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Twice this has happened to me. In both in incidents the girl had issues and both girls admitted trust issues and other issues with their father.
My wife did the same thing to me. She moved in a man that she met on the internet 3 months ago, they both kicked me out making up threats and acting out of control in front of the children, then filed a restraining order on me. 4 days after meeting my children, I found him, my wife, and my daughter laying in the same bed sleeping. Luckily I easily had it vacated in court but she tried using the kids all day everyday up to the hearing to get me to violate it. They are both their, have been causing destruction in my house, and I have no idea what my two little girls are being exposed to. My wife and him both have a history of mental illness I found out about. There is nothing I can have done till the temporary orders now that the divorce is filed. The waiting game continues and in the meantime, I pay for 100% of everything for them and they use my kids for leverage, mental torture on me, and I am withheld visitation to them along with threats to my future. I pray and hope that justice will be served.
this is currently happening to my friend and its so bogus that she keeps doing this and gets away with it THEN SHE KEEPS SOME OF HIS STUFF!!
Three male family members have been victimized and have been falsely accused of wrong-doing.
LIVES ARE BEING RUINED AS WE SPEAK.
EQUALITY FOR ALL.
My wife seriously beat me up in front of our children. I had just recently came out of a body cast, lost 70 lbs. and walking with a cane. I called the police and they took her to jail for a couple of days and didn't charge her. I was told by child services that if she hurt the kids, I would be held responsible. If you are a man reporting domestic violence against you by a female spouse, lots a luck fella
3 male family members thus far have been thusly victimized; this is not a coincidence, this is an epidemic. So much for the "rights of the child(ren) involved". The DV system needs true equality reform!
It is time for these, all to often, spite charges to be properly documented and investigated to avoid innocent people in jail.
Any Domestic Violence is not Right. However if in a Court of Law the DV Charge is thrown out, then the accused should be innocent no matter what the accuser says.
I pray thatlaw enforcement officers, public attorneys, and judges be forced to recognize the precept that the accused is innocent until proven guilty and the accuser be dealt with.
My son pays the price of these lies and there is nothing I can do to stop it. I was attacked and I made the mistake of stopping her.
I had a tro falsely filed against me by my wife and as a result I've pretty much lost my son and 9 years of my life in the army.
My wife is mentally unstable and very vindictive i recently am accused of abusing her and it is un true and given a proper chance and oppertuniy i could prove the allegations false. My wife knew that in accusing me it would violate my probation and i would go to prison. But this article is correct . There does not need to be burden of . Just the womens word. Guilty till proven innocent ..... i believed our courty to be the other way around .
I am currently going through an injustice.
I have been a father's rights advocate since 2004 and the abuses against kids and dads are absolutely shocking. In this country EVERYONE has a right to a jury trial, but that is all but ignored in the family court system. There are never any charges against moms who repeatedly perjure themselves to the courts or commit fraud. The government seems to want as many people as they can on the dole, so they can take jurisdiction over these children via court orders. This must change.
I am a woman that was faults allegations of domestic violence was put on me due to a jealous woman that wanted to be with my man and in the process lost my career cuz of this allegation...can I sue this person for this???
My former wife lied to the police and had me arrested for domestic violence. She said I pushed her. She also scratched her arm. After a long drawn out process my case was dismissed. I was removed from my house for six months while waiting for our divorce to go through as a result of bogus POV order. I paid the mortgage while my former wife lived in my house. When I return to my home I discovered that stole all my possessions and vandalized my house out of spite. I took her to court for contempt. I lost. The court ruled that they cannot rule out other explanations about who stole my property and vandalized my house since I was not there to witness her steal and vandalize. Also, mugshots.com and related sites need to be outlawed.
Today I was my first day of class and some called dcyf with false allegations towards my family I believe it is fair to know who is starting this uncalled allegation we have so many acts agains us but why can't it be fair and let us have and act to protect our selfs and find out who is causing this allegations towards our family and I believe everyone in the country
