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The mother of my children has been vindictive and practicing this digusting behavior of filing false allegation statement to obtain the family courts help to issue another 5 year stay away .Granted one 5 year stay away irder just expired so in order to obtain another order she straight lies and makes up unprovable allegations .But since the court system is one sided i have two outstanding warrents for my person because of lies .Know i have to scrap to get money for bail and legal representstion something needs to be done about people who cry wolf .
I thought I was the only one dealing with this issue. My cheating ex decided to bring her new play toy into the home we once shared. I come home from work and a hour and a half later, I am sitting in jail for domestic violence. I did not touch her however my integrity is being questioned the criminal justice system. After losing my home and job, I have to depend on friends and family to make sure I can attend my court dates. This was all set up by my ex and now I can only pray for the state to dismissed these bogus claims. Meanwhile she enjoys the home we built. I am trying to make sense of how this system be so broken? I never been in trouble with the law yet feel like a menace to society because she said so. This has to stop!
We must use technology to stop this from both sides www.noliemri.com
If it's proven a false accusation was made, the accuser should be punished
If it's proven a false accusation was made, the accuser should be punished
I'm experiencing this firsthand right as we speak my daughter's mother told everybody and the courts that I grabbed her and that I threatened to kill her and that I picked up a chair and threw it across the room that I'm picking up objects that weigh hundreds of pounds in the house them across the room and fits of Rage but yet I'm disabled I have a 35 pound lifting restrictions I'm treated as though I'm guilty I haven't had one chance to be heard because the three times that I petition the court to be heard of modification of the false restraining order they held the hearing and didn't notify me and then charge me for not being there family court is corrupt and needs to be interviewed by the highest Justice of the mall are US Congress I'm sure some of you are father's
30 years ago when I was a victim of abuse I had to flee to shelters to get away. Police walking into my house without opening the door, the refrigerator 6' away leaning on the counter and the house torn up wasn't enough proof. Just because I didn't have blood pouring from me only torn clothes I couldn't get the help. It didn't take long to get that evidence BUT now look at it! As a woman I have seen countless woman use the PFA order as a weapon a tool to inflict severe damage to the man. It is their form of getting back. It stays on the man's record and can and has prevented job loss. The pitiful abuse counselors don't due the job they should and just encourage, support and provide free legal advice and counsel. It is job security for them. Yes I said job security their words not mine! All it takes is to prosecute those who are habitual violators of the law. Quit letting them walk away1
My son has just been sentenced to leavenworth for 8 months for false allegations of domestic after a 2 year investigation by CID for false sexual assault charges.
As soon as my fiance and I started dating his ex said from day one she was going to ruin him. 8 months later after kidnapping his kids and facing charges she told police he strangled her. We have been depleted financially and emotionally. We've lost everything and now his lawyer wants more money. During the month he was in jail on a 200,000 dollar bond she had police called saying I was using drugs, starving my children, abusing them you name it. Shes sowicked a true NARCISSIT. His lawyer wont read all the text proving she wanted to ruin him and slowly manipulating his kids into hating us. Hes planning to taken it to trial but now we can't afford a lawyer. This has got to stop!!!! Please text me 2082499570 if anyone has advice I will lose all my faith if heis found guilty
This has to Stop!!!
I am in the midst of this nightmare with absolutely no chance to have my voice heard in this legal system. I was forced out of my home, separated from my son, and am just about broke trying to fight the allegations of my sick wife. Enough!!!!
To the person in west palmbeach.you need to call me.my name is mike kaminski 607-725-8377.I went through this in fort lauderdale over a year ago and now I live in boca raton.my russian scam artist exwife olena forced me to spend 300 grand alone in attornies fees defending myself repeatidly against false allegations.in the end I got full custody of our little girl.I had a womens organization called "no more tears" in broward county financing my ex and encourging her to keep doing this to me.
I have been accused not once but twice of abusing my child. My ex continues to lie and try to manipulate the system. She has lost the petition twice and still not held liable for what she has done. I don't doubt she will do it again. What is a man suppose to do?
I have a mentally ill ex that is trying to do this to me. I am a great father and she served a 4 month sentence got out on a stay now has caused emotional and physical harm to my daughter. She knows if we go to court she will lose custody so making false accusations is her only way out. Please help I am an upstanding pillar in the community and she is a 4 time convicted felon. I did so much to better my daughter while she was in jail and now she is unwinding all the good I did . I just got my daughter back today with a cast on her leg. Only difference is I record every interaction. She screams in front of my daughter and makes her cry it's not right then says i am controlling.She should be back in jail where she belongs.
