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ISLAMIC LAW / SAUDI ARABIAS GOT THE RIGHT IDEA, ANY WOMAN WHO THINKS SHE CAN RUIN A MANS LIFE BY MAKING A FALSE ACCUSATION OF RAPE, GETS STONED TO DEATH, BRING OUT ON AROUND THE WORLD !!!! ! !! !
Women abuse the system and are granted their wishes when a man is falsely accused and locked up. Its a shame, because the arresting officers should be able to use discretion and tell if the woman is telling the truth or not. A not for profit needs to be started to assist with men who have had to deal with such catastrophes.
My ex has somehow survived almost 3 years playing the system to support all her needs. In addition she rotates between 2 to 4 different men, at the same time, to cover anything else.
When I finally figured her out, I made it clear that we were done. Out of pure vingence, she made claims of domestic violence, although the report clearly stated, I was not at the scene, no visable marks or bruses, and only witness was her minor child from a previous marriage. The lessor of two evils was a class, 12 weeks no big deal..... till she claimed I violated an injunction....
Too explain why I choose to plea is nine plus years ago I got into some trouble, all stemming from an adiction. None of these charges were violent in any way, but feloneys non the less. In Polk County Florida even when you a prson sentance, or probation NOTHING is forgotton.
All these years later being productive, Im viewed as a multiple convicted felon," DANGERIOUS".
Didn't matter I was a Generaal Manager of a National Landscape company, clean, honest, REFORMED. All it takes is a female to cry wolf, and its a done deal. If the courts would look half as hard at the accusser too the would find.... 1) multiple claims on every major relationship she ever had.
2)She is the one with the violent charges
3) in the mist of a custody battle
and so on and so on.....


HELP
I would like to also add that women from outside of the US, come to the US under fiancée visas, get pregnant, get married and then file false domestic violence charges against their new husband in order to obtain "special" status to expedite their work permits or other status. THIS MUST BE STOPPED!
I'm going through something similar he said she said situation an i have a kid on the way dec 25 with my current girlfriend... its so stressful
My boyfriend is currently in jail for tjis exact thing. His ex who is a very violent, jealous and vengeful women repeatedly through their 6year relationship would start fights, locking him in they house, hitting, biting, stratching and throwing anything in reach also doing massive property damage. He being much larger then her would take the abuse till it got unbareable and then would try to leave or restrain her but never hit her even when she was punching him in the face. He tried to leave multiple times but stayed because of their young son. After a routine fight where neighbors called the cops he was arrested and was talked into pleading no contest to assult. After he was released and we started dating he got an indictment for felony battery. When she found out we were together she had made a false report of abuse. Even though he hadn't even seen here in weeks. Because of the plea they indicted him. After bailing him out she continued claiming to ne scared making up reports and using the courts to harass us. When he filed for visiting rights she claimed we had her kid napped. Though we had no contact with her in over 5 months, he is now sitting in jail with a bail of 100, 000 cash only. This is a guy who had no criminal record and just wanted to see his son. His trial isn't set for another 5 months and because we can't afford a private attorney and definitely can't afford the bail he is sitting locked up and no one cares he was the true victim of abuse. She has now focused on me trying to claim I put a hit on her, in hopes of also getting me charged. Telling me she will make sure I lose my kids and so on. Because she is the "victim" wr can't seem to get any one to listen to the truth or help us. She is a drug user who is bitter and the courts ate helping her ruin our lives. What do we do, where do we turn for help against this crazy women? Please help
