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This law should be abolished. Destroys lives & families & financial drain. It's no longer the truth but a twisted version & branded as criminal for normal family situation & how dare you become at the mercy of the system--a victim of the police (instigator)....How this law came about, from just 1 family: the Brown Family-WOW-horrendous -Unbelievable- when their case has nothing to do with families in general. The Puppets who created this law will have their dues too, payback for destroying lives--what they did is Blatant Discrimination of the family population as a whole!
the accuser visited my son in jail, sometimes I had to shared visits, went to p accused ick him up when he was released but I was there, wrote a letter to my son letting him know when he get out she was going to be at a party friends was throwing for him, she got pregnant, drommer, drommer, drommer, by the time her baby turned 1 , he was accused again, she called me and told me he was going to jail tonight and at 4a.m. she called to say by the way chris is in jail and I said for what she said convicted felony with a firearm. I know her and I know that night wasn't by chance
Victim of false restraining order and it was someone who had been abusing and harassing me. I am motivated to do something about this.
Give fathers equal rights....
My life was ruined because of a woman accusing me of domestic violence ,we lived together for 7 years and she acused me three times the first two times it got thrown out of court cause there was no evidence of domestic violence whatsoever,but she didn't give up she swored to me that she would ruin my life and eventually she did.i went in front of the same judge that had seen my case the two other times and he eplaied how he was tired of seeing me there and that this time he was gonna make sure I never came back.i was happy thinkin he was gonna advise her that if she made a false accusation like that again she would be charged ,but instead he convicted me after 2 months in jail and turned me into a convicted felon in the state of florida.i have no rights at all!cant vote cant own a weapon to protect my self and my family.in the meantime my ex has a concealed weapons license and works for the county that convicted me.she obviously has mental issues but I was never heard!now im goin thru hell with the whole child support thing and my kids are living in hell with this female.but again I got convicted so I have no rights,,the court system truly failed me and my children!
YWCA of Tacoma is corrupt and needs to stop supporting criminal behavior by women who seek easy free divorce by falsifying domestic violence. A women that is abused would run to the police, but she does not because if her lies are exposed she is jailed like the criminal she is for falsely reporting a fake crime. That is why women choose the alternative and go to a system that is not accountable for criminal behavior that puts people at risk, and children.
Once I told my living mate to leave my apto , then she treated me to hit her face with a cooking pan to put me in jail and make an immigration case base on domestic violence . I was afraid because she was having advices from her ex-boyfriend , a police officer . I had to stand this woman for 1 1/3 years before she left my apto .
My husband has a daughter he has not see since she was one and a half she is now going on seven. He pays child support on her on time and has papers that state he is supposed to have her every weekend. And she is supposed to have his last name. The mother changed her last name back to her maiden name without his consent and will not let him have anything to do with her! She now has a two year old little brother and has no clue. We have fought for her but have no money to continue and no one will help us. Child support officers need to have some sort of audit done for fathers paying on time and make sure they are getting to see their kids like they should be!
