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I was accused of dv and tooken striaght to jail wothout my rights even being read to me .infact i was the one being attacked
I am a victim of false accusation and when I tried to clear my name of the incident the cops didn't want to listen. My case eventually was dismissed, and if it wasn't I was looking at a year in jail for something that never happened.
The women who do this should be charged with obstruction, falsifying a police report, defamation of character and face fines and jail time. Someone who is REALLY being abused wouldn't care about facing all that because they know the TRUTH.
I am a victim of false accusation and when I tried to clear my name of the incident the cops didn't want to listen. My case eventually was dismissed, and if it wasn't I was looking at a year in jail for something that never happened.
My daughter was falsely accused of domestic violence December 2014. She was arrested, and everything including her 1 year old son was taken from her. She had a criminal case ( which she was found not guilty), and she is waiting on a trial date to see if she can get her son back in family court. She has been away from her son for 7 months because her ex boyfriend put a bunch of orders filed against her, her ex boyfirend lied to everyone saying she struck him in the eye. Her ex boyfriend called the police the next day while my daughter was returning from a friends house from the night before saying she was coming home to break down the door. He mentioned nothing about being struck in the eye until the police officer asked him how he got the bruise on his left eye. This guy's mother moved him and my daughter and my grandson to Florida to get my daughter and my grandson away from us so they could figure out a way to sabotage her so he could have full custody of her son. People like this should be put in jail so they can never do this to someone else. I believe that a lie detector test should be given to the person making the accusation, this would stop a lot of false accusations against an innocent person.
I also am curious, if she was found not guilty at the criminal trial why didn't grant a motion for her to get her son back?
My daughter was falsely accused of domestic violence December 2014. She was arrested, and everything including her 1 year old son was taken from her. She had a criminal case ( which she was found not guilty), and she is waiting on a trial date to see if she can get her son back in family court. She has been away from her son for 7 months because her ex boyfriend put a bunch of orders filed against her, her ex boyfirend lied to everyone saying she struck him in the eye. Her ex boyfriend called the police the next day while my daughter was returning from a friends house from the night before saying she was coming home to break down the door. He mentioned nothing about being struck in the eye until the police officer asked him how he got the bruise on his left eye. This guy's mother moved him and my daughter and my grandson to Florida to get my daughter and my grandson away from us so they could figure out a way to sabotage her so he could have full custody of her son. People like this should be put in jail so they can never do this to someone else. I believe that a lie detector test should be given to the person making the accusation, this would stop a lot of false accusations against an innocent person.
I also am curious, if she was found not guilty at the criminal trial why didn't grant a motion for her to get her son back?
My daughter was falsely accused of domestic violence December 2014. She was arrested, and everything including her 1 year old son was taken from her. She had a criminal case ( which she was found not guilty), and she is waiting on a trial date to see if she can get her son back in family court. She has been away from her son for 7 months because her ex boyfriend put a bunch of orders filed against her, her ex boyfirend lied to everyone saying she struck him in the eye. Her ex boyfriend called the police the next day while my daughter was returning from a friends house from the night before saying she was coming home to break down the door. He mentioned nothing about being struck in the eye until the police officer asked him how he got the bruise on his left eye. This guy's mother moved him and my daughter and my grandson to Florida to get my daughter and my grandson away from us so they could figure out a way to sabotage her so he could have full custody of her son. People like this should be put in jail so they can never do this to someone else. I believe that a lie detector test should be given to the person making the accusation, this would stop a lot of false accusations against an innocent person.
I also am curious, if she was found not guilty at the criminal trial why didn't grant a motion for her to get her son back?
I was a victim, my wife at the time was instructed the victims advocate to just say "i am in fear of my life" which then I was given an order of protection and couldn't see my daughter for over a year. When the divorce hearing finally happened she was asked under oath if I ever threatened her or ever hurt her in any way. Her answer was no. I pleaded with the judge (Bail) of cooper county to do something. He laughed and dismissed the order but did nothing to her for lying and falsifying a court document. The victims advocate had no right to tell her to say false things in order to falsely get an order of protection. What a crooked crooked system this is. And she also went to the police and falsely accused me of going to sexually assault my daughter and when they found the allegations to be false they did nothing to her. Where is my justice for all the injustice? Yet she took our daughter out of state and was in violation of a court order not to do so, yet nothing happened to her again. So much time I lost with my children due to this travesty of justice. Don't vote for Keith Bail, very crooked judge in Boonville mo.
my son was falsely accused of domestic violence. His wife did that so she could leave the state with his son. she has done this before with her first son. Woman who falsely accuse men should have to face consequences. And Men need to be heard.
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I'm fighting a cult that has taken my son.
At 21 years old I had to spend 8 thousand dollars to defend myself (and eventually win) a case where I was falsely accused of Domestic Violence. There wasn't a single piece of evidence and yet I was still arrested. The woman who tried to ruin my life with a lie because I wanted to break up will see no repercussion for her actions.

