraid of my brother.when we left the courthouse and returned home she was waiting for him in her new boyfriends suv (i have pictures) . she walked straight up to my brother's porch where he was sitting and she punched him in his face. he yelled for her to leave and she got mad,lay on the ground and stated "oh yeah? watch this) she began crying and hitting herself (witnessed from at least 2 neighbors who reported to the officer she called) she called the police and said my brother hit her again. This is just a very small example of the torture and deciet my little brother has lived with for soo long and now that he's decided on a better life she has made him pay! this is NOT justice,this is ABUSE to not only my brother but also to the real victims out there who actually Need help,like my brother!!! Something Has to Change. Can the accuser be charged for manipulating the police department.she should serve at least the time in jail that my poor brother has had to.
I was issued a TRO by my neighbor as a ploy to stop me from taking pictures of their code violation. Her daughter wrote that I threatened her mother and their customers, that I trespassed on the property to take the pictures both lies. In Florida her lies are privileged and I can't press perjury charges or sue for slander. She can lie again and there's not a damn thing I can do about it. Also in Florida they can come in your home and take your weapons leaving you vulnerable to the neighborhood thugs for 5 - 10 days.
I have been in a terrible custody battle where my ex moved to Germany on military orders without my knowledge or consent. The courts do nothing. I had to go out and get him on my expense, and have yet been unable to lower my payments as thee military made me lose my employment.

Now, she is trying to accuse me of abuse. WHen she is the one who abused me when I picked him up on her turf. She is a terrible person, and knows that the courts will cater to her every whim.

Shame on you Congress, may the death of all the foster children, and fathers, and their kids be upon your heads.

You sit in your ivory towers and waste taspayer funds and abuse military space-a flights, and allow the dregs of society to destroy your own citizenry, and allow your selves teh ability to use legislation for your own personal gain.

I see very little reason to have trust in any of you. I served in the forces, and my service hamstrung me in seeing my son. Yet, she lied her way into the service, kidnapped him overseas; and the courts tell me she is fine, and nothing I bring to court or say makes a difference.

Now, she falsely accuses me after verbally abusing me, and trying to trap me overseas when I get my son; and I fear the courts will seize this opportunity to take more money from me in attorneys fees, child support matching funds (SS act Title IV-D), and maybe even put me (an innocent man away) so as to make money off of me in your prisons which are modern slavery.

May God put it all on your heads.
Recently approved law called VAWA even enforces this gender-biased practice against innocent men. Shame to those congresspersons and senators who signed VAWA. It is unconstitutional.
It is time to change some laws!! My daughter in law is pulling strings with the CPS, especially with a woman, her age, who was suppose to be for the 3 young children, 2, 6 and 8 yr. old.,. My daughter in law and her are like best friends now. She didn't want her 2 teenagers, just the little ones. She keeps pulling restraining order on him. Now because he was behind her leaving court, she pulled a stalking on him. He has an attorney and has blown so much money. I've loss track of how many times he's been in court since Jan. 2013. He was there, last Wednesday and today, Friday. Court July 25 and August 2. It is really ridiculous what these people get away with. These are all false statements and they get by with it. My son has tried to file against her and guess what, he can't. Congress needs to do something!!!! This is just not right.
It is time to change some laws!! My daughter in law is pulling strings with the CPS, especially with a woman, her age, who was suppose to be for the 3 young children, 2, 6 and 8 yr. old.,. My daughter in law and her are like best friends now. She didn't want her 2 teenagers, just the little ones. She keeps pulling restraining order on him. Now because he was behind her leaving court, she pulled a stalking on him. He has an attorney and has blown so much money. I've loss track of how many times he's been in court since Jan. 2013. He was there, last Wednesday and today, Friday. Court July 25 and August 2. It is really ridiculous what these people get away with. These are all false statements and they get by with it. My son has tried to file against her and guess what, he can't. Congress needs to do something!!!! This is just not right.
I'm a victim of falsely being accused of domestic violence when I was thousands of miles away from the accuser.
My wife has tried twice unsucessfully in less than a moth to file a civil Domestic Violence against me when i as the courts if i can file a motion of harassment against her i was told no and they also said anybody can file a domestic violence wether factual or not . i can't afford an Attorney so i have to live in fear of possibly being accused again.

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