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I am the victim of violence by a girlfriend who has mental health issues and serious psychological problems. She has attacked me violently on multiple occasions - Although she has serious mental health issues, I have been unable to get her to understand that she needs help for her violent behavior. The police do nothing/ I have tried to have her Baker Acted but since she is not my wife or legal relative, but I have been told by the police that I cannot even have her Baker Acted since we are not married. Recently during the last incident, she stabbed me with a pen. My greatest fear aside from the personal injuries she keeps inflicting on me is that she will falsely accuse me since she has told me that she will "get me" if I call the police. So I am in a situation where I love a violent mentally ill woman, and she won't get help for her mental issues. I don't want to be without her because I love her very much and I know she has psychological issues which are dangerous to me, but I just don't know what to do. The vicious cycle of abuse toward me seems never ending and the police are no help; I am afraid and terrified of her threats that she will make false allegations. I am signing the petition because the system is unfair towards male victims.
I am the victim of violence by a girlfriend who has mental health issues and serious psychological problems. She has attacked me violently on multiple occasions - Although she has serious mental health issues, I have been unable to get her to understand that she needs help for her violent behavior. The police do nothing/ I have tried to have her Baker Acted but since she is not my wife or legal relative, but I have been told by the police that I cannot even have her Baker Acted since we are not married. Recently during the last incident, she stabbed me with a pen. My greatest fear aside from the personal injuries she keeps inflicting on me is that she will falsely accuse me since she has told me that she will "get me" if I call the police. So I am in a situation where I love a violent mentally ill woman, and she won't get help for her mental issues. I don't want to be without her because I love her very much and I know she has psychological issues which are dangerous to me, but I just don't know what to do. The vicious cycle of abuse toward me seems never ending and the police are no help; I am afraid and terrified of her threats that she will make false allegations. I am signing the petition because the system is not unfair towards male victims.
its really bad in alaska
I was falsely accused.now im on mental disability for ptsd.she ruined my life to get rid of me for another man.they didnt let me speak at all in court.finally had to plead guilty to stay out of jail.still haunts me
This law has been an assault upon all of our civil rights. End it now! Of course, Biden is behind it. Law enforcement now has motivation to arrest and convict. The Dept of Justice approves the grants to local law enforcement. In order to continue to eat from the trough, law enforcement is required to produce data that shows increases in arrests and convictions. And that is the real crime!
Me and my dad have been sent to jail because my wife got caught cheating and accused my dad of domestic violence and accused me of conspiracy to commit domestic violence when i am the on marred to her and in truth me and my dad and step mom had just got back from getting a loan and when we got off the bus and caught her making out with some other guy. I told her i wanted a divorce and never wanted to see her again i refused to even look at her after that she got ****ed and around 9 o'clock at nite me my step mom and dad were about to eat dinner when the cops showed up they didn't read us our rights our anything just saw my dad asked his name and put the handcuffs on he asked what was going on they said the would speak to him at the station then saw me and asked my name and put handcuffs on me searched us took us and took us to the station asked us some questions and a hour later told us we were lieing and had us sit there for another hour then read us our rights and took us to jail. we spent 4-5 days in jail for nothing we got released on 03/10/2014 and booked on 03/08/2014 now we have to go back to court on 04/23/2014. And by the way she had no bruises or marks or anything yet she said my dad held her down while i beat her. In a field of weat grass.
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I am 6ft 3 and 250 pound and i can bench press 265 pounds my dad s 6ft and ways 260 and can bench press 320 pounds she is 5ft 2 and can bench press 15 pounds and ways 115 pounds.
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My question is were is her bruises and why is she not in the hospital.
none of it made any sense at all. And i'm allergic to wheat grass and pollen.
This is a big failure in our legal system. My husband of 1 year (at the time 2010) we're having one of our many arguments when I told him we should just get divorced; he taunted me as he knows all my buttons and in an effort to make him shut up I slapped his upper arm . He said he will call the cops and I said go ahead . I was getting ready for work and left . The cops picked me up from work for questioning ;I admitted to slapping his upper arm more than once ; my husband was with another cop and said he didn't want to press charges but as it happened I was handcuffed ; brought to jail spent 16 hours there, I was so scared and confused thinking my husband did this to me; my husband had to bail me out but I had a no contact order; advised to plead guilty so I can do community service instead of jail then go for anger management councelling . It was a very painful , confusing, shameful time for me that it was only years later I realize the extent of damage we as a whole family are going to suffer from-- I am a nurse and the main bread winner in the family; having a record of arrest and assault closed all doors for me to get a better nursing job. Where is real justice here? There is definitely something wrong with definition of terms in the legal system and the punishment which is not commensurate with the "crime" or perceived crime-- I don't see how society can improve with these laws. What my husband and I needed at the time was a mediator who could point us to the right resources such as marriage councellng or support groups.