My ex-wife (an alcoholic) viciously attacked me , in a drunken rage, then called the police. I was arrested, w/o the officer even talking to me, even though her minor injuries are proven to be of her own cause. He said it was because she had "bruising and swelling on her face". The medical examinations of a Triage Nurse and 3 doctors document she was normocephalic atraumatic. His own pictures showed she hadn't a mark on her face. I was subsequently convicted of Aggravated Domestic Violence, for allegedly slugging her in the side hard enough to fracture 2 ribs (and without leaving a single mark), and smashing her head into the wall at least a dozen times. Numerous doctors' reports, XRAYS, MRI's and a video of her walking, and laughing and joking, prove the case was a complete fabrication. NONE of the actual medical evidence was shown at my trial. Not one shred of it. The Circuit Court Judge, at my Appeal, stated I did not have the right to possess the evidence, much less have it shown to the Jury. I am not kidding. We now have shown--besides the fact the Prosecutor withheld the tapes of the alleged victim, as well as the police abusive, profane interrogation of me in my own home, from me until after I was convicted. And no Miranda. We now have shown the police altered a photograph, and used it as evidence against me. They also altered the secretly-recorded audio from inside my home--for the Appeal, as they clearly did not want the Jury to hear it. The actual evidence is irrefutable: she did not have any broken ribs nine days after the incident, but suddenly showed up at her doctors on day ten in "respiratory distress", with two newly fractured ribs. And she also had a new complaint of difficulty moving her arm (the rib fractures were near the scapula). The Jury was allowed to hear that she had broken ribs when she left my home. She had no trauma to her head whatsoever. The jury was allowed to hear I caused her to have two herniated disks in her neck. The MRI shows they were old injuries. We have shown the police committed numerous counts of perjury. They even said I was the one who was drunk (the Prosecutor covering up for the fact her BAC was still 0.068% five hours after her last drink--she attacked me because I kept pressing the garage door opener button, in an attempt to keep a very drunk woman from driving...again) even though my BAC was 0.078% when I peaked, in my home, as i asked for a PBT. None of this ever mattered. Now a dozen documents have gone mysteriously missing from the Record of Actions, And my life has been destroyed.
I am going through this right now. It is mortifying. My whole life has changed. This is not justice.
I am falsely accused of domestic violence, I knew nothing of multiple sclerosis, the signs are all their,she has ruined my life,as I yhead for trial
I am a woman and a victim a false domestic violence charge made against me by a highly unstable drug addicted ex-boyfriend with a history of considerable violence in an outlaw biker gang. I was 49 at the time and had no prior arrests, charges or convictions, I in fact had a security clearance for 13 years. I took care of him as he has some health issues (none of which stop him from being through-the-roof unstable and physically aggressive). I was made to feel obligated by him to take care of him with the constant threat of his risking death due to his health conditions. He also threatened suicide many time. It was a codependant relationship. This person who filed the charges could essentially be like one of the outlaw bikers who were involved in the outlaw biker gang shootout recently near Waco Texas that left 9 people dead and many others injured. He in fact has confessed to many people that he in fact killed someone in a gang territory shootout. I, for the life of me, cannot understand how it is that the state of West Virginia could see fit to protecting such a person! He is abusing laws designed to protect victims. I am in fact such a victim both of domestic violence and rape. The countless times I have not wanted to go on with my life...and now I am a victim of the very system that claims to protect victims - the irony is gut-wrenchingly disgusting!. :-((( When I was arrested, I was not questioned, not read my Miranda rights, and was denied access to a lawyer when I asked for one. If the police had quedtioned me they would have seen their "probable cause" flushed down the drain. Instead, I am now facing the potential for a 2-10 year sentence if I am convicted as I absolutely adament in refusing to plea bargain and plead guilty or no contest to something I did not do!!! My goal is to make my story as widely known as possible. Please stop victims of this horrible travesty of our legal system! It seems evil has won, all is hopeless and I don't even want to go on living as I write this.
Innocent until proven guilty should apply across the board. This happen to me.
my children r hurting bcuz of false allegations of dv they was removed from my custody and i am fighting like crazy to get them back and the dsc/cps caseworker wont give me children back.... please something needs to be done.... http://www.petition2congress.com/17788/state-arizona-cps-caseworker-corupt-family-needs-help
These DV laws are nothing but a joke. I am sure they were originally put in place with good intentions. However today they are constantly abused by women looking for leverage in court and divorce proceedings. My ex wife filed false DV claims against me and was offered a temporary restraining order. All she had to say was that she felt threatened by me, no evidence of abuse or violence needed. I was escorted out of my house by police, even though I was the one with the bruises from being violently assaulted by her. I even had video tapes of her assaults, yet nothing happened to her. It seems like the law only cares if the man is the aggressor.
Although the charges against me were eventually dropped I was forced to enter into a civil restraints agreement with her ( although I had done absolutely nothing to her) and it offered my ex wife sufficient leverage during the divorce process. Just the fact that I was accused, false or not, was enough to influence some of the judge's decisions.
Absolutely appalling...this is not a justice system.
I'm going through this right now my wife is trying to ruin my life simply out of anger because I want a divorce.