It's not fair
It's about time that woman should be held accountable for false alligations and be arrested .I'm sick of pathologic liars getting away with this .
Both her, the advocates, and the courts made me a victim of her for two consecutive three year terms.I am now labeled a violent offender by this system of abuse.my life has gone down the shitter, and I have been made homeless since 2008.god help me please?
I have a relative who is serving five years in federal prison for an accusation with no DNA but he did not have an alibi. This girl lied many times and could be proven a lie however in the federal prison system your chances of winning is going to jury trial or 2%. 98% of the time the federal government Wins their cases. Especially when it involves women against men. In those cases the jury is already condensed that the defendant or accused is guilty. The HEPA laws are also keeping the truth from being revealed when the accuser tells the truth to a psychiatrist or Doctor Who cannot say anything because of the HEPA law. I pray every day that this girl will finally tell the truth to someone who can and will get it to the right people so that my son can finally get out of prison! He's in prison for uploading a video which was really a video of him and his 29-year-old girlfriend and not of this other girl. But once again because of an alibi or him not having an alibi at the time the video was uploaded he's doing five years in Federal prison. The guy that the DNA did match is also doing five years in federal prison his is for statutory rape. This girl got 15 men in trouble over the Internet within five states. Our justice system really needs to be fixed and a mandatory minimums need to be changed according to the crimes.
I have a relative who is serving five years in federal prison for an accusation with no DNA but he did not have an alibi. This girl lied many times and could be proven a lie however in the federal prison system your chances of winning is going to jury trial or 2%. 98% of the time the federal government Wins their cases. Especially when it involves women against men. In those cases the jury is already condensed that the defendant or accused is guilty. The HEPA laws are also keeping the truth from being revealed when the accuser tells the truth to a psychiatrist or Doctor Who cannot say anything because of the HEPA law. I pray every day that this girl will finally tell the truth to someone who can and will get it to the right people so that my son can finally get out of prison! He's in prison for uploading a video which was really a video of him and his 29-year-old girlfriend and not of this other girl. But once again because of an alibi or him not having an alibi at the time the video was uploaded he's doing five years in Federal prison. The guy that the DNA did match is also doing five years in federal prison his is for statutory rape. This girl got 15 men in trouble over the Internet within five states. Our justice system really needs to be fixed and a mandatory minimums need to be changed according to the crimes.
There is a prejudice that only men get falsely accused. I was falsely accused and my husband is a abuser and he went ahead and filed the charges against me and evicted me out of home on Friday night in front of our three children terrorizing them. I was also forced to have no contact with the children for almost 2 weeks. He submitted false pictures and it was proven but there was NO punishment, even when judge saw that the pictures had wrong dates than what he said. The law is on the side of people with money, By allowing NO consequences for lying to the court, what message the judicial system is sending. My teenager said to me -- why lying is bad? Look at my father, he gets away from everything. Lying is only bad if you are poor and can't afford a good attorney.
I was handed a protective order and falsely accused of domestic violence by my roommate who I never have been involved with and the barest of relationships other than paying rent, filed and claimed while I was out of state, only to return a few days later and be arrested at work in front of all my colleagues, as well as filed a protective order barring me from my home, and many other places, which I've never been to and could care less for. My lawyer had the case dropped with prejudice without even going to trial and the D.A. dropped my case because it's frivolous and the charges make no sense. Yet despite all that I spent a fortune on legal fees, hotels, etc as well as having a tarnished reputation at work, and having to move, my lawyer says her petition for a protective order amounts to perjury and effectively a forced eviction. No one should have to go through this, I am not guilty of a crime I was incapable of committing because I was hundreds of miles away and had to pay for the privilege of being vindicated. I am now in the process of having the courts expunge and seal all records, as well as pending lawsuits against my former landlords and roommate, and possibly the court systems and local police department. You need to fix this law, because this should have never been granted a second look, especially without evidence and I should have never had to go through this ordeal. No one should, and now because I have I am forced to take legal action against all those involved including the government and agencies involved. Perjury and Perversion of Justice is serious and those pushing or approving of false accusations should be held accountable legally for their actions. You need to make sure that laws are written to allow for that to happen, because until then it is guilty until proven innocent and those truly guilty will walk free to continue. Prosecute perjury.
I'm a very large adult male and served a tour of duty in the military. I practiced many forms of self-defense, but no amount of preparation could have prepared me for being VICTIM of the system in this regard. The one I trusted the most used the system against me with no real reason to do so. My children are the ones who are suffering the most however and are the biggest victims of the games she plays with not only myself, but many others.