I was arrested in 2010 for domestic violence. The girl and her family lied on me. All I done was try to protect my home and my belongings from her. I wanted to end this relationship with her and she went nuts. Beat herself up... lied and said I did it. This girl threatened my son 11 at the time. His mom and now my new wife. This girl broke into my house and stole my truck while I was in jail. I later went to prison on this even after the so called victim stated in court that she lied because I wanted to end the relationship with her. Now here's the kicker I was released from prison in 2012 and once again this girl starts harassing me... I can't say I did something wrong here. I had to be doing something right or this so called victim would not of continued to harass me. I recently caught up with an ol high school sweetheart... and married her. This girl then started threathing her life and nothing was ever done with her actions of threats and violence or the criminal mischief she had done. It was all ignored.... but now because this county would not listen to me or anyone else for that matter and now that so called victim; Casey Crain has killed her 8 month old baby and that innocent child's death is now on the state of Indiana hands. If they would of let me speak... let the voice of a man, an innocent man be heard this baby would still be alive. Women have autonomy rights granted by the Constitution of the United States of America giving them a voice... the right to be heard so why is a man's voice forced to be silenced??
I was arrested in 2010 for domestic violence. The girl and her family lied on me. All I done was try to protect my home and my belongings from her. I wanted to end this relationship with her and she went nuts. Beat herself up... lied and said I did it. This girl threatened my son 11 at the time. His mom and now my new wife. This girl broke into my house and stole my truck while I was in jail. I later went to prison on this even after the so called victim stated in court that she lied because I wanted to end the relationship with her. Now here's the kicker I was released from prison in 2012 and once again this girl starts harassing me... I can't say I did something wrong here. I had to be doing something right or this so called victim would not of continued to harass me. I recently caught up with an ol high school sweetheart... and married her. This girl then started threathing her life and nothing was ever done with her actions of threats and violence or the criminal mischief she had done. It was all ignored.... but now because this county would not listen to me or anyone else for that matter and now that so called victim; Casey Crain has killed her 8 month old baby and that innocent child's death is now on the state of Indiana hands. If they would of let me speak... let the voice of a man, an innocent man be heard this baby would still be alive. Women have autonomy rights granted by the Constitution of the United States of America giving them a voice... the right to be heard so why is a man's voice forced to be silenced??
My wife is mentally unstable and very vindictive i recently am accused of abusing her and it is un true and given a proper chance and oppertuniy i could prove the allegations false. My wife knew that in accusing me it would violate my probation and i would go to prison. But this article is correct . There does not need to be burden of . Just the womens word. Guilty till proven innocent ..... i believed our courty to be the other way around .
This kind of abuse of the system is taking a devastating toll on my life but worse is the toll it take on my son.
I have been dealing with this for 10 years, false accusations and not having a voice in court have completely destroyed my life 3 times over and is hurting my 11 year old boy. Please someone help.
My four kids and I are also having to deal with this! Please stop this now!
I want to see and hear the truth, lies have become the norm in our society...its time to stop punishing the truth!!!!
it is crazy that congress does not realize that VAWA needs an overhaul. I contacted my congresswowan and she stood by it. I am talking about foreign spouse who claim dv to get their green card. it is a loophole to get terrosist in my country.
my son is being falsely accused of domestic violence.i have witnessed her hitting him but he never ever raised a fist to her.she has told him she has a chemical imbalance of the brain but refuses to take medication for it.i have never seen marks on her but have seen marks on my son real bad ones.now he is in jail.
I am recently married. My wife abuses me when she doesnt get her way and threatens me with police if i dont let her. Twice i have been in cuffs for simply not agreeing with her and im afraid it will only get worse
I have been served with three restraining orders in three years. All were obtained by a former housemate of 2 months, using different names in different states. All accused me of rape, assault, stalking, threats, etc., some "events" of which were set in the context of a fictitious 8 year long relationship. My wife and I have lived at our address for 25 years. These R.O.'s were obtained with the assistance of domestic violence groups. They ask for proof of nothing, and the accuser is given a free lawyer, a "safe" place to live, etc.