I am fighting for my life, my wonderful children and my integrity in GA.
I let my girlfriend move in with me so she had a place to stay for free. after a few months she started arguing, fighting and even get physical with me. I asked her to start saving her money and looking for her own place. she refused. when I finally told her I consider taking the legal course of action to get her removed from my place she called a police on me lying that I choked her and hit her. she has caused me tremendous damage, made me lose my liberties. and I'm yet to find out if I face even jail time for a violent act I have never committed. I condemn domestic violence from my heart but is innocent men's lives the price of protecting those women in REAL DANGER?
My daughter who has been 18 since Jan 9 .ran out her window and took all her stuff and I didn't know she went to leave with a boyfriend she's only know 4 months so she took her father for one and the reason she didn't want to go to school and wanted to leave with her boyfriend and we never went to the door we begged her on his phone to come home she wouldn't reply and for just wanting to best for her we get this .I never told her no to her boyfriend just tell me when you leave were your going and what time your coming home .he was here from lunch to wee hours into the night .and I think she's using this as away to keep us from saying baby just go to college then move in with him .so they took my husband's guns his permits. Over trying to raise his daughter to be sombody and his family is her biggest fan for all of this ..signed sad
I myself is going through this exact situation as I am typing this comment
My wife is using false dv charge to try and win a custody battle..
When I first got my divorce I went almost 2 years without seeing my boys because of a domestic violence order my ex had gotten against me. I finally gotten my visitation back and was paying my child support up well when my father passed away I came into inheritance I paid all my child support up. I had given her money to buy gas to bring my kids to meet me half which was court ordered I bought bedsfr my kids swing set trampoline and stuff she needed for the house because of my kids. She would always cut my visitations short and the last time I seen my kids was in June of 2014 when she called wanting them bac 2 1\2 weeks early of my 4 week visitation, I was suppose to have gotten them back on July 18th to make up the time I lost in June, well I knew something was up when I never heard from her especially when she didn't text my wife asking about child support. In the early morning hours at 1:00 a.m. there was a knock at my door and two officers standing there to serve me with a dvo, stating my six year old son said I made statements about harming my ex and her family 1. The statement was never made 2. If I had said it and scared my child by saying why didn't he tell her the day she picked my boys up instead of waiting almost 4 weeks and then tell his doctor and not her. I had stopped giving her money and that's when my troubles started I was always on time with my child support payments every month. Well I decided if I couldn't see my kids she would get no money to set at home and live off our kids. When we went to court I was put on supervised visits with my kids, I had to drive almost 3 hours to get to see my boys for 1 hour well I had the dcbs office do background checks on everyone my kids are around and they did and found out the man she had been with for over 3 years and married is a registered sex offender and she knew he was. They removed him from the home for 45 days til the done an investigation and she had admitted in open court that if he could not live in her home with them that she would move to a state where he could be around kids. She had an indictment pulled up on me over an old charge that happened over 3 years ago and I hadn't had so much as a speeding ticket since then I stayed out of trouble cleaned my act up and was doing good I remarried and everything and I gotten put on home incarceration for 3 months and the judge told me if I didn't make payments the three months I was on it I would go to jail for 90 days and no way of getting out to make money to pay it. She hasn't done this once but twice at manipulating the system against me to get what she wants, and now my kids are with her and a pedophile I know nothing about and the state I live in are letting it happen saying im a threat to my kids! I love and miss my two boys terribly I miss playing video games with them going to the movies taking them fishing playing basketball with him I've had another year of them being out of my life that I can't get back all because her ol
No injuries and the police will still charge you this crime.
No injuries and the police will this charge you for this crime .
The spouse should recieve charges to see what there are doing.
A lie detector test should be administered on both parties. The false accusation of a DVRO can destroy a mans life. There is a real need for DVRO's when there is a threat of actual abuse or harm. However, it is abused by women in an effort to gain favor with the court in regard to child custody and the divorce process in general. Whoever files the DVRO first will win. This is an obvious abuse of power and needs a complete overhaul!