I am going through this right now. My wife wanted a divorce because she was not happy with her life. She filed an EPO against me and lawyer advised me to take a deal because she screamed out "scared". I am being gendered now at every turn.
I have seen this first hand too many times, not just with myself but others. I have a case pending as I write this comment and my freedom is being threatened
It is absolutely disgusting that we need a petition for something the government should've sorted out to begin with.
It's political,an that's so sad to be playing innocent people freedom.
US court system is a criminal.
I am amazed at the people who accuse their spouse or x spouse of abuse when there is none. Most of the time the one making the false accusations are guilty of something!
I have a love one serving 4yrs due to false allegation made by his ex girlfriend. If he didn't plea guilty he wouldn't caught 8years. Shame he couldn't afford a lawyer. I was there and saw everything not once was statement mention in court
Virginia is well known for this.
I am writing as a concerned parent, focused on an effort to heighten community awareness regarding a real problem facing many children today of high conflict divorce. I am referring to a form of child abuse called Hostile Aggressive Parenting, or Parental Alienation.

Parental Alienation is a set of strategies that parents use to undermine and interfere
with a child’s relationship with his or her other parent. You may have heard of it a few years back when Alec Baldwin brought the issue into mainstream media by accusing Kim Bassinger of poisoning his relationship with his daughter, or maybe when the NOW organization denounced PAS as ‘junk science” holding the position that it was nothing more than a scapegoat used by abusive fathers to gain the upper hand in custody cases, or perhaps you saw the news coverage for the annual “Parental Alienation Day”, when thousands of targeted adults and children gather to support one another and promote awareness. The condition and harmful effects of PAS are described in the new DSM V, and communities are beginning to understand how education and early detection can help those children caught in the middle of two parents.
As a targeted parent, I have shared in my children’s struggle in dealing with this issue. I have chosen to speak up about it now for a variety of reasons; mainly to raise community awareness, but also, and admittedly, to set the record straight. My intention is not to berate a mother for acting in bad faith, rather to provide some truth and clarification.
Over the past 15 years family, friends, community have listened to tales of domestic violence within our home, listened to allegations of a father’s physical and sexual abuse and neglect of his children and spouse, or stories of a “dead-beat” Dad. I have not been unsympathetic to my ex-wife’s personal issues, but be they the product of a serious psychosis or simply contrived stories of a bitter ex-spouse, it is most concerning, because healthy people simply don’t act this way.
I am a nurturing and devoted parent. I have raised my children to embrace their intellect and to reject the ignorance of violence and, above all else, to love one another, for that is what God wants most from us.
For many years now, the children’s mother, E.D. has exploited our County's social services by making false claims of domestic violence and sexual abuse; taking time and resources away from those truly in need of these services. I’ve watched my children suffer needlessly, subjected to police visits and reports, restraining orders (reversed), countless DYFS investigations, (all found unsubstantiated), and repeated Crisis Interventions by County Mobile Response staff…all of these orchestrated by E.D. in a continuing campaign to separate me from our children.


Following accusations by their mother that I held a trunk full of weapons and threatened her
with guns, I decided the children needed professional help to navigate th
It's a simple nightmare. Had daughter's boy friend arrested by the Marshall's Service as an outstanding fugitive and my enraged daughter had me arrested for DV. You say we have a justice system, I don"t think so.
I had a woman do this to me. I actually had to defend myself against her. She attacks me, calls the cops, I leave knowing someone is going to jail (9 out of 10 the man). I get picked up some time later saying I'm being accused of domestic violence. I went to court but had absolutely HORRIBLE representation. I was young. I was told that I should just plead guilty to get it done and over with. If I would have known then what I know now I would have fought it to the bitter end. I'm mentally scared from what that woman put me through and now I'm labeled as a woman beater as well. It's not fair and it's not right and it's unjust. I really really really wish I could do something about what has already been done. It's very painful and the label in and of its self is simply beyond demeaning as well as degrading. And the rights you lose on top of it all is far too extreme. Something MUST be done to stop things like this from happening in the future...!!!