My boyfriend is currently in jail for tjis exact thing. His ex who is a very violent, jealous and vengeful women repeatedly through their 6year relationship would start fights, locking him in they house, hitting, biting, stratching and throwing anything in reach also doing massive property damage. He being much larger then her would take the abuse till it got unbareable and then would try to leave or restrain her but never hit her even when she was punching him in the face. He tried to leave multiple times but stayed because of their young son. After a routine fight where neighbors called the cops he was arrested and was talked into pleading no contest to assult. After he was released and we started dating he got an indictment for felony battery. When she found out we were together she had made a false report of abuse. Even though he hadn't even seen here in weeks. Because of the plea they indicted him. After bailing him out she continued claiming to ne scared making up reports and using the courts to harass us. When he filed for visiting rights she claimed we had her kid napped. Though we had no contact with her in over 5 months, he is now sitting in jail with a bail of 100, 000 cash only. This is a guy who had no criminal record and just wanted to see his son. His trial isn't set for another 5 months and because we can't afford a private attorney and definitely can't afford the bail he is sitting locked up and no one cares he was the true victim of abuse. She has now focused on me trying to claim I put a hit on her, in hopes of also getting me charged. Telling me she will make sure I lose my kids and so on. Because she is the "victim" wr can't seem to get any one to listen to the truth or help us. She is a drug user who is bitter and the courts ate helping her ruin our lives. What do we do, where do we turn for help against this crazy women? Please help
I brought a woman from my country and when she got the conditional green card, she started reading her rights that comes with the green card. she read the part of dv and told me that she could call the cops to have me arrested and she would still get her permanent green card without me approving it. our relationship was bad aka over, but not violent. she was about to move out of the house we live and a week before the move, when i came home around 4.20 am (was drinking) she started screaming and yelling at me. I told her we talk tomorrow (i share a house). took my toothbrush, brushed my teeth and went to bed (I sleep on the floor side and she sleep on the wall side of the bed). I was sleeping as close from the edge of the bed as possible because I didn't want no part of her. i felt as sleep and then felt someone on top of me. I reacted and she felt on the floor and I felt on top of her because she pulled me (remember I was sleeping at the edge of the bed). anyway, she threatened to call the cops and i told her to do it. she did and accuse me of strangulation. police came and took me to jail. in the police reports. it says, no marks, no injury, no hospital and no evidence. right now i'm going to trial because I know i didn't touch the woman. she's doing this so she could get her permanent green card. the judge and the district attorney are just listening to all she's saying and haven't ask me any question. i'm so ****ed with the system. I on trial this nov 17, 2014. I'm rejected their plea deal (disorderly conduct if i go to all the programs). i have spent a lot of money, my urine bill is around $8000 and counting (all negative). this******most stop. the people in the dv class treat me like criminal, they don't give a phuck about anybody. for them, if you are there, you are guilty. I told them that i'm still going to court and that I'm innocent until proven guilty. they don't care. I have a very calm demeanor however, now i have high blood pressure, stress, forgets things. this******is consuming me. I have never and will never hit a woman. thank you.
I am truly saddened that the idea of a woman abusing the system to her advantage to lie, steal, and manipulate every one involved to play the victim. Please look at these laws and cases individually as my dear friend is suffering
from the same thing.
It's unfortunate that this is happening to my son right now.
Please do something for us family oriented, hardworking men that are or have suffered through having your life turned upside down behind lies.
Thank You.