If the accuser knew that they would be punished for false allegations, then maybe there would be less cases like these.
At 21 years old I had to spend 8 thousand dollars to defend myself (and eventually win) a case where I was falsely accused of Domestic Violence. There wasn't a single piece of evidence and yet I was still arrested. The woman who tried to ruin my life with a lie because I wanted to break up will see no repercussion for her actions.

If the accuser knew that they would be punished for false allegations, then maybe there would be less cases like these.
Our system is broken and fathers consistently get pushed aside after false allegations. It's sickening how women can manipulate the system and ruin fathers relationships with their children.
Any sort of domestic violence is unacceptable. Be it verbal, mental, or physical. and committing it over public forum, such as social media, is totally even more unacceptable. It needs to stop.
This is DEFINITELY becoming an epidemic. I'd like to see stricter penalties for women (or men) who do this. In this day and age with social media, one false allegation can ruin a person's life whether it be socially or career-wise.
My current bf is now being falsely accused as I type this, not one judge,she has accused him in two separate counties,has heard from him. The public defenders in both cases just want him to plea. He wants to fight but feels a year in prison is all he will get because no one will listen. His accuser cries and says she afraid but then drives past the house all hours of the day and nite. It's a shame honestly when the innocent aren't even heard.
EVERYONE READ THIS!! PLEASE!

Everyone needs to contact the DEPT of JUSTICE.. Civil Rights division... They only take emails: special.litigation@usdoj.gov

Congress knows about this, but they are unwilling to fix it! Its as SIMPLE as enforcing the Constitution! Its as simple as, NOT TAKING ANY ACTION against the "accused", until they have been PROVEN guilty of a crime, with EVIDENCE (an accusation alone, is not evidence), in a fair court of law, with DUE PROCESS!.... You know, that process guaranteed by the US Constitution? Innocent, until PROVEN guilty? It has literally been reversed!... Right now, it is GUILTY, until you can PROVE yourself innocent (which is usually impossible, btw). The "accuser" has NO BURDEN of PROOF!... An accusation is ALL they need.... literally!

The Dept. of Justice needs to hear from EVERYONE!!

Email the Dept. of Justice (Civil Rights Division):

special.litigation@usdoj.gov

special.litigation@usdoj.gov

It is currently GUILTY, until proven INNOCENT (which is nearly impossible)... literally.

FORCE our courts to regard EVERY US citizen as INNOCENT until PROVEN GUILTY!

special.litigation@usdoj.gov

Email them NOW!.... or the false accusations will continue.
I have two stalking cases pending in Marion county , Ks. 15DM41 and 15DM43. I have been a nurse for 17 years and these false allegations are from ex family members trying to silence my voice on Facebook. I never threatened them or anyone else. I have had to take anti-anxiety medication and anti depression medication and started seeing a therapist just so I can cope worth what is going on.
Just a twisted way to gain control. Very sad.
I feel that the false accuser should serve the time that they are trying to give the victim I have a friend going through this right know , something needs to be done to stop this because it mentally tears him apart
We SHOULD protect women and the elderly but when that's used in a horrific way to get rid of someone that, "you just don't git" then they should be held accountable criminally not to mention the amount of damage to sacred possessions that are summarily and (without fear of reprisal) destroyed in a triumphant manner.

