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I do not know where to start. My wife and I had an argument. we had been having some rough times lately and were seeing a marriage counselor. The counselor went on vacation and advised us in writing, should we have a fight to call 911 and they will send someone to calm things down. well long story short, my wife did call and asked to speak to someone at our local precinct. instead they insisted she needs to provide her address so cops could be dispatched. I spoke to people on the 911 call and explained the situation and game them my address. "No I am not hurting her and neither is she". Cops came and arrested me while my wife said "He did not do anything". worse yet they forced her to write he hit me or she will be arrested and my kids taken to foster care. I begged the officers to show compassion and not arrest me. I am a professional and this will ruin my career. They did not listen. I wonder what caused them to be so mean. I now face charges, and I am sure the charges will be dismissed. But my mug shot is on internet and my professional license close to being rejected. The current law has not saved us, it destroyed us. Me, my wife, my two kids and my parents who depend on me as the soul provider of the family.

Dear Congressmen, President and whoever gets to read this... Law should be to protect citizens, not harass them. Please review the current procedures and stop treating domestic misdemeanors accusees as criminals.
What you are doing to good American fathers is treasonous and immoral and is destroying our country.
My sons broke up with some girl so first she cut her wrists. That didn't work so she filed domistic violence against him. Than after she lied and got scared she called the prosecuter and tolled them she lied. well they went on with th DV case and sent it to the Grand Jury . thank God they didn't believe it. Now she;s tring the same thing in a different township. what can we do . These people have to be stopped.
. I have been beaten down and broke by the court here in Indianapolis Indiana. My ex is the judges’ tax assessor and is a county employee. After the divorce she soon filed for custody. It took 3 years to get it into court. My ex used a free attorney through the sheltering wings program. So relentlessly she filed accusation after accusation. First day in court, we were only able to get her on the stand and the attorney closed their case by days end. Shortly there after my ex beat my son with a high heal shoe and I took him to the ER as instructed by my attorney of the time. They reported it to DCS. She has beaten him more then once. Second time in court it was proven over and over of her lies, lies to even to the parenting coordinator in writing, and PA. Self medicating for depression, moving 7 times in 2 years, refusing to give my son medication for intestinal issues, starving my son, child endangerment by moving him right next door to child molester, and the list goes on. In the final hearing the judge, held her in contempt for not following the court order, “changing her story” , not allowing me parenting time as per Indiana parenting guidelines, neglect / not giving son his medicine, Etc. BUT then gave her legal custody and stuck me with $30,000 worth of attorney bills. All she had to say to the judge is “she was afraid of me”. That’s it nothing more. Then the judge ordered a new PC and he is a DR. for domestic violence. Not sure why! I have never touched my ex. Or anyone for that matter! I was not held in contempt for anything but the judge chose to punish me. Shortly after hearing, my son was beat again and it was reported to his school; Nothing done. Then my ex’s new boyfriend choked my son; I reported to my sons’ councilor, nothing done. Last week my son (second time) got a hold of boyfriends loaded pistol…said, “but daddy I didn’t pull the trigger, am I in trouble”? My son could be dead right now! Last hearing was in Sept 27th 2012 and two months later she files contempt for child support, feeding my son, (says it is under minding her authority), and forcing her to discuses her safety with the school. Again attacks to gain full custody so she can get more support money.
Give men a voice. I have been the victim of domestic violence repeatedly, yet when I did call the police she falsely accused me and I went to jail. When she attacked me again, I did even try to defend myself. Why? Because I would go to jail for trying to protect myself. After her last attack, i have nerve damage in my arm and can never say to anyone how i got it.
I am a father who has been falsely accused of domestic violence. The mother of my child was told by OCS that if she didn't file a restrain order against me that she wouldn't get to see our daughter. She gave me a ride to the court hearing and promptly plugged the meter outside the court house and accompanied her inside. The magistrate opened the court and asked the mother of my child if she was filing a long term restraining order against me. She replied "yes OCS says that I have to in order to see my daughter".
The magistrate turned to me and said and your ok with this?
I said "no".
The magistrate then said" well she hads to do this in order to see your daughter".
I told her" she's not afraid of me".
The magistrate asked"how Di you know that?"
I said "she gave me a ride here".
The magistrate turned to La Veena and asked "is that true?"
La Veena just shook her head no.
The magistrate said" your gonna have to answer yes or no for the record"
La Veena then said "no".
The magistrate asked her " did you see him at the bus stop or on the way here in anyway?"
La Veena again said "no I just seen him on the stairs coming up to the court room."
I spoke up and said "your honor I have proof of text messages and phone calls from her all morning."
The magistrate turned her head down and says "I'm sorry I striped taking evidence, granted one year restraining order."

I felt helpless, it had already been since the day before Christmas since I last seen my daughter. My daughter is turning two next month and I have only been with her for 119 hours if her life by my count. It's unjust in more ways than one and that was just one court hearing out of many.