My wife married up ten years decided to walk out of our marriage thanks to the no fault law that i have no say but happy she filed i was the first to file in family court in february to receive papers from the courts almost six weeks later so i had her serve because my kids at this time wanted to back home to live me she hide well till she retained a attorney with a text saying if you are trying have me served have it sent to my attorney so the next day my attorney served it through him now her attorney having full knowledge that i was asking for full custody he promise her that if file for a order of protection this would go away for two months to go by she always said i was stupid for filing for visitation i was letting you see them i called my attorney to tell him about what she keeps on saying so we had her served with the order for that next day to text me you lied you're going for full custody as we spoke witch i should have recorded i told her your attorney knew about this she replied i don't trust him i paid him already told her she can file and ask me if i'm really going to do this i told her they want to come home we have rights. to got to the first court date with a fax stated that he would not be able to show excusing himself and said there was a order of protection out on me to the judge she did not show i was never served and even went down to the courthouse where it was file to get a copy of that order (once agian never got served ) in a family court in a different country so as stated i showed to that court date where she did not appear for it to get dismissed ( to add non of the allegation occurred ) second time to my court case she finally showed up to ask by the judge was he served no one answered why wasn't he. about a week ago she told me to cancel my case to threaten me as i told her we will take it to trial to get hit with another order of protection with two of the same but altered to make sound better in supreme court i know i've done nothing wrong and to find that in new york if a domestic order the one its against loses custody and has to pay the other attorney fees she is protected by a law whether true or not and can not be prosecuted for these allegations. at this point her lawyer should lose his license for abusing the system and her for using the system for those who need it its not right and someone should step in to stop false allegations . for congress to let this pass without justice there helping to destroy all rights and amendments help fix america
I am one of the accused, all because my now ex-wife found another bed to spend her time in. I have battled for four years, through numerous accusations, all proven false. The most devastating was being accused of Domestic Violence, so she could then strip everything out of the house, to parts unknown. I did end up with the most important items (the children). It has to be changed.
I had lived for 46 yrs. without EVER having anything more than speeding tickets when I was FALSELY accused of KIDNAPPING and trying to kill my wife . Without a shred of evidence as this did not really happen . It was her word against mine . Not a single mark on her or myself . And yet it was said that I grabbed her and threw into my van and choked her till she passed out before her escape . When I told my "PUBLIC PRETENDER" I wanted to go to trial and expose her lies and would take NO offer , I was told " you will sit here till you are READY to take one . HE DID'NT LIE!!! . They refused to even indict me for 118 days . When they did , they added 1st degree ATTEMPED MURDER !!! I was told he would see to it I went to prison if I didn't take a deal . I spent 227 days in jail and now have a class 4 FELONY for unlawful restraint . The same judge dropped ALL charges against my wife 2 months earlier when she was arrested for assaulting me and the campground host called police where 3 witness gave statements that she assaulted ME . He THEN issued a R.O. against ME that very same day !!! I am against violence and those who commit it should be punished . HOWEVER , the laws need to change so that a woman's word is not enough to RUIN the life of an innocent man . She said she would destroy me , AND SHE HAS !!! All I wanted was a divorce . She use to make me give her $700.00 a week to spend on CRACK COCAINE and if I didn't , she would take out her phone and dial 91 and say "9 1 mother******either give me money or I hit the other 1 and say u hit me and you go to jail and I take it all" . When I finally stood my ground , my nightmare began .
I had false domestic claim filed against me by my sibling, when I was no longer living in the state of Ohio
This has to stop, Unfortunately the court system are believing the women and men lives are being destroyed by these false accusations. please re-evaluate how this law is being in effect towards innocent men and how can they protect themselves from woman who inflict wombs in order to put men into jail on felony charges
Please stop targeting men. Stop the misandry.
To do nothing to punish false abuse allegations is simply irresponsible and further empowering people to do so. In the end its the children who suffer the most!
Hi im disabled 28 year old women. And just. Because. I was sick of being. Beat by my exboyfrend I kicked him out and he put fales charges on my cost me 10.000 dollars and I lost. Alot. How can his lies be taken. Off my record. Please. IV never. Even. Could. Hurt a fly please. I cry every. Nite. Help me.im incident I swere.
This predicament I am in is horrible. Me and my lady are completely victimized by the law. I was visiting her at her parents house whom became overly attached to her (My lady's) daughter. We've been together for quite a long time, and she is pregnant with my child.

Well, we decided it was about time to move on with our lives, and move out. Her parents didn't like that at all. Her parents already tried tricking her multiple times in signing custody over to them. Well, her mother snatched her child from her arms as she was attempting to put her to sleep, then put the child down only to slam m'lady against the wall, yelling at her to leave her daughter with her.