My brother is going thru the same thing right now, with a women he didn't want to be with anymore claimed he abused her. It's a very costly game for my brother and the taxpayers
I know a man that was falsely accused of the worse charge of domestic violence there is and yet there was actually no such event, never happened, and no proof or evidence to support the charges. Police made up the charges. The woman was bipolar, mentally ill and never made any such statements or charges and did not want to leave. The police made up charges and destroyed both there lives. Then the state of MN forced her to work as a prostitute to support herself, taxed her and used the money to pay state employees. The man is being forced to take domestic abuse programs in which the people running these programs are making up lies about him to criminalize him further. Also, the DVI test is completely fraudulent. If you answer truthfully on the test it is rigged to make you appear a liar so they can lie and further criminalize you and force you to do their programs and make money. would like to hear more about the test, programs, and psychologist and social workers and their fradulent criminal activities. Would demand that all programs be investigated, more complaints against them, abolish testing and evaluations that are not honest anyway. And criminal charges for police, prosecutors, investigators, psychologist and so on who have operated above the law.
I was forced by a family member to make false accusations against my spouse/child's father because I lived in her home and it was her way to get rid of him because secretly she was trying to get custody of my daughter I never pressed charges or showed up to court we are still a couple but we are still fighting the case a year later and there is a restraining order that neither of us asked for I'm sorry for the mistake I made in a moment I was afraid I wouldn't have a place to stay I was being threatened I got him a lawyer now and god willing it will all be dismissed
I was forced by a family member to make false accusations against my spouse/child's father because I lived in her home and it was her way to get rid of him because secretly she was trying to get custody of my daughter I never pressed charges or showed up to court we are still a couple but we are still fighting the case a year later and there is a restraining order that neither of us asked for I'm sorry for the mistake I made in a moment I was afraid I wouldn't have a place to stay I was being threatened I got him a lawyer now and god willing it will all be dismissed
Don't think this can't happen to to you. It happened to one of my best friends yesterday. He has 3 witnesses and many more standing in line testify about each and every horrible thing she's done before this.Now he's in jail, the judge won't set bond and she's running around free threatening to do the same thing to us.I hope this never happens to you.
Don't think this can't happen to to you. It happened to one of my best friends yesterday. He has 3 witnesses and many more standing in line testify about each and every horrible thing she's done before this.Now he's in jail, the judge won't set bond and she's running around free threatening to do the same thing to us.I hope this never happens to you.
Malignant Narcarisstic women are intelligent actresses that know how to Pycholgically control the police and the therapist and judges,they will cry ,they will convince anybody that you are the aggressor...TO ALL MEN ,VIDEO RECORD YOUR SITUATIONS OF ABUSE AND SAFE IT FOR YOUR PROTECTION
I am a 27 year old women and mother and am so sick and tired of how fathers get treated in this country. I'm tired of crazy incompetent mothers getting all the rights and the fathers having zero. It's funny a women has the right to give her baby up for adoption, to abort her unborn child, and to decied what rights a father has. But a fathers only right is to loose their child and sit back and write the checks while the mother cashes them for her own personal use it's disgusting. I pray one day things will be equal for all the good, hard working, honest and loving dads who just want equal time with their child.
I am in Gilbert Az. and this letter is me.. I just had to do 40 days in Maricopa's tent city for false allegations of Domestic Violence where my wife accused me of hitting her with our phone, in which aspect she punched herself and cried wolf, then told police and prosecutors that her and my son are afraid of me and now I have no visitation rights with my son.
My wife coached my son to make false statements against me. My son told me this after I was being investigated. The Dist Atty told me to take him in to the police for a statement, after which he told his mother, and then they both accused me of threats with a gun (which I did not even own one). Seminole county Florida, 2 1/2 yr process, 4 day trial, and I lost my son and career. http://ireport.cnn.com/docs/DOC-766346. My son's recorded interviews proving my innocence were thrown out by the judge.
My ex-wife accused me of "pushing her on to a tile floor around 11:30 p.m." Dec. 20, 2012, causing bruises on her elbows.