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been hit 2 times in past 4 months by same woman, could not get criminal charge to come close to sticking, then filed a civil petition of relief from domestic abuse, nice world we live in.
Four months ago, my brother was accused by his wife of domestic violence and sexual misconduct, with a temporary restraining order against him. Police came at his home in Long Island New York, and forced him to leave the house. Since then, he's been living with my family ( my husband, two sons, and myself in Queens, NY) in a two-bed house. Back then, she had no proof of any DV or rape but her word against his, no medical report, no witnesses, nothing at all; even the detective who had the case did not rush to arrest him because it was a very "made-up" statement. One month after this, she obtained a restraining order from Family Court for their two daughters: he could not approach his four and half and eight and half year old kids alone, no electronic contact, no mail, nothing at all. How she did it? My brother, at his lawyer's affirmative answer, started to visit the older daughter at school during May 2015. There the girl complained that the mother is telling them that he was beating her up at night, while the kids were asleep, and that he cannot come home or see the children anymore(I was listening on his cell speaker on May 6th 2015 because he wanted someone to know). He asked his daughter if she believes it because it's something she has never seen happening. The kid started crying and said she knows but the mother says it's true (she's 8 and 1/2, for God's sake!) What we didn't know, was that the wife complained at the principal about his visits, and the school counselor got involved to evaluate the girl.(He never got a report about this "evaluation".) Also he was able to talk to the youngest one through a social media site and a skype; he just told her how much he's missing her, and that he hopes to see her soon. Following, on May 18th in court she submitted the report saying that his visits deeply disturbed the daughter, who cried in class and couldn't focus anymore (like the whole situation the mother created would not do it!) So he got the restraining order against his daughters, without doing anything at all but trying to keep in touch during an extremely difficult situation for them. Then his lawyer asked for an evaluation of his daughters. They came up with someone from a non-profit child organization EAC NETWORK in Long Island, that self-proclaimed "protectors of children rights." The evaluation took place on June 2nd 2015. The lawyer called two days later, and they told him that everything is okay, the children never assisted to parental fighting, and so on. On June 4th however, she filled a petition for sole custody of children, where she lied that she was the sole provider for children since they were born (the oldest in October 2006). Nothing being true since there are papers and income tax forms that show both of them worked, although he did stay home for 3 and 1/2 years to do child care, both spouses agreeing upon this at that time (2007).
Furthermore, she filled a petition for child support that takes about 80% of his month
How can someone be charged with domestic violence, when there's no injuries? The alleged victim signed a written statment admitting they're lying . The prosecutor still is pushing for a conviction. ZERO INJURIES.
How can someone be charged with domestic violence, when there's no injuries? The alleged victim signed a written statment admitting they're lying . The prosecutor still is pushing for a conviction. ZERO INJURIES.
My wife is bipolar and tried this more than once. Last night she flipped out over nothing and attacked our daughter by pulling her out of the car across the concrete. I had no choice but to push her so hard that she hit her head on the steel fence and cut her face. I had no time to think other than grab my kids and leave asap. She was told by neighbors and friends not to call police but she did anyway. The officer took 1 look at her and assumed I hit her. She said no and that she didn't want to press charges. (Which leads to why call to begin with). The officer said it didn't matter and filed a criminal report anyway because I wasn't there for him to arrest me. She has since gone to the station and signed the no prosecute form. It doesn't matter if a guy defends his kid or walks away, if she gets the wrong cop than its all over for the guy. Total B.S.
Current law is a travesty. The accused is effectively guilty until proven innocent -- and the false accuser has zero repercussions. Even after exoneration, the innocent man's ex-wife uses "he was arrested for domestic violence" as a weapon against him for the rest of his life. Ask me how I know..
Laws enacted to protect victims of domestic violence are being misused! Innocent lives are being destroyed because the burden of proof is being thrown out and the simple word of an accuser is being taken without question, even without the accused even being allowed to speak! The accuser is often motivated by other factors (custody of children, vindictiveness toward the accused, etc). The accused man has no voice against her, is automatically arrested, and treated guilty until proven innocent! Months of the accused's life is in turmoil, undue legal expenses placed on them and very likely the loss of a job or even a entire career path (given some careers) because an accuser cried wolf and/or completely made up an entire false story!The laws need to be revisited and indications made to at a minimum 1) create a level when there's no apparent serious threat, where the accused is treated INNOCENT until proven guilty and 2) allow for criminal and civil prosecution when someone, whether male or female, has misused these laws in a vindictive and cunning way. Law enforcement officers, public attorneys, and judges need to be forced to recognize the precept that the accused is innocent until proven guilty.
It started out as DV n the D.A. at arraignment added 2 more false charges, false imprisonment n corporal injury, n another false charge of coercing a victim using force, later. This is unbelievable! Me, the alleged victim has had no say as to weather I want the restraning order, no say as to the truth. This has ruined my fiance's life n mine. The state has 3 felony charges on him, all false n the judge put a 3 yr. restraining order in which I did not ask for n later asked to b removed to no avail. The state should not have this kind of power. They r corrupt n r ruining lives of people that only got into a verbal argument. In California it's way out of hand. This has to stop! I should have a say as to weather I want a restraining order or not n weather or not all these false charges have any merit. I don't. We had a verbal argument, they locked him back up after I bailed him out n more than doubled the bail. There r no pics bcuz I was not injured n when the police arrived at my home, I was alone. My fiance came up to the police car on his bicycle n said tht his girlfriend said they wanted to talk to him, at tht time they arrested him. When I saw the officer bringing his bike back, I asked what happened n he said they arrested him, I asked why n all he could say is, he n his partner thought they had just cause n walked away. The officers stayed all of 10 minutes n asked me what happened, I said we had an argument, Later I find out that the officers report is false. I never said the things he claims I did.