I heard dreadful screams of help from the other room. I ran in to see what's wrong, but then both her father and mother (after her mother let go exactly once I came into the room.) turned on me, telling me to get out the house that I wasn't allowed there anymore. I told them I shall, but I am calling the cops to peacefully get m'lady's daughter and our belongings. As I went to go get my own belongings, they followed me at attempt to scare me by threatening that they will file molestation charges, that I am not man enough, and that they were going to pay the cops off.

I told them to get out of the door way, then her mother lost it and proceeded to punch me in the face as I was on the phone with my mother. As soon as she did, the father jumped on me, then I held him back, telling him, "I do NOT want to hit you." As he proceeded to slam me against the wall, then start clawing into my neck, I defend myself by pushing him to the bed and running out of the house (running through her mother that was blocking the door way calling for the brothers to jump on me..) I was out of the house within 3 minutes from the start of conflict.

As I left the situation, I called the police in worry of my lady still being in this house, but knowing I couldn't go back due to it being their property, and me not wanting to get in trouble. It took an HOUR and a HALF for the cops to get their as I was dehydrated and couldn't leave the scene completely. (Thankfully my lady went down the road to me before than, making my stress go down.)

When the cops came by, one stayed in his vehicle as the other (VERY rude one) proceeded to talk to us, digging in his ear while yawning at us, making *Hurry up* hand motions. We told him the story, but he misheard m'lady saying she slapped her mother, but she said she slapped at her AFTER she was attacked and I was just in the situation as the protective boyfriend/father of my soon to be child. (She was pregnant).

After all of that, the cops went to talk to her parents, the one that stayed in the vehicle came back to tell us we're okay and that we were going to get m'lady's daughter. After that, the rude one came back and said no, that he was arresting us. (Not even checking me, he arrested us, took us 5 miles down the road only to pull over, take me
In my case I spoke with five lawyers Defense Attorneys in my area they feared not take on cases when dealing with department of social services. I asked why? Social Services and Judges intermingle in there cases to win politically. Basically, they would scratch each other backs for there own gains politically in our area we are small country town. I was told no matter how innocent my case was they would manufacture and fabricate to win. My last lawyer told me the court system was so corrupt he call them a bunch of GESTAPOS with there own country court laws.. I was devastated only pay him to loose. It been a long time now the pain of being guilty of my innocents affects everything I do everyday it horrific for my friends and my family. I thought our court system in North Carolina where fair but I learned quickly before entering and hiring my lawyer it was not. At least my Attorney's where honest before I hired them.
I'm a Active Duty (Army) Officer. My ex accused me of domestic abuse and Terrorism Threats also she file a DA restraining order. She claimed that I say during a family therapy that I was going to kill her. Which did not happen. Even the therapy doctor testify that never happen. I being arrested, loose all my personal property, treated as a criminal, laughed at, emotionally torn down and even when proof appears that she lied the I still ends up paying and defending himself and in the edge of loose my job. My military service is being use againts me all of this with no evidence I was arrested and it costing me alot for no reason.She lied and got away with it.

Since the government passed the "Violence Against Women Act." While this act has significantly helped women who were in actual abusive situations, it has also allowed women to falsely accuse their spouses of domestic violence and "get away with it" as my case show. I facing 4 1/2 years of prision because i asked for "Divorce". The act loose it intentn when someone who seeks revenge or get even tool.
My ex accused me of domestic abuse by petitioning for a DA restraining order. I had my day in court and I was exonerated of all accusations, but it still shows up in the online court docketing system. I live in a small town, and I actually had a person stop and point their finger at me and yell in public that I was a "wife beater". All because of the case record online.

It's shameful that some women will make these false allegations -- it makes domestic abuse facilities waste precious resources that should be helping someone in need.....not someone who seeks revenge.