My wife accused me o domestic violense for the second time ..the firs she claim i beat her up on detroit michigan and 4 day left and go to iowa and she make those claims on iowa for something happen n detroit michigan one week before .and this time happen on detroit i got arrested and relish next mornings we the cases dismiss...
I found this to be a profound and much needed move of justice. It's time women should be held accountable for making false allegations, be held accountable, charged and jailed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I found this to be a profound and much needed move of justice. It's time women should be held accountable for making false allegations, be held accountable, charged and jailed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am a survivor of domestic abuse. My son is going through false allegations against him right now and the girl never signed a statement. The prosecutor and judges are out of line. They want him in jail and will no doubt break the rules to get him there. He has a public pretender that's a joke. I want competent representation.
I tried to calm down a drunk verbally abusive wife, she tripped I grabbed her to safe guard her fall and the state tried to slap a family violence charge on me. lost 15K, did 6 months probation on deffered adjudication for doing the right thing. Thanks *******s
Many men are the victim here, having watched it first hand. What is happening to law abiding men who are not criminals is not ok. I used to be a woman's advocate some of the women use it to hurt or are pressured into it by peers who know nothing about the situation hense now the man is dealing with a criminal situation. Something must be done. Many good men are being ruined. Could be all about money rather than protecting and serving. I know all to well about domestic violence as I have been a victim but I am sickened by what is happening to men these days.
Many men are the victim here, having watched it first hand. What is happening to law abiding men who are not criminals is not ok. I used to be a woman's advocate some of the women use it to hurt or are pressured into it by peers who know nothing about the situation hense now the man is dealing with a criminal situation. Something must be done. Many good men are being ruined. Could be all about money rather than protecting and serving. I know all to well about domestic violence as I have been a victim but I am sickened by what is happening to men these days.
Something has to be done to change Florida DV laws. They ruin peoples lives and the false accuser gets not even a slap on the hand.
My husband's ex-wife attacked him, leaving his face and body bruised and battered. He defended himself by holding her wrists away from him. She filed for a restraining order. There wasn't a single mark on her.
First lived with my partner. Reform desperately needed to protect the falsely accused.
Once accused, you have to prove your inocents. YOU prove your case with evidence and the accuser walks away and not accountable for their frabicated Report.
I have not seen my son and daughter for 203 days, 19 hours, and 42 minutes. I had a stroke, my spouse/caregiver and her mother out of state accused me of being a potential murderer wanting to kidnap the children (6 weeks after a stroke and still learning to balance and walk) to get the $17,000 we had left and take custody of the children. I could have pressed charges for her attacking me at the top of our stairs she admitted to under oath in the January, 4, 2016 hearing but was to concerned about the impact it would have on my son and daughter to have their mother arrested. The injunction process MUST be changed so that accusers must have concrete evidence to support their claims. I was never arrested for anything. My daughter is suffering from anxiety and depression because there is no end in sight to when she may see her father again while her mother and mother-in-law brainwash her into thinking I am a potential violent threat while I have done nothing to violate the injunction since it was handed to me on Sept. 30, 2016. I've had 4 separate judges, none of which has requested a transcript of any of the other hearings. Not one judge has let me address any of the written allegations! I've simply been treated guilty without a full hearing of the allegations. The system is broken.
My wife and I had an argument one night and before things got out of hand We decided to spend a couple days apart to calm down and collect our thoughts... The following day I was talking to a friend and mentioned being very depressed and the friend called the police to check on me. When they did a female officer had her gun drawn in my face when I opened the door. They asked if I was going to hurt myself and I said no. They insisted on badgering me further asking where my wife was... And I told them we had an argument the previous day and we decided to take a couple days to calm down. They then went to talk to her... Asked her if she wanted to press charges against me and she said NO... Well they went against her wishes and arrested me and charged me with a 5th deg domestic (a felony) I am awaiting sentencing still but I will have 21 months in prison all but 30 days stayed and 5 years of probation and drug and violence classes. Neither my wife or I want this as it has caused us stress and financial hardship as well as me being banned from the apartment so we have to move as well even though no one was injured and we had already resolved the situation.