She made the accusations the next day to police saying what provoked the argument was because she came home late from work. She testified I destroyed her cell phone and she could not get to the landline. I was arrested around 1:30 p.m. Dec. 21 without police giving me a chance to defend myself. I did, in fact, cause the bruising by inadvertently rolling her out of bed around 3 a.m. I was trying roll her over because of her snoring and didn't realize she so close to the edge of the bed.
I stayed in jail through Christmas; humiliating.
She was seeking divorce prior to the allegation and we'd been separated for several days beforehand. But she didn't come late from work and I wasn't at home at 11:30. I was in a bar and pulled credit card receipts from the business that showed I was there from 7 p.m. until midnight. I pulled a copy of her receipt as well. She went to the bar looking for me arriving only a couple of minutes after I had left. Her receipt showed her closing out at 1:08 a.m. Dec. 21. When she arrived, the bartenders said she had two packs of my kind of cigarettes and she was looking for me.
I pulled the phone records for the evening before and it showed someone on the phone four different times from 7:30 p.m. to around 11 p.m., all calls to friends of hers, ex-boyfriends and probably a new boyfriend.
The credit card receipts, witnesses putting me somewhere else at the time of the alleged crime, phone records showing conflict of her testimony. I was arrested again for violating a restraining order by talking to a mutual friend of our yet not mentioning her at all. His false testimony at her behest landed me in jail again.
She then tried to take all her false claims to my employer and have me fired.
Thousands of dollars later, scrutiny from my employer, divorce, no place to live, her abandoning the home she was given custody of, me having to pay her to pay the mortgage, which she is no longer doing as she has fled to another state with her new fiance.
There needs to be more proof allowed from the accused before the politically correct courts/law enforcement allow lies to ruin an innocent person's life.
My ex-wife accused me of "pushing her on to a tile floor around 11:30 p.m." Dec. 20, 2012, causing bruises on her elbows.
She made the accusations the next day to police saying what provoked the argument was because she came home late from work. She testified I destroyed her cell phone and she could not get to the landline. I was arrested around 1:30 p.m. Dec. 21 without police giving me a chance to defend myself.
I stayed in jail through Christmas; humiliating.
She was seeking divorce prior to the allegation and we'd been separated for several days beforehand. But she didn't come late from work and I wasn't at home at 11:30. I was in a bar and pulled credit card receipts from the business that showed I was there from 7 p.m. until midnight. I pulled a copy of her receipt as well. She went to the bar looking for me arriving only a couple of minutes after I had left. Her receipt showed her closing out at 1:08 a.m. Dec. 21. When she arrived, the bartenders said she had two packs of my kind of cigarettes and she was looking for me.
I pulled the phone records for the evening before and it showed someone on the phone four different times from 7:30 p.m. to around 11 p.m., all calls to friends of hers, ex-boyfriends and probably a new boyfriend.
The credit card receipts, witnesses putting me somewhere else at the time of the alleged crime, phone records showing conflict of her testimony. I was arrested again for violating a restraining order by talking to a mutual friend of our yet not mentioning her at all. His false testimony at her behest landed me in jail again.
She then tried to take all her false claims to my employer and have me fired.
Thousands of dollars later, scrutiny from my employer, divorce, no place to live, her abandoning the home she was given custody of, me having to pay her to pay the mortgage, which she is no longer doing as she has fled to another state with her new fiance.
There needs to be more proof allowed from the accused before the politically correct courts/law enforcement allow lies to ruin an innocent person's life.
When someone makes false accusations, they should be charged criminally and have to pay the all the attorney fees and court costs. The courts have gone to extremes to protect the woman just to protect themselves in case something did happen, but it's not fair to the man. You can't always assume the man is guilty just because the woman says so, it's just not right.
My wife Angela Kriebel has falsely accused me twice of threatening her to get a restraining order and kept my child away from me for months.
My wife Angela Kriebel has falsely accused me twice of threatening her to get a restraining order and kept my child away from me for months.
This in my opinion is the basis for improving all aspects of our lives.
I am dealing with this as we speak. She was on the verge of losing custody and said 'she discovered' signs abuse from almost two years ago.