I am currently battling such a situation. I don't even know why I am in this situation. My wife abruptly stated I harmed her months ago and the cops carried me off. I am now fighting a felony level domestic violence charge. I have never had any criminal history and am deathly afraid of the justice system as all she had to do was make a statement with no evidence (as there was none). I still don't even know why my wife carried out such an insane action. It has been the most traumatic event of my life, being betrayed by someone I have loved for over ten years, and not even a hint of a reasoning behind it.
There is too much siding with the females. Abuse is and can be from both parties. There should be more leverage for the truth to be proven with a medical report. My ex daughter in law had mental problems for many years but yet blamed everyone but herself. Time out for just agreeing with the female. I have experienced first hand... the costs with much financial and emotional for son is prison from this accused.
I am right now going. Thru this and she doesn't stop nobody is doing anything about her lies and trying to steal my belongings as well as ruining my life,
I never did anything but love her and pay
This is a terrible misuse of laws that were created to protect legitimately abused women and children. It is disgusting how women have realized that by simply making a claim of domestic violence and filing for a protective order (which is free to obtain), they can take the children from the relationship and destroy the man's life, literally. This is happening to my son. He was in a 9 year relationship with a woman with 2 children from a previous unmarried relationship. They had a son together who will be 7 years old in June. He also has one child from a previously relationship. She did not work for almost all of the time they were together and they lived together as a family. She did not receive, nor had ever applied for, child support from her other two children. She said "I have too much pride" even though the father of those children (both boys) is actively involved in their lives. My son supported the family for all but six months of the relationship when he was laid off and facing a medical issue. With only one income, they struggled financially over the years. She would complain that she wanted new furniture and money to spend on herself. She was emotionally abusive to him and if things didn't go the way she wanted, she would give him the silent treatment for days/weeks at a time. I myself witnessed her yelling at the children and in fact noticed on numerous occasions that she never showed any affection toward the children. He should have terminated the relationship sooner, but he wanted to make it work as their were four children involved. She would threaten constantly that she was leaving him and that it was over and finally, after almost nine years of these threats, he told her okay, go, it's over. Basically he called her bluff as he was tired of being treated this way. It took her over a week to move out and during that entire week, she would slam things around, mutter hateful things under her breath (including filthy obscenities). Finally, she left one afternoon, taking every photograph of their son, went to their son's school and picked him up and my son found out from his other son when he arrived home from school. He said my brother doesn't go to my school anymore. When she left the home, the last thing she said to my son was "I'm going to ruin your life. You won't have a job, you won't have friends, you won't have family, you won't have money, you will have nothing." My son was an assistant coach of his son's baseball team and after she moved out and after she filed for protection, she would bring their son to practice. My grandson would sit in the bleachers with my son and the other parents and children and she would sit on the opposite side frowning and muttering. She would text my son terrible things when he would text or call to speak to his son. When my son asked my grandson at a practice one afternoon if he wanted to come over and visit he and his brother after school soon, my grandson replied that "I c
The accuser should be given a lie detector test to prove the accusations made against the other person being accused, are true.
I am currently fighting for my freedom. My wife suffers from serious mental issues, and has made numerous false police reports. After gently suggesting that she consider in-patient treatment, she must have punched something and bruised her hand. I don't know what she punched, but I do know that she called the police and claimed everything from rape to child abuse. I spent a month in a lockup with astronomical bail. Well, now she has slipped up in her lies, and most of the case has been dropped, but there is a bruise.
If you're reading this, take my advice, and make sure than any false police reports are documented as false calls, no matter how trivial they seem at the time. It could save your life, and years in prison.
I am going through this right now.... I have several witnesses that can say I'm the victim... However the law is out to get me... I'm 20 years old and I'm on probation:(
Too many women are running away claiming they were abused by their husbands. Why not tell the truth? You don't like Women's Rights!! That's why. You want to stay home and be spoiled. Some of you don't even want to be mom's to your children-it's too much work. You were hoping your husband would take care of you and the children. How do you get out of this and go back home to your mommy or daddy? You lie!!! You claim you were abused-you want pity. But what you don't realize is that you do have to work, and if you have kids and your husband was in school and a full time Dad you pay the Alimony and the Child Support. That's right! That is what women's rights is all about - equality! If you want to behave like a lazy husband and father that's up to you - but that is what you are doing. If you want to add cheating to your spouse then do it - it doesn't matter you can't hide from your responsibility. And to add blame on someone else - serioiusly? You made the decisions with your husband - now you should live up to it. No one is going to oblige you.