As a mother, my heart aches to hear your stories. It happened to my son when his gf filed a false report which led to a temporary PFA in PA- 6 months after he ended the relationship. The seriousness of the situation did not sink in at first. Both he and we were in a state of disbelief. A warning to others : it just takes one naive phone call to be charged with contempt of court for violating a PFA (Protection From Abuse) order which easily can lead to a Final PFA, even when never officially charged with DV, as in my son's case. His lawyer told him just to accept the PFA instead of going to trial and " it will go away". Do NOT believe this. I would advise to borrow money from family members, sell a favorite collectible -or sell your car if necessary to hire a criminal lawyer with experience in representing clients falsely accused of domestic abuse. It's true, as others have commented, oftentimes the accuser in these cases have a borderline and/or Narcissistic personality disorder. They do not show gratitude for others, have an inflated sense of self, do not take responsibility for their behavior and blame others, especially those closest to them. Just think about someone who can file a false police report, then go into a courtroom and lie to a judge-without batting an eye. They are out for revenge. Yes, eventually their behavior will catch up to them-yet they can cause so much unnecessary harm and heartache to the very people who once cared for them. Please know you are not alone-and don't give up.
My life is being ruined right in front of me by a vengeful ex girlfriend who has Borderline Personality Disorder. Even with a good attorney there's nothing I can do about it and it is only getting worse. False allegations and restraining orders are being thrown at me left and right and police show up at my house and arrest me often. Soon I will have no money to bail out and will have to see the judge wearing clothes from jail while in handcuffs. I have all the evidence in the world but it doesn't help one bit and I'm close to just giving up as this kind of life is not worth living.
A good friend and co-worker was just arrested and charged with 2 felonies after being warned by his vindictive wife that she would put him in jail and that he could do nothing about it.
Mentally ill women use this as a weapon every chance they get. The laws are being mishandled by courts, law enforcement, and women.
My Ex Wife also used this the day after I found out she was having an affair, I was removed from my home, humiliated and battered in court, the order was dismissed but I lost my house, some friends, my dog and all of my money. I never ever threatened her or laid a finger on her. This was used simply because she was found out. It is a totally unfair abuse of the system, I can understand protecting women (and indeed men from violence) but I was immediately thrown from my house with no evidence, then the most dreadful divorce commenced.
I was filled with joy when i stumbled upon this .my brother is a good man who has been sentenced to several years in federal prison all because he chose the wrong woman. Granted, he was no angel he is not perfect but that was his past ever since his miner run in with the law,at the young age of 16 he has been attending work and he has been on a seven year walk in sobriety . I couldnt be more proud of my big brother . Besides his choice of women he almost had everything going for him . If you know of anyone who can help please let me know and keep my big brother shane in your prayers . thankyou.
I am a victim of false allegations.

My ex wife used the system to get back at me for filing divorce papers and her, and to rip me out of out Daughters life.

In the end they were all proven to be false, but by that time it was to late and custody had been set.
CAUGHT WIFE IN SO MANY LIES AND CHEATING. AND HAVE HAD ENOUGH SO I FILLED FOR DIVORCE ONLY MARRIED 11 MONTHS. SHE IS BI-POLAR AND I CAN NOT DEAL WITH IT. SINCE I FILLED SHE NOW HAS ACCUSED ME OF BEATING HER. WELL I NEVER WENT TO JAIL BECAUSE SHE WAS WITNESSED BY SHERIFF SCRATCHING AND MAKING MARKS TO HERSELF. I WENT AND GOT A RESTRAINING ORDER ON HER JUST TO PROTECT MY SELF SO THEN SHE GOT ONE ON ME. I HAVE SINCE BEEN ASKED TO BE AWAY FROM THE HOUSE TILL THIS GETS RESOLVED IN THE MEAN TIME SHE HAS HER NEW BOYFRIEND STAYING IN MY HOUSE THAT I RENT. AND I ALSO GET PAID TO MAINTAIN THE PROPERTY. I AM ALLOWED TO BE ON PROPERTY TO DO MAINTAINCE JUST CAN NOT GO IN HOUSE PER COURT. I GO 1 TIME A WEEK TO WORK ON PROPERTY AND SHE MAKE FALSE ACCUSATIONS THAT I AM BREAKING MY COURT ORDER JUST TO SEE IF SHE CAN GET ME ARRESTED. IM STUCK IN THE MIDDLE OF THE COURT AND A CRAZY PERSON. SHE IS NOT ON THE LEASE WHICH HAS EXPIRED ABOUT TWO MONTHS AGO AND REFUSES TO PAY RENT. I WENT AND POSTED A 5 DAY AND SHE CONTESTED. SO IN A NUT SHELL. SHE IS A LIAR. SHE HAS BEEN CAUGHT CHEATING. SHE HAS MADE FALSE ACCUSATIONS TO THE POLICE SHE REFUSES TO PAY RENT AND YET. THE COURT IS LETTING HER STAY IN THE HOUSE WITH WHILE I AM ON A FRIENDS COUCH.AND THIS IS NOT HER FIRST TIME IN COURT FOR SOMETHING LIKE THIS. I JUST FOUND OUT SHE HAS DONE THIS TO ABOUT 5 DIFFERENT MEN. IF I KNEW THAT AT FIRST I WOULD NEVER HAD MARRIED HER.WHERE IS THE JUSTICE IM JUST SO OVERWHELMED BY THE BAD CHOICES SHE HAS MADE AND THE COURT DOES NOTHING ABOUT IT. REALLY!!!