My ex wanted to continue her control of me. I have a mental disability from a mva and as I learned to live with it better I became aware of her stealing. She just ran out screaming one night while outside put duct tape in her hair and called the police for dv. They didn't even cuff me and I am a big man guess they knew if I had really wanted to restrain her she wouldn't be outside. I have majority custody of my kids too was just bringing them to her which our custody agreement says we are supposed meet halfway not me drive 20 miles.
going to court tomorrow. I have all the evidence and retracted statements to clear my name... I love my wife and prosecution of false police statement will prevent her from being promoted. She is a alcoholic and I have enough to get it all dismissed. She is sober again but unpromotable at her job (I am disabled) catch 22..
I agree that there is a need for a more intense investigation and that each person, man or woman shall be explained that making a false report shall get you arrested and purjuiry if false statement are made in a judicial setting.
Although I didn't have a domestic violence case between a man I too was wrongfully arrested and convicted of assault for defending myself. A female for several weeks kept coming to my apartment complex accusing my roommate/friend of being a pedophile which was not true when I came down to question her, she threw her food down and approaches me pulling my hair I began to pull hers back her other sister jumps in and my roommate breaks it up. She calls her cop friend and he arrest me and puts an assault case on me. I have never left the house again I'm just in disbelief of this awful justice system. Disgusted I have never been a liar or violent person but it's on my record.
I don't promote any type of violence toward women or men, but sometime we as women will victimize a situation when a man has cheated or left the relationship,as a get even method. Everybody heard that old saying hell has no furry like a women scorn.Some of these scorn women need to stop trying to control these men with the fear of sending them to jail on a lie, and if god wanted us to control and run things he would have made us first. The truth of the matter behind every good man stands a real woman not a girl playing childish games with some one else life. I always say if this man or women is not for you let them go and if somehow you all find your way back in his or her life god will reveal if he or she is for you and if you all are truly meant to be.. Ladies and Gentlemen let's stop having these one side love affairs and stop turning into sour grapes, because of lust not love because true love is worth its weight/ wait in gold And if its true love no one can steal that.We have to let go and let god because he knows best..
I am a lady and i was put out of my home by a horrific dvi all lies this inj sworn under oath was written by my husband to remove me he is comming into some money i took care of us for 14 yrs i recieved my last trust ck june 24 2014 2 and a hafe weeks latter he left me for his ex. Changed his phone # and add on his drivers lic to levy co and after 5 days of leaving he filed a d v i to get rid of me im 63 all due to recieving money from a sale of a retirement park his father ownes, and he has voteing shares in for yrs so now the park,,(holiday travel park in holiday fl) is sold his 1. 4 mil is hidden so now what he had his ex fill out the inj and she never signed it can they just lie and treat me as uf u wasnt there for 14yrs i took xare if ys all these yrs. Tgerehas been phy and emotional Abuse hospital records pics. Beyound belief there has to ve something that can be done im fileing
For div have med. Bills due to him etc his fatger refuses to give hom his shares as long as he is married to me his shares are traceable the sale will show joliday travel park owened by dreher const robert dreher holiday fl sold for over 23 mil. Thanks for reading 7276457052 they want me to leave and get a div due to money my husband said i owe you nothing just because we ve been married for 14 yrs he said get out find somebody else to take care if you!!! No way. Thanjs for aby help A good kawyer us 500.00 an hr he should pay. Donna Dreher
I've heard and seen such behavior from women who were angry because they didn't get their way when they wanted it. Men have been getting shafted for years not only about domestic abuse but when it came to getting custody of their children. Let's face it, there are men better at raising their children then women in many cases. I'm tired of watching the system turn a blind eye to the truth!
My x lied to the police, had 2 differnt statements for the same day, n in open court told the judge she lied .my order ended last week got to talk n see my kids for a couple of days , she lives in vidalia , ga iam in fl , now shes pulling another order. More false allegations n not once has the police has called or talked to me , cant aford a lawer , , all iam she has both kids 7_8 the place is unsanitary, shes got a lock on the refrigerator door , n she olny gets by dopeing my son n collecting his check , there is no way inhell 2,000a month income n she cant make it, 850.00high end total bills dcf calls before showing. Are u serious ,she abuses verbally and physically and mentally, the sadest part is my children rather be w me. ,ive never hurt or ever will put my kids at risk like she does gets high in front of them , no regrads of the affects n safty of our children , I need help
Some thing needs to be done now.