Douglas Watson
2120 Ivan Dr.
Anchorage, AK.99507
907-632-5080
The experience of the writer of this petition is an everyday occurrence for thousands of men and thousands of good loving fathers. Laws that allow this to happen so frequently, sometimes from advice of court appointed lawyers, are destroying this country. More families, men and children have been destroyed and torn apart due to domestic violence laws that make this profitable for all involved except the father. Children suffer. This country suffers. Presumption of innocence must be returned and primary aggressor policies must be ended.
I am a single father and custodial parent of three beautiful children. If my x and her family had this Misapplication of the law back then to abuse against me, my fatherhood might never have been. Please do the right thing for the sake of those that try doing the same.
If we are to return to a generation of children WITH fathers, then it's imperative that Congress take action. A false accusation has cost me my daughter. A man who was the primary caregiver for 15 months of his only child has been reduced to seeing her once a week for two hours. And all because a woman who accused her former husbands and lovers of: 1) rape; 2) abandonment; 3) child endangerment, decided to accuse me of threatening abduction. Incredible. Oh, and it never happened. Something must be done to stop these child abusers -- the real abducters.
These issues would almost completely control my vote. Due process should never be stripped away and children need to be the priority in court cases. No independant adults.
These issues would almost completely control my vote. Due process should never be stripped away and children need to be the priority in court cases. No independant adults.
The facts in DV is that 1 in 4 women are in a DV relationship what the media doesn't say is that 1 in 6 men are. The laws protect the women but the men are left to fend for themselves at a great cost to their mental health and physical health.
me too
I too, have been falsely accused of domestic violence. My son's mom did it to gain the advantage of custody and getting me out of the house in my name. She also continues to bring up the false DV in order to keep me from getting more time with my son or having equal custody and input into and about his life. I also was once the victim of an assault by a girlfriend (now ex gf) and I called the police only to have the police convince her to get a restraining order against me. She was never taken to jail for the assault. This needs to change. The law of burden of proof was put in place to protect the innocent from false charges. DV is the only area I see where this is not adhered to. This, in of itself, and primarily designed to protect women, is sexist and stomping on the rights of the falsely accused.
i hope you do one for Washington State because this happened to me and it has hurt my life tremendously. i want them to reopen the case and look at the facts, they never even did. i took a plea because i was afraid but i was 100% innocent.
Please sign and pass this on.
Im a victim of domestic abuse. The same system that is supposed to protect me allowed an ex boyfriend to file a false temporary restraining order against me and threw me in jail. I've learned now not to report any abuse, just ensure it. Men have free reign and the person with the most money wins.
This is happing to me right now and is dragging me throw hell. My life is being destroyed because of my wife abusing the system. This needs to be corrected and fixed.
This is true and the courts need to realize that some women use this as revenge and a way to keep their children's fathers out of their lives. This happens a lot especially when the ex-spouse remarries.
This is so true
Not only are men falsely accused of violence/Stalking by women but so are innocent women accused by other women who are abusing our systems.
Had a panic attack,(terror and fear when none exist) son was arrested for DV. I tried to tell DA but he's not taking my statement. Hired a lawyer for myself to file affidavit of non prosecution and tell them I was not abused, I had a panic attack
Same thing, finally found a great female attorney who is winning my battles in court for my boys. These women are "Crazy Makers"
Also Please consider against courts making mothers the "default" custodian, as they are capable of being abusive as well. I have had this unfair experience twice in an Alabama court. DHR is NO help, and always takes sides with the mother, no matter what. If DHR takes sides, the court takes sides with DHR. I get no help from ANYONE.
The traditional family is what people neeed.
i have had 3 orders of protection sworn out against in my life, all based on lies, my second wife even admitted in open court, on the record, years later in a separate case that her accusations were a lie, to get the oop as leverage in the divorce, enough is enough, some womens rights have gone to, millions of children are being used as leverage against their fathers, and it is government sponsored child abuse.
My wife of 23 years falsely accused me under the guise of Domestic Violence to remove me from my home.
My wife of 23 years used the Domestic Violence System to remove me from my home.
The Violence Against Women Act is a corrupt system and is causing more problems that it is helping to solve. Is happening to my son. The crooked and incompetent lawyers take advantage of it
I have a cousin who is in prison for this he got 30 years now hes been in there since 2003 in the state of ok the girl still writes him about how sad she is and she is in disbelief its not right people need to see that this is a serious thing that needs to be looked into its almost like one can say someone did something when in reality they didn't its almost like if I cant have u no one can which is wrong!!! ..
I have a cousin who is in prison for this he got 30 years now hes been in there since 2003 in the state of ok the girl still writes him about how sad she is and she is in disbelief its not right people need to see that this is a serious thing that needs to be looked into its almost like one can say someone did something when in reality they didn't its almost like if I cant have u no one can which is wrong!!! ..
For men who’ve had the misfortune to have a child with a violent and abusive women, the Violence Against Women Act implies male guilt in the same way if we had a Violence Against Aryans Act that would imply guilt if you had a child with a violent and abusive Aryan. AND add the must arrest mandate.
I have a cousin who is in prison for this he got 30 years now hes been in there since 2003 in the state of ok the girl still writes him about how sad she is and she is in disbelief its not right people need to see that this is a serious thing that needs to be looked into its almost like one can say someone did something when in reality they didn't its almost like if I cant have u no one can which is wrong!!! ..
It is NOT just men that go throught this. My ex husband has for TEN years falsely accused me of one thing after another. Even went so far to forge my name to get drug list from Drug store and file false emergency petition accusing me of being a drug addict etc...( he got arrested) His lawyer has harrassed me, by employers, threatened to sue me, She used the home I worked 26 years to buy as her retainer like a credit card. And depleted all equity. They both wont stop suing. TEN years! So much the judges lecture and lecture. I am at wits end. He now is in contempt of court and wont let me see my kids for 4 months now. The judges let him off all the time and he feels like there are no laws because he keeps breaking the law, and they slap him on the wrist. THIS is what needs to STOP! Lawyers using their clients to file false allegations and keep the custody suit drawn out to line their pockets, she lies to him to keep him aggressivley angry at me. She has destroyed my family and m oney... all gone. THIS is the problem. It is a nightmare for my children and probably will never have any kind of a normal relationship with women. My ex is from a country that demeans women and he has been teaching the boys to now. Disrespect. The lawyer keeps him so angry by not quite telling full facts to him so he can keep suing on and on... This is what is happening to the men, but it also happens to women, innocent MOTHERS, like me, by revengeful, pure hateful, men that cant see what they are doing to the mother of the children is really affecting the children so much...