Stop using abuse and just Vote NO for Women's Rights, and find the man who will not want you to work outside of the home- that's the bottom line!
My wife used domestic violence allegations against me when I discovered her having an affair. I told her I was taking the kids. She called the police and had me arrested. Almost ruined my military career, VA benefits and had to fight more than a year to get the case dismissed. I'm still trying to get the arrest removed from my record. Now my current career is in jeopardy.
I am neither victim nor accused...
But, I believe, as a 100% American Citizen, that there should be a hefty penalty/arrest to anyone that falsely accuses somebody of Domestic Violence. Especially if the person that called is not even in the vicinity and makes up such a story.
How can you be 10 miles away and say that you saw someone's husband pointing a gun at his wife and get away with it.

This should be perjury and that person should be arrested and serve jail time for lying. This is lying and should be against the law...!!!! What kind of system do we have? This is the United States of America..!!! Not the United States of getting away with a crime..!!!

So, in short, this law of Domestic Violence can be used in revenge on an innocent person and the one who called (not wife, but a 3rd party and not even in the same house but 10 miles away) can get away Scott free...!!! My opinion is wow..!! No further investigation on the person who called..!! That is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard..!!! Something needs to change with this one..!!! It seems that you are automatically treated like a criminal as soon as the police officers enter your home on a Domestic a Violence call when there is no demos rice violence going on...!!!

Like I said, I am not a victim and have not been ever charged with Domestic Violence and I feel for the innocent accused that has been charged...!!!
Prosecution of perjury must be enforced. Women who use domestic violence laws as a sword rather than as a shield, falsely accusing men and stripping them of their constitutional rights, must be prosecuted as surely as the domestic abuser.
I have allegations of domestic violence against me by my ex girlfriend. She is very unstable. She's been diagnosed with PTSD, anxiety, depression, bi polar disorder and a thyroid condition. She takes therapy every week. She had made false allegations to the police against me and realized her mistake. Knowing she lied, she paid for my attorney and bail because I didn't have the money and was willing to do anything to make sure I wasn't convicted. However, once I left her she decided to go back on it. She lied to me about what she said to the police and to the extent of the seriousness of the allegations. Once I received the police report, her story was like "out of a movie." I was charged with 5 felonies and she didn't even have any injuries except a few unexplained bruising. There were bruises above both her eyelids, but not around her eyes. I read what would cause that and it could be from her crying and rubbing her eyes repeatedly and hard. She was so depressed all the time and had outbursts that were so intense that she would cry for hours. She was also taking medication the causes blood to thin which caused bruising. She also had a couple of small bruises on one side of her neck. I cannot explain these bruises, but I know for a fact that I did NOT cause these. I never harmed her or any of my ex girlfriends and NEVER would cause harm to any woman or person. I'm still in the court process and feel like the charges against me are excessive because now that they're felonies and not misdemeanors they're more difficult to have dismissed. My attorney says that he can't get all of them dropped. This is not justice. All the signs point to her being unstable and lying, however, they think "something must have happened" says my attorney, so they can't dismiss all the charges. I don't know where else to turn. I'm not going to accept charges that I didn't do, but I can't afford to go to trial. What do I do?
