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my son, Austin davis, is constantly accused of dom. violence by his baby moma...every time he tries to leave their house. In court today
judge gave me three year stay away order from seeing my 9yrs daughter i am 68yrs of age i want to give all that i can to my child most of all love, but mother claim dometic volence no proof just her word which is a lie as i said68 yrs handcape to leftside judge still taken my joint cust. and gave her full cust. i pray that something can and will be done.
I know someone that all he did is touch his e's hand and ask to talk to her and they talked. Remind you this was in a public place. The next thing after looking at his record after 1 yrs he is flagged with offensive touch part of domestic violence. It's a shame that he found out why he hasn't gotten some jobs put in for. This is crazy. They need to make more of a definition of domestic violence because a lot if people (men and women) may fall victim to this. People are loosing rights because of over judging and lies.
Not right some people manipulate and get away with this and the innocent and victim are the one pushing by law not fair at all get the facts and evidence right things get plan to hurt the other side of relationship she was the cheater not the victim
This has got to stop. Innocent people have been sent to jail for this a close friend of mine's son just had this happen and he has done nothing. They shouldn't be able to get away with it. Now he may lose his kids and can't get away to come live with his family.
Hard to see such a wonderful, caring guy get shafted by a crazy, cheating wife. Children were even witnesses that nothing happened but he was arrested. This system is messed up.
there needs to be more of an investigation between the two, who has the marks an bruises, who has the proof!!
I to have fell victim of this I was convicted of a domestic violence my wife had no injuries she tried to tell the truth but they didn't listen now I am being put through hell never been arrested before for anything and I got two years probation 180 days suspended batters intervention course 240 hours of community service
The cops should be completely neutral and if there is no evidence of violence than there is no reason to arrest anyone. Every man and woman should be treated fairly under the law.
I have been dealing with this issue for a year now, my ex lied to get a protection of abuse order on me for malicious reasons. Based on her statement alone, i was automaticlly assumed guilty and was restrained from direct or indirect contact with our now 7 year old son and 2 and 3 year old daughters until the court date. She was granted temporary sole custody and child support based on the fact that she vindictively lied to gain an advantage in our at the time very fresh divorce and i felt she was using our children as a way to get me to just give in. I will never give up on my children, under any circumstances for any reason. I strongly beleive that if both parents are competent and capable of caring for their children, that they equally deserve the right to parent their children without either feeling the need to control, limit, or prevent their childrens time with the other parent. Dont get me wrong, there are some parents who choose not to be involved in their childrens lives and that is a sad fact. I believe that shared parenting is in best of all children, and neither parent should expect or feel entitled to any more than 50% when it comes to their children. That you both feel that the others input, opinions, suggestions, and ways are valued in the raising of their children in a joint venture that you are committed to for years at a minimum, but for life ultimately. You once grew together, and at some point the two fell apart. But before you fell, you two created a gift to enjoy. So even if you are not together, does not mean you cant enjoy such a blessing together. Be honest, reasonable, understanding, forgiving, faithful, and encourage a great relationship between eachother and your children. Its called team work, and they deserve to know that the two people who brought them into this world can work through their differences to raise the ones who look up to them because their innocent little hearts love you unconditionally and seek the same from both mommy and daddy. I love you Damian, Brielle, and, Elise. For my heart belongs to the three of you, forever i will be here for you no matter what life brings us. Love Daddy.
my two children were in a fight one 18 one 19. My daughter came at my son with a knife, he pushed her, and he is arrested for domestic violence. REALLY??? This law is abused, misused, and has become a joke and a mockery to the true victim!
I am desperate I was really mad and wanted to show my husband that I wasn't scared to call the police. I am still with my husband but he cant get a job and I dont make enough to support us and my daughter. The trial is a long time away. I fear that they might even take our daughter away because we become homeless or something. All because of tiny scratches on my arm.
The courts need to listen to both side before issuing out restraining orders and not just listen to one side of the story
"Here I thought we lived in a society where we innocent until proven guilty". No proof needed here and that's not fair.
I am in the armed forces.I recently came back from a 9months deployment-operation enduring freedom and after a couple weeks got served with a false allegation summon by my wife because I asked for a Devorce due to complicated developments while I was away. She has an immigration proceedings going on I was told she claiming to be "a battered wife" is the only way she could continue with immigration without me. I am just finding out also that just because she says it happened it will be treated as such by the court... Now I have my job and life on the line because an ex partner says I "threatened to kill her", "threatened to abandon her on the highway" and a lot more false allegations and threats. I am determined to do what is right and will stand by the words I was thought throughout my naval career... Honor, Courage and commitment and May God Bless us All
I am a woman and my husband verbally and emotionally abuses me. He has used physical violence on many occasions. A few years ago he beat me up and called the police he convinced them it was me who started it and I was arrested despite my bruises. Since then when ever I don't do what he wants he threatens to call the police and has which usually results just a welfare check. I am two weeks from completing probation. I guess he couldn't handle that so he picked a fight left and an hour or so later the police showed up at my door saying I've been accused of throwing a burrito at him and I am under arrest. Now I am facing domestic charges and violation of probation for contact with police. I can't return home and have no family or support, I am on my own. To top things off he's keeping my kids from me because he knows I can't come pick them up and won't allow anyone to bring them to me. I keep getting the runaround. He's using the legal system to abuse me all over again. I'm trying to research and find anyone who can help.