So, how can he coerce me while in jail using force. How was I falsely imprisioned if I was alone when cops drove up n where r the injuries of which I had none for the corporal injury charge. It's gotten way out of hand n D.A.'s r going way to far w/false charges n for what? To ruin peoples lives..
Victim of a false report and still trying to get it fixed.
The law is supposed to be impartial.
My son's fiancÚ started acting manic after the birth of his son - screaming at him throughout the day, mixed in with acting normal. After stating he had rights as a father, she made up a story about him shoving her -- no 911, she just went to the police station 8 hours after the supposed incident. He's a police officer, was arrested and in this situations you are treated GUILTY until you spend thousands of dollars on an attorney fighting it, the stigma is still there and you can't work while this is going on. The laws have gone too far when you have less rights than a murderer -- who is considered innocent until proven guilty. Sad our legal system has come to the point where a bitter person can be so vengeful and the court system supports her. This doesn't help the situations where a woman is truly abused.
My son was falsely accused of DV. Charges were dropped but he was still fired from his job (he was a bailiff in a municipal court) and has to wait 2 years before case can be sealed because prosecutor withdrew charges "without" prejudice here in Ohio. Nothing was done to the female!!!
My husband has had to go through this for 25 years with an ex. Is there no end? Now my grandson is going through it with an ex that is a meth addicted female and in spite of complaints on her for drugs and child abuse they believe her even after admitting to filing false reports
My step son's life has all but been destroyed by a woman's false claims and outright lies against him. They have two children together, one of which he received custody of. When this woman had nowhere else to go he opened his home to her and foolish had another child with her, so she says. A blood test is being done. After discovering that this woman was having men come to his home while he was at work and having sex in his oldest daughter's bed, and having strange men show up at his home, where he has been raising his other children as a single father, (3) of which are teenage girls, at 3 and 4 a.m., he asked her to leave. When she refused he sought advice from the local police who told him what to do to have her removed. Before he could initiate that the woman left the home with the two youngest children, showed up at a Domestic Violence Shelter claiming that he was abusive. With the help of a women's advocate she filed for a Temporary Restraining Order and it was granted due to the historonics she came to the hearing with. When he filed a Motion to Reconsider, a few days before the hearing she called and made a complaint stating that he called her threatening to kill her if she didn't drop the TRO. Without evidence or corroberation a warrent was issued and the police came to his house and arrested him in front of his children. He is a 37 year old man with no criminal history, but all it took was a word from her. She and her advocate using this arrest as a catalyst filed for a Final Restraining Order which also was granted only on her word. When he filed an appeal and presented the paperwork to her through her advocate, she she went to a police station with a recording of a male voice threatening her. Once again a warrant was issued and he was arrested. Due to these charges, Terroristic Threats, he lost his job and fell behind with all of his bills. This resulted in his vehicle being repossessed and being in arrears on his rent. Having to bail out of jail on these two occasions was very costly. He appeared again for a court hearing in Family Court over the custody matter and the Prosecutor added another charge onto the existing charge and placed a $90,000 bail on him. We hired a lawyer, which we now know that he should have did on day one, but being innocent he thought that he could go Pro Se. WRONG! This time he spent (3) weeks in jail before we could raise the bail. His landlord is being reasonable but he now has no job, no vehicle and mounting expenses. This woman has not only hurt and tried to destroy him but has hurt his children and we as a family. The more I read the more I see of how a Vexatious Litigant can destroy a life with just their word. Of course abuse is horrible and has to be addressed but abuse of the system by spiteful vindictive individuals must be addressed also. Even after we prove that she has lied and that he has been maliciously prosecuted, we still have to clear his good name because now it is a part of his background
My husband has had to go through this for 25 years with an ex. Is there no end? Now my grandson is going through it with an ex that is a meth addicted female and in spite of complaints on her for drugs and child abuse they believe her even after admitting to filing false reports
I am a 49 yr old male. and my ex girlfriend is a westminster police officer. Not Only has this woman lied to other officers about me and where i lived. but also had lied on court documents that I abused her and my son? We have gone to custody court where she was awarded custody and has been violation the custody order by keepingh my son from me. and she has had me arretsed twice and none of the policve and lawyers i talk to will help me expose her.