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It is NOT just men that go throught this. My ex husband has for TEN years falsely accused me of one thing after another. Even went so far to forge my name to get drug list from Drug store and file false emergency petition accusing me of being a drug addict, mental case, alcoholic, ( this is aparentently the usual for the mother) etc...( he got arrested and put in jail for the forgery, take note !) He has harrassed me, my employers, has threatened to sue me, had me followed and stole my car and left me stranded and left me with 3 year old twins with no car!, threatened my friends, family!, Lawyer used the home I worked 26 years to buy as her retainer like a credit card. And depleted all equity. My ex wont stop suing. TEN years! Four false emergency Custody, So many false and rediculous contempts, So much the Judges lecture and lecture, but why wont they tell him to stop? Why wont they sanction him??. I am at wits end. He now is in contempt of court and wont let me see my kids for 4 months now. The judges let him off all the time when he breaks the law, and he feels like there are no laws because he keeps breaking the law, and they slap him on the wrist. THIS is what needs to STOP! Filing false allegations
False Allegations of Abuse are often used in a breakup, divorce and child custody battle. Parental Alienation is another arena where False Allegations of Abuse rear it's ugly head. Lies believed once aid the liar in being able to continue for the rest of her or his life, being a habitual victim of sorts. This lie worked to send this man to prison so let's use it again and again and... . These liars become narcissistic and really good actors! The true victims are left with the stigma of being a monster while the real monsters languish in the consolation and so called rewards for having dealt with such a dreadful event. It is enough to make you sick!!!
I was falsely accused of aggravated assault w deadly weapon in atascosa texas. I proved my wife was lying in domestic violence case and she was denied her protective order. I ' am now waiting to hear if and when my criminal case will be dismissed. I am in debt 18,000, and having to pay on all debt that my veangeful wife caused and retaliated at me with false charges. I have been harrassed , and vehicle has been vandilized. Stop this nonesense. Thx Sincerely Adam Perez Rodriguez
My son is presently going through a situation like this now. His ex fiancé accused him of beating her. He was home asleep when she came home from shooting pool. She woke him up in a rage. He left the house. When he returned the house was destroyed and she had a knot on her head. She called the police and had him arrested. He has been with another women that did the same thing to him. Both had boyfriends at the time which we did not find out until a later time. So of course my son is going to look guilty as sin in the court system. My entire family does not believe for a second he hit her. But we do know how the courts operate so it is a very unsettling time for our family. My husband and I drove past his ex's house tonight only to find his best friends truck in her driveway. We took pictures but I am sure that will not get us too far. God please help my son.
I am a survivor of domestic violence, and both women and men can be victims. The ones that lie about being in a violent relationship will continue the process and not stop when they are unhappy. I luckily was able to leave, many are not but those that have to lie about it should be held accountable for their actions.
The laws in the State of TN are geared towards women, men do NOT stand a chance. I am a woman and I will admit I see this. It disgusts me in a day and age we are all about people's rights who are here illegally and will NOT even let due process take place for a man. Some women (I'm not one of them) will lie and mentally mess with their own children all in the name of keeping "their" man in check. The laws should be equal and that's all there is to it. My prayer is women who tend to play this game may their schems find them out.
I had to sue the city and eventually they settled out of court based on my false arrest. However, it did noting to deter Stephanie Stankey the feminist in the Pinal County Attorney's office to bringing the bogus case to court. Two years later, I'm still fighting my case even after the city and my abusive girlfriend settled out of court. Read my story at www.mensrightsofarizona.com

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