Its not right to be accused of anything without having proof of what took place. While the one being accused has witnesses, journal entries, and other evidence that nothing took place. Yet, still has to pay the price of being seperated with their children, as the othe parent gets off scott-free.
Its not right to be accused of anything without having proof of what took place. While the one being accused has witnesses, journal entries, and other evidence that nothing took place. Yet, still has to pay the price of being seperated with their children, as the othe parent gets off scott-free.
I spent 5 months helping my fiance get over the abuse he suffered during his previous marriage. He was sent back to prison today for two felony charges...all based on his ex-wife's testimony from almost a year ago. No witnesses are required to accuse a man of a felony. All a woman has to do is claim that "she felt her life was threatened" and that's enough to put a man away for years. These laws are being abused to obtain custody of children and "get dad out of the picture."
I spent 5 months helping my fiance get over the abuse he suffered during his previous marriage. He was sent back to prison today for two felony charges...all based on his ex-wife's testimony from almost a year ago. No witnesses, but the law doesn't care. All a woman has to do is claim that "she felt her life was threatened" and that's enough to put a man away for years. These laws are being abused to obtain custody of children and "get dad out of the picture."
My wife accused me of hurting her after she was caught cheating. I would never hurt a woman.
My husband and I right now are having issues with his ex being vindictive and having him falsely arrested twice. First case was dismissed so she did it again and this time had him arrested for a felony. Because we have limited funds we can not afford an attorney so he has to take a plea deal that includes jail time that will cost his job. our home and the custody rights to the children. There is no recourse for innocent people in case like this.
this is unjust. men lose all rights and go from law abiding to criminals. the judges always favor the women and one word or cry helps them win their falsified claims
I had an ex girlfriend who took me to court in order to get a restraining order just to get me off an apartment lease and still make me pay for it. I hadn't even spoken to her in months before and she refused to take me off the lease. She told lies and I proved in court she was lying but yet she doesn't have an conciquence. Women can take men to court and lie and if the man doesn't show up the automatically take her word without proof and if he does show and she doesn't get in any trouble. This needs to change so people cannot lie under outh to mess up the lives of innocent people for their own personal reasons.
It's a serious phenomenon that is going on right with several non - immigrants female falsely making up accusations of domestic abuse to benefit from immigration documentation. It is a raising fact that is destroying many Americans and legal residents life and under age kids trapped in the middle. Uscis need to stop granting green cards for those suspected of malicious victim.
Not just MEN are victims of this injustice! But hey, who am I, just another women who was charged with domestic violence, a FELONY, because I defended myself for the first time in five years of being physically abused! I guess him bashing my head into the car window didn't justify me punching him with my fist! I didn't even want to call the law but after I jumped out of a moving truck before he pulled in to feed me to daddys pigs, a lady found me at a grocery store, in shock, covered in blood asking to use a phone. She drove me to the police station! I new better than to trust the justice system. Seen it go bad for people too many times! Besides, he always told me if he don't punch me with his fist he won't get in trouble. Go figure...lol!
There are few things worse than a woman who makes false allegations of domestic violence against her husband in a sick attemp to get back at him for no longer wanting her as his wife. One of the few things worse is the woman who uses her own child as a tool in an attempt to cause emotional harm.
I believe that our laws should not be mocked nor manipulated for personal satisfaction or revenge but instead should be respected and used to protect the people that are truly in dangerous situations.
Unfortunately, scorned women continue to misuse the laws that are designed to protect the poor women and children that are victims of abuse. By doing so, they not only make a mockery of our legal system, they also harm the people that are actually in abusive situations.
Our family has recently fallen victim to such a woman. I feel that there is a great need to have domestic violence laws reviewed and clarified.
Currently, it appears to be much too easy to misuse law enforcement, take up the court's precious time and most importantly, keep children from loving fathers who simply want to spend time with their children.
On one hand, we look down upon the men who walk away from their families and responsibilities and on the other, we allow false allegations against loving fathers to not only be tolerated but go unpunished.
These allegations can destroy the lives of the men that take their parenting responsibilities seriously.
The real victims in these circumstances are the children. All children need and deserve their daddy. A man should not be legally punished for the realization that he simply does not love his wife. Afterall, that's not a crime. But allowing women to hold a child hostage and use them in an attempt to emotionally harm the father, should be.
The accuser is a chronic drinker and liar to benefit her. She had a plan to get a house and done this to get what she needed.