I got stage 4 chf and i had a massive stroke. These sane two white women , i already had one felony case dismissed, but i know the D.A. know that these women are making false allegations, and false reports they are still pressing charges.I cant take to much more of this. My health is not good, but im a fighter and I'm go keep fighting as long as the lord lets me. Please put an end to these false allegations.Whatever else that they think they can do
This affects both genders. My ex lied and said my son was in imminent danger because I'm on disability yet he was gone 2 years. He lied. After the custody case was filed by him then he purposefully fondled my son in front of me so it would freak me out and cause me to tell court about it. That's how he gained custody because they said I was making it up. But pictures don't lie and neither did my child because it happened again and again.
My son is serving time for this for no reason other than the DA's in this case convinced him to take a plea without understanding that it will affect the rest of his life. This so called victim has a Borderline Personality Disorder of the worse kind and was able to convince the DA's of this County her lies. When she tried to recant her story they threatened her with perjury. She did not even showup in front of the judge. She was so frightened that when they called her. She told them to do whatever they wanted too. They sent him to prison. My family does not know what we can do to turn this uncalled for mess around. Please Help!
I am noticing when I explain my story, people dont understand or have any knowledge about narcissistic personality disorder. My ex boyfriend is playing victim and its a huge control thing for him. I am going through this right now. I am the one who was charged with DV when my ex boyfriend was the one who attacked me. I never touched him. I was trying to end our relationship and now I am facing charges. I really hope that one day making false allegations wont be so easy. From my experience, the police seemed lazy and did not investigate properly. I am another innocent person being charged with Domestic Violence.
My son lives in Fl and was falsely accused by his cheating wife of domestic violence and got an order of protection. He has since lost his job, his home, and whatever else she wants. The State Attorney supported his ex and never gave him a chance to defend himself. This is ongoing. The Courts need to allow the husbands (many falsely accused) some justice against lying wives who are looking for a greener pasture.
My son lives in Fl and was falsely accused by his cheating wife of domestic violence and got an order of protection. He has since lost his job, his home, and whatever else she wants. The State Attorney supported his ex and never gave him a chance to defend himself. This is ongoing. The Courts need to allow the husbands (many falsely accused) some justice against lying wives who are looking for a greener pasture.
My son lives in Fl and was falsely accused by his cheating wife of domestic violence and got an order of protection. He has since lost his job, his home, and whatever else she wants. The State Attorney supported his ex and never gave him a chance to defend himself. This is ongoing. The Courts need to allow the husbands (many falsely accused) some justice against lying wives who are looking for a greener pasture.
In a few words I'm the victim of a narcissistic sociopathic emotional abuser of 5+ years, jus had my court date to respond to her "alleged actions".... wasn't allowed to speak per my attorney cause she was basically scared said our reply to her order says what we want we would be repetitive if I got up on the stand.
Needless to say she now has a 5 year order based on COMPLETE LIES !!!!!!!!!!!!!

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I just recently went through the PFA process with my EX girlfriend. I caught her cheating with someone and told her to leave the apartment and stay with him if she was going to do that. She left (no violence occurred no threats) I go to bed, go to work, get home, and then get a knock on the door from the police with a PFA Full! Of false accusations! I grabbed essentials and left calmly. Days go by and she contacts my mother telling her she's going to drop the PFA. We talked and planned a date with each other , I get to thinking and told her the next day that it's probably not a good idea we meet up and rekindle the relationship. She get mad and hangs up the phone. Goes to the cops and said I harassed her. (Simply contacting the other person mutually got me cuffed up and thrown in jail for 24 hr being treated like a woman beater) PFA was dropped but an agreement was made for no contact. She got the place and alot of the things that I had bought. Mind you this all began over her cheating ON ME! And I have to pay thousands of dollars to take care of this awful situation, lost days of work, got evicted,payed for a place that I wasn't even allowed to stay at. I believe that I could peruse a case against her based off of the false accusations, but am too exhausted at this point. And I know she doesn't have any money. And her daughter (who was awesome and we got along great!) Is caught in the middle of all of this! I know ow there is going to be a psychological affect unfortunately. I just what to get out of this situation. And Move Forward with my life!
My daughter was fed false accusations against me he entire life. THIS MUST STOP!!!!!!!!!!!!

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