I have SPENT OVER 35 IN LEGAL FEES.
My ex girlfriend has gone as far as removing me from my sons school, life, him, and has my life a living a hell.. I called her agency for help and they refused. our local sheriffs have also denied me any help. a,d have harassed me. to arrest me again, if i keep asking my ex for my son.

Its so hurtful, and so painful to see how the law will not help me or my son.. from the her agency to the DA, and to Courts.. No one will help me, expose her lies and accusations that have just about ruined my life.

Im really concerned ill never see my son. and this corrupt cop will again get away with doing what she wants
This is out of control!!!!
I was falsely accused of abusing my son and because my ex is a woman they granted her a temporary pfa no questions asked. Conveniently my week vacation w my son occurred during this period of time and I lost my vacation w him. My son testified that I didn't abuse him and charges were dropped. It is way to easy for a woman to get a pfa and keep a kid away from his father bc of that pfa
The Pierce County Washington Courts deemed false allegations of domestic violence to be true against my son without any evidence, investigation, interviews of my son or any of our family members and despite written witness statements to the contrary by respected members of the community as well as by the accuser herself. My son has not seen his son since Mar 2013. My 10-yr old grandson whom the Pierce Country Court system granted full physical custody of to my son 7 years ago, has not seen his brother since Mar 2013. My son could not afford an attorney and had to represent himself at Trial. Despite the fact that when she first retained him, her atty's first statement to my son were that "we're going to through the domestic violence charges out and get visitation right away". My son is not allowed to see, speak to, write to or contact his son in any fashion and has been ordered to submit to a variety of monthly expensive tests which he cannot afford to pay for in addition to the child support order. My son is struggling financially and has a child at home and still cannot afford to hire an atty to deal with the aftermath of the fact that his and his sons lives have been turned upside down by false allegations of domestic violence. PLEASE, someone needs to protect innocent men and children from these women. Additionally, these false allegations take resources away from those women who are truly suffering from domestic violence. PLEASE, PLEASE help those falsely accused and the children who are a casualty of these women.
My husband has been charged for two crimes he did not commit (domestic violence and intimidating a witness) by a psychologically disturbed woman named Dorian Beach. He was never questioned by the police or the city attorney. They took her word and she was never asked to prove any of her false accusations. To make it even worse she filed a civil lawsuit demanding $150,000 for her alleged injuries. We nearly lost our unborn child due to the stress this cause us and we have spent all our life savings defending my husband and clearing his name.
I am a victim of over 40 false attempts to have me arrested. This has happened over a three year period. It is wrong, harassing in nature, and unfair to victims of actual domestic violence. Furthermore my ex is allowed to repeatedly slander me to public officials, friends, and most importantly my son.
i have a son with a woman is a " professional victim". it's made my life hell. theres been times i had no car no home,and worse- no contact with my son. always just untill she gets her own place through some victims program,that we all pay for, consequence for lying? never
if one is found not guilty. The accuser should automatically be charged.

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