It is everyone's constitutional right to expect equal protection from the law. The law needs to be clear what is and what isn't DV. It needs to raise the burden of proof. It needs to remove the ability to try DV in both a criminal and civil proceeding. Nothing else, not even a parking ticket, can be tried under 2 different proceedings with 2 different burdens of proof. Findings of DV cannot be based off subjective discretion of judges. Too many innocent lives are ruined bec of the slippery slope of an arbitrary DV finding not based on factual evidence, but purely on allegations. The onus is supposed to be on the accuser, not the accused. I am one of the helpless victims. The irony is I was accused of DV with false allegations, the court did not base its finding on factual evidence, gave the benefit of doubt to my ex, and it snowballed into a loss of custody and granted my ex to move across the country with our child, all bec the family court made a "discretionary" finding of DV w/o factual evidence. This was not a criminal case, but a civil case, mind you, so the lowest burden of proof was used by the court. My life and my daughter's life will never be the same. My ex uses the leverage to exert control and power over me, the exact lessons taught to DV perpetrators. How ironic? PLEASE STOP THIS INJUSTICE!
I have read the other petition and I think action would be better than just mere words. How do you think same sex marriages were passed. We all need to come together and file a class action law suit. These laws plainly violate our costitutional rights as U.S.citizens. there is no do process of law for these allegations and the cause and effect deprives an individual of life, liberty and property.
This has tremendously affected my family. I pray that our justice system takes note of this large issue.
I am a considered a batterer no evidence no prior records just lies and not even have equal rights to my children its been a history of dv before i entered a relationship with her and she uses this whenever she wants programs that give money and help with housing not only she has a borderline personality disorder she was diagnosed with adjustment disorder and her words stand in family court not mines real investigations need to be held no just allegations
If there is no blood no scares no bruises then no jail and this goes both ways I know wife's and girls that the husbands lied about or the cops took there word with no physical proof
My husband is in jail because of a neighbor making false allegations of a supposed domestic violence that never occurred. . . Please sign for the fight!!
My ex-wife retaliated for the contempt of court I filed against her by filing a restraining order against me and now is trying to send me to jail every chance she gets by making false allegations of violation.
I have a family member who is has been denied access to communicate with his wife and child...not sure how one repairs or mends a marriage if they are forbidden to speak. As an advocate for families, I am absolutely against a "ONE SIZE FITS ALL" law.
My son is getting a divorce one week after it was filed his wife lied in court to get a restraining order! A month later she called chd protection and lied to them about my grandson! Now child protection is trying totale leagalcustody of my sons oldest child! ( his. From a previous marriage) this needs to stop! Please help!
My son is getting a divorce one week after it was filed his wife lied in court to get a restraining order! A month later she called chd protection and lied to them about my grandson! Now child protection is trying totale leagalcustody of my sons oldest child! ( his. From a previous marriage) this needs to stop! Please help!
I have been billed $3400 and a restraining order for "talking about them". I contacted 30-40 attorneys none of which would consider the case. They were either a. too busy b. knew the parties c. not their specialty of law....so tell me why my forefathers fought these wars ? Wasn't that FREEDOM OF SPEECH??
This is happening to me currently and he placed a DV Protection on me and has taken my 20 month old baby boy from me! And is having my baby around another woman that I currently have a protection order against with my child listed on the order! He currently has a case right now with false reporting! There needs to be justice done for these false claims as this is serious!
Protective Orders and Restraining Orders are Guilty, until proven Innocent.... LITERALLY.

NO trial, NO due process, and NO chance to defend yourself!

It is unbelievable that this is happening on such a huge scale, and congress refuses to do anything about it.
I am going through this and it is one of the most unjust things I could imagine.
My father has been wrongly accused of and charged with felony domestic violence. His estranged wife did this because he wants a divorce. She wants all of their property, so she's doing everything she can to make that happen. My father is a kind and gentle man who has given everything to this woman and in return asked to be left alone. Her response was to steal his medication and anything that held sentimental value (including his debased father's medals from Vietnam). When he pleaded with her to return these items, she threw herself to the ground scraping her knees. He called the police to report the stolen items. When they arrived, she told them that he assaulted her. Since her knees were scraped, they arrested my father. While in the process of trying to clear his name, she accused him again, stating that he assaulted her the week prior to this incident. He now has a bench warrant for his arrest. She has been calling and texting him repeatedly trying to get him to respond. If he responds, he'll be in violation of the no-contact order. My father feels sorry for her because she's emotionally ill and heavily addicted to pain medication which she stole from him. He feels helpless and says there's nothing he can do to fix this. He hasn't done anything wrong other than love and trust this woman who has turned into a monster.
my son has been put on false charges when he has lived in a another state for 3 months and has not contracted the ex .
It's out of control and a joke. Your basically screwed if it happens to you.
This has become a matter totally out of control here in the city of Memphis . It's a money maker and the law and the ones in charge to protect it have no concern for right and wrong .
Family court should be held responsible for all the families they have destroyed.

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