I understand real victims need to be protected but your not protecting all the victims!!!! These men are being laughed at and emotionally torn down and even when proof appears that she lied the man still ends up paying and defending himself. When women file false complaints they need to be fined or prosecuted or both. They are ruining these mens lives!!!!
I was recently accused by me now ex-fiance of CDV and Child neglect. We have been having issues for years, but now that she knew the end of the road was coming she pulled the victim act to make sure I could not attempt to get custody of our 11 month old daughter. She has admitted to having bi-polar disorder, but always refused to get help. I went to court this morning for the Protection order she filed for, and it was quite clear the judge made up her mind before I even entered the court room. Both both explained what happened, and the judge pretty much said she is more credible and dismissed all I had to say. I am a military vet with a CLEAN background who has been studying criminal justice for the past 4 years. After spending all this time learning about the system, I now realize how broken it is and refuse to be a part of something that just condemns innocent men/women on the word of a "self-claimed" victim who has no tangible proof.
I was just accused of domestic violence she had no evidence she cried in court made statements about my character as a husband and a father when it was time for me to speak I minds well just have said nothing my evidence to prove my innocent was thrown out she was caught lying in court 2 times and still was looked at as the victim. I currently have to go to abuse classes on my dime for something I didn't do.
My falsely accused me of D.V because she thought our marriage was over just because we had an argument on our way from airport. She scratched her self and gave a police officer a wrong statement so that she can get to the shelter which she did because I was taken to jail 3 days for the crime that I never committed. Her Idea is to file for violence against women act so she can stay in the US. I hope the government do investigation and find out the truth. Foreign women should stop using American men and get a green card, because they are damaging lives seriously.
My mentally ill wife had borderline personality disorder. She had delusions of parasites for 8 months, then delusions of me having an affair and filed a restraining order to force me out of my own house and away from the kids. Rubber stamped approved now I don't see my kids and moved out of my house and she's selling my stuff. It's completely wrong in every way.
My ex-girlfriend deliberately undermined a divorce Case in CA, had her daughter of 31 years stay at my house (in my name only) while she followed me to CA, then posted on Facebook I was a meth head and abandoned her at airport. After losing my hearing in CA, had to fly home as daugher was claiming to sheriff she was a resident there having received 2 boxes of internet purchases, then left 30 min before I got there. I went to Sheriffs office in Platte County at 1:30am on a Saturday morning to have ex-parte done. She showed up on Sunday went to Sheriff's office was served and then turned around and filled out her own ex-parte which I was served at 12:30am on Monday morning and given 10 min to remove my belonging. For the next 10 days while I waited for the hearing to get back my home, my new business computer and supporting hardware fo $5000 was destroyed (stole harddrive, external harddrive and all back up discs and software) putting honey in the power supply and data connections, watered down the motherboard and was told by Micro Center Tech is was now an expense paperweight. My sewer was filled with cement causing still undetermined damage and cost, my ATV Polaris had fuel tank contaminated, my $9200 jacuzzi brand new and need for physical therapy from next and lower back injury
I AM IN A SIMILAR SITUATION
Men are not the only ones being falsely accused of domestic violence. 66 years of age and my 28 year old daughter has assaulted me two times. I am the one that get arrested. Congress needs to find applied for basis in the law on domestic assault.
I am going through the process right now. My wife staged an argument, called the police, and without questioning me, I was jailed for domestic intimidation. She pinched me, kneed me and slapped me. I went to press charges on her but they would not even listen to me. She wanted me out of the house. She has the home and I have a small room at my parents. Is there a law against what she has done? something need to be done. Thanks, Mark Aldridge
All very true happened to me

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