In my case, ALL restraining orders were thankfully vacated, and my accuser was ordered to reimburse me for legal fees, which will never happen.

In relation to the last vacated R.O.,

1. despite the string of vacated R.O.'s,

2. despite the monetary award,

3. despite public money and the time of police and the judicial system having been wasted by this fraud,

4.despite the stress, ill health, and fear that I've experienced,

4. despite testimony from clergy, law enforcement and others demonstrating that this individual has been scamming people for years

5. despite the fact that all affidavits were nearly identical

6. despite the fact that my accuser (who says she "lived" with me as a partner for 8 years) doesn't know my height, weight, first name, or even how to spell my surname, as her R.O.'s will attest,

5. and despite the fact that the judge told this person in court that she thought she was lying:

my accuser was free to go! She was not detained, arrested, or fined. She is free to go to another city or state, and with help from domestic violence groups which are out for blood (and which could care less if innocent people are accused) she will do this to me again. restraining order abuse must be stopped. It's unconstitutional, and rights afford alleged "victims" outweigh those afford to the accused; no equal treatment under the law.
I am a victim of this injustice. My wife falsely stated I threatened her. The police came to my house and took me to jail. Over a year later, I can not understand how the person I cared about more than anyone else in the world could do this to me. Termination of our marriage can't come soon enough. Please pray the justice system stops my wife's vindictiveness so my 8 year old daughter and I can proceed unimpeded in our loving relationship and lives.
The war on men needs to stop
I have been falsely accused of being a danger to my child by my ex GF for her to get an order of protection against me as a defacto parenting order to keep me from seeing my child. This is absolutely ludicrous, i haven't got a violent bone in my body. This is abuse of the court systems!
i am tired of innocent men, i'm really getting fed up with women "rights" seriously blaming others/men/kids just to see them get in screwed over just for"fun" is f'ed up, and it also ****es me off that i can't do a damn thing, i severely hope you guy's can do something, and it shouldn't matter what age you are as long as your at least 14 you should be able to help and or do something
I'm going through this right now and it's horrible...
A trained LPC that by the numbers exploted every opportunity and hid drug addiction and pattern of abuse overcame physical evidence and abuse of process to take all I own, my job and my life. No due process - guilt till proven innocent.
my son is in jail now for this cops never interviewed any of the 5 people with him all that night this is the third or fourth time (charges were always dropped in the end with no evidence everytime he lost his job and ended up using hundred of dollars to bail out of jail) every time she gets better at the story this time she cut her self with a razor-knife on the palm of her had (she has a history of cutting herself)and added weapon to the charges now hes looking at 20 yrs.he doesn't have the money to pay a private lawyer so hes stuck with what the state gives him .All they would have had to do was contact the witness he was with all night and read the text she was sending him on his cell phone to have seen who was telling the truth. maybe if just once she got in trouble for this it would stop.
I am a police officer and was accused of domestic violence. Had my firearm taken away and added to the brady list by the local DA's office. My job, career and family are at risk due to a vindictive accuser.
I was and am a victim of a woman who accused me of horrible things, absolutely none of which are true, This has ruined my life forever.
Inequality in parenting must stop! Fairness in child support must begin. Our children are our most important possession. The laws need to reflect the importance of the father and stop the slavery.
Law does not allow victim proper defense and only listens to the one with more money. Many EX should be in jail instead of their spouses.
My husband have been accused falsely of domestic abuse by his ex-wife, have been labeled as a domestic abuser, there are documents showing he was the one who was abused by her, but the judges could care less.
False accusations and ridiculous judges ruin innocent lives
My spouse of 23 years controlled every aspect of my entire life. We belonged to a strict fundamental christain religion that prohibits even questioning your husband, the "family head." My naivety inexperience and isolation left me unequipped for the possibility that a restraining order could be filed with out ever having abused my husband or children. It has been two years since I lost custody of my children due to that restraining order. I violated the retraining order when my x invited me to come to our home to get some of my things. As a result of my plea, the restraining order is now for ten years. I spent 14 days in jail, and 1000.00 in fines, and 3 years probation. At 44 yrs. old, I had no prior criminal record. He had an attorney, I couldn't afford one. At the divorce trial, he got everything. All because of an order that took the family law court less than ten minutes to issue. No proof was needed, no witnesses to put into effect an order that has drastically changed my life, and denied me my basic human rights. The last blow is an addition to the order that prevents me from attending a Christian congregation that I attended for over 20 years, even though my x and my children do not attend there at all. His claim was that they "might run into me" and that I was garrassing him by going to a congregation that we both attended during our marriage, though he no longer does. He in fact, attends another congregation. So because of this order, I lost my kids, my home, our business, and now my right to attend the religious services of my choice, even though it does not violate the order. I am now prohibited from any contact with- in addition to my kids, my kids school, the home and business, the businesses employees, former clients of the business, my church, the Elders of my church, any mention of any of this on the internet, and then of course the 100 yard rule. isn't this America? Is this really happening? I am so devastated by this that I have lost any hope in the justice system that I once believed in. I live in the same city as all of these parties that I am restrained from. I feel like I cant even leave my home without fear of being arrested.
DV can be and is used for retribution against a spouse when often both parties are mutually guilty.
The Police said that she was not credible, and never arrested me, but the Judge decided for the restraining order and 52 BIP. I tried to Appeal challenging this insane restraining order and the Court of Appeal opinion is that "they do not reweigh". What is the Appeal Court there for? To just verify the signatures?

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