I have allegations of domestic violence against me by my ex girlfriend. She is very unstable. She's been diagnosed with PTSD, anxiety, depression, bi polar disorder and a thyroid condition. She takes therapy every week. She had made false allegations to the police against me and realized her mistake. Knowing she lied, she paid for my attorney and bail because I didn't have the money and was willing to do anything to make sure I wasn't convicted. However, once I left her she decided to go back on it. She lied to me about what she said to the police and to the extent of the seriousness of the allegations. Once I received the police report, her story was like "out of a movie." I was charged with 5 felonies and she didn't even have any injuries except a few unexplained bruising. There were bruises above both her eyelids, but not around her eyes. I read what would cause that and it could be from her crying and rubbing her eyes repeatedly and hard. She was so depressed all the time and had outbursts that were so intense that she would cry for hours. She was also taking medication the causes blood to thin which caused bruising. She also had a couple of small bruises on one side of her neck. I cannot explain these bruises, but I know for a fact that I did NOT cause these. I never harmed her or any of my ex girlfriends and NEVER would cause harm to any woman or person. I'm still in the court process and feel like the charges against me are excessive because now that they're felonies and not misdemeanors they're more difficult to have dismissed. My attorney says that he can't get all of them dropped. This is not justice. All the signs point to her being unstable and lying, however, they think "something must have happened" says my attorney, so they can't dismiss all the charges. I don't know where else to turn. I'm not going to accept charges that I didn't do, but I can't afford to go to trial. What do I do?
These laws are a violation of men's civil rights. False accusations lead to mandatory arrest and prosecution of men. These laws prevent either the police or district attorneys from assessing a case before prosecution. Only those with the financial ability to defend themselves can receive proper justice. The women who call the police often don't have any desire to prosecute yet the law forces this upon them. This kind of law is unconstitutional and should be overturned by SCOTUS.
Family is going through same thing. We are the victims of these accusers. Action needs to be done to stop this!!!
please please please think
My wife Brittany Lello confessed to me in January that she had committed adultery in December. I told her that I would forgive her and spent the next couple of months trying to work things out with her to save our marriage. On the night of March 28th she agreed to go to marriage therapy with me - and then walked out and left me the very next day! Several days later, I texted her to remind her of her financial responsibilities to me as my immigration sponsor (I had been the devoted house-husband with a very small business on the side) and she had cancelled the rent check and immediately withdrawn all financial support. Two days after that text I was served with a Domestic Violence Protection Order, making terrible and completely false claims of a history of violent acts and threats that I had apparently done to her. It was devastating!
Despite what she had done I did still not want to get her into trouble for committing perjury, so my lawyer avoided a trial so that nothing was proven either way. The record states that I denied the allegations but agreed to allow the protection order to stay in place for 12 months. A couple of weeks later I screwed up and made a single phone call to my wife, hoping to be able to work things out and stop all this crazy stuff from getting any more out of control. I didn't even get to speak with her, but later that night she had me arrested and thrown in jail for violating the order.
I have never been in any kind of trouble, let alone been arrested or put in jail. 4 days later my wifes own Father came to bail me out and bring me home! I even have a facebook message from my wifes sister that says 'I spoke with Brittany and she has admitted that you did not physically assault her'!
My wife is referred to as 'the victim' - that is the ultimate unfunny joke, I AM THE VICTIM!!
This situation is an insult to true victims of actual domestic violence. It is outrageous that these matters are not properly investigated at the outset and that no proof at all is required in order for a vindictive person to begin to destroy someones life!
After I was 'safely' in custody that first night, my wife even came over to my house with a police escort, gained entry to the property and stole my dog!! Now she won't give her back and there is nothing that I can do about it since she is 'protected'. I now live in constant fear that my wife will actually just lie and tell the police that I have committed a further violation and have me thrown in jail again. I don't even know if I will still actually even have to go to jail anyway as a result of the existing violation charge that I am currently out on bail for.
This is a complete nightmare and no-one is properly investigating this to determine the actual truth and rescind this unlawfully obtained protection order.
I understand the need for and fully support the importance of protecting true victims of domestic violence, but the current systems in place are being grossly misused and creati
It's funny Barb Coomer is one that falsely accused me of abuse. Ha Ha. She is so full of it. Ask her if she had her ex-husband falsely arrested for abuse so he couldn't leave her sorry ass. She puts this on her blog/webpage-she is so bi-polar it's not even funny. Ask her if she was diagnosed with this before and see if she lies about this also.

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