My sister-in-law is a life-time anorexic who has decided my brother is the cause of her anorexia, though she suffered for years before they ever met. His attempts to help, and his lifetime of suffering through her irrational weight-related dementia have been turned, in her mind, into "domestic abuse" - emotional neglect, not physical abuse, but "non-support" as abuse. He tried to help her, but she wouldn't help herself, and has turned all of her self-loathing into victimization. She's turned him into a monster he simply isn't, and by joining victims groups she's determined she is one. He is the victim, and she's poised to take his children away. Just - - no.
I am one of these hated woman. I was on my third miscarriage dealing with postpartum deppression, alcoholism and taking pain killers given to me by the hospital for the miscarriages. My fiances' children's mother called and gloated that we couldn't have kids which sent me into a spiral of blackouts where I don't even remember going to the police. I have tried and pleaded with the states' attorneys office and the judges to let him out. However, they are holding him without bail because I had marks on me and let them take pictures. FYI the marks were from sex not violence but they just do not care. If anyone has any advice or recommends any lawyers in Maryland please help me. Oh yeah plus the judge order a no contact order, which we violated because I was told by the jail that there was not one.
I was arrested and charged with domestic violence crimes against my ex girlfriend with no proof. She also had an additional civil restaining order granted for the same bogus claims with no proof as well. She made up an elaborate story of years of abuse by me claiming I left her bruised and bloody. But she never called the police or sought medical attention. I have a stack of hand written letters from her proving that she's lying. My lawyer was able to question her at the R/O hearing and proved that she was lying but the R/O was still granted. The prosecutor is still pushing forward with a case against me even though she has been proven to be a liar and her credibility ruined. It's cost me thousands of dollars todefend myself and I could lose my job if my employer found out. This is a living nightmare.
Foreign Spouses using this tool to get United states Immigrations. Even when CPO allegation falsified against US Citizens and Voluntary dropped. We have prove how Court And Guardian helping criminals in Ohio.
Like several others dealing with this, my case was a first time offense. I had never been arrested before and was unaware of how to deal with the situation. Unfortunately, my attorney did not represent me well and suggested pleading no contest to a Class C Misdemeanor. I later find out that no one cares it is a misdemeanor if the description says Assault. I have since been denied apartment rentals and some job opportunities. Is this really what Texas intended for Class C Misdemeanors? As a Texas voter, I would like to see all people rally together and encourage our state and other representatives to make it illegal for businesses and employers to deny people with Misdemeanor offenses especially when a first time offense. It should not matter if the disposition included deferred adjudication or not. This is the lowest Class for a Misdemeanor and equal to a traffic ticket.. This should not have such a negative impact on people's lives especially after 2 years. Let's do what makes sense..
my husbands ex has done this 5 times and they are still allowing her to. there is no integrity in the justice system that allows this
My wife and I had an argument when she was caught cheating. Someone called the police and I was arrested immediately with no investigation or being asked my side of the story. It was later determined there was no evidence of assault and no injuries not even the supposed scratch the police claimed on her wrist. Background checks prevent me from renting an apartment after 6 years. I am researching how to file class action suit against the County for defamation of character and loss of job opportunities. My civil rights were violated. Maybe attorneys from The Innocence Project will be interested.
Please change this article to reflect the opposite gender offense. I was accused of domestic violence because I pinched my ex husband when he pinned me and my son between two trucks. He ruined my life.........
If we are truly an equal society then we need to dismiss that women are always victims.
I'm am going through this now. this is so awful how some woman use the system to alienate a parent from his family. so wrong
My friend is being threated that if he doesnt stay with this girl that she will call the cops and tell them he is beating her.
ARRESTED FOR A FELONY CRIME THAT i DIDNOT COMMIT DETECTIVE GOT WARRENT NEVER ALOWED ME TO SHOW PROF OF INNOCENCE
False allegations made against men is disgraceful and wrong. I would hope that this problem will not be ignored.
This happened to me and I am a woman. My ex husband told the police that I pushed him even though a witness had called the police on him for pushing me. He was completely drunk among other things but I got arrested instead. Right in front of my stunned family. Listen up, I did not even accuse him of anything, I never told what he did to me. My family and witness did. They did not take a statement from me. I weigh at least 50lbs less than him. But they sided with him for God only knows why. I never touched him ever. Neither one of us had marks on us. Men do it too! They lie to escape going to jail. I think that abusive manipulative people lie.
My brother is going through this. Its hard to believe in the justice system when they rake lies and go with it. All he wants is to do is move on and save his kids from a party goer mom

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